Hello all! I posted on here a little bit a few months back, but got very busy to even come on the org at all! My baby Oakley is now 4.5 months! Time is flying! Like I was warned, he is getting big for the moby to be very comfy carrying him--my back is still OK, but he likes to wiggle out of it because it is stretchy. I really want to make a mei tei and I found a great tutorial on it (I sew like a madwoman and I need a new project ;) ) So, my question is, how young can you back carry a baby in a mei tei?
Also....I have been using our hiking pack--really cheap one I got at a yard sale for $5 years ago-no bells or whistles, but it has worked for all of our kids on hikes. He likes it, but it isn't very comfy looking when he falls asleep in it, and its really big with the frame. He likes it, and he likes me to back carry him, but he also LOVE to pull my hair at the base of my neck. Will a back carry in a different wrap get him lower or his arms less able to reach my hair when I pull it up. Right now, even a high bun keeps him in reach of the nape of my neck... :/
But basically, whenever I do any walking or go anywhere, he is in the moby because he hates a stroller. I guess I got him used to being carried ;)
ETA im borrowing my friends ergo for a zoo field trip tomorrow for my oldest--can he back carry in that at 4.5 months? he has great head/neck/back control and is great at sitting on my hip as i carry him around the house now
You can definitely do a back carry in a mei tai right now as long he has good neck control (which the majority do have great head control by now)! When sewing the MT do your research first - you want to make sure the straps go into the body, have "boxes", etc for safety. I only mention this because Lenny Lamb recently recalled their mei tai because they couldn't manage to follow basic mei tai sewing as a big company and babies have falling from ripped carriers (so far all have been safe!).
As far as Ergo goes, he may be too small still just because of the carrier size. Definitely need to test it out first. At 6 months old I was just comfortable with DS in the Ergo because of how much he just seemed to sink in it at the time - and he wasn't a small baby for the age! You can try it, just know that it may not be a good fit just yet.
For the hair thing, I keep DS arms in the carrier as much as possible. Hair pulling in a back carry is a phase though. DS can easily get his arms out no matter what at 19 months now, but rarely pulls my hair. As long as I stayed moving (or if there was enough action around me) he was distracted enough to leave my hair alone. The downside to arms in? DS likes to tickle my arms pits and sides. :lol:
DS at 6 months in our Ergo:
ETA...MT back carry photos from way back:
Yes, you can back carry as soon as they have enough neck and body control, so 4.5 months would work.
I have an O&A which has an infant insert sewn in. I wore DD at 4 months and she was a tiny baby (10%ile) because the insert props them up higher in the carrier so they aren't sinking too far.
I also agree the hair pulling is a phase. Try giving him a soft toy or stuffie to hang onto. sometimes that works.
Thanks for the helpful responses!
I did pick up my friends ergo tonight and tried it out at cub scout pack meeting (olympics at the park!). It seemed to work just fine--front carry though. I had dh help me try a back carry--wow, so comfy! But I won't be using back carry at the zoo on my own. Mainly I've used the backpack for things around the house, but I don't feel I can do ANY bending with it, even though it has some rinky-dink shoulder straps (this is a very old evenflo backpack-super basic). But in that, his arms have nowhere to go but up out of the carrier. And he is still small for it, so he ends up sucking on the top rim of that. But the ergo on my back, he couldn't get my hair :D Definite plus! But I actually am not sure I like the ergo's position of the straps on the front carry--I wish they had a crossing option! It seems to dig into the backs of my armpits/shoulders in the front carry.
As for the DIY, I do plan to use a lot of caution when making it. I found a DIY pattern online I was going to try. And it does have support stitching on the straps etc. How does this look to you experts? http://www.stilllearninglife.com/200...-tutorial.html
But the field trip to the zoo is tomorrow so I obviously don't have time to make this for that, so I'm going to use the ergo--it was comfy enough once I got it better adjusted so it didn't dig my arms so bad and he was very comfy in it for the 1.5 hour I used it tonight.
The Ergo is just so-so for front carries, but really shines with back carries!
It has the x-boxes which is good for the shoulder straps! I'm not sewer at all, just know that you'll see that with all the good mainstream MTs. :)
I love my O&A for front carries because of the cross strapping on my back! :) But yes, back carries are my favorite regardless!
Oh my gosh, I had to carry my almost-2yo (~30lbs) in a front carry in the Ergo on Sunday for bit because she fell asleep on me on an airplane and it was the only way to keep her asleep...PAIN!!!!!!! But on the back I can still carry her for hours, no problem. Once you get a little practice, you'll be fine doing back carries by yourself (not for this trip, obviously, but he's plenty big to get started!) I started off doing it over a bed or couch and gradually got more confident. I can't do the superman over the head thing some people do, but I just put her on my hip, scoot her around all the way onto my back while I lean forward to keep her there, and then quickly pull the Ergo up over her back.
GL! Oh, and if you sew, sewing MeiTais is super easy--I made two. Just make sure you DON'T SKIMP on the width or padding in the straps. I did, and that's why we almost never used them :(