I know this board is a little dead at the moment, but I was hoping that some BTDT moms can help me (and others) out.
My DS, Daniel (3.5) loves to dress up in costume (without the mask) and loves to pretend to be a superhero. This year both he and his big brother (whom he idolizes) are dressing up as Spiderman. Daniel is big brother's little shadow, but will not play with other children his age and does not do well with crowds. Last year, for Halloween, we went to a church function and there were a TON of kids from the community and a lot going on and he froze and shut down and we almost had to leave. He wouldn't look anyone in the eye and wouldn't let go of my leg the whole time.
Big Brother wants to go to this church function again this year and I'm worried of Daniel's shutting down again. We have a new walker in the family (Baby Sister turned 1 at the end of August) and she requires just as much close supervision as Daniel. I asked DH to join us this year and he suggested just staying home with Daniel. Problem with that is that Daniel likes to go with Big Brother everywhere he goes and would have a meltdown if he were left behind.
I am also worried that DH will be hard on him if he comes with and sees him shutting down. He still doesn't believe our son might be Autistic. He thinks that half of his fits, meltdowns, and whatever is him playing me. He recognizes that he's not like a "normal" child, but won't accept there might actually be something "special" about him.
Should I push Big Brother to accept trick or treating over the crowd scene? Or should I ask my mom to come with me instead of DH so that she can walk Baby Sister while I walk Daniel around and hope he'll warm up after a while and possibly participate?
IF anyone reads and responds, Thanks in advance.