hahahaha some people are a-holes

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hahahaha some people are a-holes

My first day back to work was yesterday. I had a year mat leave with my son and I came back all knocked up LOL. Anyway, one of the ladies just comes up to me and say, hmmmm you look different, your face is fuller, you've gained weight. Thanks a-hole, I gathered that (even though I'm actually still down 7lbs from when I got pregnant LOL) and only 4 lbs away from what I was before I had DS2. Wow, some people seriously need a STFU button!

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NICE. I'd kick him in the shins!! LOL

So, I'm not from Canada, so explain something to me: I know you get a year of maternity leave - I assume it's unpaid, correct? Then, is there a waiting period before you get another year mat leave? Or will you be able to take it again, even though you will only be back to work for 6 months? I'm just curious. Here in the US, our unpaid FMLA leave allows a maximum of so many months, then you have to work the equivalent of a year again before you can requalify...

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we get a year and the government pays us 55% of our wage up to a certain amount. I don't think I've quite hit the max yet though. We have to have a minimum of 600 hours before we qualify again. It's a pretty sweet deal and I lucked out with my timing, I should have about 800 hours (I hope) by the end.

ETA: that was a WOMAN who said that to me. Makes it soo much worse. if it were a man, I'd just chalk it up to the dumb a$$ things men say hahahaha.

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Wow! People suck! I would have said "your face looks fuller too! Wow, and you don't even have kids... Huh"

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I like what Alison said Smile

Some people are so ridiculously dumb it's almost amusing!

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Seriously, a woman?? I guess, honestly, it doesn't surprise me. What a biatch.

And that's AWESOME about your maternity leave, Allie! I wish that the US was as generous with maternity leave!

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I think everyone should get a year. Honestly, my brain is not functional at 6 weeks post partum. My employers are better off without me for a year LOL.

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I just saw something on the news about research being done to find out when a woman really truly is ready to go back to work, physically, emotionally and mentally, the result, a year! We get 6 freaking weeks!!! :roll:

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I'm very lucky in that my employer is going to allow me to take 12 weeks if I want. Smile I just may do that this time around. My STD will cover 60% of my pay, and if I have any vacation/sick time, I can take that in addition. So if I can make it work, I'm going to take all three months!

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"Sweet Pea Twins" wrote:

I'm very lucky in that my employer is going to allow me to take 12 weeks if I want. Smile I just may do that this time around. My STD will cover 60% of my pay, and if I have any vacation/sick time, I can take that in addition. So if I can make it work, I'm going to take all three months!

Oh heck ya, that would be really nice!

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What a witch. I agree with above poster about telling her that her face looks fuller lol.

I was excited because I get 4 weeks paid leave before I have to burn my vacation or STD time lol. Blum 3 A year would be awesome.

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In the state of VA (unless otherwise) your employer cannot fire you up to 12 weeks of maternity leave. Of course, you don't get paid for that whole 12 weeks unless you are on STD. I think I would go crazy not working for a whole year!!!!

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"Allie01979" wrote:

we get a year and the government pays us 55% of our wage up to a certain amount. I don't think I've quite hit the max yet though. We have to have a minimum of 600 hours before we qualify again. It's a pretty sweet deal and I lucked out with my timing, I should have about 800 hours (I hope) by the end.

I think it's actually 400 hours you have to work before youqualify for mat leave again, but may depend on what province you live in. government will pay 55% of wages, up to a total of $1800 (about) per month. Some employers will top up your salary to full wages, with the government paying the max. No such luck for me, but DH's work does for parental leave, so that's why he takes 6 months and I take 6mo.

It's much better than in the US, but I've heard that in France it's 3 years! Don't quote me on that, I didn't do the research!

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"sarahsunshine" wrote:

I've heard that in France it's 3 years! Don't quote me on that, I didn't do the research!

3 years?!?! Oh man!

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Norway seems pretty sweet:

56 weeks (13 months) (80%) or 46 weeks (10.5 months) (100%) - mother must take at least 3 weeks immediately before birth and 6 weeks immediately after birth, father must take at least 12 weeks (the so-called "daddy quota") - the rest can be shared between mother and father.

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Lithuania seems like the way to go...

1 year 100% or 2 years: 52 weeks 70% and 52 weeks 40% (either mother or father can take it or take the leave in shifts

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100% would be nice!

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That's it, I'm moving to Lithuania.