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I hate coming up with baby names! Way too much stress involved. I'm looking for some input on names. DH has been set on the name Phoenix since before we met. I didn't like it when we first met and I've grown to being indifferent to the name. Anyway with DD1 we mutually agreed on Avalon (although at the last minute he had the option of choosing Phoenix).

So now that this baby is a girl, he's back to Phoenix. We both like the name Rayne but it doesn't go with the middle name that we had decided on which is Ried (pronounced reed, a shortened version on my maiden name). So now he is suggesting Phoenix Rayne. I just really don't want to use the middle name as the name we call her because I think that can be frustrating when they get older. But I don't like the way Rayne Phoenix flows.

So I'm looking for some opinions and/or suggestions.

Phoenix Rayne (everyone but DH would be calling her Rayne)
Rayne Phoenix

(BTW - My first choice is Winter Ried, but he doesn't really care for that.)

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To me Phoenix is a boy's name. With that said though, DH's name is Matthew Gideon but he has always gone by Gideon. His mother knew she was going to call him Gideon, but she thought Matthew Gideon sounded better than Gideon Matthew.

If you are fine with Phoenix Rayne and calling her Rayne I say go with it. She will have to tell teachers, kids what she prefers to be called, but DH has never really had a problem with it.

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ummm

Phoenix Reid
or
Phoenix Rayne
would be my choices...

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I do think Phoenix Rayne flows better than Rayne Phoenix. My nephew is Jason Cole, his father is Jason, and he has almost always gone by Cole, I don't think it has been a huge deal. For a few years in junior high he did decide to go by Jason, but he has since gone back to Cole. Smile

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I think I'd go with Rayne Pheonix if you plan on calling her Rayne. But that's just me. I think as she gets older, taking standardized tests, going into the workforce, etc., always having to remember to use her "real" name as opposed to what she's called would get slightly confusing. But I have no experience with it, so I could be wrong.

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I also think it would be too confusing to name a child one thing but call them something else.

I would stick with Rayne Phoenix

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I think choosing the first name you prefer is far more important than the overall flow of the name. Obviously, both would be the goal, but if I had to pick between a first name I loved or a name combo that I loved the flow of, I'd definitely pick the better first name. Middle names are really not used much at all after birth announcements.

I'm not a fan of Phoenix or Rayne, so I can't help you there.

What about Renee? Similar vein to Rayne but a little less trendy and more timeless?

Or what about Phoebe? Not my favorite, but definitely more classic than Phoenix.

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If mine was a girl she would have been Raine.

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Love the name Winter!

DS#4 goes by his middle name, Rourke. Mostly because I thought it flowed better as William Rourke rather than Rourke William. If this baby is another boy, he will have the same thing. I don't find it too difficult, most places have him on record as Rourke and schools always ask about nicknames or preferred names.

Anyway, back to your dilemma... Wink

I like Rayne Phoenix better because otherwise it sounds like weather in a city...Phoenix Rayne. I quite like Phoenix Reid, too. Though Winter would have my first vote if it was on the table.

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My DH is J Michael and has always been called Michael and yes his first name is just the initial J not Jay. He has never had issues with it. Only time I see issues is when we go somewhere and they call him by J in a waiting room for example he has no clue they are talking to him until I tell him lol

nmc
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Thanks for all the input! I'm still totally undecided on what to do.

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Honestly, I think Phoenix is an awesome name... and even more so for a girl as you would expect a boy to be named that! I love your DD's name as well, so beautiful! I agree with others that Phoenix Rayne or Phoenix Reid both sound cool... but I like Rayne better for a girl as Reid really makes the name sound male.

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"nmc" wrote:

Thanks for all the input! I'm still totally undecided on what to do.

This made me LOL because after 9 months of going back and forth on if Loren was a good boys name we endded up having him and at one look I said "he is not a lorne" and it took us another 24 hours but endded up naming him Simon a name that I had only even out on our "list" the weekend before when we heard it in church.

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"mujul79" wrote:

This made me LOL because after 9 months of going back and forth on if Loren was a good boys name we endded up having him and at one look I said "he is not a lorne" and it took us another 24 hours but endded up naming him Simon a name that I had only even out on our "list" the weekend before when we heard it in church.

Lol this is why I have to be 100% percent sure on the name when the baby comes, or else I'll still be undecided, and baby would probably go without a name for weeks!!

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"Starryblue702" wrote:

Lol this is why I have to be 100% percent sure on the name when the baby comes, or else I'll still be undecided, and baby would probably go without a name for weeks!!

LOL every one of them I have changed after the birth.
My first was Gabe David until he came out and we named him Peter Davis.
My 2nd was Summer Raine until she came out and we named her Tessa Karmella.
My 3rd was Gregory Robert until he came out Heath Grogory.
My 4th was Loren Drew until he came out Simon Emmett.

I drive family crazy and tell them all the baby will pit it once he/she is here and it was so easy. One look during that first feed and they all had new first names, and with in 24 hours a middle name to go with it. I love to look up the meaning for names and watch the babies personality. We went back and forth on a middle name for Simon for a longer then the rest of my kids and Bill had to go make a phone call the 2nd day and it was the first time I was alone with Simon since birth and Simon just kind of looked at me and Emmett just came out and when Bill got back to the room I told him and we looked up the meanind and it fit Yahoo

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Well, changing once you see them is better than my mom did. lol. She changed my name when I was a few months old. And my sister was named Virginia Lee, but called Sharlie (named after her dad, Charlie) until just before kindergarten when my mom thought the poor child would be confused when she got to school, so she changed it to Sharlene Virginia. lol. She also changed spellings on the other kids too. lol