what to do?

[jaded812]

This is a everyday thing with Miss J, but today this is what happened...I was taking a pic of the kids ( I wanted a nice photo for my parents). Jaden was good through two shots and then decided no more so I said ok. Then she says " I wanna smile", I said ok again and just as I go to take the pic she leaves again. This is her game of "I want, I don't want". So I said fine no more pics I am done and I go upstairs. Well she is down there having a complete melt down cause I said I was done. I am so tired if this game she plays, and she does it all the time. I usually ignore her but serioulsy the screaming is very annoying. She will pull her hair and throw herself to the floor. She does this all day long with the "I want, don't want" stuff. ANd it can be something like juice. She'll sau I want juice, I'll get it and she'll say no. I will sit it on the table and she'll go over and knock it off. I'll pick it up and put it back and she'll do it again, then I finally will put it in the fridge and she'll scream she wants it. UGHHHHHHHHHHHHH.

Oh and BTW here is the pic I took, LOL
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v636/jaded812/100_1748.jpg

[NorthernMamaof2]

What an adorable picture, Chrissy. I don't believe that she could've ever thrown a tantrum like that! LMAO! Look at her! How sweet!!!

Seriously, though, Anna does some of that same thing. She'll say she's hungry...so we go thru the whole shpeel about what she could eat. Then, she'll say she wants a banana, so I peel it & hand it to her and she freaks out and says, "NO! I don't want that!" We've wasted about 4 bananas in the past 2 weeks that way. I get so darn sick of it. So...finally I just walk away from her and let her have her fit. If she was really that hungry (or if Jaden was that thirsty) they would've taken the drink (or food) no problem. I think they're totally testing their limits right now and seeing how far we will let them go and what they can get by with. They find themselves getting more and more independent (potty trained, etc.) and yet, they still aren't able to be totally independent (get their own snack, juice, etc..) and it's probably frustrating for them. (AND US@!!)

I'm so tired of waiting on Anna hand and foot...and then cleaning up her mess. I think it's a big control issue with her. She gets that from her father. :oops:

Hang in there, Sweetie!!! Let her have her tantrum. She'll learn. :)

[Lstacky]

What an adorable picture, Chrissy. I don't believe that she could've ever thrown a tantrum like that! LMAO! Look at her! How sweet!!! LOL the picture did come out really well.

Wreden does along the same lines with tantrums somedays but my major issue right now is whinning.

When Wreden has these types of tantrums I ignore her. On the days I just can't deal with her or when it really gets out of hand like when she starts throwing things etc I pick her up and put her on her bed and shut the door. I tell her she can't come out until she calms down and can talk to me. I usually give her 10 to 15 minutes and then I go in. Sometime I have to calm her down because she is still screaming/kicking etc. I try to explain to her that thats unexceptable behaivor and ask for an apology and hug.

[jaded812]

Thats the kicker, she'll say she's sorry or she promises to be good. We went through it today again. I told her to get her flip flops, she said "No, sneakers". Ok not biggie shoes are shoes, but when I got her the sneakers she freaked cause she wanted flip flops. So I grabbed a flip flop and a sneaker and that is what she wore to the store, LOL.

[NorthernMamaof2]

Thats the kicker, she'll say she's sorry or she promises to be good. We went through it today again. I told her to get her flip flops, she said "No, sneakers". Ok not biggie shoes are shoes, but when I got her the sneakers she freaked cause she wanted flip flops. So I grabbed a flip flop and a sneaker and that is what she wore to the store, LOL.

This is awesome!! I love that idea! We have a sock/shoe/jacket fight everytime we leave the house (since LAST FALL!) and I'm so darned tired of it!

Lynette, I WISH Anna had a door on her room, then I'd do the SAME thing! :)

[molette]

Sounds like Hanna, I am so frustrated with her. I told dh that I was at my wits end because she makes me nuts...I love her to pieces but somedays I feel like crying. That is so funny about the shoes Chrissy! That is so awesome and only a mom would understand it lol.

[Perkyp99]

I HATE it when Kyrie does this. I wonder what they are thinking? I love the shoe idea! I think I'm going to do that next time Kyrie pulls something like this.

Pam

[Lstacky]

LOL at the shoes. I went shopping yesterday and coming out of the grocery store was a 2 or 3 yr old wearing flip flops. Only they were either mommy's or daddy's flip flops and neither matched! I just started giggling and said she looked cute. Her daddy just rolled his eyes and said you must have a toddler at home then.

[Mia's Mama]

Again, glad to know I am not alone. They can be very trying (to say the least) right now. That is hiarious about the shoes!
I started just giving her 2 choices. "Do you want pink shoes (crocs) or tennis shoes"? I hold them both up and she chooses. Somehow that makes her happy...usually.
I've gotten to the point that I try to pick 2 things out of her closet as fast as possible without letting her look in so I can give her only those 2 choices. I just don't have time to screw around in the morning, LOL.
I've also found that with the eating thing-if she says she wants something I strike a deal with her to eat it. We even shake on it. Somehow that also makes her feel like she has some control when I say-"we made a deal, you promised you'd take a few bites"
Hey whatever works. It's also a work in progress. What works today won't tomorrow.

[Mia's Mama]

OMG, forgot to add-that pic is GREAT!

[SarahSmiles]

I agree...the pic is great! :D

Yeah, we all have our moments, don't we? But it sounds like you are handling it as well as one can! I love the idea of letting her wear one of each shoe! Genius! :) I know it is tough, but we just have to tough it out! I am trying not to let my frustration show because I have noticed that she responds in imitation to me more than I would like her to! ;)