My dd1 was like that-she would NOT sleep by herself period. We ended up co-sleeping in our bed until she was 8 months old, at which point she finally began sleeping alone, at first for a few hours, but longer and longer as she got older. I actually found that co-sleeping was easier anyway since in my case I was breastfeeding-it was so much easier to have her in bed with me and just pop my boob in her mouth whenever she wanted to nurse rather than have to sit up and grab her out of the pack n play. I do think it is very much the baby's personality and you kind of have to do whatever works so that you all get sleep-keep trying and encouraging her to sleep on her own, but if she's not ready, she's not ready and this period really will go by very quickly, even if it doesn't feel like it at the time!
My second one is so far much easier and will actually sleep on her own which is great. We are still co-sleeping at night though as with the breastfeeding I just find that is easiest on me until they are old enough to have at least a 4 hour stretch of sleeping at night on a regular basis, then we will start moving to the crib for periods of time at night.
Hi Jess. Yes, as "fun" as it is to have a baby that has vowed to never sleep anywhere but right on top of you, it's also very normal. And if you're like me and seriously cannot cope with co sleeping, it totally sucks. I think the biggest thing I can recommend for dealing with it at this very young age is waiting until she is totally asleep before moving her to her crib.
here is an article from Dr Sears that talks about it. See the first bullet.
The big problem with that is of course that it takes an extra 20+ minutes when you want to be sleeping. Also it doesn't teach the baby a blessed thing about falling asleep on her own, But if you just really need Julie to sleep in her crib so you can spend a few Julie Free hours in your bed, this does work. If she's sleeping 5 hours at a stretch it may be worth the 20 minutes to get 4 hrs 40 minutes of them in your own bed. Then again she also may not sleep 5 hours when she's not camped out on your body, so keep that in mind too.
Other stuff you can try is white noise, warming up her sheets with a heating pad before you lay her down (just take the ad away before you lay her down on the warm spot. Also my heating pad wears a shirt I've been wearing for several hours that day so his crib will smell like me in the warm spot.) You can even bring in a step stool to use to help you leverage over the crib better, so she doesn't have as far to "drop" where she is sort of dangling in open air with NST your hands under her. Good luck mama!
-Alissa, mom to Tristan (5) and Reid (the baby!)
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Alissa has good advice on things to try...just wanted to say I had a bit of trouble with the link. If you delete the extra "kn" in the last word of the link it'll take you right to it.
It's a process of trying different stuff...some will work, some will not. Hope you are finding some things that work better for you.