So DH is really pushing me to get the baby out of our room. Last night was a trial run. Baby went down fine, in his rock n play though, not the crib yet. Woke at 3am to eat but when I put him back down asleep he woke up three more times and fussed before finally going back to sleep. I was annoyed and told DH "This is why I didn't want to do this yet." When he's in our room, the rock n play is right next to my bed so if he fusses I can just reach over and rock him until he falls asleep. DH is pretty big on just letting him cry to teach him it's time to go to sleep but I'm not like that as much. However, I do understand that if he gets used to me rocking him like that, it will just make it more difficult later on. What to do? I said maybe DH could get up and rock him but he thinks after I feed him I should just turn the monitor off and ignore him until it's time for him to eat again!!
Plus, I think I'm going to go ahead and try to get him transitioned into the crib which is a big deal because he doesn't sleep well on his back with nothing to cradle him. Tips?
I think its too early too. And I agree with Joan, if you're feeding him, I say you make the call. Is the problem that your husband just wants more sleep? Maybe he can go to another room and sleep for a few nights. Or does he just want to start sleep training him now?
My husband has had some rough days at work, so I gave him a night off and slept on the futon in the baby's nursery. I know my dh will want to sleep train sooner than I would like, but he just seems too young right now to even consider it.
What is your husbands reasoning to transition him to his own space?
Tell DH to get up with him in the middle of the night and bring him to you for a feed and let DH take over. If he's having to go back and forth between rooms maybe he will change his mind and see your side of things. Too much?
Kylie is in our room as we are only in a two bedroom apt and the boys share a room. But even if she had her own room, i'm not sure that she would be in there yet. As I know it's sometimes rough being up in the middle of the night in our own room, I don't know how I would feel having to leave our room to go to another and back.
Yeah, I was taking him out of the room for his feedings when he was younger because it would take him a bit to latch on. Now that he can latch I was just staying in the room. It's not a huge deal to leave the room to feed him, but I would rather DH take over after that if I know he just ate and needs to go back to sleep.
I think DH is just ready to have his own room back. There have been times when he forgets the baby is in there and goes in and turns the lights on... and since we have been dtd again he doesn't want to have to tiptoe around the baby etc.
I put the baby in his own room again tonight, again in the rock n play so we'll see how he does. If he will just go down ok after his feeding it won't be so bad; DH is fine with me bringing him in in the morning.
Last night was better; he woke at 4:30, I fed him and he went down fine; I didn't have to go back in again. Then he didn't wake up until 8! If it does get to be a problem, I may just bring him in after his 3-4am feeding. I don't think DH will mind that.
I think the own crib is a personal choice really. I have a friend who put her second one in the nursery right away and she is an AWESOME sleeper and has been since early on. We moved my older daughter by this point and would with Rylee except if she wakes up and cries we are afraid of her waking my older daughter up. Rylee has never cried during the night for any reason. we usually hear her awake and she grunts etc and we look and it is about time for her to eat. She started giving us 8 and 8.5 hours this weekend so we are thinking we may move her after I am out of school.