Have you gotten any comments from others about you babywearing? Share the good, the bad, and the funny!
Ha. I used to get A LOT of comments when I was wearing my peanut in the ring sling--like seriously almost every time I left the house. They were almost ALL good, except for one lady who didn't speak english and we ended up miming our concerns and reassurances to each other in the checkout line at the grocery store
Mostly it was just compliments on how pretty it was and how comfortable and convenient it looked. A few favorites included an uncle who kept (lovingly) calling her my "bag baby" and some African ladies I ran into at Ross who were all excited to see someone carrying a baby the way they did at home (I don't remember what country they said they were from, but they were very friendly about it! They said they switch them to a back carry around four months; DD was just turning 4 months at the time.)
I have never gotten any comments in the Ergo, though. I guess SSCs are common enough these days not to warrant too much attention.
Erin has me convinced that Tuscon is a great crunchy city!
Today I had the cashier at Walmart ask me how many times DS has fallen out of the carrier (none lol). Since moving here last month I've gotten more comments than ever before! I've had TWO different ladies go running across parking lots yelling for me to stop what I'm doing/omg!!!! as they see me flip DS on my back. By the time they reached us both times, DS was happy on my back. lol.
Oh! In Del Rio I did have a guy stop his truck in the middle of the street and yell out his window, "Did you know you have a baby on your back?!" I was walking across the commissary parking lot. Not in the road or even on the sidewalk.
I have had a lot of people ask me where to find the carriers they see me wearing. If it's a buckle carrier I usually tell them about Ergo even if I'm wearing a Bamberoo because it's so much easier to find. Though people get turned off when I tell them that they'd have to find it online. There are no stores here or in Del Rio that sell them.
I can't think of any unique comments at the moment but more than one old lady has sprinted across the parking lot to "help" me get Teagan up into a back carry. I think they're just looking for an excuse to touch her
I had some old ladies at the markets say what a great idea they were and it almost made them want to go back and have more (jokingly seeing as they were around 60+) because it looked so much easier to get things done at home than it was when they had their kids.
I mostly got lots of questions on how and why. When we were living in Angola (Africa) people would often ask if she wasn't hot in there. Mind you, those were the expats. The locals would often comment on how comfortable the Ergo looked compared to the large swaths of fabric they use (they would tie the top corners over their boobs, and the bottom corners over their bellies- it honestly looked SUPER uncomfortable! Sometimes you saw people using the fabric in a ring sling style but just tied.).
I got that A LOT. Probably my second most common comment, after how pretty it was (my Maya Wrap--seriously, with all those colors in it, it kind of did look awesome with almost everything! Babies--the new black? :lol:)
Central Tucson at least is a pretty great crunchy city. Or, more accurately, it's like a small crunchy university town inside a much larger mixed metro area--best of both worlds, IMO.
There's a mom's group here locally. I went to a mom's night out for dinner last night. One mom was expressing difficulty caring for her 4 month old and 2.5 year old. I asked if she had a baby carrier and if not I'd be happy to help her choose one by letting her try my carriers on sometime. I told her how much of a difference it made in my life with just one kid. She told me no thanks and that she wasn't interested in that sort of stuff. Another mom said that you can't wear babies past 6 months anyway so it would be a waste of money. They were shocked when I said that I wear DS all the time at almost 15 months. Makes me sad. I want to spread the BWing love, but I don't know how to it effectively yet apparently!
That's so frustrating! I would think that what you said would appeal to the pragmatist in anybody...huh. Well, her loss!
I agree that is a frustrating response. I see babywearing as the perfect solution to that situation (not that I've ever mothered more than 1).
I finally have something to add here! I was BW at the local starbucks...and an older lady came up to me in line and declared me the "best little Mother in Portland!" She proceeded to talk about how when she was a young Mother, she did a front carry full time until 4 months and then a back carry from then on...and how much it bothers her to see Mother's pushing their babies in huge strollers with ipod headphones in.
I really wish I'd asked her more about where she Mothered (I assume it was in the 1960s or so) and what other's reactions were to her crunchiness! I could be wrong, but I envision the mid 20th century in the US as a pretty stroller-heavy time, thanks to the parenting philosophies that were en vogue back then.
Wow! What a great person to run into!
How silly! Isn't interested "in that sort of stuff" what the heck does that mean??!! The only real well to communicate is to show by example, and even then, some people are just not going to get it! I didn't BW that much with DS, but with having a toddler, plus a little one, OMG, how do you function without BWing???!!
Seriously! Some people's attitudes are so frustrating.
I forgot to add one that I heard last week, "Oh! I didn't know I could wear my Bjorn on my back like that! I can't wait to get home and try that!" :eek: I told her to find an Ergo if she wants to wear on her back because it will be SO SO SO SO SO much more comfortable for her and a bigger baby. At least it was a comment FOR babywearing and not against!
While at the commissary the other day a lady snuck up behind me and tried "helping" me put DS on my back. Scared me to death and it totally messed me up causing a twisted strap!
Yikes! How "helpful"...
I forgot to post this at the time--I almost never get comments (although I do get a few unreadable looks), but last week I was with DD at the playground, pushing her in a swing next to another slightly older little girl, and the girl was staring at the Ergo around my waist. Eventually she pointed and asked her mom "What's that green thing?" Fortunately the mom said "I think that is a carrier for the baby. I used to carry you when you were a little baby too!" and mimed something like a ring sling. We are lucky to live somewhere BW is pretty common!
Aw. That's a cute story!
I got the always amusing (NOT) comment of, "did you know you're being followed?" today. :roll:
Hahaha...see now that seems funny to me, but I'm sure it's only because I don't have to deal with it all the time!
I got a not bad but weird comment today...photo dude at Walgreen's--a guy somewhere in his late 20's early 30's max (I am BAD at guessing people's ages!)--looked at us, pointed to the Ergo, and said "It's been a long time since I've seen one on the back like that." and I said "Oh, haha, yeah, it's great when they're big like this." paid for my stuff, and left. But what I was thinking was "A...long time? Since...what?" Why would a young guy...what? Oh well, who knows!
I have to say, even my SIL, who uses an Ergo, still makes comments about the fact that she thinks her son was happier facing out and that she isn't covinced the Ergo is comfortable at all for kids, because they always seem to have their arms splayed out. She used a Bjorn type/crotch dangler carrier until he got too heavy, and always wore him facing out. She (also a mom who tends toward baby training) doesn't like that he tends to fall asleep in the Ergo, when it's NOT nap time!
I am pretty open with her and share a lot about all kinds of things, but, sometimes I feel like I don't want to cross the line and be like, "Those crotch dangler carriers are not supposed to be good for kids..." I just tell her that I've never noticed my DD seeming uncomfortable, and the fact that she DOES so often fall asleep in there, must mean she IS comfortable. No?
Anyway, it's just funny. She uses the Ergo because it works for him now that he's heavy- as far as her back not hurting and stuff... but it's like she doesn't really want to like it. Weird.
I like to forward THIS LINK on to those who are totally about forward facing and "crotch danglers." It's *really* hard to forward face well (I tried! lol). I don't think there's much, if any, harm in brief wearing like that for brief amounts of time or occasional use (which is all many moms use it for). But if someone is wearing daily or for long amounts of time, it is not ideal.
And I'm obviously rather AP, so I won't get into that sleep training bit. ANY BWing is GREAT no matter how you parent though.
My husband and I FaceTimed my parents tonight and were talking about a couple of incidents back last fall. Both times my husband was wearing DS on his back. One time DH was told by a young single girl at the base club that he needed to take his baby home RIGHT NOW because it wasn't okay for him to be there. Mind you the manager was there and *very* aware that DS was there and well, he was sound asleep! lol. Another was when another girl went up to him and asked if Aiden was breathing. Granted the kid was sound asleep and the hood was up, but she was NOT convinced when DH told her that he could always feel him breathing and that the kid moves every couple of minutes in his sleep. Oh well. AT least my parents were entertained. I think they're becoming more understanding of my BWing. :mrgreen: