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    Do you all get offers for old used baby items left and right? MIL has been trying to give me DH's stuff from when he is a baby. I think she thinks I'm a safety freak because I always tell her a reason I can't use them. She's offered his carseat (31 years old now) and his crib. I told her those aren't safe to use now. I need a better way to phrase that though. Any ideas? She also said she was going to get her co-workers old carseat to use in her car. Her co-worker has a 5 year old and 8 year old, so I said we would have to check the expiration date. I didn't mean to offend her though. Do you ladies think I'm being too careful with these safety regulations?

    They also offered DH's changing table. I said no only because we rent and move every 2 years, I want one piece of furniture that I can use as a dresser/changing table and that he can use when he's older. So I'm looking at something from ikea.

    They also gave me DH's crib mobile, which I will probably use, but its a super 70's plush rainbow thing. Not my style, but I feel bad for saying no to everything.

    I am, however, excited about some hand me down baby clothes from a friend though. Now that I can use!
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    I would just tell her that its illegal to use outdated stuff that's been recalled. Then, like you plan to do with the mobile, take the small, harmless stuff and act like you're super excited about it. You obviously can't take a 30-something year old car seat. Who saves a car seat for that long?
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    Omg, I totally hear you on this. My neighbor two doors down, I JUST met her last month. She comes up to me about a week after we met and says that I'm getting everything in her back room. I was like..um..what is it? She's like ...all kinds of little girl stuff! I was like..oh! uh..thanks! Then I log into FB and I have three private messages that say something along the lines of they want to give me stuff from their kids.
    I need to have a baby shower first and then pick what else I need, but I don't want everyones hand-me-downs. Especially from practically strangers! SOME hand-me-downs, yes. But I want to choose what I want. Because I'm picky. And pregnant. HMPH
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    Quote Originally Posted by babywings1 View Post
    Omg, I totally hear you on this. My neighbor two doors down, I JUST met her last month. She comes up to me about a week after we met and says that I'm getting everything in her back room. I was like..um..what is it? She's like ...all kinds of little girl stuff! I was like..oh! uh..thanks! Then I log into FB and I have three private messages that say something along the lines of they want to give me stuff from their kids.
    I need to have a baby shower first and then pick what else I need, but I don't want everyones hand-me-downs. Especially from practically strangers! SOME hand-me-downs, yes. But I want to choose what I want. Because I'm picky. And pregnant. HMPH
    In your case, I'd act all super excited, take everything, then still register for what you want. Then you can pick what you like and what you don't. Then, you can just say, "I got this and this as gifts so I don't need ..." and ask them if they'd like you give it back to them or donate it. I'd take it though, you might love the stuff and some of it you might not get as gifts and really need!
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    Yes, I even have random people at work that I've never spoken to (our building has like 300 people) coming up and telling me that they have baby stuff for me. I have an easy "out"; I just tell them that we saved all of our son's stuff and we don't really need anything (true.) I think it's nice that people want to share their stuff, and frankly babies grow so fast that most of their belongings don't get "worn out" but it makes me uncomfortable too, like I don't want their stuff but I also don't want to hurt their feelings.

    Elizabeth, with your...*snort*.....31 year old car seat...bahahahaha....I would go with what Joan said - tell you MIL that you need to use a carseat that meets the current safety requirements. Ohmygosh, seriously, WHO keeps a carseat for 31 years and then thinks it's fine to reuse? LOLOLOL

    Anyway, it doesn't hurt to take a look at the stuff that is offered. But don't feel obligated to take anything you won't use.
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    Wow, you guys are lucky to have people offering you stuff! I would have taken a lot of that with my first. I'm one who just takes stuff and goes through it and passes it on if I don't need it.
    But wow on the car seat. Can't believe she kept it! What does it look like?
    I've already gone through my old clothes but my mom keep regifting stuff that I've already rejected. Like she put a couple pairs of booties that I used for my dolls in the stocking for the baby this year. Yeah, not using those things. But I just say "thanks!" and get rid of them, haha. And then I just play up the stuff I do use.

    Elizabeth, would it be worth it for your MIL to keep things at her house for you to use? Like the changing table and mobile?
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    I got this a lot with DD, I just took most of it and got rid of what I didn't want. I have the same out as Alyssa this time since I am having another girl. Wow on the carseat, that's just crazy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tori729 View Post
    Elizabeth, would it be worth it for your MIL to keep things at her house for you to use? Like the changing table and mobile?
    This is a great idea! Thanks I will mention it to her.

    And thanks ladies for making me not feel so bad about not accepting the 31 year old carseat. I haven't seen it, but its been in their attic this whole time and I can't help but think its been a nest for rodents and bugs after all these years. Ew.
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    People kept trying to pass me off stuff with my first. I finally got really huffy with my MIL and told her I didn't go to law school and work my booty off to not be able to afford the cool baby gadgets I really wanted (which is how I still feel) and I was not her frickin storage unit for items with sentimental value. She kept trying to give me the most awful baby clothes from when DH was a kid or crappy stuff my SIL had that was stained with holes. She tried to give me one of those door bouncer things with a broken strap! I felt like it was 100% my right as a FTM with disposable income to blow it however I saw fit.

    The only used things we had for Ben were a handful of consignment clothes in great condition (because pirate-themed baby clothes were hard to find in 2008/2009!) and my childhood crib (which is gorgeous and still met safety regs before they decided drop-sides were bad, but let's be honest - my kid never slept a night in it, we coslept, I just felt like I couldn't decorate a nursery without having a crib).


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    People kept trying to pass me off stuff with my first. I finally got really huffy with my MIL and told her I didn't go to law school and work my booty off to not be able to afford the cool baby gadgets I really wanted (which is how I still feel) and I was not her frickin storage unit for items with sentimental value. She kept trying to give me the most awful baby clothes from when DH was a kid or crappy stuff my SIL had that was stained with holes. She tried to give me one of those door bouncer things with a broken strap! I felt like it was 100% my right as a FTM with disposable income to blow it however I saw fit.

    The only used things we had for Ben were a handful of consignment clothes in great condition (because pirate-themed baby clothes were hard to find in 2008/2009!) and my childhood crib (which is gorgeous and still met safety regs before they decided drop-sides were bad, but let's be honest - my kid never slept a night in it, we coslept, I just felt like I couldn't decorate a nursery without having a crib).


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