"Stop Stressing" Vent

[chatakat]

I realize I haven't been TTC long, but I hate it when peope oh don't stress it you'll make it worse. Or that the slightest thing I mention = "oh you might be pregnant."

Ex - We just got back from Hawaii a few days ago. Its been a while since I flew for such a distance. Well we learned, apparently I'm prone to motion sickness. So yeah, I'm telling a friend about that, and she's like "Or you're pregnant." So I tell her no I'm not, in fact I've had three AF's this month. She's like "Are you sure, you might have another ectopic or be miscarrying." I assure her it's not likely, and then she goes on well don't stress it you'll make it worse.

She's the one who brought the topic up. I wasn't stressing it, I mean yeah it bothers me a bit, but that's like the 80th time she's told me that. I suppose I just don't care for the whole oh get your hopes up and then oh don't worry about it. I really don't stress about it until someone say something about it to me.

[melnzai]

Yea, that ticks me off. Since I am having fertility issues, I am starting to tell people that infertility is not a state of mind, it is an actual physical illness. Usually, they shut up after they have heard that. I have also had people tell me to just adopt and I will conceive. Hog wash! I need a good come back for that one. I have hit the point where I just try to come back with some type of sarcastic comment. It tends to make people think about their comments and usually they realize that it might be better to keep their mouth closed. :bighug: Sorry you have to deal with that.

[mysecrets]

:bighug:

[Vashti1014]

IKWYM! We don't even tell people we're really trying besides family because of how ignorant and insensitive people can be. :bigarmhug:


By the way... Congrats on the Hawaii wedding and honeymoon, it must have been so relaxing and romantic!

[chatakat]

It was so wonderful, I honestly didn't have a care in the world. I wasn't worrying about work, family or crappy friends.

Unfortunately came back home, and it all started up again. In good news it inspired me to get my butt in gear for a few things so that maybe I can be happier here at home.

[NoddingMama06]

I have discovered that it is really hard for people who aren't in our situation to see how tough this TTC thing is. I've got a friend who is pregnant right now with her second child; her son and the baby on the way were both just a matter of her talking to her DH, the two of them deciding that they wanted to have a baby, DTD, and taking a pg test a month later. For them, it was so simple, and my friend has told me numerous times that she just can't fathom how hard it must be for me to have been trying for 6 months now with no success. People don't know that when they say things like "It'll happen if you just relax" or "It'll happen in God's time" that it doesn't comfort us or help make the waiting any easier.

[magedalinebaby]

You need a :bighug:

[awini8]

:bigarmhug: I second the hug! People just don't get it.

[RRDT]

I've got a friend who is pregnant right now with her second child; her son and the baby on the way were both just a matter of her talking to her DH, the two of them deciding that they wanted to have a baby, DTD, and taking a pg test a month later

That is how it was for me with my first 2!
Now we decided to have a 3rd. This will be my 3rd cycle trying, and OMG! I would never of imagined it could take this long. I am really ok with it, but very surprised! The only thing that bothers me is...I am NOT getting any younger! I don't want to be 50 with a 10yr old, but, That may just be the case!