I have mixed concerns about work. My coworker is so worried about handling things while I'm gone, but honestly, I think he overworries and I think they'll all be fine. As bad as this sounds, part of me worries they'll all be too fine and wonder why they needed me in the first place, lol. I am really sad that I have to go back to work full time though. I was part time with DS and went back slowly and it was so great. We just can't make that work this time and I know I'm going to have a really hard time with that.
Im new to this site so I hope I am doing everything correctly. I read this forum because it caught my interest. I have been feeling the same way about the whole labor and delivery concept. I am on my 29th week i think since 28 weeks have passed. I have 84 days left. I am worried about the pain and how something so big will come out of such a small hole. But I would rather have the baby vaginally than having a c -section. I don't want a c section at all. And I know there is nothing I can do , it all depends on the baby but it worries me alot and when I say alot i mean ALOT. I think it is because I have very bad ocd (obsessive compulsive disorder) and so I obsess about things and freak out about things ten times more than the average person and I know that its not good for the baby. So I try to not freak out but I am not always successful. This is my first baby and i just don't know what to expect and the unknown is killing me. I watched a labor and delivery video on youtube to try and help me be more prepared but all that did was freak me out even more.
I'm not so much worried about the job part because right now I am unemployed since we have only one vehicle which my hubby drives to work. So right now my main job is to be a Mommy. which I am excited but kinda worried since this is my first baby. I'm not sure what to do or where to even begin.
Hi! and welcome! I don't have OCD (atleast, I don't think so) but I freak out about everything as well, I think during pregnancy that's just normal. I definitely would not recommend watching people in labor. A baby story on TLC is nice to watch and kinda makes me cry, but when the women start screaming - I start changing the channel. I'm a FTM (first time mom) so I get all your concerns. All the other moms, that have kids, tell me your body will do what it's supposed too do. My mom had a c-section with my younger brother. If the docs say that's what you're gonna have to have, then...why are you so opposed to it? Are you scared of it? I personally think it'd be a lot easier than trying to push. That's not saying I WONT try to have a vaginal delivery, just that I'm not too concerned about a c-section if it comes down to that. Please make yourself at home on this board! We have a WONDERFUL group of supportive ladies here!
Thank you so much . I will try and look up a baby story. And yes no more labor videos .lol The reason I am so opposed to a c sections is prolly a really stupid reason. I really don't want to have a c section because I want to be the first person to hold my baby when he is born. I don't want to be so out of it or drugged to where I can't have that very special moment with my baby. It sounds kind of selfish but I mean I have endured 9 months of and carried this life around taking care of it that I really want to be the first one to hold him in my arms. I know when you have a c section your a little out of it with all the drugs and such. And I really don't want that to take from my experience.
Another reason I am not a big fan of c section is the recovery time. Not being able to work out for 6-8 weeks after giving birth. I have a weight issue and I obsess over my weight and the fact that I have gained so much during this pregnancy. I just want to be able to go out and work out and lose the weight after I give birth. And I know a c section calls for a longer recovery period of time. These are the reasons I have been freaking out about c section. And Thank you again so much for making me feel welcome
That's not a stupid reason! I hadn't even thought about it that way, but it makes sense...of course you'd want to be the first one to hold your baby! (You refer to your baby as a him, so it's a boy, yes?). And as far as getting back to working out - I wouldn't stress over that too much. I don't *know* this, but I'm thinking with a newborn you're gonna be pretty darn tired a lot of the time anyway, so working out might not fit into your schedule at first. But it will! You'll get back into the groove of things and get the weight off that you want off.
I don't obsess over my weight anymore. I'm fat, I know it. My husband loves me FOR me. I came out of a bad marriage where my husband constantly criticized me...he would tell me I needed to walk up and down the stairs more. If I ever wanted seconds (or heaven forbid, DESSERT) he's say something hurtful so I wouldn't want it anymore. It was a long long long long long LONG road to get and gain acceptance. I STILL don't see how my husband NOW can look at me and tell me super sweet things about how I look. I think he's lying to me. But I'm okay with myself. Please don't beat yourself up over gaining weight during pregnancy! You're supposed to gain weight, and if you want if off bad enough afterward - it'll come off.
Thank you. I have been thinking in depth about this whole pregnancy. lol And yes i don't need to obsess over my weight. I'm so sorry about what you had to go through. No one should have to endure that kind of mental and emotional abuse. I do like your attitude though and your positiveness. It sure makes me feel a lot better and will hopefully rub off on me lol.
Welcome Kai! I also don't think those are stupid reasons to avoid a c-section, they are really good reasons-of course you want to hold the baby first! And I wouldn't want the recovery from a c-section either if it could be avoided. Please don't feel bad about your weight gain during pregnancy, that's all part of the experience, believe me you are not the only one gaining weight here! I have been going through chocolate like its going out of style lately.
I think I'm most worried about juggling three kids and still having time to do my own things as well (i.e. couponing). Oh, and going to the grocery store (hence, the couponing) with all three kids. Ugg.
Oh and breastfeeding. I've always had a tough time and I'm trying something different this time to help with milk supply so I hope it works. But I have flat nipples so it ALWAYS hurts for the first 4-6 weeks because I just have to toughen them up again.
I keep telling myself that it's MUCH easier to care for baby in my womb than out, so don't wish him/her out too soon. So I try to keep that in perspective and enjoy being pregnant.
Oh I guess another thing (I keep thinking of things) is that I feel like there's a lot I want to get done before baby comes. We are working on rearranging our bedroom and getting some new furniture; plus I have to work on the kids' room - also rearranging and getting new furniture. Not to mention getting the kids potty trained at night AND putting them both in one room before baby comes and not until then can I work on the nursery (not much to do - just getting out baby clothes and setting up changing station, etc. But yeah, there are a lot of big things I want to do w/ reorganization and such.
I can understand why others are worried about things like sleeping and delivery and stuff because if it's your first, it's just a big fat unknown. Just don't be afraid to ask for help and advice from friends when baby comes about everything and then form your own opinion on what you should do, what's best for your family.
Thank you so much Rebecca. I try not to think about the c- section and just hope for the best lol and yes I really need to not obsess about my weight but it seems like every time I start feeling better, I look in the mirror and get depressed. Definitely something I will have to work on. And I know what you mean with the chocolate, yummmmy! lol
I'm a bit freaked out by having 4 kids... I just wonder how all that works? lol I feel stretched thin now I can only imagine when this baby comes, but that being said I'm super excited to meet him and complete our family.... sit back and just watch the kids GROW! I will be having my 3rd VBAC, so I'm not to worried about L&D I've seen both sides of it... dd#3 labor was a breeze my son was a bit more w/ the contractions and I'm wondering if it's a boy thing if I'll have to go through that again.. or if it was because my first vaginal delivery. As far as sleeping, we always co sleep...but I say you gotta do what works for everyone! You HAVE to get sleep I feel for you first time momma's the unknown is what's worse, but I promise you'll be just fine might shed some tears, have some laughs and feel like you've never been more tired in all your life but it's all SOOOO worth it!