We've done it each way and each time it felt right!
#1 was totally team green. It really did cut down on the number of baby clothes we got; we got more practical items as gifts; the clothes we DID receive were gender neutral and we can totally use again; those calls were fun to make after birth "Hey grandma, say hi to your new granddaughter"; we didn't get name suggestions from people; and even after she was born, many people got the cute little pink and purple girly outfits, so she wasn't 100% dressed in yellow.
#2 we found out but didn't share. It was fun keeping that secret from the world, and once we finally decided on a name, we called her by it even before she was born. Nice to refer to her by name rather than "the baby" all the time.
Now I'm pg with #3, and since being team green (#1) /not telling (#2) was my influence, I'm going to go with DH's decision to find out/share this time. I don't think we'll buy too much gender specific stuff, but it will be nice just to feel like we have all the information going into it.
I can totally see why you would make a decision to find out or not.. compelling reasons on all sides! Definitely not a wrong answer there. Congrats to you ladies, BTW! HH9M!
That's great! I love that you've tried (or will have tried) each way and found it to be equally satifying. I feel that finding out for the first two felt right as well. But the decision to wait and find out for this one definitely sits right in my mind and heart. So I know where you're coming from. Thanks for sharing and congrats to you as well! HH9M!
Never thought I'd be able to be team green but now having a boy and girl I feel more compelled to not find out. I bought way too much little sized clothes for the last two so I'm thinking not finding out would definitely help with my shopping addiction. Also I hate all the unwanted name advice etc. If I could just say I don't know gender I think. ..or hope... I'd get less comments. Plus my family really likes to be in control and I'd really live to
I found out with both boys. My first there was no question he was a boy. My second it was very hard to tell. In the 5th or 6th attempt the tech said she still wasn't totally positive but confident enough to say boy and he was!
This time I have all intentions of being GREEN all the way! I will have a scheduled c-sec so there will be a lack of "surprise". I want to have that.
And I want this baby to be a girl sooooo bad! I'm scared I may be upset if we end up with boy #3 so the way to avoid that is to wait till D Day and then I will not care, no matter what that little bundle of joy is!
I tried to find out when I was pregnant but because we're so not with the times, I was told "it's not an obvious boy". In all honesty, I was relieved I never knew because when the midwife shouted "it's a girl!" the feeling was amazing!
Neutral coloured clothes didn't matter either as DD lived in baby gros for the first couple of weeks and people bought pink stuff as gifts once she had arrived.
Me - Kristi, 29
DD - Leia, July 5 2008
I luurrrrrve to lurk!
With my first we had no choice but to wait until birth because at our us her legs were crossed so even though I would have wanted to know it was exciting finding out.
With the next two we knew and with this one we will try to find out. I'm a big planner and want everything ready to go when the baby comes. I want to know if I should buy pink or blue. Yellow and green doesn't work for me.