Excuse any typos- I'm typing on my phone one handed. The other arm has Mr Reid who flat out refuses to sleep anywhere but on my person. Oh well, one battle at a time.
Right now I'm in the middle of a 3-5 day ordeal, and I had forgotten about this part. I figure many of you are first time moms, or may be experienced but forgetful like me, so I may as well post about it as a heads up. Here's the problem right now: Reid is hungry. Like, REALLY hungry. And I don't have any milk for him because typically your milk takes 3-5 days after birth to come in. I feel like a lot of resources rely gloss over this part by casually mentioning it, but throwing "collostrum" out there like its just an easy substitution. Your baby won't have any milk to drink, but never fear; he'll have collostrum! Rich in protein and antibodies, collostrum! What noone really dwells on is that if your baby is really working it, he may be able to squeeze a teaspoon or two of collostrum out of you, but what he's really hungry for are the several OUNCES of BM he'll be able to ring out of you once your milk sees fit to show up.
I've heard that some babies are so sleepy during this time period that they barely notice that they are literally starving, but neither of my boys fell in to that category. They've both got a flair for the dramatic. I can't imagine where they get it from. So instead of sleepily bouncing along, blissfully unaware of starvation, first T and now Reid through major league days long hissy fits about it. Reid has gotten to the point where he basically refuses to do anything except cycle between crying hysterically, attacking my breasts like a shark, and passing out (still attached to the nipple.) In BFing circles this is known as cluster feeding, and should be a violation of the Geneva Convention.)
So, just like with T, I started freaking out and trying to decide if I should let the nurses give Reid some formula. Only this time around, I had a smart phone so I could read about other people's experiences. And what I read was, this is normal, and yes it's really hard, so stop expecting it to be easy. For some reason, just knowing that its not supposed to be easy cheered me up a lot,, and made me ready to keep trying, which is why I wanted to share it with all of you. Also, apparently all of that cluster feeding will make my milk come in faster. So, we're waiting it out here. Good luck to all of you when you hit this phase. Just remember, it's not supposed to be easy....
-Alissa, mom to Tristan (5) and Reid (the baby!)
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I hear ya! It is hard!! I've been fairly lucky and my milk has arrived within about 2 days each time. I actually missed the experience with DS1 b/c he was in the NICU. With DS2 they didn't ever say the word supplement but did hold the sugar testing over me a bit. I guess we were just lucky enough that his results while some elevated were within an ok range that they released us. But I remember DS2 having some crystals in his diaper and low output b/c he got a bit dehydrated before my milk really kicked in. He was born Thursday morning and my milk came in on Saturday. It made me think about those poor mamas who have even a day or 2 longer stretch before their milk comes in. Even a pro and laid back mama would be hard pressed not to at least be a little concerned.
You have a great attitude though...it is hard so don't expect it to be easy. I do hope you get a full supply soon though and things mellow a bit. Keep up the good work mama!
Yeah, with Micaiah I don't remember it as much because he got formula in the hospital. :/ But with Noel, I was working hard not to give it to her and I *think* I made it until my milk came in. But it was really a new thing w/ the second one. I remember her being up late at night, obviously hungry and of course hormonal me is in tears thinking I can't even feed my little newborn baby!
Hang in there mama!
And the Geneva Convention joke was hilarious!!
I went through that so badly with DS1. Good luck with the next few days. Your milk will come in soon! Mine came in earlier with each baby.
big boy 12.8.07 @ 39+2 7lbs 8oz, 20.5" BFed for 13 months
middle boy 8.12.09 @ 39+4 7lbs 9oz, 21" BFed for 13.5 months
little boy 4.26.11 @ 38+4 6lbs 14oz, 19.5" BFed until 26mo and restarted at 30mo!
baby boy 10.25.13 @ 41+0 8lbs 15oz, 21.5"
8.16.12 & 12.16.12