ASD/PDD Resources (Post Websites, Recommend Books, etc.)

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ASD/PDD Resources (Post Websites, Recommend Books, etc.)

Ok gals, here is a way we can help each other and other parents that come upon our board that have a child that is newly-diagnosed. Do you have any favorite ASD/PDD or other Autism-related websites you refer to for information, be it about diets, vitamin supplements, sensory intergration issues, therapies and such? Do you have any favorite books that you found good to read and helped you out a lot on learning about your child's diagnosis and how to help him/her? Or any products/toys and such that make things easier with your child?

Well post 'em here gals!

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Here is a good link to some of the therapies that help with behavior/social/communication/sensory issues -> , some also use vitamin supplements, GF/CF (Gluten-Free/Casein-Free) diets and such. We had an earlier post here that gives some good links to get more information on the diet. I've heard great things from some, others it didn't work with, so a lot is trial and error based on the individual child.

Unfortunately the topic was lost but some of the links were: (Yahoo!Group based on the diet) - List of GFCF diet links

You can also put in "GFCF" in a search engine like Google ( or other ones and it'll come up with lots of links.

Another good site is BBBAutism -> it has tons of great information especially for parents that have children that are recently diagnosed.

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Here is a really great link to a .PDF that is good for parents with kids that were newly diagnosed with ASD:

Or in HTML/Text format at:

It has many good book recommendations, diets/therapys and explanations and such.

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Autism Awareness Cards

Here are some links to some sites with some autism awareness cards, that can be useful to hand out to others when you're out in public with your child with Autism Spectrum Disorder as often as parents we don't have the time in stores and such to explain our children's situation: (sent away for this for Dylan, I have received cards for Dylan so they are still up and running, they are asking for a small donation to help keep the program up.) (you can print these out at home, I have several printed out.)

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Book Recommendations (Mish)

May 10th:

Here is a list of books I've read or am reading recently (most pertain to ABA, Autism and Speech Disorders/Delays (most can be bought at the websites marked with them or at ParentBooks in Toronto Ontario or online at their site at

The New Social Story Book, Carol Gray ( and ParentBooks)

The ABA Program Companion: Organizing Quality Programs for Children with Autism and PDD, J. Tyler Fovel, M.A. (can get at ParentBooks)

Help Us Learn: A Self-paced Training Program for ABA, Kathy Lear (can be found at and ParentBooks)

The Out-of-Sync Child: Recognizing and Coping with Sensory Integration Dysfunction, Carol Stock Kranowitz, M.A. (ParentBooks or

The Out-of-Sync Child Has Fun: Activities for Kids with Sensory Integration Dysfunction, Carol Stock Kranowitz, M.A. (ParentBooks or

The Late Talker: What to Do if Your Child Isn't Talking Yet, Marilyn C. Agin, M.D., Lisa F. Geng and Malcom J. Nicholl (

Sign With Your Baby: Complete Learning Kit (Book, Quick Reference Guide + Video), Joseph Garcia (can be found at

More Than Words: Helping Parents Promote Communication and Social Skills in Children with Autism Spectrum Disorder, Fern Sussman (can be found at or ParentBooks)

Making A Difference: Behavioral Intervention for Autism, Edited by Catherine Maurice, Gina Green and Richard M. Foxx (ParentBooks)

Parents' Education as Autism Therapists: Applied Behavior Analysis in Context, Mickey Keenan, Ken P. Kerr and Karola Dillenburger (ParentBooks)

Topics in Autism: Activity Schedules for Children with Autism: Teaching Independant Behavior, Lynn E, McClannahan, Ph.D. and Patricia J. Krantz, Ph.D (ParentBooks)

In Time and With Love: Caring for Infants and Toddlers with Special Needs (A "Your Child at Play" Series Book": Everyday Living, Family and Friends, Growing and Learning, Marilyn Segal, Ph.D., Wendy Masi, Ph.D. and Roni Leiderman, Ph.D (not sure where it was purchased, was a gift)

Updated: June 1st

Got these all from ParentBooks a couple of days ago, got a lot of reading ahead of me along with the other books:

Toilet Training for Individuals with Autism & Related Disorders: A Comprehensive Guide for Parents & Teachers, Maria Wheeler

Autism Aspergers: Solving the Relationship Puzzle: A New Developmental Program That Opens The Door to Lifelong Social and Emotional Growth, Steven E. Gutstein, Ph.D. - used with RDI: Relationship Development Intervention

Relationship Development Intervention with Young Children:
Social and Emotional Development Activities for Asperger Syndrome, Autism, PDD and NLD, Steven E. Gutstein and Rachelle K. Sheely - used with RDI: Relationship Development Intervention

The Autistic Spectrum Parents' Daily Helper: A Workbook for You and Your Child, Philip Abrams and Leslie Henriques, M.P.H.

The Assessment of Basic Language and Learning Skills (The ABLLS): Scoring Instructions and IEP Development Guide + The Assessment of Basic Language and Learning Skills (The ABLLS): An Assessment, Curriculum Guide and Skills Tracking System for Children with Autism or Other Developmental Disabilities, James W. Partington, Ph.D. and Mark L. Sundberg, Ph.D. - Used with ABA/VB programs

Teaching Language to Children with Autism or Other Developmental Disabilities , James W. Partington, Ph.D. and Mark L. Sundberg, Ph.D. - deals with Verbal Behavior aka VB

A Work in Progress: Behavioral Management Strategies and a Curriculum for Intensive Behavioral Treatment of Autism, Ron Leaf & John McEachin (used with ABA/IBI - Applied Behavioral Analysis/Intensive Behavioral Intervention

Updated: December '04

Taking Autism to School. Andreanna Edwards, Illustrated by Tom Dineen

Asperger Syndrome & Your Child: a Parent’s Guide. Michael Powers & Janet Poland

Aspergers…What Does It Mean to Me: a Workbook Explaining Self-Awareness and Life Lessons to the Child or Youth with High Functioning Autism or Aspergers. Catherine Faherty

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Interesting Article on Perspective on NT Individuals...

from the autistic point of view, it is a parody:

Institute for the Study of the Neurologically Typical (NT) ->

Thought I'd share it all with you as I found it definitely interesting when you get a glimpse of things from the other side.

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A Must Read for Parents of ASD/PDD Kids!

Don't Mourn For Us
by Jim Sinclair
[This article was published in the "Our Voice," the newsletter of Autism Network International, Volume 1, Number 3, 1993. It is an outline of the presentation I gave at the 1993 International Conference on Autism in Toronto, and is addressed primarily to parents.]
Source Link: (Autism Information Library -

Jim Sinclair is an autistic individual that is very into advocacy for special needs especially autism. He is a member of ANI - Autism Network International - , an autistic-run self-help and advocacy organization for autistic people. Here is a site about him and articles he has written:

Parents often report that learning their child is autistic was the most traumatic thing that ever happened to them. Non-autistic people see autism as a great tragedy, and parents experience continuing disappointment and grief at all stages of the child's and family's life cycle.

But this grief does not stem from the child's autism in itself. It is grief over the loss of the normal child the parents had hoped and expected to have. Parents' attitudes and expectations, and the discrepancies between what parents expect of children at a particular age and their own child's actual development, cause more stress and anguish than the practical complexities of life with an autistic person.

Some amount of grief is natural as parents adjust to the fact that an event and a relationship they've been looking forward to isn't going to materialize. But this grief over a fantasized normal child needs to be separated from the parents' perceptions of the child they do have: the autistic child who needs the support of adult caretakers and who can form very meaningful relationships with those caretakers if given the opportunity. Continuing focus on the child's autism as a source of grief is damaging for both the parents and the child, and precludes the development of an accepting and authentic relationship between them. For their own sake and for the sake of their children, I urge parents to make radical changes in their perceptions of what autism means.

I invite you to look at our autism, and look at your grief, from our perspective:

Autism is not an appendage
Autism isn't something a person has, or a "shell" that a person is trapped inside. There's no normal child hidden behind the autism. Autism is a way of being. It is pervasive; it colors every experience, every sensation, perception, thought, emotion, and encounter, every aspect of existence. It is not possible to separate the autism from the person--and if it were possible, the person you'd have left would not be the same person you started with.

This is important, so take a moment to consider it: Autism is a way of being. It is not possible to separate the person from the autism.

Therefore, when parents say,

"I wish my child did not have autism,"
what they're really saying is,

"I wish the autistic child I have did not exist, and I had a different (non-autistic) child instead."
Read that again. This is what we hear when you mourn over our existence. This is what we hear when you pray for a cure. This is what we know, when you tell us of your fondest hopes and dreams for us: that your greatest wish is that one day we will cease to be, and strangers you can love will move in behind our faces.

Autism is not an impenetrable wall
You try to relate to your autistic child, and the child doesn't respond. He doesn't see you; you can't reach her; there's no getting through. That's the hardest thing to deal with, isn't it? The only thing is, it isn't true.

Look at it again: You try to relate as parent to child, using your own understanding of normal children, your own feelings about parenthood, your own experiences and intuitions about relationships. And the child doesn't respond in any way you can recognize as being part of that system.

That does not mean the child is incapable of relating at all. It only means you're assuming a shared system, a shared understanding of signals and meanings, that the child in fact does not share. It's as if you tried to have an intimate conversation with someone who has no comprehension of your language. Of course the person won't understand what you're talking about, won't respond in the way you expect, and may well find the whole interaction confusing and unpleasant.

It takes more work to communicate with someone whose native language isn't the same as yours. And autism goes deeper than language and culture; autistic people are "foreigners" in any society. You're going to have to give up your assumptions about shared meanings. You're going to have to learn to back up to levels more basic than you've probably thought about before, to translate, and to check to make sure your translations are understood. You're going to have to give up the certainty that comes of being on your own familiar territory, of knowing you're in charge, and let your child teach you a little of her language, guide you a little way into his world.

And the outcome, if you succeed, still will not be a normal parent-child relationship. Your autistic child may learn to talk, may attend regular classes in school, may go to college, drive a car, live independently, have a career--but will never relate to you as other children relate to their parents. Or your autistic child may never speak, may graduate from a self-contained special education classroom to a sheltered activity program or a residential facility, may need lifelong full-time care and supervision--but is not completely beyond your reach. The ways we relate are different. Push for the things your expectations tell you are normal, and you'll find frustration, disappointment, resentment, maybe even rage and hatred. Approach respectfully, without preconceptions, and with openness to learning new things, and you'll find a world you could never have imagined.

Yes, that takes more work than relating to a non-autistic person. But it can be done--unless non-autistic people are far more limited than we are in their capacity to relate. We spend our entire lives doing it. Each of us who does learn to talk to you, each of us who manages to function at all in your society, each of us who manages to reach out and make a connection with you, is operating in alien territory, making contact with alien beings. We spend our entire lives doing this. And then you tell us that we can't relate.

Autism is not death
Granted, autism isn't what most parents expect or look forward to when they anticipate the arrival of a child. What they expect is a child who will be like them, who will share their world and relate to them without requiring intensive on-the-job training in alien contact. Even if their child has some disability other than autism, parents expect to be able to relate to that child on the terms that seem normal to them; and in most cases, even allowing for the limitations of various disabilities, it is possible to form the kind of bond the parents had been looking forward to.

But not when the child is autistic. Much of the grieving parents do is over the non-occurrence of the expected relationship with an expected normal child. This grief is very real, and it needs to be expected and worked through so people can get on with their lives--

but it has nothing to do with autism.

What it comes down to is that you expected something that was tremendously important to you, and you looked forward to it with great joy and excitement, and maybe for a while you thought you actually had it--and then, perhaps gradually, perhaps abruptly, you had to recognize that the thing you looked forward to hasn't happened. It isn't going to happen. No matter how many other, normal children you have, nothing will change the fact that this time, the child you waited and hoped and planned and dreamed for didn't arrive.

This is the same thing that parents experience when a child is stillborn, or when they have their baby to hold for a short time, only to have it die in infancy. It isn't about autism, it's about shattered expectations. I suggest that the best place to address these issues is not in organizations devoted to autism, but in parental bereavement counseling and support groups. In those settings parents learn to come to terms with their loss--not to forget about it, but to let it be in the past, where the grief doesn't hit them in the face every waking moment of their lives. They learn to accept that their child is gone, forever, and won't be coming back. Most importantly, they learn not to take out their grief for the lost child on their surviving children. This is of critical importance when one of those surviving children arrived at t time the child being mourned for died.

You didn't lose a child to autism. You lost a child because the child you waited for never came into existence. That isn't the fault of the autistic child who does exist, and it shouldn't be our burden. We need and deserve families who can see us and value us for ourselves, not families whose vision of us is obscured by the ghosts of children who never lived. Grieve if you must, for your own lost dreams. But don't mourn for us. We are alive. We are real. And we're here waiting for you.

This is what I think autism societies should be about: not mourning for what never was, but exploration of what is. We need you. We need your help and your understanding. Your world is not very open to us, and we won't make it without your strong support. Yes, there is tragedy that comes with autism: not because of what we are, but because of the things that happen to us. Be sad about that, if you want to be sad about something. Better than being sad about it, though, get mad about it--and then do something about it. The tragedy is not that we're here, but that your world has no place for us to be. How can it be otherwise, as long as our own parents are still grieving over having brought us into the world?

Take a look at your autistic child sometime, and take a moment to tell yourself who that child is not. Think to yourself: "This is not my child that I expected and planned for. This is not the child I waited for through all those months of pregnancy and all those hours of labor. This is not the child I made all those plans to share all those experiences with. That child never came. This is not that child." Then go do whatever grieving you have to do--away from the autistic child--and start learning to let go.

After you've started that letting go, come back and look at your autistic child again, and say to yourself: "This is not my child that I expected and planned for. This is an alien child who landed in my life by accident. I don't know who this child is or what it will become. But I know it's a child, stranded in an alien world, without parents of its own kind to care for it. It needs someone to care for it, to teach it, to interpret and to advocate for it. And because this alien child happened to drop into my life, that job is mine if I want it."

If that prospect excites you, then come join us, in strength and determination, in hope and in joy. The adventure of a lifetime is ahead of you.


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Just wanted to thank you for the site and posts and recommend this book.

Unraveling the Mystery of Autism and Pervasive Developmental Disorder : A Mother's Story of Research & Recovery

Playing, Laughing and Learning with Children on the Autism Spectrum: A Practical Resource of Play Ideas for Parents and Carers [Paperback]
By: Julia Moor

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"jhomama" wrote:

The Autism Book by S. Jhoanna Robledo and Dawn Ham-Kucharski is a great new resource; the authors are chatting tonight. Hope this helps ...
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"MishNKids" wrote:

Here's a beautiful poem someone sent me once after my son was diagnosed originally with PDD-NOS (ASD), he now has an Autistic Disorder dx. This poem has given me strength through some of the longest and hardest points of acceptance of Dylan's dx along with the article "Don't Mourn for Me" by Jim Sinclair at

Heaven's Very Special Child

A meeting was held quite far from earth
"It's time again for another birth,"
Said the angels to the Lord above,
"This special child will need much love.

His progress may seem very slow
Accomplishments he may not show
And he'll require extra care
From the folks he meets down there.

He may not run or laugh or play
His thoughts might seem quike far away
In many ways he won't adapt
And he'll be known as handicapped.

So let's be careful where he's sent
We want his life to be content
Please Lord, find the parents who
Will do a special job for you.

They will not realize right away
The leading role they're asked to play
But with this child sent from above
Comes stronger faith and richer love.

And soon they'll know the privilege given
In caring for this gift from Heaven
Their precious charge, so meek and mild
Is Heaven's very special child."

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Great resource

Yellow Pages for Kids with Disabilities

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Here's a website I found while searching for a gift for my nephew with autism, he's 19 and loves lights,things that spin and puzzles, it's a really cool site:)

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There is an ongoing online seminar that is really good and informative. I walked away very enlightened.

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Thanks for sharing, I may check it out. Smile