When to start mat leave?

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When to start mat leave?

I know we're still early, but I was thinking about this the other day...

I can't decide when I want to start my maternity leave. They say 2nd baby's come sooner than first and my son was born at 40+3, so it makes me nervous to plan to work until my due date especially if this baby will come sooner than my due date. I know I'll more than likely get "signs" that baby is coming and then I'll just stop working when that happens.
My main concern is that I work a 45min-1hr (depending on the train schedule) commute from my house. I don't want to birth in the "wellness room" at my office LOL!!!
I'm thinking 38w. That seems safe, but I just don't know...

When do you think you'll start your mat leave? How close are you to work? Do you commute or drive, and is that making a difference in your decision?

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Truthfully, I have nooo idea! I really want to work up until my due date to have more time off after the baby is born; but, I know I'll probably have to play it by ear and it could change depending on how I feel! On the other hand, a couple of weeks off before the baby arrives sounds nice and relaxing!

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I guess I was planning of working until delivery (I actually worked in the labor room last time on my computer.. ha ha!). I am planning a c-section so if I don't go into labor earlier, then I will work until the c-section date.

I don't blame you for thinking about this. It's hard when you work that far away from home. I would think that 38 weeks is a safe time if you can afford to be out.

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with both, I took off the last week to week and a half before my EDD. Aidan came at 39 +3 so and I worked up to 39 weeks. With William I was to be induced at 37 weeks so I took off at 36 weeks. My labour was super fast with William, but I think it was due to the induction. I'm sure if I felt a twinge of a contraction I'd just go home and hope that I wouldn't birth on the GO train LOL. I would say a week or 2 prior to your due date. I like to work as late as I can as I hate waiting around with nothing to do, although with 2 kids, I can't say I'd have nothing to do lol.

Since you're due a week before me, if you get any signs while at work, call me, I'll take the train home with you if you want Smile at least you'll have someone there that you know.

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"Allie01979" wrote:

Since you're due a week before me, if you get any signs while at work, call me, I'll take the train home with you if you want Smile at least you'll have someone there that you know.

Thanks Allie! It'd be nice to have someone with me to rub my back and let everyone on the train know that I'm in labour and not just a crazy lady who moans and "dances" on GO trains! LOL!!!
I'll do the same for you, if you go before me! Biggrin

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"azin_may" wrote:

Thanks Allie! It'd be nice to have someone with me to rub my back and let everyone on the train know that I'm in labour and not just a crazy lady who moans and "dances" on GO trains! LOL!!!
I'll do the same for you, if you go before me! Biggrin

Deal!

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I work about 30 mins from home, but since I work downtown, traffic usually makes the drive more like 50-60 minutes. However, I take the bus - mass transit is so much more relaxing than driving in all that traffic!

The thing is that for me, distance from home is not really what matters - it's distance from the hospital. I'm delivering at a hospital that is clear across town from home, and just as far from work as home is for me.

Anyway, I plan to work right up until delivery. I did with all of my girls, too. However, all of my girls were scheduled inductions, so that was nice to know - but since they were all at 39 weeks, truthfully, I could have gone at any time before that. If I take time off before the due date, that just cuts into the time I get to take off to spend with LO after the birth... 12 weeks is way less than the year that you Canadian ladies get!

Anyway, I figure that if I go into labor, one of my coworkers will drive me to the hospital! Wink

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This topic always starts a serious argument in my office. The Boss claims that if you want to leave early, that you take mat leave early (and then you get paid mat leave for a year starting when you leave, not when baby is born). The thing is, that technically, if you are not at work due to medical reasons (and exhaustion and stress ARE medical reasons), then you can take Medical leave off until baby is born (and we get 3 months of that allotted annually that is rarely used). Of course, my boss doesn’t like that, and I’ve taken advantage of knowing what the rules are to get the maximum benefit. I also take advantage of the fact that my doctor thinks that it is medically necessary to have a 3 week break before baby is born (prepare mentally). So, I get in a heated argument usually when I tell my boss that I’m going to take medical leave 3 weeks before my due date. He says “You can’t plan a medical reason, so you have to take mat leave”. And so the argument ensues…

But to get back to when I’ll start mat leave (and the reason I brought that up), is that DS2 was born 3 weeks to the day before his due date, negating the need for any argument that I’d had with my boss prior! So this time, I WILL be taking 3 weeks off prior to my due date (off work August 3). This is what my midwife recommends to everyone. I told my supervisor (not boss) that my due date was Aug 25, but that I was planning to have everything done for Aug 3, because that’s the date that I have had to be off work for the last 2 pregnancies for various reasons. August 3 is a good date too because technically my salary increases on Aug 1… so of I take off before that I don’t get the increase… but that’s a minor detail!

Now, Azin, in terms of “2nd babies come early”… That is an average and I hope it applies to you for planning’s sake! For me, DS1(#1) was born 2w2d early, then DD (#2) was born ON her due date, and DS2 (#3) was born 3 weeks early. All I can say is that DD was by far the easiest baby for the first 2 months – and I think it’s because she got an extra coule-2 weeks gestation. She had an extra 1/2-1lb on either of the boys, and just took to nursing like a champ. Both DSs had issues with nursing, and DS2 was REALLY TOUGH for the first month and had FTT after the 1st month. Fortunately he picked up at that point and hasn’t looked back. I’m hoping this baby will stay in until it’s due, in the hopes that the first couple months will be easier!

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"sarahsunshine" wrote:

This topic always starts a serious argument in my office. The Boss claims that if you want to leave early, that you take mat leave early (and then you get paid mat leave for a year starting when you leave, not when baby is born). The thing is, that technically, if you are not at work due to medical reasons (and exhaustion and stress ARE medical reasons), then you can take Medical leave off until baby is born (and we get 3 months of that allotted annually that is rarely used). Of course, my boss doesn’t like that, and I’ve taken advantage of knowing what the rules are to get the maximum benefit. I also take advantage of the fact that my doctor thinks that it is medically necessary to have a 3 week break before baby is born (prepare mentally). So, I get in a heated argument usually when I tell my boss that I’m going to take medical leave 3 weeks before my due date. He says “You can’t plan a medical reason, so you have to take mat leave”. And so the argument ensues…

But to get back to when I’ll start mat leave (and the reason I brought that up), is that DS2 was born 3 weeks to the day before his due date, negating the need for any argument that I’d had with my boss prior! So this time, I WILL be taking 3 weeks off prior to my due date (off work August 3). This is what my midwife recommends to everyone. I told my supervisor (not boss) that my due date was Aug 25, but that I was planning to have everything done for Aug 3, because that’s the date that I have had to be off work for the last 2 pregnancies for various reasons. August 3 is a good date too because technically my salary increases on Aug 1… so of I take off before that I don’t get the increase… but that’s a minor detail!

Now, Azin, in terms of “2nd babies come early”… That is an average and I hope it applies to you for planning’s sake! For me, DS1(#1) was born 2w2d early, then DD (#2) was born ON her due date, and DS2 (#3) was born 3 weeks early. All I can say is that DD was by far the easiest baby for the first 2 months – and I think it’s because she got an extra coule-2 weeks gestation. She had an extra 1/2-1lb on either of the boys, and just took to nursing like a champ. Both DSs had issues with nursing, and DS2 was REALLY TOUGH for the first month and had FTT after the 1st month. Fortunately he picked up at that point and hasn’t looked back. I’m hoping this baby will stay in until it’s due, in the hopes that the first couple months will be easier!

see for me it was the opposite. DS1 was born at 39 +3 (but by O date I say right on time) and he was a bear for the first 3 months. DS2 was induced 3 weeks early (Cholestasis) and was by far the easiest most chill baby I've ever known, he slept for 2 months straight LOL.

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Now, Azin, in terms of ?2nd babies come early?? That is an average and I hope it applies to you for planning?s sake! For me, DS1(#1) was born 2w2d early, then DD (#2) was born ON her due date, and DS2 (#3) was born 3 weeks early. All I can say is that DD was by far the easiest baby for the first 2 months ? and I think it?s because she got an extra coule-2 weeks gestation. She had an extra 1/2-1lb on either of the boys, and just took to nursing like a champ. Both DSs had issues with nursing, and DS2 was REALLY TOUGH for the first month and had FTT after the 1st month. Fortunately he picked up at that point and hasn?t looked back. I?m hoping this baby will stay in until it?s due, in the hopes that the first couple months will be easier!

I'm not necessarily hoping it applies to me. I love being pregnant and would gladly stay pregnant for 42+ weeks. but stats say I'll go early and if that is the case then I don't want to be stuck downtown, an hour away from home, when it happens. So I'm thinking I'll stop work at 38w. If I have the baby then: perfect. If not: I get time at home with DS before baby arrives Biggrin

When the baby is born means nothing to me as far as behaviour goes - the baby is gonna be who s/he is whether s/he's born at 38w or 42w.

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Every year I take a week off for my birthday which is july 26th, so that's when I'm starting my maternity leave! I told my scheduler that I'll only take 2 full months off under the condition that I get my regular x-mas vacation in December, he has to okay it with my boss but says it shouldn't be a problem. Although I must say that 6 straight hours of standing is really taking a toll on my back and hips already so who knows what will happen in the end! I live about 10 minutes away from work and about 20 minutes away from the hospital so I'm not worried about that.

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I actually just struggled with this. I really wanted to make it to 38 weeks as I am taking the 40 week plan instead if the 50 (not sure if this is only in Quebec). But yesterday I decided I was leaving at the end on this week. It's my second baby too and I feel the changes in my body and the preparations are starting. My mental state on the other hand is not there. I am/was so focused on finishing the month that I'm not allowing myself to really get in a mind set where this baby is coming, in what could be 2 weeks!

Our daycare is subsidized big time ($7/day) and this little guy will be starting in september to hold his place. that's why I'll be taking 40 weeks as he will be in daycare starting full time in January.

I'm very sad to be leaving work but I also have a feeling I won't be waiting too long to meet him and I will still get the full time off with him. It's a hard decision. Don't get me wrong, a year off is amazing. But when to start it to get the most time with your baby is stressful! I don't want to lose more time with him than the 10 weeks I am.
Good luck with your decision!

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I have a really bad habit (it's my nature really) of not thinking about things like getting stranded on a bus or train during labor. I always just figure it has a way of working itself out. I drove over an hour away just a week before I had DD2 (who was 4 weeks early) to go shopping by myself. It never occurred to me to worry about it LOL. Now, this is just my own boneheadedness (as my DH refers to it) and I definitely don't expect everyone else to be as nonchalant as I am. I made it a point years ago in my life to stop worrying about things I couldn't control and thus far I've managed to make it to the completely opposite end of the spectrum Lol

to answer the overall question though....I am a SAHM and while I don't have to ask for time off I do tell my DH that the last month or two of my pregnancy is limited activity, him and DD1 handle the housework in the evenings and my only job during the day is to keep the other kids alive, fed and butts as clean as I can manage Smile Of course I'm very lucky in that my DH is actually a better housekeeper than I am and he is an incredibly understanding man (sleeping with the boss has its perks!).

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"momW" wrote:

my only job during the day is to keep the other kids alive, fed and butts as clean as I can manage Smile Of course I'm very lucky in that my DH is actually a better housekeeper than I am and he is an incredibly understanding man (sleeping with the boss has its perks!).

O. M. G. I just seriously doubled over with laughter... ROFL You are a riot!