So after I posted about our decision to switch to pumping and formula, we decided to do that for a 12-hour stretch (through the night). Turns out I hated bottle feeding him even more than I did breastfeeding! :lol: Yeah I know, I'm never satisfied. Every time I would look at him with a bottle, I would bawl. I'd think about all those cute expressions and noises he makes when breastfeeding, and how I'd never see them or hear them again, and I would bawl. There's one in particular that Tim and I call his "evil nursing face" - he raises up his eyebrows and opens his mouth like he's going to bite the crap out of my nipples - that I absolutely love. I couldn't stand the thought of not seeing that again! Weird, huh? So after that 12-hour break, I nursed him again in the morning and we did so much better! I think it was just good for me to have that break. I talked it over with Tim some more, and we've decided to keep formula in the house so that if and when I do get overwhelmed, I'll always have the option of giving him a bottle of formula. I'm also thinking about supplementing one night feeding with a bottle of formula, because it seems that it's the 3 AM feedings that frustrate me (and him) the most. So anyway, I'm happy to say that we're still breastfeeding and doing much better with it. And even happier that I have a backup plan in case I start getting really overwhelmed again! :D
My MIL is coming to visit us and stay for a week on the 5th of November. We are all so excited! :D She is already soooo in love with her grandbaby, she's absolutely giddy about seeing him in a week. :D She's going to be such a great help to us, too! I'm really looking forward to getting a bit of a break and maybe even sneaking in a date night with Tim. :D
We received a sample of our birth announcement that we were thinking about getting in the mail today. It's everything we want, so we're going to take some pictures of Nick and send them to the company to get printed up. I am so excited!! :D I can't wait to send announcements out! :D The company we're using is www.sassybabydesigns.com.
And now for picture time!! :D Here are a few of his latest:
Mommy and Nick snuggling:
Aww, love the legs all curled up!
Daddy and his baby boy:
He is just soooooo cute! I am glad things are working out with the nursing! My parenting motto "Do what works best...."lol
Yayy!! Yayy! I am glad that you are doing a little better with BF.
It is tough. I was going to suggest 1 feeding with formula, that's what I do. I feel like the beginning of BF is too challenging to take it on without some relief.
He is so cute! I love the description of the " evil nursing face"!!!LOL
As for changing your mind....you are looking for what's best, you are just a few days pp, you have a right!!!!!
Wishing you all the best !
Hi Sandy!! Those pictures are absolutley precious :) Nothing like a sweet little newborn to cuddle up to. I'm sorry that breastfeeding as been so challenging, I really struggled with my first boy ~ between a bad latch, raw nipples & no sleep I wanted to crawl under a rock lol I would supplement with formula when I needed a break & by the time he was 2-3 months old my nipples had tuffened up, he got better at nursing & it was SO much fun!!! I think even in the easiest of situations your going to go through a period of "this is NOT fun" ~ but once you pass that phase I've yet to meet a mama who didn't love it. I hope things continue to go well for you (((Hugs)))
Also ~ some tricks I found that helped with soreness, was to use Lansinoh, as well as putting some breastmilk onto my nipples and then keeping them as dry as possible. It did wonders & you'd be suprised how fast they heal up!
Happy 2 weeks, my little man!! :D I can't believe he's two weeks old already... time flies when you're having fun, huh? We went to his pediatrician appointment today, and he's gained another 3 ounces!! :yahoo: I always feel a frisson of happiness when I find out he's gained weight. :) He's also gotten a wee bit taller, and his head grew 1/2 an inch in circumference! :lol: That's my smart cookie! He's in the 70th percentile for height and 20th for weight. It's not too concerning because he eats like a horse! I think he takes after Tim... they were almost the exact same size at birth, and Tim has always been really tall and skinny. The pediatrician was really happy with everything he saw and heard, so I am too. :D Nick seems to have a bit of congestion in his nose, but we're treating that with the old bulb syringe and saline water.
*Sigh* And now onto a more difficult topic... we've decided to make the switch to formula. I only officially decided yesterday, and it wasn't easy. After my happy post about going back to nursing, things started taking a nosedive again. Not only was his latch the problem, but also, I realized I have a lot of issues with breastfeeding because of some things that happened to me as a child. I just could not relax and enjoy the experience more than superficially. Sooner or later, I'd always revisit those negative feelings and memories, and that would make me depressed. Tim would come in to find me upset and Nick wailing. It just wasn't good for anyone. I am so lucky in that I have the most supportive friends and family. Everyone has been so wonderful about telling me not to feel guilty. Now that we've done a whole day and a half of formula feedings, and I see how much more I can enjoy my son, and how much more relaxed he is at feeding time, I know that I made the right decision. The guilt is already starting to fade, because I can see how this is positively impacting our whole family. I told Nick's pediatrician about our decision to switch today, and he asked me if we were doing better this way. I said yes, and then he gave me a smile and said, "In that case, I am happy with that decision and so is Nicholas!" I was prepared for a "You know breast is best" lecture, but I was pleasantly surprised. :) So right now I am trying to decrease my supply and then eventually dry it up completely. This morning I woke up and ouch!! I was so painfully engorged! I pumped for a bit, and that relieved the pressure a lot. I'm also using cabbage leaves and taking 1/4 tsp of sage three times a day. Hopefully by the end of next week I should be seeing some real results. I am so in awe of Tim for how supportive he's being. He told me he wanted me to be happy, and nothing was more important to him than that. He is the one that made me see how Nick was feeling the negative impact of our breastfeeding sessions, and made me realize that switching to formula was nothing to feel guilty about. I know breastfeeding is something he's always felt strongly about, so for him to make that leap for me is truly amazing. And my doula is the same way - she's the LLL leader, so obviously really invested in breastfeeding. But when I told her about my feelings and experiences, she immediately told me to be proud that I had made it two weeks. I am so lucky to have so much support. :)
Since today's Halloween, I'll be taking some cute pictures of Nick in his Halloween outfit! :D His grandparents bought him the cutest sleeper, and we bought him a hat to go with it. I'll be sure to post those soon! :D
Happy 2 weeks sweetie!
I know the move was tough, but formula is yummy too! YEAH on all the stats!! I need more
I have been having breast feeding issues as well. I am sticking with it though only because I realize that formula feeding comes with its own set of problems. Not only do babies who started at the breast have trouble switching to the bottle (because the sucking is different) but also the side effects of formula like constipation, allergies ect. My ped. reminded me that once you go to formula it is almost impossible to switch back to the breast because of nipple confusion. I decided to stick with it for all of those reasons although I have thought about exclusively pumping and feeding him the ebm. Maybe you could give that option a shot before you switch to strictly formula. The longer your baby gets breast milk the better. Babies immune systems don't fully develop until 6 months so its really important and beneficial for them to get breast milk until then.
If you are worried about supply issues with pumping you can try mothers milk tea and pumping every two hours for the first few days.
Whatever you decide I hope that your feeding issues improve. :)
Glad he is growing so well!!!Can't wait to see those pics you PROMISED!! LOL!!!
Originally Posted by mandyt
I realize you were trying to be helpful here, but I must say this - please realize that every mother who makes the decision to switch to formula has thought about it long and hard. I didn't wake up one day and say, "Hey, what would make my life easier?" This was something I cried over for hours and talked with my husband about for hours. I did a lot of soul searching. I am not giving up breastfeeding simply because it is difficult, I am giving it up because I honestly want to do what's best for my son. I know all the effects of formula feeding on infants. I also know first hand of the ill effects of breastfeeding on my son and me. I am glad you are deciding to breastfeed in spite of challenges that you are facing. However, just because you chose to do so doesn't make it the right choice for everyone. I hope that next time you decide to "educate" someone about the ill effects of formula feeding, you will stop for one second to think that maybe they're just making the best decision for their family. After all, we're all just trying to do right by our children.