My name is Paula and I'm a new mom. My son was born October 16th. I'm agnostic and my husband is an atheist--no ifs and or buts about it. I appreciate the existence of this board, and look forward to discussing secular child rearing.
Hi Paula! Nice to meet you, and congrats on your son's birth. How is life as a new mom treating you?
Haha, a friend and I were just talking about what it was like to be a brand new mom, and all of the crazy stuff we did/thought at the time. I'm probably more neurotic than most but I:
Set my alarm to go off every 2 hours all night long for the first several nights because I knew he needed to eat at least every 2 hours. Turns out, he didn't need my help with that, (and in fact ate more like every hour) but I kept faithfully resetting my alarm anyway.
Wouldn't let my husband (or anyone else) even lightly bounce him on his knee because I was worried it would give him Shaken Baby Syndrome.
Slept with the baby monitor turned all the way up and literally under my ear. His room is literally right across the hall from ours and we always kept both doors open, so there is no way I wouldn't have heard him even without the baby monitor. But I kept that thing cranked to 11.
How about you? Doing anything that seems sane but might not be?
I definitely fed David every two hours for the first week. In fact, that first week was just a blur. I was physically and mentally exhausted. It didn't help that my milk didn't come in until 6 days after I gave birth.
I had and still have a morbid fear of SIDS. When David was about 4 weeks old, I walked past his crib where he was sleeping. I reached over to touch him and see if he was doing okay. When I touched his arm, it was ice cold and I totally freaked out! I was about to yank him up when I realized, "Wait. His arms are cold but the rest of his body is really warm." I had major egg on my face and I almost broke the cardinal rule of waking a baby. Silly me!
Don't feel bad. My kid is 3.5 and I still check on him every night before I go to bed to make sure that he's still breathing. I don't know when that fear goes away.
I am glad you will admit to doing the same thing. It's kind of funny. I spent nine months of pregnancy worrying about him because I couldn't see him or how he was growing. I told myself, "When he is out of the womb, I won't worry because I'll be able to see him." But I still worry...just as much if not more.
Just wait until he's mobile. They acquire stealth-like speed at exactly the moment you'd least expect. I consider myself to be a super laid back, let her eat dirt, learn that its OK to fall down type of Mom but I still do all the crazy stuff such as envisioning her lying unconscious on the floor if there is silence for more than 10 seconds. Though what I really should be worried about is the damage she's likely doing to something fragile in those 10 silent seconds.
Is this board active now? Yay! (also, hi Erin!)
I'm an atheist and always have been, despite having been raised in a catholic family. I figured out the whole Santa Claus thing at a really young age and spent my early childhood waiting for someone to tell me the truth about god (truth as in: there isn't one, but we say there is because _____). I did join a church once in college, but that was because they were across the street from my dorm and in exchange for attending services every other week, I could park there for free (it was totally worth it, since the parking lot for campus residents was a mile away). I always find myself faintly surprised when I meet someone that I like and respect and then find out that they aren't also an atheist. Dh is an outspoken atheist and claims to have been raised in an atheist household, though he and his brother were recently shocked to discover that their father actually identifies as christian.
We have a 14.5 month old daughter and are hoping to try for another soon.
DD1 Rowan, 9/26/10
Expecting #2 in August 2013