tiffanyheth
08-05-2007, 11:02 AM
I would like to say that I am so glad there are so many new and wonderful ladies on the board. We seemed to grow every day! Since there are so many newbies and plenty of oldie-but goodies, I thought I would address some refreshers on some issues.
Our purpose here is to share in the joys, pains, ups, and downs of TTC. We are to celebrate in the BFP and to mourn our losses and BFN. If this board were to lose sight of that, we could also lose most of the women here. In saying that, there are a few things that I feel need to be addressed:
First of all, I have noticed over the past couple of weeks threads posted regarding the birth/death of babies, etc. If at any time you are posting anything related to babies, pregnancies, births, deaths, there must be a disclaimer in your subject line. The standard disclaimer would look something like this:
Terrible news story (baby/death ment.) or
So excited! (pregnancy mentioned)
When posting your OWN BFP, the pregnancy ment. is not necessary, but if you're posting about your sister's husband's cousin having a baby, then please give us all a warning. The reason for this is that there are many of us who have been dealing with the journey of TTC for many years (even one for as many as 10 years+). It does not get easier to hear about someone getting pregnant or someone losing their baby or whatever. When our grads post updates (and we hope you will!!!), perhaps link us back to the grad update thread or simply post "Grad update-preg. ment" in subject. This goes for siggys as well, please turn those off when posting on TTC topics.
Secondly, I'd like to ask that we keep most of our threads to the topic at hand. I love get-to-know-yous, quizzes, and polls, however, they can become overwhelming. I have locked a few of such quizzes on the board now, and would like ask everyone if we could just keep those down to one or two per week. Now I am not totally innocent in this, as I've posted a few of my own. However, it has been brought to my attention that all of the quizzes makes it very difficult for ladies to jump on the boards and read updates quickly when there is so much "extra" on the board. We do have a gaming board at preg.org, which is so much fun-btw. http://www.pregnancy.org/phpBB2/viewforum.php?f=201
This does not mean that we can't post off-topic posts from time-to-time, more than once or twice per week for sure, but please put an OT disclaimer in your post.
Along those same lines, I would like to remind everyone about the discourtesy of hijacking threads. What I mean by this is that when someone posts their own trial or joy in a thread, please do not steal their thunder in that thread by posting your own trial or joy or question. Go ahead and start a new post, you'll get better response that way, anyway. It is just so hard for everyone to address everyone else when their issues are all stacked within the same thread. (This does NOT apply to generalized threads such as the roll call or 2WW thread).
Finally, I hope that you all know that I am not trying to be mean. I care for each of you very much and am doing my best to be a good, attentive mod. If you have any complaints/concerns/questions, feel free to PM me. I will get back to you within the same day. I am a one man army, so to speak, and hope you all know that I do try to read all threads and post on as many as possible. Please bear with me!
Tiffany
Our purpose here is to share in the joys, pains, ups, and downs of TTC. We are to celebrate in the BFP and to mourn our losses and BFN. If this board were to lose sight of that, we could also lose most of the women here. In saying that, there are a few things that I feel need to be addressed:
First of all, I have noticed over the past couple of weeks threads posted regarding the birth/death of babies, etc. If at any time you are posting anything related to babies, pregnancies, births, deaths, there must be a disclaimer in your subject line. The standard disclaimer would look something like this:
Terrible news story (baby/death ment.) or
So excited! (pregnancy mentioned)
When posting your OWN BFP, the pregnancy ment. is not necessary, but if you're posting about your sister's husband's cousin having a baby, then please give us all a warning. The reason for this is that there are many of us who have been dealing with the journey of TTC for many years (even one for as many as 10 years+). It does not get easier to hear about someone getting pregnant or someone losing their baby or whatever. When our grads post updates (and we hope you will!!!), perhaps link us back to the grad update thread or simply post "Grad update-preg. ment" in subject. This goes for siggys as well, please turn those off when posting on TTC topics.
Secondly, I'd like to ask that we keep most of our threads to the topic at hand. I love get-to-know-yous, quizzes, and polls, however, they can become overwhelming. I have locked a few of such quizzes on the board now, and would like ask everyone if we could just keep those down to one or two per week. Now I am not totally innocent in this, as I've posted a few of my own. However, it has been brought to my attention that all of the quizzes makes it very difficult for ladies to jump on the boards and read updates quickly when there is so much "extra" on the board. We do have a gaming board at preg.org, which is so much fun-btw. http://www.pregnancy.org/phpBB2/viewforum.php?f=201
This does not mean that we can't post off-topic posts from time-to-time, more than once or twice per week for sure, but please put an OT disclaimer in your post.
Along those same lines, I would like to remind everyone about the discourtesy of hijacking threads. What I mean by this is that when someone posts their own trial or joy in a thread, please do not steal their thunder in that thread by posting your own trial or joy or question. Go ahead and start a new post, you'll get better response that way, anyway. It is just so hard for everyone to address everyone else when their issues are all stacked within the same thread. (This does NOT apply to generalized threads such as the roll call or 2WW thread).
Finally, I hope that you all know that I am not trying to be mean. I care for each of you very much and am doing my best to be a good, attentive mod. If you have any complaints/concerns/questions, feel free to PM me. I will get back to you within the same day. I am a one man army, so to speak, and hope you all know that I do try to read all threads and post on as many as possible. Please bear with me!
Tiffany