Hi! I'm new to this board and looking for some advice...
I'm expect baby #5 in a few months and want to get some sort of carrier so I can have an extra free hand when out and about, rather than lugging the infant bucket seat around. It needs to be something easy to use since baby will be in and out multiple times if we're running errands. Comfortable for me to use for longer periods of time. And it would be nice if DH could use it too.
My only experience with carriers is with a basic pouch sling. I liked it but find it a bit uncomfortable to wear for long periods of time and not super supportive if I'm doing something a little more active with the kids (like pushing someone on a swing or something like that).
I've looked at a few... ergo, beco, baby bjorn... But, am not sure which would suit me best or if there is something better out there???
Similar to pouch slings are ring slings. The difference is that you can adjust ring slings to get a much better fit which means they're more comfortable for many. It is still a one shoulder carry. (more about ring slings)
Another carrier that can be used with newborns and works great with bigger babies is the mei tai. There are a lot of good mei tai brands out there that can totally be used, but the one that is easiest to use with newborns IMO is Mei Tai Baby because it has snaps to make the carrier body smaller. It's a two shoulder carry and while it has long straps it's much easier to use than a wrap. (more about mei tais)
I recommend staying away from Infantino and Bjorn since many don't hold a baby in a good position for their hips. For the same if not less money, you can get a better quality carrier that will be comfortable beyond 15 pounds (despite what those carriers claim most people find them very uncomfortable before 20 pounds).
Check out the links I've given you if you haven't yet. The best carrier is one that fits the baby properly and one that you like (and therefore more apt to use!).
~Jackie, mommy to Aiden (11/2/10) and Zoe (VBAC 11/27/12)
Hey Kris, I never post here but lurk here because I still wear my fatty ~ Get a Babyhawk. Get a double sided one with two pouches if you feel like splurging, mine had a more feminine side and a more masculine side. My newborns grew up in them (baby #2 and #3, I didn't have it with #1) and swear that it is the easiest thing ever. I'm little and honestly found the MOBY to be great, but only at home or somewhere where it was clean and easy to put it on and not hot (i.e not in a parking lot in July).....and pouch and ring slings could do the trick on occasion but not with the ease and mindlessness that my mei tai could. Good luck, friend. Seriously can't rave enough about a babyhawk for ease, flexibility (I used mine to nurse while at the zoo or store or in public all the time) and durability ~ they are great. I swear they are why babies 2 and 3 were so easy ~ they were constantly attached to my body!
I personally love my Moby, but I agree it is harder to put on. I have 3 other kids, and it can be a pain to put it on. If I'm going to run errands and know it will be easier to wear him, I will put the moby on at home and wear it while I am out, under my coat. Then I can just leave it on in the car--a quick readjustment if necessary and then pop baby in when we get there. It is comfy! But it also never gets hot here and when he gets big, it will be too stretchy, I've heard. But I am inheriting a mai-tai and an ergo, so I'll have to try those out when I get them But for now, ds has lived in my moby, so it was well worth the $15 I paid for it off craigslist.
I personally loved my ring sling and found it extremely fast and easy once I learned how to use it, and comfortable for long periods of time until DD was about 6 months, at which point an Ergo became better for us. I hated pouches and was frustrated with mei tais and SSCs until DD got a little bigger than newborn (3-4 months).
The Moby I found to be way too much work to put on (even with the tricks I learned), but I can see the appeal in the way it fits and holds the baby--if I were to have another one, I might check out the Baby K'tan, which is like a Moby on your body but kind of pre-formed so that you don't have to do any wrapping (and no dragging of fabric through dirty parking lots, either)
Ditto everything Jackie and Leigh said. I highly recommend a ring sling for NB BWing, especially if you plan to BF. It is incredibly easy to nurse while carrying baby in a ringsling whereas I've had great difficulty figuring out how to nurse in my Moby, Mai Tei and SSCs. They are highly adaptable and as a bonus they come in pretty colors .
Thanks so much for all the replies! Now I've got a bunch more questions
Ring slings sound like a favorite... and they do look easy and comfy for a newborn. My concern is about them being one-shouldered. Can I really wear it for a long time? Like walking around a museum for a couple hours or while standing and watching a kids soccer game? At what weight do they get awkward at? Also, I'm leaning toward something hands free. I've got a good pouch sling, but with that I always feel like I need to keep a hand on it. Will I need to do that with the ring sling too? Suggestions for good brands?
Mei teis... Are they the same as a BabyHawk?... They look great! Easy to use and long lasting. Are they good for brand new babes too?
Good to know about the Bjorn and Infantino leg positions. I think I've heard that before now that you mention it.
Anyone use the ergo (or anything similar) with a newborn?
Oh and I don't think bfing in any carrier will work for me. I'm large chested and it is pretty much a two handed affair to keep baby latched and not smothered Although the tail of the ring sling would be nice for privacy.
Ring slings are truly hands free if you wear them in the normal position. I posted a photo on here somewhere...anyway, for me it wasn't 100% hand free (maybe like 80%) because my DD insisted on being carried in cradle position only, but she was weird. For most people yes, they are hands free. And yes, I wore her for hours and hours at a time in that thing. As for brand, I had a Maya Wrap--it has a wide, padded shoulder so it really was very comfortable until she got too heavy. I know it was 6 months but I'm trying to remember pounds...maybe 20? She's always been about 50th percentile in weight, so an average 6 month old is a good frame of reference. And yeah, the tail is really nice as a nursing cover! You might be surprised at how easy it is to nurse in them, too...perhaps it would at least make it a one-handed affair for you, rather than two
SSCs like the Ergo are just not really good for tiny newborns. They're POSSIBLE to use if they come with an infant insert, but definitely not ideal, if you have a choice. Once baby has head control around 3-4 months, then they are great. Same with mei tais...they're better than SSCs because they're more adjustable, but still I don't think they quite have the head support that wraps and ring slings do.
I love my ring sling and do wear it for hours with no discomfort. I also have maya wrap brand. I really like a moby too. I agree with Leigh that ergos and mei tais are just not the best for newborns. I even have the infant insert for my ergo but still do not feel comfortable with a newborn in it. I like my erog starting around 3-4 months.
DS Ethan 1/29/08,
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DS2 Weston 2/18/12