When I was pg with my DD an old friend of mine suggested Babywise as the only thing that saved her life. I had it on a list of books to buy...but, then I think somehow I ended up hearing more about it, and figured out it wouldn't be up my alley after all. I don't know any AP inclined parents that have read it and used it.
Interestingly, my SIL (an Australian) didn't know "Babywise" but just knew the "E.A.S.Y." method- Eat time, Awake time, Sleep time, You time. She did do that with my nephew, and he's done alright, but, he doesn't sleep through or anything. She was always super big on not ever letting him nurse to sleep though- but he's also only 10 mos and she's dropped him to like 2 feeds a day, and only solids otherwise. Scheduling was really important to her sanity.
Interestingly, the other book I'm reading right now- that one "How NOT to F*** Them Up" puts mothers in three groups- the Hugger (basically an AP mom), the Organizer (a trainer) and the Fleximom (someone in the middle). He puts the basic difference down to one thing- Huggers believe that a baby changes everything, and are ok with putting the baby first in most cases, while Organizers believe Mother knows best, and that baby must conform as soon as possible to adult life (it's ok for mom's to try to regain their former life asap after baby shows up). Fleximoms are somewhere in the middle. Anyway... it's kind of a big generalization, but it sort of makes sense to me... and when I look at my friends whom I tend to really disagree with on parenting things, when it comes down to it, this is the difference between us!
Mara & Joel, 2009
That's interesting about the categories! Having different parental viewpoints definitely affects my friendship with some of my mom friends. I'm fine with others doing what they want as long as it's not actually harming the child, but I still refrain from parenting conversations with them (I'm actually not a big fan of disagreements lol). But some just can't help but bring it up and yeah, we're going to disagree big time!
I'm a little befuddled exactly HOW people who prevent their newborns from nursing to sleep manage that feat. The classifications of hugger/organizer/fleximoms make a lot of sense, because I'm all about not fighting nature (like the sleep hormones produced by sucking). How neat to find a book that recognizes different styles!
Laszlo Jacob, 11/9/11
Per some recommendations (thanks to Jackie and a few other AP moms), I finally have Nuture Shock, Unconditional Parenting and Tears and Tantrums. I read the first chapter in U.P. last night and it made me want to read more, so that is good. I also skipped to the chapter in N.S. about teenagers and I was riveted!!! My sister has a 16 year old and I even sent her a pic of part of the text. I look forward to reading the rest of the book. I'll have to come back when I've actually finished one of these. I, like Erin, can take a while to finish a book. Hopefully I will be more on top of it with these since I feel like I need some of this info .... well, yesterday.
I've also read the Happiest Toddler on the Block. Not sure how I feel about the book overall, but did find some useful tips in it.
Ethan - June 21, 2009
Olivia - December 5, 2010
5w3d - October/November 2012