Can't wrap my head around this

[Lstacky]

Ok so I've know since the beggining of summer that something was going on with my dad. Even my DH has noticed and made comments about his "I might not be around tomorrow" attitude. Then there was the book I found at their house back in July about alternative treatments for cancer and him commenting to me about having to go get his meds at the pharmacy. But to actually have my dad call me tonight and hear him say "I have prostate cancer" just blew me away. Really I'm not shocked because of the clues I've come across. I feel more angry. And I'm not sure if the anger is at my parents for keeping me in the dark or if it's anger at the cancer. I feel totally exhausted like this news just sucked any energy out of me.
Anyway Please think of my daddy tomorrow. He goes in to get his markers put in so he can start the radiation treatments. It's stage 1 prostate cancer and he's been on hormone therapy for a few months. They are doing the radiation as a precaution - there is only a 10% chance that it has left the prostate. It sounds like they cught this extremly early and it is totally curable. *fingers crossed*

[molette]

Im so sorry Lynette, I dont even know what to say. I guess maybe your parents were trying to save you from heartache but in the long run it just wasnt the right thing to do. We are here if you ever need to talk, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Please KUP.

[jaded812]

Lynette I totally understand. When my dad got his dignoses it was tough, I was mad at the world for it. Of course he never kept it from me cause I was told first but hearing those words are tough. I will think of him and you. If you need anything I am here, call me. (((((HUGS)))))

ANd trust me my dad has been a pain in the butt. I kinda feel bad for being mad at him somedays but I get tired of hearing "If I'm here", I always remind him of Jaden and the things that can happen and he shuts up, LOL. I know he is going through alot too and it is hard on all of us, but he doesn't have to make it harder, kwim? I think if you have a postive attitude about it it makes it eaiser. I hope that doesn't sound mean. Prayers for you all.

[Perkyp99]

I'm sorry about them not telling you sooner. I deal with the same thing with my dad all the time. He doesn't have cancer but he has a mountain of other health problems that they never seem to tell me until he's been dealing with it for a few months. Don't they realize I would have liked to be there for him at the beginning? Perhaps that's why they wait b/c they don't want to burden me with yet another problem.

I'll be praying. The outcome does sound very promising though. :)

Pam

[Mia's Mama]

Wow, that's scary. Maybe to them you will always be thier baby and they were afraid of telling you until they knew the prognosis was good. I hope he does well and I will be thinking about you guys.

[boogiebearsmommy]

I read this...and thought I replied...I am so sorry. I have been praying since I read it....I agree I think they were just trying to protect you until they could tell you more...

[SarahSmiles]

Lynette ~ I am SOOO sorry to hear this! I know that it is hard to understand why your parents wouldn't tell you, but maybe they were struggling to come to terms with it also. I know that doesn't make it any easier...cancer is such a difficult thing to deal with that some people don't neccessarily handle it the way that we think they should. I will be praying for your dad and for you. I agree...this sounds like a good prognosis! I pray that all goes well and he is cancer-free very soon! Hang in there and if you need to talk, I am here!! :bighug:

[MerriD]

Ahh Lynette, I'm so sorry. He probably thought he was protecting you. Hopefully the treatment continues to go well.

[Lstacky]

Thanks girls. I talked to him before he left for his Dr appointment. He told me that he didn't want to worry me until he had some answers and a game plan. He didn't want to tell me and then not be able to give any details about the cancer itself and what course of treatment they were doing etc.
I haven't hear from him since so I have no idea how it went. I may give My parents a call this afternoon if I don't get too sid tracked with the kids.

[NorthernMamaof2]

Thinking of you, Lynette. And your Dad, too, of course. I hope things turn out well. If they caught it early, I'm sure it's a good sign!! ;)

Keeping you in my prayers.

[molette]

Any word Lynette? How is he doing? How are you holding up? Thinking of you and your family.

[Lstacky]

Thanks for thinking of us!

Not much is happening yet. My Dad went and got the markers put in last week to get ready for the radiation. They won't start the actual radiation treatments untill sometime next month. They want his prostate to shrink a bit more I guess. He's not so good at "hurry up and wait" so Dad's a little anxious and wants to get it going and over with. Can't say I blame him.
Oh and to make things more stresssful my parents are not talking :rolleyes:. My mom stayed home and played golf when he went to get the markers put in (he has to go off the island). Dad gave her a cell phone so that he could call her when he had news. Well she put it in her golf bag and left it there so she never answered his phone calls. He got pissed so he went to dinner with friends and wasn't home when she got home - then she got pissed at him for being pissed and not being home or telling her how it went. You know how it goes. I ended up playing middle man, mom called me to find out how it went. 10 days later they are still not talking.

[jaded812]

Lynette my parents are at each others throats all the time. I know there is alot of stress and they both handle it the wrong way. My dad is very short with my mom and my mom is ready to choke my dad for the way he behaves. He is one person around her and another around me. Since his last hospital stay he has been very mean with me and I just give it back to him and he quiets down. I know he doesn't mean it but I think they just have so much on their minds and are afraid to talk about it. Hang in there, you need to talk I am here.

[NorthernMamaof2]

That stinks that they're not talking. People handle stress differently...and this really hits close to home for all of you so I'm sure it's hard to work it through (mentally, emotionally, spiritually.) I hope things turn around.

Keeping your family in my prayers, Lynette!