Just Got Bad News

[sotolisa]

:cry: well since me and my fiance fought last night we hadn't really talkd today. We he just thought he would let me know that his sgt. Called him up to let him know that his batallion will be deployed to Iraq in 2 weeks. So that really not good for me he will be gone for 8 wks. For training then he comes back by that time I will be having my surgery so that really puts a stop to TTC. I'm really sad now . I guess god mad my decision for me.

[marcellemur]

Sorry about your bad news
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[robinluvdolphin]

OMG, I am so so sorry to hear about your bad news. I understand completely.
My mom decided to share the news with my family that I may have to have a hysterectomy if the balloon thing doesn't work and I get told by my aunt that she doesn't know what the hell the big deal is with women wanting to get pregnant. She said you can always adopt. I told her well maybe we don't want to adopt, maybe we want to have a child the old fashion way.
I swear sometimes I would just like to punch the crap out of people like that. Anyways I am sending lots and lots of hugs to you. If you need to talk I am just a PM away...

[dreamchaser]

Awwww (((((Hugs))))) It will all work out in the end hun! Keep the faith!!

[combatcutie]

Aww, sorry about the bad news sweetie. Right now, God has a different plan for you and your fiance. Once he comes back, I'm sure you will get your little miracle

[Beertje]

(((((((((((((Lisa))))))))))))) Sorry to hear your bad news. :(

[mettadel]

I'm sorry you got that news. I know you are sad right now, But look on the bright side. He's only going to be gone for 8 weeks (opposed to a year or more...my brother has been deployed for 11 months) and he'll be back in time to be with you for your surgery. That is good news.
Take care. (((HUGS))

[EShankin]

{HUGS} I'm so sorry for your bad news. I hope things work out for you.

[two_love]

{HUGS}!!!

[coulditbe]

I am so sorry. :bigarmhug:

[sotolisa]

Well actually he is leaving for 8 wks training and comes back for 12 days then off again for 18 months. I have surgery in 2 months to have both of my ovaries removed. That's my problem that means my body won't be producing anymore eggies which means I can't have any more babies... that's my big worry... I was told last year in oct. After having my still born lil girl that I had too many fibroids in both my ovaries and they would have to come out in a year or less that year is right around the corner my dr has been tryn to help me get pregnant since then but no success yet.

[flemt1]

:bigarmhug:

[regdahl]

Lisa, I am so sorry you are having to deal with all of this right now. I am not sure where you're at with your cycle and treatment and all of that, but I do hope God's plan is to give you a miracle before you have to have surgery. I know there's nothing I can say to make this better - I wish there was. I'm just so sorry! Take care! :pathead:

[sotolisa]

Well I am currently on CD 16 I had a +opk on sat CD14 but that happend last cycle and when I went to get my PL resulsts my dr says I more than likely got a false + opk. So I don't kno but yeaj this will be my last cycle I go to see my dr thursday CD19 for blood work and well we shall go from there . This will definetly be my last month on the clomid. I'm out. No more TTC

[jeepgrl]

I am sooo sorry Lisa. :bigarmhug: :bigarmhug:

I know there aren't any words that could make this better for you. There is a plan for you and I hope you get that BFP this month. You will be in my prayers.

[sotolisa]

Just wanted too say thanks for trying to help me cheer up.. There are so many things going on and not much time left I feel so alone now more then ever. He will be leavn me soon he asked me if I want us to get married before he leaves I don't know what to say I don't mind I love him but I don't like feelin rushed after all of our plans.. I said its up to him I'm leavn it up to him the other thing is that I'm scared if I do get a bfp and something were to happen to him I would be all alone with his child and that would just kill me to see that my child wouldn't have a father....

[sotolisa]

Just wanted too say thanks for trying to help me cheer up.. There are so many things going on and not much time left I feel so alone now more then ever. He will be leavn me soon he asked me if I want us to get married before he leaves I don't know what to say I don't mind I love him but I don't like feelin rushed after all of our plans.. I said its up to him I'm leavn it up to him the other thing is that I'm scared if I do get a bfp and something were to happen to him I would be all alone with his child and that would just kill me to see that my child wouldn't have a father....

[rxplatt]

I know this may sound like a long shot but could your Fiance leave you some "samples" have them frozen and then you could use them via IUI while he is away and still have a glimmer of hope for a little miracle. Just a thought. My sisters husband had cancer and had to have radical Chemo and they stocked up on the supply of swimmers ahead of time so if they ever wanted more kids they would have the option....

I am so sorry that you have to even think about any of this. sometimes life just sucks!!!
:bighug:

[Jackie_78]

That is REALLY REALLY tough. I am very sorry to hear this. (My brother is going to Egypt to train for 8 weeks then off to Iraq for a 4th tour).

My sister contimplated the same thing but she has the same concern as you - if she gets pg then something were to happen to him....etc.

You know what - I would definitely think long and hard about that one. I truly do believe that patience is key and God does have his plans for us. You know what - you could be PG now! I would take a breather on that one sweetie. Just think about it.

Also, STUPID QUESTION: can you guy "freeze" his sperm w/ an RE? I have no idea how that works - can he give his deposit and you can use it while he's gone if your condition improves?

[sotolisa]

You all al right I haven't thought of that. There are still other options I should look into I just feel like my doctor wants me to give up already. She's like we'll he's leaving thers nothing else we can do. But to schedule your surgery is what is was told today... I will be looking into that and well I will ask him how he feels about that cuz who knows he might feel a little insecure about doing all that. Well I go back to the doctor thrusday and will keep you postwed but for sure I was told today by my dr no more clomid...

[jeepgrl]

I totally agree. I think your fiance should leave you a sample. If you doctor doesn't want to help then I would get a 2nd opinion. You deserve every chance possible to have a child of your own.

Good luck and KUP!

[pckimmy29]

this may be a very stupid question,...but can they take as many healthy eggs as they can get before the surgery...then combine them with his "boys" and have the embryos stored for future use???
Just a thought...probably really expensive!

[polishgoddess]

wow i would go to another dr...having a dr that wants to give up on your dream..that isnt really what a dr should do...

[GabesMom]

i'm sorry you're having to deal with this...
my brother (who's 17) just enlisted in the marines and the day after he graduates, he's goint to basic training
it's scary but you have to try not to dwell on the bad. you should try to get a 2nd opinion and see what options are open to the two of you. i'll keep you and your fiance in my prayers that everything works out.

[combatcutie]

I know this may sound like a long shot but could your Fiance leave you some "samples" have them frozen and then you could use them via IUI while he is away and still have a glimmer of hope for a little miracle.


OMG...Roxanne, I went to type this yesterday and my computer froze, then I forgot what I was doing :roll: I would say this may be your best bet Lisa. It's worth a shot to have a little miracle

[sotolisa]

Well actually this dr is my 3rd opinion and I have already discused it with my fiance and he's thinking about it he wants to have a kid so bad but he thinks that it will make him less manly if he knows that he is gone and I get pregnant and then he wasn't a part of the action. Which I can understand..

[combatcutie]

The only thing you can do is reassure him that he is just as manly if he did the deed with you as he would be if he was gone away. Sometimes you need to just go with the flow and do whatever it takes in order to have that precious little miracle. It's not like it isn't going to be his sperm.

[sotolisa]

I think he says he's more so afraid that they if they were to put in the wrong sample. He always thinks so negative . Its crazy.. Well I really want a baby so bad

[jeepgrl]

I agree with Dawn. Reassure him that he is all the man you need and it isn't his fault that it can't be done the old fashion way. You guys will love your little miracle regardless of how it is created. It is still a part of both of you.

If it bothers him that bad, could you possibly have some of your eggs retrieved prior to surgery? You could then wait for him to get back from Iraq if needed.

Good luck sweetie. I just know everything is going to work out for you guys.

[sotolisa]

Well I have a question for u ladies It might sound stupid cuz I should probably know but I am kindve clueless. Since I am going to get both of my ovaries taken out I won't be producing anymore eggies right?? Could I still get pregnant if I still have my uterus or is it just there for nothing? See I told you stupid question... but I don't know the answer to them.

[Babyski]

I know how you are feeling, my DH is in the Air Force and about 6 months after we started to tring he left for 7 months, really puts a stop to things.
But when he came back I did get PG on my own really quick. However I ended up losing that one and haven been able to get PG since :(
Good Luck

[GabesMom]

as long as you have your uterus you can still carry a baby. my cousin had ovarian cancer when she was 14 and they had to remove both but they told her that in the future she could get an egg donor and do ivf.

[sotolisa]

So then the baby really wouldn't be mine if I needed an egg donation. I would just be the carrier. That would still hurt me knowing that it wasn't my eggie. Maybe I will just look into asking my doctor about preserving my eggies

[GabesMom]

you should definately look into it. it was not an option for my cousin because the kemo damaged too much.