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Any April mommas have experience with a vbac? I'm really hoping for a vbac but have yet to meet anyone who was successful in not having a repeat c/s. I had a HORRIBLE C/S experience and really don't want to experience that again.

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I don't have any experience with a VBAC but I'm hoping to have one too! From what I've heard, the success rate is partially related to why the first was taken c-section to begin with. Mine was because of major fetal distress so I never really had a "trial of labor" and so I'm considered a good VBAC candidate because of that. What were the circumstances with your first c-section? (If you don't mind me asking, of course) Smile Sorry that you had such a horrible experience.

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Yay I'm glad I'm not alone in trying for a vbac! Lucy was breach, so we had to schedule a c/s at 39 weeks. She weighed 8lb 1oz and her head was FIFTEEN INCHES! My dr told me "no way was that baby coming out vaginally anyway!" So, that kind of scares me thinking this baby may be a pretty good size as well. I ended up in the OR for like 3+ hours tho because as my dr was on the last suture they discovered that they had left a sponge inside of me...so then they have to call the X-ray tech down and then the X-ray tech had to go back and read it, but they read it wrong and said there was a clamp inside of me. The dr made the X-ray tech come back and do everything all over again. By the time they figured out what was left in me, my spinal had worn off and they had to knock me out and open me back up. By the time I got to my room I was in so muh pain bc they hadn't started me on any pain meds, and it was hours before they'd let me nurse my baby...and then they actually brought me the WRONG baby early that next morning. It was so so crazy! (Even doped up on morphine I took one look at her and said, um, that's not my baby! Thank goodness for the ID bracelets bc the nurse totally argued with me and DH about it!) we don't live in that state anymore, so this baby will be delivered in a completely different hospital, and I know all of the things that happened before are so very unlikely, but still, I just do not want to go through major surgery like that again. I also really want to experience labor and delivery. Ultimately, I just want my baby to be healthy tho, so if it comes down to a c/s being the best option, then that's the route we will go. I would like to really try for a vbac tho. Since my previous c/s will be over 6 years from when I deliver this baby, and bc it was a "baby reason" and not a "mommy reason," I've been told I'm
A good candidate for a vbac. I'm anxious to talk to my new OB about it at my appointment on Wednesday tho!

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Oh. my. goodness.....you weren't kidding about having a horrible experience! I can't imagine that all of those things could happen to one momma! That would be traumatizing! I'm so glad you won't be in that hospital again because that is just ridiculous. That's great that you're considered a good candidate for a VBAC and hopefully this LO won't have a 15-inch head! I think one of the hardest things to mentally prepare for with a VBAC is being okay with another C-section if it comes down to it. My C-Section was actually really easy to recover from and everything so part of me wonders why I even want to try for a VBAC but I really want to experience vaginal delivery and I also know it's overall healthier for both mom and baby. My LO was in super bad shape by the time they got him out and I don't think he would have made it if we wouldn't have gone to a C-Section when we did, so I'm so grateful that the option is there. Hopefully your OB is on board and supportive when you talk to him at the appointment! Good luck!

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I remember ppl telling me I had taken the easy way out by getting to have a c/s and I would just stare at them. How is major surgery the easy way out?! But I DO know it was the best way for Lucy to enter this world, so I'm thankful it was an option. I struggled for a long time feeling very "less than" as a woman tho. And then with our infertility struggles it just felt like my body was broke-ot couldn't birth a baby the "right way" and then it couldn't even get pregnant. In reality tho, I know that's not the case and I've worked past all of those things. You're right tho-it's hard to have to prepare for the very big possibility of a repeat c/s, so I'm just praying about it already, for God to prepare my heart and give me peace for His perfect path. I'm excited to have someone to walk alongside it with tho-we will have to keep each other posted!

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I started to post about this a few times but decided not to because of some of the very brutal convos that have happened here in the past about c-secs.

I am a 2x c-sec mama. I was very very unhappy about having to have a c-sec with my first because I knew I would not be able to have my second as a vbac because of the rules at the hospital I delivered at. But I had to put all faith and trust in my OB that we were making the right decision. I was a candidate because at our last ultrasound he was estimated to be over 9lbs. And his measurements appeared he would be even bigger than that. We went to surgery and he was born at 10lb 10oz and there is no way his shoulders would have ever made it out. He wasn't so much fat as just BIG. He was 22" but I do not remember the rest of his measurements. My c-sec was a breeze other than being cut hip to hip and it popping back open some but the bashing I got from others after was what hurt. A friend had a baby just a few weeks earlier and she went against her Drs request she have a c-sec and her sons clavicle was broke when he got stuck and they had to force him out. I knew that was a chance I wasn't willing to take so I felt we made the right decision especially after he was born and we got a good look at his size.

So when I had my second I knew it would be a scheduled c-sec. The hospital wouldn't allow a vbac at the time. We scheduled his birthday but little did we know he was going to make his own! I was THRILLED!! That was the closest I ever got to experiencing labor. He was born even bigger than my first at 11lb 1oz and 23". He spent a week in NICU and drew crowds! Even the cafeteria workers were fighting over who was bringing my food so they could go see that big baby. But again after I had him I got bashed for taking the easy way out. And was told I wasn't "woman" because I cheated. No I did what I felt was right for my babies and myself.

With this one my OB and the hosp allow vbac. He has said he will keep the option there. Most likely due to some medical conditions I will be a c-sec again and that is fine. I would love to be able to have this one but I know the reasons why a c-sec is likely the best option for both our safety.

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"scootncocosmama" wrote:

I started to post about this a few times but decided not to because of some of the very brutal convos that have happened here in the past about c-secs.

Thank you for deciding to post! I hope there are no more brutal convos about c-secs. Without mine, I would not currently have a healthy 18-month-old. I think it's sad that moms so often feel like their way is the only right way and there are so many feelings hurt. It just seems like childbirth is so near and dear to people's hearts (regardless of how the baby comes out) that we are all sometimes blinded to the feelings of others because ours are so strong. Maybe I'm way off, but I've noticed that there are always "heated" discussions about anything related to our kiddos [c-sections vs. vaginal delivery, breastfeeding vs. bottlefeeding, etc, etc, etc.] I've even had some people get heated about the fact that I use cloth diapers instead of disposable. Um.....it's a diaper people. Can't we all just get along? Wink Thanks for sharing your story! There are so many different situations and thank goodness modern medicine has discovered a way to get as many healthy babies here as possible!

w4lucy, I understand what you were saying about feeling like something was broken. I've struggled with that too. Thankfully, nobody said anything hurtful to me about my c-section, but I still felt like I wouldn't be a "real woman" until I gave birth vaginally. I, too, have been able to work through that and know that I am just as much of a woman as any other. Right now, we are trying to find a good doctor or midwife group that will be willing to try for a VBAC, but will also be smart in knowing if we do end up needing a repeat C-section. It's so hard to find the right doctor!

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I am truly shocked to hear how some of you ladies were treated because of having a C-section. I had no idea there was such a stigma associated with it. There will certainly be no bashing on this forum, and I pray that that never happens again. My heart was crushed when I was reading the horrible stories of the things you went through, when all any woman or mother wants is to do the best thing she can do for her baby, which happened to be a C-section. You carried that baby and nurtured that baby and now you're able to hold that baby, and no matter how he or she got from the womb to your arms, the fact that you have them there is what makes you a true woman. I do pray that you will be able to experience a vbac if that is your goal - but never forget that you did what you did because it was the best thing you could possibly do for your child given the circumstances, and I commend you for it! You are a hero to that child, and more of a woman than the ones who put you down for it.

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A real woman has a vagina. Sounds like we all checked that box. No further discussion necessary in my book Smile

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"jubileerose" wrote:

A real woman has a vagina. Sounds like we all checked that box. No further discussion necessary in my book Smile

Ok I am cracking up!!!

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Thanks so much for the support and encouragement, ladies! I really appreciate it!

I had my first appt with my OB (last week was just a sono and visit with an RN to give medical history) and it went SO well! He has a great bedside manner, wonderful staff of nurses, and he was very supportive of my hopes for a vbac. But I especially loved this-he said, just know this: you are never tied down to anything. Lets say you do get to have a vbac and you're 4cm and everything is going great but you decide you would rather do a c/s--then that's what we are going to do. I'm here to carry out what YOU want to do as long as you and your baby are safe. But never feel like anything is set in stone.

He also told me to call about anything-even a hangnail:)

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He sounds like a keeper!! Glad your appt went well and it's looking hopeful for a vbac!

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So glad your apt went so well and your OB is so understanding! That's such a wonderful feeling to know that the person who has so much in their hands is on your side, not fighting you the whole way. I am so happy to hear that and it must be a relieving feeling for you.

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I'm so sorry you gals have had bad experiences with your c-sections and with the feedback after birth. Sad

I wanted to chime in because I had an emergency c-section with DD1 at 37 weeks because of placenta degradation which caused 4cm of amniotic fluid and low oxygen. I too felt like less of a woman because of it but no one purposely made me feel that way.

With DD2 I had a repeat c-section because they were only 22 months apart.

This time we're planning a home birth after c-section with our midwife...really really hoping this goes well. It'll be 5 years by the time this LO is born. And I had no complications with my pregnancy with DD2 so...my midwife thinks this one should go well.

I just want y'all to know you can do it! We can all do it! But I must agree that whatever is best for the baby is what is always best!
*Hugs* to all of you and GL.