Conundrum. :( help please :(
MIL has asked about dates so she can throw me a baby shower.
I would love a baby shower but..... There are people in my area who I don't class as friends.
They are the other halves of my other halves friends.
Since ttc both m and I have been excluded from things with these people because we didn't have a child.
Even being babysitter for one couple and having a great connection to the kids didn't get us an invite to a child's birthday party where all the group was hanging out.
There is one of the girls who was a friend but then I overheard her saying some rather nasty things about me and my then infertility so I def don't want her there.
2 girls I would ask. One I see here and there socially and the other sporadically pops a baby book in.
The others have done nothing wrong, I just don't class them as friends.
I have more contact with you guys!! We say hi when we bump into each other.
They all socialise together regularly. Which I have never been included in.
My problem is... If I only invited the 2 and didn't the others.. Would that cause more problems for m with the husbands.
Surely as they don't invite me snywhere they wouldn't have a problem with me not inviting them?
Or should I suck it up... Invite them and put my thick skin on when they leave knowing I will be picked apart!
The group have a pack mentality where they attack the one who's not there.
Of should I just avoid having a baby shower?