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PianomanTran02's picture
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Food and Sex

The title says what's on my mind, or not as the case may be. I swear for the last 3 days I've survived off eating nothing. NOw DH is getting overprotective and worrying about it. I tend to have a nice bowl of cereal in the AM but after that it goes way down. Most of the time I have a cheese stick, hard boiled egg and banana (or some other piece of fruit) about every 3 hours and that's it. Yesterday I stomached down a bagel for lunch too at DH's insistence. And for dinner a few bites of rice and broccoli. But the though of any food is just UGH.

And Sex, so not what I want. DH does, but he tries not to push it. I let it go and tell him I want to because I know it can help encourage labor, and I really want that right now! But I feel like he knows I laying there only half-@$$ed into it. Luckily the lights are off and I don't think he can see me rolling my eyes. I feel bad for it. Normally I'm all for a good romp, but the last week or so the thought of being touch for something other than a pedi or backrub is just not what I want.

Anyone else having similar issues?

Military Mom's picture
Joined: 09/09/04
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I think the point in your pregnancy its normal for your appetite to slow down... for one theres not enough room in there to tolerate too much at one time and just in general, we all get to the point of I am just ready already! As for sex LOL... my DH comes homes from Afghanistan in a matter of days and I feel bad bc he has been gone for a year (minus coming home for 2 weeks for Christmas) and I feel obligated LOL in so many words... and I am the same as you - ESPECIALLY after he has been gone for a year but all I can think about is how I huff and puff coming up the stairs and feel like I am having panic attacks by the time I get in the car to head to work after rushing around to get out the door. This pregnancy (maybe bc I am older or bc its twins or bc its 104 outside or bc I am still working full time pretty much) is just different than my previous pregnancies so I feel your pain... in fact, I was out and about with the kids yesterday and came home SUPER swollen and woke up still swollen and feeling like I had little use of my hands bc they are so fat haha Anyway, its all normal and youare so close its just that time Smile

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Your whole post made me laugh because I really can relate. Hehehe!

As Jill said, its completely normal. And being in this heat isn't helping...its hard to eat much in heat normally anyway, but when pregnant, its even worse. I mainly want colder things like homemade smoothies, fruit, and such.

As for sex, I feel bad for DH cause I have been fighting a yeast infection off and on since I got out of the hospital in June for a kidney infection. I got the yeast infection from the antibiotics they gave me, dealt with that for two weeks (had no sex during cause of it) then we had 1 week with no problems, and then it came back full force. So we had another week of no sex cause of the infection. For about 9 days now its been gone and so I have been trying to make up for the lack of sex from the infection by initiating it more often, but it has been tough. Its not that I don't want it much, its mainly because I am in pain from the pressure/weight of the baby down in my pelvic area and I get aches and pains throughout my body from being so far along in my pregnancy.

Each day...Its hard to stand for too long, hard to sit in the same position for too long, hard to sleep at night because I am uncomfortable and tossing/turning. Plus I am taking care of 3 kids in addition to keeping the house clean and preparing meals, ad trying to get ready/organize for this baby....so I am tired all the time. But I know that soon when baby is here DH won't get any sex for a good 6 weeks, so I am trying to comply now. Plus I know that his sperm helps ripen the cervix...and sex and all that comes with it can help get your body ready for labour, so I like that extra bonus to it also.

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Boy can I relate!!!! I actually want to have sex except for the fact that I feel so unattractive!!!! I can't stop thinking about getting back to my normal "good body" after the baby. It may sound very vain but I feel so fat and gross. My butt is huge now too!!! Sad

That certainly does not help the sex appeal....

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I think, suddenly, that I am weird... LOL

I am all about eating atm... I get full fast, but find myself wanting to eat much more often, now. I have gotten back to the first tri pickiness, though, and have a hard time finding things I WANT to eat.

As for sex, it's kind of weird. I went through a time during the second tri when I didn't want it at all. But now, though I'm feeling lots of pain and pressure, I find I am wanting it more than DH. lol It's not that he doesn't want it, it's just so much work now days that I think he questions whether it's worth it most of the time... ROFL! I think it's me that is realizing that once the baby is born it will be a while before we have sex again, so I'm trying to get it while I can. Since this is DH's first, I'm not sure he realizes just how long it will be after, or how not often it will probably be for the first year or so...

So yeah... I guess I'm odd here...

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"Sweet Pea Twins" wrote:

I think, suddenly, that I am weird... LOL

I am all about eating atm... I get full fast, but find myself wanting to eat much more often, now. I have gotten back to the first tri pickiness, though, and have a hard time finding things I WANT to eat.

As for sex, it's kind of weird. I went through a time during the second tri when I didn't want it at all. But now, though I'm feeling lots of pain and pressure, I find I am wanting it more than DH. lol It's not that he doesn't want it, it's just so much work now days that I think he questions whether it's worth it most of the time... ROFL! I think it's me that is realizing that once the baby is born it will be a while before we have sex again, so I'm trying to get it while I can. Since this is DH's first, I'm not sure he realizes just how long it will be after, or how not often it will probably be for the first year or so...

So yeah... I guess I'm odd here...

Ditto!

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With DS last time around my doctor was starting to threaten inducing so I went into a very focused mode of "whatever is going to make this happen without an induction" which meant telling poor DH he had a job to do, it had to be good quality and frequent. He was definitely losing his sense of humour by the end / when my labour started.
This time I am 3 weeks from my due date and in my last week of work so I don't really want to do anything that has any potential of speeding things along - so if it doesn't come up I am a-ok with that. Next week we can build up the reserves in anticipation for the drought.
But yes - it is akward, not very sexy, and just plain a lot of work these days. Looking forward to my previous slightly-chubby body instead of this ackward one.