So how do you handle sharing and the tantrums that go along with it? I'm currently dealing with this about 15 times a day and it's rough! So far I'm managing to keep my cool and stay calm approx. 14 of the 15 times! I tell either child that we need to share and ask if they want to "trade" toys first. If they do, then it's great. If not, then I explain that they have to wait their turn and in a couple minutes they can have the toy. Then I deal with the crying & screaming that they want the toy now. I give hugs, kisses, rub backs etc. and get them semi-calmed down. Then in a couple minutes/or when the child drops the toy, I give it to the other one and then sometimes the one who had the toy starts a tantrum. *sigh*
Any advice or words I can add to what I already say? Or am I going about this the wrong way?
They just can't understand the concept of sharing right now. It's a very "me" world. DH and I make a big deal out of us taking turns or sharing things just to model for DS. Wish I had a better idea, but right now it's only an issue when we're out with other kids and I can usually distract DS with something else.
I am not there yet so please take this with a bucket of salt ... but I was reading some (in my opinion) good and balanced approaches to parenting here: http://www.handinhandparenting.org/articles
There's a section on sharing.
We just have the one DD so sharing isn't really on our radar at home quite yet. When we're out, I honestly just let stealing happen. If my DD has a toy and some kid comes and takes it I distract her with something else after I explain what's happened. It annoys me to no end when other parents are chasing their toddlers around yelling at them to share. She's not capable of sharing right now and I feel like the only way she's going to learn how to share is to learn what it feels like when you're the "victim". When we're at home, she likes to offer me food or sometimes offers to do other little things for me. I think its a start!