Thread: Who decides?

I think I must be really selfish

DH has been feeling a little left out when it comes to the naming in the past.

For my DD, we didn't know the gender before the birth. We had a couple of favorite names in mind, but nothing was set in stone. We named her Ella when she was 3 days old - after toying around and trying to decide for 3 days. It had been a favorite of mine during the pregnancy - but DH didn't like it. After she was born he said "Well, actually she does kind of look like an Ella", and so we went with that.

For my DS, we knew it was a boy. We couldn't agree on a name - I liked Emerson or William, and DH liked Eldon or Edmund. When he was born, we still couldn't agree. MIL brought up the name Eli while we were in the hospital. I remembered I had liked that one earlier in my pregnancy, but had thought it too similar to Ella. We ended up going with Eli since we couldn't agree on any of our favorites!

Now that we are expecting again (still lots of time, I know!) DH has already started bugging me that HE gets to pick the name this time. He says he wants it down in writing that he gets to choose because he knows if we leave it until the hospital, he'll take one look at me (as the woman who just went through labour for the 3rd time) and have to give in (as usual). LOL

I guess I have been selfish in the past, but what do you do if you don't like the name you DH picks?!? Just suck it up? LOL, I guess I will have to!

So - has everyone always decided mutually on names? Do you take turns?

At least this time around if it is a girl, we already have a name decided that we BOTH like. If it is a boy.....I'm going to have to let him pick, and I'm not sure I want to!

(Bad, selfish Sandra, I know!)

And sorry so long!

Originally Posted by sandraleigh

I guess I have been selfish in the past, but what do you do if you don't like the name you DH picks?!? Just suck it up? LOL, I guess I will have to!

This is why we have nick names right hahahah! If Dh picks John and you hate it call him something else

No really though, dh and I have always "agreed" to some extent. Or he just gets sick of me bringing it up and just agrees to shut me up haha

with DS we had a mutually agreed upon list of 3 names we both liked when we went to the hospital.. in all honesty it was my favourite name, his favourite name and a name we both liked... and we went with my favourite name because it suited him best. mind you neither of us hated any of the names and we have similar tastes in names so that helped (the list was Paxton- my fave, Parker- his fave and Brayden- mutual name) we used DH's name as DS middle name so that pleased him.

with DD.. both agreed that we didnt want a super girly name.. we both realized early on that we liked gender neutral names. so we had her name picked as soon as we found out she was a girl. i suggested a few names that i liked that were gender neutral and he picked which one he liked and we went with that. i wrote them down in a list and he went over them and said "yes, no, no, no, not happening.. " so thats how we work thru names lol.

now if we ever have a 3rd.. still up for debate lol... my only requirement is that it has to end in "n" like the other two... and i guess we should probably pick another gender neutral name for a girl.. but other than that.. i think we would just do the same thing... make a list and see what strikes us.


you and your DH could just look over name books and each make a list and see if any names are on both lists... who knows maybe he'll come up with something you would have never thought of and you'll love it!!

With DS#4 my DH outright admitted that I was/could name the baby anything because ultimately it was my choice. All he wanted was the middle name tradition of his family to continue.

That didn't really happen but we used the name in DS#4 name. I always loved the name Rourke and every time I brought it up DH kind of brushed it off. When I was 12 weeks I 'KNEW' it was a boy. I told DH that I liked William Rourke and we would call him Rourke and he agreed it was a great name...weird but I was overjoyed!

When we get preggo again I already know what we will call boy #5. I doubt we will ever have a girl so I don't even think about girl names so much but I LOVE the name Winter and January but DH said no names that are real things. Funny though, he always says when we have 'little Winnie (short for Winter)..." I tell him to stuff it because no girl gets produced in this house. lol

DH and I always agree, but it is funny because for both boys' names Orion and Griffin, I picked them and in the beginning DH disliked both of them, but over time he grew to love them. We do traditional family names for middle names (Orions mn is DH's mn and DHs grandpa's name while Griffin's mn is my father and grandfathers first name)

For our third we are really duking it out for a boy name, he wants Sirius or Tyrion and I want Ronin. I HATE the names he has picked, and I am reallllly close to veto-ing. DH and I each get to veto names if we truly despise them... so we always by the end seem to come to an agreement. Neither boy has a name that we both didn't love and agree upon, but the veto power is key so neither of us feels like the other "picked" the name, its a joint decision.

Me and DH always agree in the end. Normally, he comes up with his list of favs and I don't like any of them and then I come up with my list of favs and he doesn't like any of them... but we go from there.

Baby #1 I had bugged him to DEATH about naming her Kaelyn Jade. Before I even got pregnant, I "knew" that was her name. Haha! Then once I found out she was a girl, I came across the name Emery, and Kaelyn was history. At first, DH didn't like Emorie... but after I said it a billion times, I guess it grew on him

Baby #2 was torture for both of us. He had a list (that I HATED), and I had a list (that he HATED) and neither of us was going to budge. Ada was the only name we both liked, so we went with it.... and I mean ONLY NAME. We literally went through baby books crossing out and highlighting each name.

If it were my choice, she probably would have been Carlin... but I'm glad she's Ada. In the end, I could never be confident in my decision without his full approval.

We agreed on names... though I was the one who actually suggested them LOL Our first names (Janessa and Culin) I had picked out LONG before dh was ever in the picture and, thankfully, he liked them or he would've had a fight on his hands (especially for Culin with it being my grandmother's maiden name) LOL Middle names I was also the one who suggested them... and he agreed to them. Except, if dd had been a boy, while she would've been "Culin", one of the middle names would've been "Herb" (not a fan of it but it was my grampa's name)... however by the time ds was going to be born dh had totally veto'd the idea of using "Herb". Our biggest struggle was coming up with a girl name in case ds had been a girl... the only one I came close to REALLY loving was "Elaina" and initially dh was totally against it but eventually he did agree when I told him that that was the only one I could come up with that I really liked It's a good thing we aren't having any more kids... I don't know what I'd do... I wouldn't have minded naming a boy "Morgan" (also a family name) if we'd had 2 boys but he doesn't like that one either LOL

We have mutually agreed. DD was my suggestion, after him, Brian Lee, so I came up with Brilee. I think he worried at first that it was vain, but I convinced him that was her name. We always use family names for middle names, rotating sides. DS, he suggested Tucker and I liked it. With the twins, we both liked Abram, I picked it out years before he was in the pick, but he actually suggested it this time (I'm sure we discussed it in the past). And I picked Wyatt. He was not a huge fan, but nothing else was coming up that worked either, and Wyatt definitely fits him now. The kids also picked it, because once they heard me mention it to someone, they would not let it go, and they did NOT like Abram at all, so we had to go with one they liked. lol

I had to LOL because I changed all my kids names after seeing them and after all the daddy did not tell me no.

Such a dilemma Sandra I forgot you were having another. I realized that we both bought Lime Ricki swimsuits when they were on that good sale and neither of us will be able to wear them this summer!
Back on the topic, with miss Peyton, dh had picked out Peyton and I picked out Beth for the middle, so it was kind of mutual. We never really settled on a boy name, good thing she was a girl.
This time we aren't finding out again, I have chosen Brinley Noelle for a girl and he chose Calvin Brock for a boy. I still like Calvin Lucas better, but he won't budge, some reason he's stuck on Brock. I am 99% convinced its a boy, so he pretty much has named both.