Book or baby reading methods you plan to follow?

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Book or baby reading methods you plan to follow?

With DS I was quite inspired by the methods described in the Baby Whisperer (establish routines, treat them with respect as the little individual person they are, helpin foster independence, learn to listen and decipher their cries). That said, my attempts at using her methods were a complete failure around sleep and our kid did not sleep through the night until 21 months!!!!!
I just finished reading Happiest Baby on the Block and I like his style. Talks about a missing 4th trimester where baby needs lots of physical contact to transition from womb to outside world and importance of 5s's for calming babies (swaddle being foundation).
Anybody else got a road map they plan to use as a guide for this journey?
I definitely learned the first time around that there is no substitute for listening to your gut. Often my mom would tell me to let DS cry it out at night but it would turn out that he was getting sick so I was always happy when followed my instincts.
During ds'S non-sleeping 21 months i read a lot of books and also liked dr sears discussions around co-sleeping etc. but h is not willing to co-sleep (but being a shift worker her only does 1-2 of 8 nights a week so he doesn't exactly bear the brunt of the sleeping challenges). I plan to use a bassinet like last time for the first 4 months or do but expect i will have some challenges around not co-sleeping this time after seeing how easy it was last time (during periods of illnesses etc). Unfortunately last time because we didn't co -sleep much it was not all that effective when we did other than in times of illness.
I am also definitely a baby carrier mom.

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I haven't read any books really and don't have any specific plans. With DS1 I was lucky, he learned to self-soothe easily and he was pretty mellow.

He's just sort of taken to having a whiny phase as of late. I think it's because he has anxiety about all the changes coming up.

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Things to try-
"I can't hear a whiny voice!"
"Use your happy voice"

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I used variations of book methods. My sister, Jordan, loaned me a sleep book that worked real well for us. I'll have to ask her what it was... because I cant remember... but even then, I did my own take on that method to get my son to start sleeping longer stretches on his own.
I think book methods are good, but not one method is going to work for everyone. And no one knows your baby better than you! No matter what you do, though, you are not a failure! Babies have minds of their own. You can lead a baby to bed, but you can't make them sleep! As much as you try, they'll do things on their schedule. My son still sometimes wakes once or twice a night and he'll be 21mo on friday. Who knows. I don't feel like a failure, I feel like he isn't ready and that has nothing to do with ME and everything to do with his needs.

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The only method I follow is intuition and listening to my baby.

My twins are a whole abnormal ballgame, so I'll leave them out of the equation, but I managed pretty well on my own with my youngest DD. I co-slept with her in our bed for about 8 months, but she really wasn't sleeping well, so I knew something wasn't working for her. So I transitioned her to her own crib and viola! I had an 8 month old who slept through the night 90% of the time. It was quite a revelation... lol

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"Sweet Pea Twins" wrote:

The only method I follow is intuition and listening to my baby.

My twins are a whole abnormal ballgame, so I'll leave them out of the equation, but I managed pretty well on my own with my youngest DD. I co-slept with her in our bed for about 8 months, but she really wasn't sleeping well, so I knew something wasn't working for her. So I transitioned her to her own crib and viola! I had an 8 month old who slept through the night 90% of the time. It was quite a revelation... lol

This is my plan! I wasn't planning on reading any books; but, have been told by a few people that Happiest Baby on the Block is a great book!

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Like with the last baby, I'll be using whatever works Smile I don't really have a plan nor do I follow a particular "style". Each of my current 3 kids have required different things so I guess with this new one I'll be following his/her cues.