The Chunky Monkey

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The Chunky Monkey

I thought I should start an online baby journal, as my memory is horrible. If I don't start writing some of these milestones/events down, I will never remember them!

I can't believe it's been over ten weeks since Ian entered our lives. It has been the most amazing experience so .

When I think back to the beginning, it seems so long ago...

Before I was with DSO, I was married to someone else for almost ten years. We had been actively TTC for at least five of those years. I have always wanted children. We got pregnant twice, and one resulted in a missed miscarriage, and the second turned out to be a blighted ovum. I was very depressed. Then my ex cheated on me with a fifteen year old. Those were some good times. Blum 3

Then I met back up with DSO, with whom I had attended college sooo many years ago. I have known DSO for thirteen years, but it was only in 2006 that we became more than friends. I used Nuvaring and I loved it. Well, my prescription had run out in February of last year, and I had a dr's appointment set up to get a new one... I ended up having to work overtime that Friday, so I didn't get in for a couple weeks. LOL. I figured what are the chances I would get pregnant with my history? One of the great ironies of my life, I guess. I couldn't believe it when I got a BFP! Initially I had such mixed emotions. I have wanted a baby for as long as I could remember, but I hadn't been "with" DSO for very long and it wasn't the best timing.

I never considered not having Ian. I was in shock, terrified to tell my parents, but never thought about not going down that road. And I have NO regrets. He is such a little miracle!

When I was just seven weeks pregnant, I woke up one morning bleeding profusely. I immediately thought, "oh, here we go again..." I was so sure I was m/cing again. I cried. DSO cried. We mourned the loss. It was a Saturday. I didn't go to the doctor until Monday. I figured there wasn't any rush, since I had experienced natural m/c's two other times, so I knew what to expect. I just about passed out from shock when I went in on Monday for the u/s and the u/s tech said,"there's the heartbeat..." I just kept saying, "I can't believe it." I called DSO, who was a teacher. He freaked out! We couldn't believe the little orange seed was still alive, and had a heartbeat...

I'll continue the story later, when I have more time.

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Ian's back story, cont'd

So I had lots of morning sickness, but other than that my pregnancy wasn't too bad in the first couple trimesters. I did have placenta previa but that resolved itself by the time of my 21 week u/s. In the third trimester I started to carry too much water weight, and Ian was breech. I was sooo huge!! I had numerous ultrasounds... Originally Ian was due on 11/29/07, but he came into this world at 12:41am on 11/17/07.

I started having contractions pretty consistently at the beginning of the week, on 11/12/07 (about five minutes apart). It made it very difficult to function, and I was so miserable. I pretty much just laid on the couch when I wasn't at the doctor's office getting checked out. On Thursday, 11/15 I was admitted to L&D. My temperature was 101, contractions were about five minutes apart. But I was only dialated 1cm, so after they got my temp down, they sent me home at 9pm. I felt okay for a copule hours, and then I started getting really sick and throwing up everything that I would put in my mouth (including water). Finally at 7am I was admitted back to L&D. This time my temp was 102. After laying in the bed there for four hours, I was sure they would send me home again, as nothing was different than it had been on Thursday. Well, my dr came in at noon and said she was going to induce. They didn't know if I had the flu or if I had an infection in my uterus, so to be safe, they wanted to get the baby out asap.

She broke my water at 12:30pm. It was ridiculous because I had so much extra fluid. It just kept on gushing out for so long! I felt like I was sitting in a pool of water. It smelled like it too. I didn't realize that amniotic fluid has a smell, but evidentally it does. I was then put on the pitocin. It was a slow, painful process. Finally at around 6pm I was dialated to 5cm, so they were able to do the epidural. Unfortunately the epidural didn't help at all. It only worked on one side, and it never went numb. It reduced the pain of the contractions for about two hours, and then it wore off. So I went into active labor at 10:30pm with no meds and a temp of 102. Blum 3

After the first hour of active labor, they put me on oxygen because they were worried I might pass out. I was too, actually. I have never experienced such excruciating pain, and I was so exhausted. FINALLY, at around midnight they were able to see Ian's head starting to come out. Then he got stuck--his shoulders were too wide. So after another 41 minutes and an episiotomy, out he came, screaming away. Smile

Because of my temperature (and of course Ian had a temp coming out too) and the possibility of infection, Ian and I had to stay in the hospital and get iv antibiotics for the first forty eight hours. It was a big struggle to try to breastfeed, because Ian was really tired from being pumped with drugs, plus he was jaundice, and he just didn't want to latch. It was really stressful.

After what seemed like forever, we were finally going to be discharged at noon on Monday. Then they discovered that I had four blood clots in my right leg. ARGH! So they ordered an ultrasound and wouldn't release us. I FINALLY had the ultrasound at 9pm that evening (good thing they weren't serious!!) but by that time the doctor on staff didn't feel comfortable releasing me, so we had to stay another night. We got to go home at around two pm on Tuesday, 11/20. I felt like we had been in the hospital forever. We were sooo happy to be home.

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Weight issues and Breastfeeding....

The first few days at home were stressful, but not nearly as stressful as being in the hospital.

We took Ian to the Dr that Friday (the day after Thanksgiving, Nov 23) to get checked. They wanted to check his weight and jaundice. Unfortunately, he was down to 7lb6oz (from 8lb5oz). It had taken four days for my milk to fully come in. We started immediately supplementing with formula. It was not a difficult decision for me, as I didn't want to starve my baby just because my body wasn't working right.

We had a follow up appointment on Tuesday to check his weight again, and he was up to 8lbs2oz already! Yay! I was so relieved, and it reinforced that I had made the right decision by supplementing.

Ian was still having issues latching on, so I rented an electric breast pump. I bf'd with a nipple shield for ten to fifteen minutes, then would follow up with pumped breast milk. If I didn't have enough breast milk, I would then follow that with the formula.

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FF to today!

So the past two months haven't been terribly eventful, other than the usual woes of babies. Ian had two cases of yeast infection/diaper rash, but they have both cleared up, and we're good now.

As for breastfeeding, I converted over to formula at one month. My supply was dwindling and Ian never could latch on so it was frustrating for both of us. It caused me so much stress that when I was only pumping one ounce out of one breast and three out of the other I decided to give up. I feel bad about it, and wish that my breasts weren't so defective, but I did feel as if a weight had been lifted when I decided to go to formula. I don't have to worry about all the stresses and problems with breastfeeding/pumping, and I can just concentrate on feeding/loving my son. of course formula is EXPENSIVE, so that's a worry... but meh--what can you do?

Ian developed an umbilical hernia. He went and saw a pediatric surgeon, who said it should resolve itself and just to keep watching it. Just this last week it stopped popping out so far, so that has been a bit of a relief.

He has cradle cap, which seems quite common. I'm not going to worry about it. His case isn't very bad, so you don't even notice it unless you're up close.

His joints have been clicking randomly, which freaks me out. We talked to the pediatrician about it, and he said that it's normal. If he's still doing it at his next appointment, I'm going to ask about it again. This is where I wish we were closer to DSO's parents, because his dad is a pediatrician and we could have him take a look at Ian to make sure he's okay... Unfortunately his family is in Puerto Rico, so that's not going to happen. Blum 3

He had his two month appointment on 1/15. It went fine. Everything looked good. He weight 14 pounds and was 24" long. Big boy. Smile He didn't even really cry for the FOUR immunization shots. What a trooper!!!

He smiled for the first time at 6 weeks, and rolled over for the first time on 1/17/08 (two months old exactly). He is doing really well, has good head control, and only had one little cold (although he still has congestion that just won't go away, but it's much better than it used to be).

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A couple more things I forgot to add before

I forgot to add a few things for my record:

He has alway screamed for his baths and diaper changes. About two weeks ago he stopped screaming for his diaper changes, and just five days ago he had his first bath that he sort of enjoyed. He even splashed in the water a little bit. VERY CUTE.

As of last night, he weighs a whopping 16 pounds and he is approx 24.5 inches long.

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Working is tough!

It's so hard to leave Ian to go to work! This morning he looked so cute in DH's arms, being fed. When I came over to say goodbye, he stopped drinking his bottle and just stared at me, and when I said hi to him he got a great big smile on his face. So CUTE!!!

As much as I feel nostalgic when I look at his newborn/3month sized-clothing that we had to pack away a few weeks ago, I am enjoying my time with Ian so much more now that he is a bit older. Of course 2m2w isn't old by any means, but I am just loving how interactive he is. Before it was just all about feeding him, changing his diaper, and trying to get some sleep. He's not even close to sleeping through the night, so the sleep thing is still a struggle, but I love that he is so much more interactive. He can't sit up by himself yet, but with just a little support he can. He has total head control now. And there is so much time that he is awake and alert but NOT hungry. He is interested in things. He likes to be sung to, he likes to look at the pictures in books while I read to him... so cute!!! He is beginning to really like to be in his jumparoo. I think when he can actually reach the floor, he is really going to like it. He still hates the BeBe Pod, but hopefully that will change as well. Since I spent $50 on the thing, I hope it wasn't a complete waste of money!

Oh! And I can usually get him to smile for the camera these days. It's sooo nice!! I think he's finally ready for professional pictures! As soon as I get a coupon in the mail for professional pics, I'm going to take him in. It will be so cute. I want to do family pics too, but I need to lose like 30 lbs first. Blum 3

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I'm off work today, so it's nice to have quality time with Ian. He was a bit fussy this afternoon, but I've finally gotten him to go to sleep in his swing. He went through three diapers during his last diaper change. I was feeding him and then he started the tell-tale grunting, so I knew what was coming. It was so stinky, so I decided to change it right then. I'm not doing that again. I will now always wait at least fifteen minutes. So I changed his diaper and as soon as the new diaper was on he dropped another load. So that was the end of that diaper. Then I changed him again, and five minutes later he had more!! I couldn't believe it! What a waste of diapers!!! Lesson definitely learned.

I'm working on cleaning out the apartment and it is a complete sty right now, so back to work I go!

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Who needs sleep?

I have that Barenaked Ladies song, "Who Needs Sleep" running through my head. I feel like Ian is never going to catch on to the whole sleeping at night thing. No matter when I put him to bed, he wakes up at around 10 or 10:30 and will not go back to sleep until around 2am no matter what I do. I've tried everything to get him to stay asleep. He just doesn't want to. If he would just go to sleep at around midnight, that wouldn't even be so bad. But 2am is so rough when I have to get up at 5:30.

I am at work now, and I am totally exhausted. I just have to keep telling myself that eventually he'll get it.

He has also been exceptionally fussy for the past two days. Not sure what is driving that. He has started to drool, so I wonder if he has started the whole teething thing (I hope not!)
He is going to Grandma's house this afternoon, so hopefully he will be cooperative while he is there.

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Still running on very little sleep. Monkey finally went to bed at 2:30am, and of course I had to get up at 6 to get ready for work. SO TIRED!!! He just wants to be awake at night. I could even tell that he was really tired. He was up from 7:30pm until 2:30am. He was just fighting it. On the bright side, he was still asleep when I left for work at 6:30, so maybe he and DH will get some sleep this morning.

I love how smiley Ian is these days. It's so nice to come home from work and get smiles from him. He smiles at the funniest things sometimes. He loves his Curious George monkey and will give it a big smile. Also loves his Lil Dino mobile. So cute!!!

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Another day, still tired as can be... Ian didn't sleep and neither did I. I can't wait until he gets a little bit older and will actually go down for the night. It makes me sad that he's getting older, but at the same time I look forward to him getting bigger, older, more independent, and can sleep through the night. It's so exciting to watch Ian develop his little personality, and I can't wait to really get to know him!!!

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Have I mentioned that I can't wait until Ian will sleep through the night? He just doesn't want to go to sleep before two am, no matter what I do. Yesterday he only took one nap for one hour, and a couple twenty minute snoozes in my/DH's arms... and yet still he fought sleep until 2am. I was trying to get him to go to sleep since 9pm. Nothing worked. I tried just leaving him in his crib and leaving the room to see if that would make a difference (normally we co-sleep). Nope. He laid in his crib and made noises at his mobile for like a half hour. I kept listening at the door to make sure he wasn't crying or anything. Nope, just making baby noises and looking at his mobile. After a half hour I went back in and he was still wide awake and gave me a big smile when I got to the crib.

He just likes to be awake until 2am. Honestly I do too, so it would be great if I didn't have to be at work at 7am. What to do... I don't know... I think I'm going to have to go to Barnes and Noble and do some research or something...

His cradle cap seems to be getting worse again, so we had to baby oil it.

In other news, he is such a big boy. When I look at pics of him in his jumparoo and compare them to pics of other November babies in theirs, he is so much bigger! I don't know why he's so big, Alex is only 5'9". I am also 5'9" so it must come from me, I guess. I have already had to pack away several of his 3/6 mo. sized sleepers because his feet are too big for them! He has huge feet!!! His socks are the 6-12 month size. I don't know what size shoe he wears because he doesn't have any yet... lol

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We have hair!!

Ian's hair is finally starting to come back. He didn't have a lot of hair to begin with, but the little that he had on the top of his head fell out about six weeks ago. He's finally starting to look like he has hair again!!! YAY!! I hope it's here to stay this time!!

He's sleeping right now. He slept really good last night. He went to sleep at 1am (woohoo!), woke up at 6am to eat, and went back to sleep from 7am to 10am! So good!!! I just wish I didn't have to work at 7am.

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Sheesh, it's been almost a month since I've written in here?!! Crazy!! Time is just flying, I guess. It's been so hard to keep up lately between work, baby, cats, and keeping the apartment clean. I've also been having some boughts of depression, so it's just been overall a rough ride lately.

Anyway, on to the happy times. Ian is such a riot. He absolutely LOVES the jumparoo. He would be in that thing for an hour if I let him. He just bounces away like a little lord of the baby dance! So cute!!

His hair is growing in gradually. It looks like it's a light brown right now, and it looks pretty straight. His eyes are still very blue. I'm so surprised!! I have light blue eyes and had WHITE-blonde hair when I was little that got darker as I grew up. Alex is Puerto Rican, and 1/4 african, so his eyes are REALLY dark brown and his hair is very coarse, pitch black, and SUPER curly--if he didn't gel it he would be walking around with Don King-ish hair. I thought for sure Ian's hair/skin/eyes would be much darker than they are. Of course they could change, but it's just interesting how genetics work. Sometimes I think Alex feels bad about it, because Ian doesn't look exactly like his daddy. But he definitely has Alex's eye shape, ears, head shape, and facial expressions, so I just remind Alex of that.

Let's see... what else is new in the world of Ian. Oh, he has some awful dermatitis going on on his scalp so we have to wash his hair twice a week with Selsun Blue, and hopefully that will clear it up.

He ate squash for the first time yesterday and LOVED it!!! He gobbled the whole Gerber container up in about twenty minutes!

I think he has started to teethe. Yesterday he started doing this fish lip sucking thing on the bottle instead of latching on correctly. And he is drooling a ton and SUPER fussy. I'm going to ask the dr about it this week at his 4 month appointment, but after consulting the super-smart ladies on the Nov 07 board, I think that they are right, he is teething.

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Ian has been soooo fussy. When I look at his bottom gums I can see the two front teeth outlines, so I don't think it will be long before they appear. Last night he was soooo fussy, it took forever to get him to go to sleep. We gave him some baby tylenol. I don't like using the stuff, but we couldn't stand to see him suffer. He did really well and slept for six and a half hours before waking up this morning at 6am.

He's just getting so big! He has his four month appointment/shots on Wednesday, so hopefully that will go well. He still has the dermatitis, so we'll have the dr look at it on Wednesday. It doesn't seem to bother him, so that's good at least.

I can't believe how quickly he is growing though. I feel like right now he is the perfect size. He's easy to hold, can hold his own head up and holds on to me when I'm holding him and walking... He smiles whenever he sees me or Alex... It's just so nice. I know it won't be long before he's mobile and then there'll be no stopping him!

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Four Months Old!!

I can't believe it, but Ian's already four months old. Plus a few days, really!

He had his four month appointment yesterday, and it went okay. Boy did he scream for his shots this time. My poor little monkey!! He was very upset, so I was holding him, and he would calm down... Then he would get this look on his face like he was reliving the shots over again and he would scrunch his face up and start crying whole-heartedly again. Sad I wish we had brought the video camera with, it was so cute even though I felt awful that it hurt him.

Anyway, so he weighs a whopping 18lbs 13.5oz (97th percentile) and is 26.25" long (90th percentile). He's a big boy.

He's been fussy/tired/cranky since he got his shots, and has slept a lot and not eaten as much as usual.

It's been 24 hours now, so hopefully he will start to feel better soon. Oh, and it was soooooooooooo adorable. I was giving him a bath this afternoon and I got out these little dinos that squirt water. So I used it to squirt his belly and neck with water and he thought it was hilarious. It's the first time I have seen him giggle uncontrollably and it was soooo cute.

I always knew I wanted to have kids, but I never realized just how much Ian would steal my heart.

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The fussiness continues

Ian is still soooo cranky. Must be the teething thing... I wonder how long this will last for. Last night he got himself worked up into this crying fit over nothing. He was changed, fed, etc... Finally we gave him some tylenol and twenty minutes later when that kicked in he had a little bit more of his bottle and fell right to sleep (thank goodness). He slept from 11:30 until 4:30am, so that's not so bad. Five hours... about average for him these days. I am soooo jealous of the ladies whose babies are STTN. I feel like Ian will never sleep through the night.