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    So.. it's Tuesday. I haven't had any heat since Thursday. The landlord sent me an email that said his insurance adjuster will be here Friday. FRIDAY!! Do these people not give a crap that I have a COLD HOUSE? I guess I should be grateful I don't live farther north. I worry about my dogs...although it never drops below 55 in the house, even overnight. I don't leave the space heaters on while I'm gone because I worry about starting a fire (it's ALWAYS the space heater starting it on TV!!).

    DH is super pissed and keeps snapping at ME. The landlord doesn't want to deal with Tim because Tim's a butthead and stands up for himself while I just take whatever the landlord says. So, he emails ME and he calls ME and then when I refer the news back to Tim, he gets pissed. It's not like I can do anything to speed up this process! I told Tim today on his lunch that he needs to stop being mean to me because I didn't do it. He said he wasn't being mean to me and then we got off the phone shortly after and IM THE ONE that feels like crap after that convo and I TEXT HIM and tell him sorry, even though HES THE ONE being short with me.

    The landlord said he has to hire someone to clean up the back yard because ...ya know, it's full of a huge tree. Tim said he'd charge 250.00 and the landlord said he'd ask the neighbor how much he would charge. But Tim also wants to take the rest of the tree down which I think is just asking for trouble. The tree is still VERY tall and could damage my house or the house next to it if it comes down wrong. So I didn't bother telling the landlord that Tim said he'd take the tree down (for another 250.00 dollars).

    I keep snapping at everyone at work, I'm always in a bad mood OR crying. I'm never happy, never just "okay". Everyone keeps telling me it's just because I'm pregnant, but I don't see my mood in everyone else. No one is is crying at the drop of a hat. Last night, DH had his arm around my stomach and baby girl was kicking it. I said, "She's trying to kick you." He said, "What?" (He was watching tv) and I repeated myself then BUSTED INTO TEARS. What the freak is wrong with me? Then, when I get done crying I apologize because not only am I super emotional but I'm seriously afraid that he's going to leave me. I've been worried before - about cheating or whatnot (just in general, not because he was being suspicious) but I am like...terrified he's gonna leave. Where did THAT come from?

    We got all this stuff from the baby shower and it got put away in the spare bedroom. DH doesn't want to put anything together because it's just going to sit there and gather dust until the baby gets here. But, he's been working 7 days a week and I'm too tired to do anything like that..I think I'd rather go ahead and do it then wait.

    So, to sum it up - I'm an emotional WRECK. DH is being pissy. My landlord is dragging his butt about getting my heat fixed. OOOOHHHHH ANDDDDD DH's dog went to the vet on Monday. Guess what? The dog got diagnosed with DEMENTIA. Awesome. Let's definitely have a dog with an out of whack brain and feelings near my NEW BABY.
    Jessica, Tim and Baby Julie

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    Oh Jessica ... I wish I could give you a big real life hug right now. Seriously though, I was about to come on here and make a thread about what a crazy person I feel like lately. I'm all over the map lately and sooo sensitive. As for the fight with DH, I DO THE SAME THING! He gets pissy with me about stuff that's out of my control, then I feel like crap about it, and somehow end up apologizing. As for the dog, please tell me your DH sees now that the dog CAN NOT be around the baby????
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    Joan as far as I know...the dog is coming back to our house tonight. I don't know what will happen when it gets closer to baby-time. DH had said his uncle would take him, but he found out that he won't.... his mom can't take him with those people (and dogs) still in her house. They're planning on moving, but I don't know when...OR if it'll even pan out that they do move.

    So..no, the dog is still going to be here.. but.. DH knows how I feel about the dog and I know he gets on DH's nerves too, so hopefully DH will see it my way before the baby gets here.
    Jessica, Tim and Baby Julie

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    I agree.. a mega huge hug is in order! (Sorry, it's as big as I can get )

    I honestly don't think your landlord is in his legal limits to have you all without heat. Personally, call the energy company whom the bill comes from and ask them if his lazy attitude about it is legal! I bet you it's not.. it's not here in MO! You can not be without heat, legally.. regardless.. when it gets below a certain temperature outside. I believe it's 30-32.. don't quote me.

    Why has DH not stepped up and called him about it? Obvious the landlord doesn't wanna talk to DH because of his ability to make sure stuff gets done. That's not right.. it needs to get fixed and he knows it.

    I wish I could give you some answers for the dogs.. All I can say is stand your ground if there is a true health concern.

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    I agree.. a mega huge hug is in order! (Sorry, it's as big as I can get )

    I honestly don't think your landlord is in his legal limits to have you all without heat. Personally, call the energy company whom the bill comes from and ask them if his lazy attitude about it is legal! I bet you it's not.. it's not here in MO! You can not be without heat, legally.. regardless.. when it gets below a certain temperature outside. I believe it's 30-32.. don't quote me.

    Why has DH not stepped up and called him about it? Obvious the landlord doesn't wanna talk to DH because of his ability to make sure stuff gets done. That's not right.. it needs to get fixed and he knows it.

    I wish I could give you some answers for the dogs.. All I can say is stand your ground if there is a true health concern.

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    Hugs girl! It's hard dealing with all that and being pregnant. Hopefully your heat gets fixed soon. I feel like if at least one thing gets fixed when you have multiple stressful situations, it helps everything else out.

    I'm a mess too. I guess its the point in our pregnancies or something, because seriously I nearly had a nervous breakdown at work last Friday because my boss made me skip lunch and I was so hungry. I didn't get to eat until 3:30pm. I screamed at him in front of everyone that he did not respect my time and today was the first time since Friday that he spoke to me. Also I got really really sensitive when I saw my IL's this weekend. My MIL saw the future nursery which has boxes and stuff everywhere since we moved. But we had pulled out one side of the crib and she went over and tapped on it, made a face and then walked out. She didn't say she liked it or anything. Ugh. I just felt like it was so rude. But I could just be extremely sensitive.
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    Elizabeth, I would have totally taken that as your MIL being rude as well. It's almost like she didn't say anything because it would have been bad. But ya know what? It's YOUR crib, not hers. So there! LOL

    As far as screaming at your boss - eh, I scream at my boss all the time. Seriously! We have a weird relationship, but both of us are extremely sarcastic. He came in the other day and the first thing out of his mouth was, "You're such a b****." And since I'm pregnant, I can't ever tell how I'm going to take things like that. THAT day, I didn't speak to him for the rest of the day. Generally, I shove some comment right back at him. Today, I was mad all morning until a certain vendor came in and made me laugh. Thankfully, my boss came in after my vendor made me laugh or else I think it would have been another bad, screaming kind of day. I don't take lunches, I'm supposed too but generally if I get hungry I just go grab something from the store. No, I'm not supposed to do that. Yes, I can get in trouble for not taking breaks....but I've been doing it for years now, I don't really even think about it anymore. I hope you get in a better mood (((HUGS)))
    Jessica, Tim and Baby Julie

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    I really hope you get your heat working. That should be the landlords first and number one priority especially with the cold weather. And I hope your DH starts being nicer to you. I know it doesn't help when others around me are rude and mean because then I get rude and mean and then I feel like crap afterwards. I'm really sorry your having to deal with all of this stressfulness. I hope everything gets better and I will keep you in my prayers.

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