40 Week Appointment (update + bonus rant)

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40 Week Appointment (update + bonus rant)

Just had my 40 week appointment with my midwife. She did an internal progress check and I am 1 almost 2cm dilated and 30% effaced with a very soft cervix. Soooo YAY!! I will take that!! She said I would probably see some pink show because she had been poking around and sure enough that is the case (more than I expected really). I'm also having some crampy contractions so part of me is hoping that her poking around was just what I needed to get this ball rolling!! Must not get hopes up too high yet though.

We talked about the process of transferring me to a hospital/doctor care in the event I hit 42 weeks and next week I go for an ultrasound if I am still pregnant to check my fluid levels around the baby. I've also started drinking raspberry leaf tea per suggestion and tonight I start using Evening Primrose Oil. But it sounds like my body is on track which was nice to hear. My weight has leveled off and blood pressure remains awesome. Baby's HR clocked in at a steady 150.

Wish me contractions ladies!!

UPDATE/Rant:

Well after having cramps, contractions and bloody show all day yesterday (nothing I could say was consistent however), I wake up this morning and have come FULL FREAKING STOP AGAIN!!!! OMFG!!! I AM GOING TO BE PREGNANT FOREVER!!!!!!! I was so sure the clock had started! I figured over the next night/day things would get more regular and baby would be on her way. Now I am just so frustrated. I feel like I am letting everyone down everytime things don't pan out. DH keeps telling me I can't control it and shouldn't feel bad, but I do. I know I'm putting too much pressure on myself but after all these starts and stops it is hard not to. I was doing good not watching the clock or calendar...now all I can see is that damn calendar. My FIL is coming for a visit Sunday and I was so sure baby would be here. Now I just think of it as or more person I'm going to disappoint when he get here and I'm still pregnant! Uhg. Okay, enough self beating up. I'm just so damn frustrated. I know im only 4 days past due and that's not very long so I just need to dig deep and find some patience.

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Sending you lots of labor and contraction vibes! Great to hear everything is doing well for you. Hopefully you won't have to make it to that 42 week mark and get transferred. Good luck!

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I hope your baby decides to come soon!! Wishing you the best of luck!

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Good luck! Hopefully that poking around was what you need. DTD worked for us so don't be afraid to deploy that method also.
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Good luck! Hopefully, we will be hearing something from you sooner than later!

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Good luck! Hope something starts soon for you.

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oohhh I hope something happens soon for you

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Good luck girl! I really hope you don't have to wait until 42 weeks!!

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Come on baby:0) YAY!

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oh man, that is frustrating. Have you tried DTD? Or maybe even a DIY job would do it! hahaha.
I hope things start up for you soon Sad
You won't be pregnant forever. It may feel like it, but you won't! I promise Smile

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I have DTD every day/night plus some self service. I'm drinking raspberry leaf tea and taking Primrose oil two ways! I'm walking and swimming and yoga ball rolling but this baby just wants to sit tight! I know there is always castor oil but I really really don't want to go that route. Just trying to be patient for now.

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it's tough as you get further on. She's just comfortable and taking her time. HOpefully she's just getting into an awesome birth position so that when she does decide to show you have an amazing/fast labour/delivery!

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Sounds like you already know what you need to do, SETTLE DOWN and don't worry about anyone but you and baby!!!! I know it gets hard at the end, especially since we (society) look at that EDD as a set time limit instead of a round about date, but you are doing great momma!!! Just try to do special things for yourself, things you're not going to have time to do once LO arrives. As a mother of 3 and a BTDT momma I have the advantage of knowing that once LO gets here it's going to be some amount of exhaustion and just overall living on someone else's schedule which makes me perfectly okay with LO hanging out inside longer but as a FTM you don't get this wonderful hindsight but trust me when I say take advantage of this precious little time you have left. Have DH take you out for a special night, go get a pedi, get your hair done, go visit a friend, keep yourself busy and stop watching the clock. Your baby knows exactly when to make the transition and you have to keep that in mind, it's not up to you at this point, it's completely up to her, you're just the vessel. And do NOT let anyone make you feel like you need to have this baby. If they say anything, gently remind them that most FTM's will go to 41+3 weeks without any interference and that it's safer for your little girl to let her have the time she needs. I know the stop and start is hard, but every contraction you have now is one less you have to have later, you're body is heading in that direction, it's never done this before so it needs a little warm up, maybe a practice session or 5 Smile Let your body practice! If you were going to run a mile you'd feel and do so much better if you had some practice first so consider yourself lucky that your body is warming up first instead of ramping up too quickly!!! You're doing amazing momma, keep it up!!!

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I agree with what Christa said. Take some time for yourself and enjoy your favorite things while you can. Get a haircut or a mani/pedi or even a massage!

Don't let anyone hassle you about still being pregnant and if they do hassle them right back!

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I'm hoping since we haven't heard from you Christine this means the baby is here! Let us know something!! Biggrin

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I was wondering about an update, as well!