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Lily2006's picture
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Moving Over

Well, I am just going to move over here. I haven't ovulated yet (really late for me!) and I don't even know if I am going to. My temps are crazy all over the place and I have had no positive OPK'S. I am quickly reaching the end of my rope. Read an article today about Infertility. It was supposed to make you feel more positive about becoming pregnant because it said that 90% of women will become pregnant before 2 years of actively ttc. Guess that puts me in the 10% then Sad I am an emotional mess today because I went to my sister in laws baby shower and she conceived by having sex once and while on birth control. It sucks that it happens so easily for women that aren't ready/don't want to be pregnant and for those of us that want it so bad it is like pulling teeth.

DH and I have been stocking up on all things baby for the past 2 years to be "ready for baby when we get pregnant." Well, I gave EVERYTHING to my sister in law. I am happy to say I have no more baby things in my house because it is just too horribly painful to look at something that will most likely never be.

Oh well, as much as I wish I could say, "I give up, I don't want to TTC anymore!" I just can't do it. It has been my hope and dream and always will be that I can become a mom. So, here I am waiting for AF (who knows when she will come?) to try, try again. I hope and pray that it will not only happen for me, but happen for every woman that wishes to become a mother, as infertility is such a painful thing to endure.

Anyways, sorry this is so long winded, it's just been kind of a rough day for me. As always, thanks for letting me vent ladies!

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I am sorry that you are having a rough day Sad It took 7 years for us to get DS#1 and the pain of infertility will always be with me. I used to get really angry at women like your sister and teenage moms....I couldn't understand why they were being blessed with a baby and I who was trying so hard could not get one.....

I hope now that you have given everything away it will happen for you...Murphy's Law right??

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Oh Michelle I'm so sorry for you!!

I know just how you feel. It's been more than 3 years trying for us. And two months ago, my ex had a baby with some chick he hooked up with once at a new years party. Unplanned and unwanted. And still I'm waiting!!

Don't be afraid to come vent with us on the 24+ months ttc board, I know I've seen you there once, but we are all in the same boat and totally feel your pain Smile

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Michelle - I so understand where you are coming from. Been there, done that! Have you had any fertility testing? I would if I were you are this point. Hugs and if you want to talk privately then just PM me, and vent away!

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:lurk: I just want to offer you a huge hug!!!! :bigarmhug:

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Thanks ladies, I'm feeling a little better now, but I still haven't ovulated. I just don't know what my darn body is doing Sad

Susan - Thanks hun! I have lurked over there a bit and everyone seems so wonderful! Will definitely try to pop in there more often Smile

Margaret - I live in an area where there really isn't anyone who can do fertility testing. Closest area to do that is 4 hours away Sad All I have had done is an internal ultrasound to check for cysts etc and everything looked perfect. DH had a semen check and he passed with flying colors. I was put on Clomid for 3 months but that didn't do anything for me. My Dr. wants to up my dose to 100 mg but I just don't know if I am comfortable with that because 50mg and those darn hot flashes were hard enough to deal with, what would 100mg feel like? If I knew it would absolutely make me pregnant I would do anything, but if the 50mg didn't work (it made me ovulate, just didn't get me pregnant) what's to say the 100mg will, you know what I mean? Not to mention it's a moot point if my tubes are blocked and who knows if they are or arn't?

Does anyone know if RE's are the only doctors that can check for blockages?

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"Lily2006" wrote:

Margaret - I live in an area where there really isn't anyone who can do fertility testing. Closest area to do that is 4 hours away Sad All I have had done is an internal ultrasound to check for cysts etc and everything looked perfect. DH had a semen check and he passed with flying colors. I was put on Clomid for 3 months but that didn't do anything for me. My Dr. wants to up my dose to 100 mg but I just don't know if I am comfortable with that because 50mg and those darn hot flashes were hard enough to deal with, what would 100mg feel like? If I knew it would absolutely make me pregnant I would do anything, but if the 50mg didn't work (it made me ovulate, just didn't get me pregnant) what's to say the 100mg will, you know what I mean? Not to mention it's a moot point if my tubes are blocked and who knows if they are or arn't?

Does anyone know if RE's are the only doctors that can check for blockages?

OBs can check for blockages. My first one was done by an OB. That sucks you are so far away from any specialists. My old OB did stuff with PCOS patients until they brought a fertility clinic here. Have they done any hormonal blood testing? I have also heard (both from friends and OBs) that Fermara is better then clomid, less side effects and such.

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Yes, forgot to mention that as well, tested every hormone possible (cost about $1500.00! Ouch!) but was definitely worth it as I know I don't have any hormone issues because everything came back perfect.

So, should I just call to see an OB and ask if they can help with infertility?

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"Lily2006" wrote:

Yes, forgot to mention that as well, tested every hormone possible (cost about $1500.00! Ouch!) but was definitely worth it as I know I don't have any hormone issues because everything came back perfect.

So, should I just call to see an OB and ask if they can help with infertility?

Ouch! So glad I live in Canada. I am having to pay for the IUI portion but that is $250 so not too bad. Everything else is covered.

And yes, call an OB and see what they can do, if nothing else they are more likely to go with femara and a trigger shot with timed BD which would help. Generally I have been told that for women under 30 they want to you chart for a year unless you have known issues then it is 6 months, if you are over 30 it is 6 months of charting.

Good luck.

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Michelle, I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling so down and not hopeful right now and I am so hopeful for you that your dreams will come to fruition. It is especially tough to see our healthcare system not up to standard for infertility in the USA.

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"FourMaybeMore" wrote:

Michelle, I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling so down and not hopeful right now and I am so hopeful for you that your dreams will come to fruition. It is especially tough to see our healthcare system not up to standard for infertility in the USA.

Aww thanks hun. I wish there was more awareness for infertility. I have excellent insurance that covers most everything, but that bill for the blood work was saddening, it just wasn't covered. But like I said before, at least it's done! Smile

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Michelle-
Your OB should definitely be able to do a HSG for you!! I had chromotubation. Basically the same thing except mine was done during laparscopic surgery. It will be nice for you to know if your tubes are patent.

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"-kate-" wrote:

Michelle-
Your OB should definitely be able to do a HSG for you!! I had chromotubation. Basically the same thing except mine was done during laparscopic surgery. It will be nice for you to know if your tubes are patent.

Good to know! I will start looking for an OB for next cycle then! Smile

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Michelle I'm so sorry you are still going through this!

I keep lurking looking for you to see how you are doing, we started TTC around the same time.

Have you tried anything on your own? Pretty sure I only got pg from trying Soy Isoflavones, my province takes nearly 2 years to get to the specialist even when they know you have an issue (I didn't O for at least 6 months, and only 3 or 4 known O's in over a year) so I decided to try it while I was waiting. Didn't even wait till the beginning of a new cycle just went with 200 mg soy for 5 days, temps were jagged while I was taking it but I O'd on cycle day 60 something and surprise!

I'm keeping my fingers crossed and hoping and praying for you!

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"CrysRee31" wrote:

Have you tried anything on your own? Pretty sure I only got pg from trying Soy Isoflavones, my province takes nearly 2 years to get to the specialist even when they know you have an issue (I didn't O for at least 6 months, and only 3 or 4 known O's in over a year) so I decided to try it while I was waiting. Didn't even wait till the beginning of a new cycle just went with 200 mg soy for 5 days, temps were jagged while I was taking it but I O'd on cycle day 60 something and surprise!

Thank you for a success story!!! A couple of us have been trying the soy... It's awesome to hear it does work Smile

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"smsturner" wrote:

Thank you for a success story!!! A couple of us have been trying the soy... It's awesome to hear it does work Smile

I stumbled across an article about it and when I searched the internet I found many positive stories so I had to try it! I hope it works for everyone Smile

I have another crazy story too, this is a friend of mine. She and her DH tried for many many years to TTC, nothing, fertility testing and treatment and still nothing. They went for an IVF consult and decided against it, they could put that money toward an adoption instead. Come to find out that while they were sitting in that consult - they were expecting their first child! Completely naturally and very unexpectedly Smile after that they went on to have 3 more kids (for a total of 4!) in just over 5 years. None of their children were exactly planned, simply JLIH... how nuts is that??

Just goes to show miracles can happen Smile