Totally Forgot Anout This Part - breastfeeding stufff

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Totally Forgot Anout This Part - breastfeeding stufff

Excuse any typos- I'm typing on my phone one handed. The other arm has Mr Reid who flat out refuses to sleep anywhere but on my person. Oh well, one battle at a time. Smile

Right now I'm in the middle of a 3-5 day ordeal, and I had forgotten about this part. I figure many of you are first time moms, or may be experienced but forgetful like me, so I may as well post about it as a heads up. Here's the problem right now: Reid is hungry. Like, REALLY hungry. And I don't have any milk for him because typically your milk takes 3-5 days after birth to come in. I feel like a lot of resources rely gloss over this part by casually mentioning it, but throwing "collostrum" out there like its just an easy substitution. Your baby won't have any milk to drink, but never fear; he'll have collostrum! Rich in protein and antibodies, collostrum! What noone really dwells on is that if your baby is really working it, he may be able to squeeze a teaspoon or two of collostrum out of you, but what he's really hungry for are the several OUNCES of BM he'll be able to ring out of you once your milk sees fit to show up.

I've heard that some babies are so sleepy during this time period that they barely notice that they are literally starving, but neither of my boys fell in to that category. They've both got a flair for the dramatic. I can't imagine where they get it from. So instead of sleepily bouncing along, blissfully unaware of starvation, first T and now Reid through major league days long hissy fits about it. Reid has gotten to the point where he basically refuses to do anything except cycle between crying hysterically, attacking my breasts like a shark, and passing out (still attached to the nipple.) In BFing circles this is known as cluster feeding, and should be a violation of the Geneva Convention.)

So, just like with T, I started freaking out and trying to decide if I should let the nurses give Reid some formula. Only this time around, I had a smart phone so I could read about other people's experiences. And what I read was, this is normal, and yes it's really hard, so stop expecting it to be easy. For some reason, just knowing that its not supposed to be easy cheered me up a lot,, and made me ready to keep trying, which is why I wanted to share it with all of you. Also, apparently all of that cluster feeding will make my milk come in faster. So, we're waiting it out here. Good luck to all of you when you hit this phase. Just remember, it's not supposed to be easy....:)

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"Alissa_Sal" wrote:

In BFing circles this is known as cluster feeding, and should be a violation of the Geneva Convention.

OMG, I almost died laughing at this. Seriously though, I'm sorry it's been a rough start. I don't remember how long it took my milk to come in, but we were supplementing almost immediately, which I highly regret because once he got that bottle, he wouldn't go back to working at the breast and I ended up pumping for 10 1/2 months, exclusively. I think you'd probably rather these few ****ty days than to be stuck pumping for a year! You're doing good mama, you've been here before and you know you'll come out the other end in the right place. In the meantime, you need to make a new ticker so we can remember how old your baby is, lol ... cuz you don't have enough to do, right?

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Thanks for the advice. Not easy, got it! I'm sure a lot easier said than done. Hopefully your milk comes in soon. Well at least you still have your humor!!

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it is a challenge at first, I do remember those first days.. Keep at it, he will be building your supply soon hun.

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My milk finally came in yesterday. I hope we get into a good nursing rhythm soon!

Due to my sugar issues, I had to fight for them NOT to give Tim sugar water or formula.

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Double post. Or should we say "cluster post"?

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I hear ya! It is hard!! I've been fairly lucky and my milk has arrived within about 2 days each time. I actually missed the experience with DS1 b/c he was in the NICU. With DS2 they didn't ever say the word supplement but did hold the sugar testing over me a bit. I guess we were just lucky enough that his results while some elevated were within an ok range that they released us. But I remember DS2 having some crystals in his diaper and low output b/c he got a bit dehydrated before my milk really kicked in. He was born Thursday morning and my milk came in on Saturday. It made me think about those poor mamas who have even a day or 2 longer stretch before their milk comes in. Even a pro and laid back mama would be hard pressed not to at least be a little concerned.

You have a great attitude though...it is hard so don't expect it to be easy. I do hope you get a full supply soon though and things mellow a bit. Keep up the good work mama! Smile

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Omg. I'm screwed! I give up WAY too easily and I know I'll be sticking a bottle in Julie's mouth before one day is out - much less 3-5. Good luck with your supply coming in!!

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Yeah, with Micaiah I don't remember it as much because he got formula in the hospital. :/ But with Noel, I was working hard not to give it to her and I *think* I made it until my milk came in. But it was really a new thing w/ the second one. I remember her being up late at night, obviously hungry and of course hormonal me is in tears thinking I can't even feed my little newborn baby!
Hang in there mama!
And the Geneva Convention joke was hilarious!!

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:lurk:
I went through that so badly with DS1. Good luck with the next few days. Your milk will come in soon! Mine came in earlier with each baby.

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Good thing you shared this-I didn't really have this issue with DD as she was one of the ones who wanted to sleep the whole time until my milk came in, so if this baby is different, at least I'll be prepared and know that it is normal. I did actually end up giving DD a small amount of formula on the second day from a cup because the nurses were concerned that she hadn't wet any diapers. I don't regret it, as it did not end up affecting her nursing in any way, we went on to nurse very easily once she woke up and decided to eat. I also remember spending a lot of time trying to get her to wake up and nurse while in the hospital to help my milk come in and to get her to wet a diaper-it was kind of frustrating since she only wanted to sleep. I think my milk came in about the time we got home-the first night home she woke up and nursed all night long-I was so tired I could not have sat up to save my life, hence the beginning of unplanned co-sleeping.

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I'm not sure what to expect since ds still nurses. My milk turned to colostrum back at 28 weeks but it's a constant supply. I dread having another oversupply once baby is born. That really sucks! I'm hoping with my other still nursing it won't be quite as bad.

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Man, what is it with bodies not cooperating like they are supposed to? Anyways, hope you milk decides to come in sooner for you to make things a little easier.

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My milk finally came in on Wednesday. I actually ended up supplementing a little bit on Tuesday because like Rebecca I was concerned about his lack of wet diapers. Luckily it seemed to have no effect on nursing because now that I have milk to give him, nursing is his very favorite thing.

You ladies will probably think this is funny: so, by yesterday I was like obsessed with his lack of wet diapers, so I was checking constantly. But I think I also got little resigned that he was never going to have another wet diaper again, because I started checking in random places, like on my lap on the couch. Bad idea, btw.

So, there I was, sitting on the couch. He was laying in my lap, and I decided to check his diaper again. These diapers have a little stripe on the outside that turns blue when the baby pees. It was still yellow, but as any POAS addict can tell you, if you don't get the answer you're looking for the conventional way, you need to take the whole thing apart to get a better look. Lol

So I opened his diaper. And he immediately peed all over me AND had a nice liquid-y BM. Here's the funny part; I'm sitting on my couch covered in per and trying to hold the diaper just right so poop didnt get everywhere, and my first and sincere reaction was "YAY!!!!! You peed!!!!!"

We went to his check up today, and he is almost up to his birth weight, so all of the nursing we have been doing is paying off! He's also having regular wet and dirty diapers, and got a clean bill of health. So it all worked out, it was just a tense couple of days.

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Ermm... yay for being peed and pooped on!!

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Haha that's great Alissa! I'm hoping mine comes in quicker this time; I do think I may have supplemented a wee bit w/ Noel because she was insatiable.

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Yay for your milk coming in and pee!! Biggrin

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Hooray! I'm remembering what a hungry little man my DS was in his first few weeks. I'm sure I'll be having the same struggles with this one. Thanks for posting this so we can all be a little more prepared when our babies get here.