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Waiting to O

Anyone else over here? Looks like I am officially moving to April. If I ovulate on time, my EDD will be April 1st.

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I'm over here too. Although it looks like our numbers are dwindling (which is awesome of course) but it's gonna start being really quiet with everyone on their BB.

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I was thinking the same thing, Michelle. Other than the two of us, I think Erin and Leah are the last of the group that I started board hopping with last year. I'm thrilled that so many have moved on to BB's, but I'm also sad that there is a handful, including myself, remaining. I go back and forth between accepting that our one miracle baby will be my only bio child and continuing to TTC another. I am 99% sure that I won't want to pursue any fertility treatments through our RE and I'm not sure if a natural pregnancy is an option. Hitting those annual marks are tough. Glad to see we're cycle buddies though! Smile

**Egads** Sorry, Kim...just saw your post on March. Didn't mean to leave you out! Wish I could blame my forgetfulness on pg brain...

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I have been the same way too, Beth. Doctors say that 80% of couples will conceive within a year. All of the ladies that were BB hopping with us proved that statistic. I do wonder at times when will it be our turn? But, I go back and forth accepting that fact that I will never have children and than getting the drive to do everything I can to get pregnant. I think that when you have been TTC for so long like us, you tend to get burned out. I don't really have any options any more either, I have one RE in the area and I went to her for Clomid and thought she was great the first month but then the following 2 months I wasn't being monitored at all and when I would call to see if I could get an u/s or a follow-up I was treated like I was "bothering" them. So unfortunately I am kinda stuck with no medical intervention Sad But aside from all that we just have to keep our chins up hun and know that it WILL happen for us someday. It may not happen as soon as we like, but it will happen. And "yay!" for being cycle buddies Smile

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Hi ladies, I just wanted you to know I will be quietly stalking you! And to tell you not to give up hope completely! I was sure we'd never conceive on our own, after more than a year and a half of TTC and crazy cycles often with no ovulation, but it's happened, and I'm really hoping to see it happen to you too! You ladies have been such huge supports to everyone. Thank you for that Smile

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Crystal, :bighug: thank you so much! I will be quietly stalking you as well and truly hope all the best for you. I am so happy that you were blessed with a BFP. HH9M to you dear! Smile

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Hi ladies! I'm here. AF is here and we're planning on starting TTC #2 this cycle. It took us 15 cycles to get pg with dd, so we'll see how many boards I hop. LOL. Our edd would be April 4th if the universe surprises us this cycle...but I'm not holding my breath. LOL.

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Good luck this cycle, Heather! Since it took 15 cycles for you to conceive your DD, how awesome would it be if you conceived on the first try this time? I will cross my fingers for you! Biggrin

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"Lily2006" wrote:

Good luck this cycle, Heather! Since it took 15 cycles for you to conceive your DD, how awesome would it be if you conceived on the first try this time? I will cross my fingers for you! Biggrin

Thanks Michelle. I'm hoping it goes fast this second time. I really don't want to have to chart, temp, and do all the silly tricks I did the first time. It got really stressful. At the same time though, I begged the universe for my daughter...and I said if I only got one baby, I'd be happy with that. So I need to be ok with the possibility of not having a second. My heart is somewhat guarded this time around to avoid disappointment.

10 days before my daughter was conceived I had an HSG. They say you are most fertile for the 3 months after that procedure...so I think that played into the whole reason why we were successful. We had doctors tell us we'd never get pg with dh's numbers (even though he had a 12 year old dd already). They were wrong.

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You know, I have been thinking about the HSG. Is that something that only an infertility doctor can do? Because really, I think I should get one just because DH and I have been trying so long and haven't had a single pregnancy. Makes me wonder if my tubes are closed or something.

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Room for one more ladies? smile..Baby Luck to all

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"Lily2006" wrote:

You know, I have been thinking about the HSG. Is that something that only an infertility doctor can do? Because really, I think I should get one just because DH and I have been trying so long and haven't had a single pregnancy. Makes me wonder if my tubes are closed or something.

I'm in Canada, so things might be different here. After we were TTC for a year we went to an OB/GYN. He did some tests on me to make sure I was O'ing (i had been temping and charting for over a year so I knew I was! LOL) and they did all the sperm tests on DH. The next step was the HSG. We had that. If we hadn't been pg 3 months later we would have started Clomid and they would have done a laproscopic surgery to check for Endo. Then if after a year we still weren't pg they would have sent us to a fertility clinic. We only made it to the HSG, thank goodness. I had the Clomid prescription in my hand though. Phew, glad I didn't have to do that!

I was 33 when we conceived so I like to joke that there was 33 years of grunge in there that the HSG cleaned out. LOL. My tubes were open when they did the HSG, but who knows what it flushed out, right?

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What Heather describes sounds similar to the care I got in the U.S. The initial work up was bloodwork for me (cd 3 FSH and 7 dpo progesterone as well as thyroid screen...maybe other stuff?). At that point we moved from an OB/gyn to an RE because my FSH was elevated. Through the RE my DH had a semen analysis and I had an HSG. I didn't have any symptoms of endo so a lap wasn't indicated. I did the clomid challenge test (also abnormal) before we tried femara and IUI for a few cycles. Then there was more bloodwork for both of us prior to IVF (for communicable diseases). Even though my diagnosis, diminished ovarian reserve, was a hard pill to swallow, it was a relief to know why I wasn't getting pregnant. I would definitely seek treatment through your OB/gyn.

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I've moved on to April. We're on month 6 of trying. Not too long, but I'm old -- we don't really have much time to play around. My previous pregnancies (4) we got pregnant within 2-3 months of trying. so the fact that we aren't pregnant worries me. I know I am blessed to have 3 children, but I really have the idea of just one more in my head that I can't get rid of.

Janel

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Welcome Janel! How old are you? I'm 36.

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"Heatherbella" wrote:

Welcome Janel! How old are you? I'm 36.

I am 41. Way past the age I thought I would be having more kids!

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41 isn't super old these days. Women have babies over 40 quite often now. Smile

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joining you ladies.. sigh. maybe cycle 5 will be my lucky cycle! gl to you all Smile

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"nidia" wrote:

joining you ladies.. sigh. maybe cycle 5 will be my lucky cycle! gl to you all Smile

Sorry to hear last cycle wasn't a success. Sad GL this round!

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Sorry, nidia. Seems like cd1 is the hardest.

I've got some time off work in between classes I am teaching. Nice to have a little bit of a break. I'm just doing some prep work and working on wrapping up some house projects that were started a LONG time ago. Been trying not to obsess about TTC and it seems to be working. Not sure what cycle day I am on, but it seems like I should start using opks soon. It's been a while since I skipped temping. I'm confident that I'm ovulating. Just doubtful that my eggs are good. Oh, well. I was blessed with one healthy baby already. I tell myself that if we only have one it will be easier to take him travelling when he gets a little older. My parents travel to Spain quite frequently (at least once a year) and I will be able to afford to take one child if we want to tag along in a couple of years. Trying to focus on the positive aspects of having an only child. Smile

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I've been doing the same thing Beth. After begging the universe for my daughter, I have to be ok with the fact that she may be the only child we have. If that's the case, then so be it. I'd rather have her than none.

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It makes me wish so hard that pregnancy was easy to come by for any woman that is ready for a baby. Saddens me how many woman struggle Sad

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"Lily2006" wrote:

It makes me wish so hard that pregnancy was easy to come by for any woman that is ready for a baby. Saddens me how many woman struggle Sad

I agree. People who don't want to be pregnant get pregnant every day...then there are those who try fruitlessly for years and get nothing. It's heartbreaking.

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"CamelNoodle" wrote:

I am 41. Way past the age I thought I would be having more kids!

I had my DS at 35 and I'm still TTC my 2nd at 44...you all are ok...smile.....

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"nidia" wrote:

joining you ladies.. sigh. maybe cycle 5 will be my lucky cycle! gl to you all Smile

I understand....... this is my 4th cycle...Keeping my fingures crossed for you....

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I hope we get lots of BFP's this month! I hope to see one from everybody Biggrin

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I'm coming over here since it is unlikely I will ovulate any time soon, so I'll be bypassing March. It's depressing that we are already in April 2013 since I have an April 2009 son, so there will be at least 4 years between children if we ever have another even

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Sad Sorry to hear you're feeling sad about the age gap between your kids Pam. My daughter was born January 2010 so there will be at least 3 years between siblings there. I think it will be a nice gap as I will get a break from diapers between the two and she will be more excited and helpful when she's older. That's what I tell myself anyways. LOL

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Hello everyone! Joining you here.

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Hi Kate! Smile

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"Heatherbella" wrote:

Sad Sorry to hear you're feeling sad about the age gap between your kids Pam. My daughter was born January 2010 so there will be at least 3 years between siblings there. I think it will be a nice gap as I will get a break from diapers between the two and she will be more excited and helpful when she's older. That's what I tell myself anyways. LOL

It's not that they will be 4 years apart. Actually that would be good in many ways, as my son will be in free preschool so there wouldnt be 2 in daycare. It's just that we started trying when my son was not even 2. We had a CP which would have been due Nov. 2011. It's just depressing that so much time has passed

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"pam111" wrote:

It's not that they will be 4 years apart. Actually that would be good in many ways, as my son will be in free preschool so there wouldnt be 2 in daycare. It's just that we started trying when my son was not even 2. We had a CP which would have been due Nov. 2011. It's just depressing that so much time has passed

Oh right, that makes sense. My brother and SIL tried for many years before my niece was conceived. The kids ended up being about 4.5 years apart.

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Awfully quiet over here....

Still waiting to O. Hopefully I will as I didn't take any fertility meds. We'll see what happens. Good luck to everybody! Biggrin

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Yes, very quiet indeed. Glad to see I'm not talking to myself. LOL. I hope you O on your own Michelle. Wouldn't that be great!

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lol! Nope your not talking to yourself! Smile It would be awesome if I would O! It's been a really long, rough battle so I am very, very ready for some sort of good news in regards to ttc.

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Yes, TTC is very emotionally draining. After it took us so long to get our DD I swore I'd never be secretive about the struggles we had. Other women need to know that they are not alone and that there are others out there who have been in a similar situation. It sucks to feel alone in something so rough.

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I'm over here now too! I won't O until the end of July, so still another couple weeks of waiting!

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"Lily2006" wrote:

Awfully quiet over here....

Still waiting to O. Hopefully I will as I didn't take any fertility meds. We'll see what happens. Good luck to everybody! Biggrin

It is quiet....that is the only thing about a new board...it starts out realllllllllyyyyy quiet...hopefully it will get to popping soon....I pray that it will happen for you this month....I didnt take anything ( maca powder) this month myself......GL Michelle/Lily2006

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I'm here, waiting to O! We started TTC about 2 years ago (when my youngest was 1.5) but no luck. Stopped for awhile because it was getting stressful and we were dealing with moving and career changes and stuff, and have been JLIH for a year. Now we are moving full-steam ahead and really hoping it just happens this month! Good luck to everyone!

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"nextbabyplease" wrote:

I'm here, waiting to O! We started TTC about 2 years ago (when my youngest was 1.5) but no luck. Stopped for awhile because it was getting stressful and we were dealing with moving and career changes and stuff, and have been JLIH for a year. Now we are moving full-steam ahead and really hoping it just happens this month! Good luck to everyone!

Oh yes, I remember the stress of TTC all too well. Ugh. I hope you get your BFP really soon!

I'm still here hanging around...checking in. I just don't have much to say...waiting waiting waiting to O. Blum 3

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hello, ladies. looks like I'll be Oing while on vacation.. so not sure how that'll work.. as we are going on vacation with family and will be staying at a lake house with them.. might not happen for me this month Sad who knows.

I've been ttcing since March and I feel like it's been forever.. I keep getting disappointed.. gosh, why is it so hard? I keep telling myself that if only I had known it'd take so long. we would've started trying a year ago!

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"nidia" wrote:

hello, ladies. looks like I'll be Oing while on vacation.. so not sure how that'll work.. as we are going on vacation with family and will be staying at a lake house with them.. might not happen for me this month Sad who knows.

I've been ttcing since March and I feel like it's been forever.. I keep getting disappointed.. gosh, why is it so hard? I keep telling myself that if only I had known it'd take so long. we would've started trying a year ago!

Ugh, I have been saying that too. Every month I am getting closer to 2 years and I say to DH, why did we wait so long to get started!? But, we wouldn't have known we would have issues with our fertility. Still, it stinks Sad I'm sorry you are getting frustrated and I hope a BFP comes your way real soon!

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"nidia" wrote:

hello, ladies. looks like I'll be Oing while on vacation.. so not sure how that'll work.. as we are going on vacation with family and will be staying at a lake house with them.. might not happen for me this month Sad who knows.

Be creative! Perhaps you can go for a walk or a drive after DS is in bed and find a cozy spot? LOL. Darkness and wilderness go well together for baby making. LOL. Wouldn't that be a great story?

"nidia" wrote:

I've been ttcing since March and I feel like it's been forever.. I keep getting disappointed.. gosh, why is it so hard? I keep telling myself that if only I had known it'd take so long. we would've started trying a year ago!

I hear ya. My daughter is 2.5 and we just started TTC. It took us just over a year to get her, so I'm not expecting anything immediately. That being said, the HSG I got right before getting PG may have cleaned things out and I might be in for a surprise. In all honesty though, I'd like it to take a few months so it can all sink in. If I'm not pg by this time next year I will be freaking though. LOL

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Michelle, thank you so much Smile I hope it happens for both of us soon. I'm just a whiny baby.. I know that many ladies have been trying for longer than I have.. I'm just so impatient!

Heather.. haha.. good deal.. a cozy spot in the wilderness Blum 3 I'm just not very adventurous anyway haha. at least I know we can try before we leave that morning and maybe the swimmers will live for a few days! oh and maybe it will happen soon for you.. you never know! anything is possible!

on another note, I told myself I need to try to be at peace with whatever happens.. if we are able to conceive again or if we have an only child.. I'm working on it.. one day at a time!

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Ugh...I am getting frustrated. I felt definite ovulation pains on CD 16 and was ecstatic because our timing was really good this month. But now, my temps never went up...:( I played with fertility friend and put in different temps for the next few days and if indeed my temps do go up, it believes I will ovulate on CD 18. So I don't know whats going on and it is frustrating as heck. I was taking Clomid for 4 cycles and that worked great, ovulation was always dead on, regulated my cycle etc, but didn't get my pregnant for some reason. DH SA is perfect, so we know there is no issues with him. I have no Dr. I can go to because the one I went to turned out to be very snotty and wouldn't even monitor me (you know to make sure my lining is okay after Clomid) It kinda feels like I am fighting a losing battle, if you know what I mean? I live in the worst place possible because there is NO care around here for infertility. Maybe I should switch my college career path? I don't want any woman to feel like she doesn't have an infertility Dr. that she can go to for help. Ugh...anyways my post is turning into a story here. So anyways, good luck to everybody this month! Smile

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"nidia" wrote:

Heather.. haha.. good deal.. a cozy spot in the wilderness Blum 3 I'm just not very adventurous anyway haha. at least I know we can try before we leave that morning and maybe the swimmers will live for a few days! oh and maybe it will happen soon for you.. you never know! anything is possible!

Lol, No? Not even in the name of TTC? LOL If that's not in your normal comfort zone DH would be blown away. LOL.

"nidia" wrote:

on another note, I told myself I need to try to be at peace with whatever happens.. if we are able to conceive again or if we have an only child.. I'm working on it.. one day at a time!

I've always said the same thing. When we were TTC #1 I begged the universe for "just one baby". I'm not greedy, just one. Well, I've got her now and I need to be ok with the fact it might not happen again. Right now, I'm ok with that...but talk to me in a few months. LOL

"Lily2006" wrote:

Ugh...I am getting frustrated. I felt definite ovulation pains on CD 16 and was ecstatic because our timing was really good this month. But now, my temps never went up...:( I played with fertility friend and put in different temps for the next few days and if indeed my temps do go up, it believes I will ovulate on CD 18. So I don't know whats going on and it is frustrating as heck. I was taking Clomid for 4 cycles and that worked great, ovulation was always dead on, regulated my cycle etc, but didn't get my pregnant for some reason. DH SA is perfect, so we know there is no issues with him. I have no Dr. I can go to because the one I went to turned out to be very snotty and wouldn't even monitor me (you know to make sure my lining is okay after Clomid) It kinda feels like I am fighting a losing battle, if you know what I mean? I live in the worst place possible because there is NO care around here for infertility. Maybe I should switch my college career path? I don't want any woman to feel like she doesn't have an infertility Dr. that she can go to for help. Ugh...anyways my post is turning into a story here. So anyways, good luck to everybody this month! Smile

Sorry you are going through all this. SO frustrating. Where is the nearest fertility dr? Even if you have to drive an hour it might be worth it.

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"Lily2006" wrote:

Ugh...I am getting frustrated. I felt definite ovulation pains on CD 16 and was ecstatic because our timing was really good this month. But now, my temps never went up...:( I played with fertility friend and put in different temps for the next few days and if indeed my temps do go up, it believes I will ovulate on CD 18. So I don't know whats going on and it is frustrating as heck. I was taking Clomid for 4 cycles and that worked great, ovulation was always dead on, regulated my cycle etc, but didn't get my pregnant for some reason. DH SA is perfect, so we know there is no issues with him. I have no Dr. I can go to because the one I went to turned out to be very snotty and wouldn't even monitor me (you know to make sure my lining is okay after Clomid) It kinda feels like I am fighting a losing battle, if you know what I mean? I live in the worst place possible because there is NO care around here for infertility. Maybe I should switch my college career path? I don't want any woman to feel like she doesn't have an infertility Dr. that she can go to for help. Ugh...anyways my post is turning into a story here. So anyways, good luck to everybody this month! Smile

Michelle- I am sorry you are having to go through all this. It is very frustrating. So I take it you stopped the Clomid? I'm not too familiar with the risks involved (ie lining issues). I agree with Heather...where is the nearest fertility doc? Maybe a long drive would be worth it. Alright....off to stalk your chart!

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Michelle,
You still could have definitely O'd. Hopefully you will get your big spike tomorrow!!

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"-kate-" wrote:

Michelle- I am sorry you are having to go through all this. It is very frustrating. So I take it you stopped the Clomid? I'm not too familiar with the risks involved (ie lining issues). I agree with Heather...where is the nearest fertility doc? Maybe a long drive would be worth it. Alright....off to stalk your chart!

Yeah, I stopped the Clomid. Apparently it can thin your lining making pregnancy right near impossible so you are "supposed" to be monitored to make sure that doesn't happen. Plus, monitoring helps with O dates. My Re wasn't willing to do it so every month I worried about my lining and I think my lining did get too thin because I didn't get pregnant and my periods began to get so light I wouldn't even call it a period. So I stopped it. As far as the closest RE, the one I went to was closest and that was at 45 minutes away. The next closest is 3 hours, and that just isn't doable on top of working 40+ hours a week Sad So kinda on my own unfortunately. As far as temping, I didn't temp this morning because I got up 2 hours earlier than normal so it wouldn't have been accurate anyways. (DH and I had a "couples retreat" of sorts at an island nearby. It was amazing Smile

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"Lily2006" wrote:

Yeah, I stopped the Clomid. Apparently it can thin your lining making pregnancy right near impossible so you are "supposed" to be monitored to make sure that doesn't happen. Plus, monitoring helps with O dates. My Re wasn't willing to do it so every month I worried about my lining and I think my lining did get too thin because I didn't get pregnant and my periods began to get so light I wouldn't even call it a period. So I stopped it. As far as the closest RE, the one I went to was closest and that was at 45 minutes away. The next closest is 3 hours, and that just isn't doable on top of working 40+ hours a week Sad So kinda on my own unfortunately. As far as temping, I didn't temp this morning because I got up 2 hours earlier than normal so it wouldn't have been accurate anyways. (DH and I had a "couples retreat" of sorts at an island nearby. It was amazing Smile

The "couples retreat" sounds awesome!

When we were seeing an RE his office was almost two hours from here. There were a few occasions when I had blood drawn at our local hospital and I could have done some of the u/s monitoring at another place, but it wasn't much closer than the RE's office. You might want to try calling the RE who is three hours away to see if they are willing to help find monitoring sites closer to your home. I completely understand the difficulty of having to drive for appointments while working full-time. It's stressful. I told my employer that I was being treated for a non-life-threatening condition (we had another instructor going through kidney failure and transplant at the time) that required me to see a doctor in a larger city. I was pretty vague, but gave a general time frame when I knew I would have appointments more frequently. I explained that I didn't have times and days ahead of time because my appointments were based on current results. I hope you have an unexpected surprise soon and this becomes a moot point!

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