So lately, every night when I go to swaddle Henry, he fights it. His arms are at his face by the time I'm done swaddling, I have to do it several times very quick before he gets his arms up. He's so strong. We tried tonight to just leave his arms out since he was struggling to get them out anyway. It took him forever to go to sleep and his startle reflex woke him up twice in one hour. So frustrating. He can't be swaddled and can't not be swaddled. What's a mom to do? I own Aden&Anais blankets, swaddlemes and a halo. I'm about to get a transition swaddler thingy...either a swaddle strap (which is what they use at daycare) or a zipadeezip.
Or should I leave his arms out and deal with him waking often for awhile? Will the startle reflex go away faster if I stop swaddling sooner? Like will he learn to self soothe eventually? Or is the reflex there until a certain age?