Clingy-pants toddler

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Clingy-pants toddler

Teagan has been refusing to be worn a lot lately. She's demanding that I carry her on my left hip and only my left hip. What gives? She's been going through this really clingy phase along with a new found fear of heights. I think the fear of heights thing is contributing to her not wanting to be worn on my back. But that's the only way I can stand to wear her! Help!

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Yikes. Can you at least do a RS hip carry? I can't really stand those for long, and with your back you probably can't either, but maybe better than actually having to carry her around on your hip?

I have been really resistant to carrying Adair around in my arms any more than absolutely necessary lately. She's just getting so HEAVY. 30 lbs gets tired fast!

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Ummmm.....buy a ring sling? Blum 3 It'll help with her weight some and you want a colorful one for future baby (Sprog? lol) anyway. Wink

I can't arm carry Aiden much at all. Maybe 5 minutes and I'm completely done. I last longer with a ring sling - even one not meant for toddler weights! Back carries? I'm good for at least an hour. These kiddos are getting too big.

Chances are it's a phases and she'll be over it shortly. ((hugs))

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My SIL has my RS and there's no way DH will let me get a new one right now. I highly doubt I'll be able to convince DH that we need it for Sprog. I'm just at a loss as to why she's suddenly so resistant. I wonder if I can start her out on my hip with the Ergo supporting her and then kinda stealthily move her around?

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Little Bird has some really pretty cotton ones for $45, not too bad. I'd lend you mine but it's already been gifted to my preggo friend.

Since we're talking hip carry with a toddler here and not infant carrying, though, you could seriously just go buy a few yards of some cheap fabric and tie it on. You don't even have to sew it. Just anything to help support her weight and give your arm a break!

And mainly, yes, hopefully it's a short-lived stage. I would imagine so. But annoying in the meantime!!!

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Hmmm. Maybe I can fashion something.

When is she due? Soon, right? Are you throwing her a shower?

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Great point Leigh! It's called rebozo. As long as it's not stretchy fabric, you can tie it and even adjust it (though it's kinda backwards compared to ring slings in the way it adjusts).
Let me find a video....
Babywearing :: Rebozo Hip Carry video by PixieCurl - Photobucket

And I'm guessing you don't keep random sling rings hanging around your house like me.....:lol:

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"alwayssmile" wrote:

Great point Leigh! It's called rebozo. As long as it's not stretchy fabric, you can tie it and even adjust it (though it's kinda backwards compared to ring slings in the way it adjusts).
Let me find a video....
Babywearing :: Rebozo Hip Carry video by PixieCurl - Photobucket

And I'm guessing you don't keep random sling rings hanging around your house like me.....:lol:

How many yards do you think I need? And can I really just use whatever fabric so long as its not stretchy?

I WISH I just had carriers lying around the house. I did ... then I sent them away.

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Shorties are usually 2.2-3.2 meters long. 2.2 is a super shorty with 3.2 being a long shorty and 2.7 being an average shorty. 3.2 m would be a long tail, but you could also back carry with it (that's the length of my blue wrap). But a rebozo you'd want more like 2.5, 2.7 I'm guessing.
I'd feel things up and just go with comfort. You want *some* diagonal give for comfort, but not all way give like jersey. Does that make sense? Too rigid and it won't mold well. Osanaburg is supposed to be the closest to a german style weave (it does break in fast and is comfortable), but it's just an ugly neutral color (people tend to dye them).
Random thought - people use tablecloths as shorties. Just needs to be a type of woven fabric.

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Hmmmmmm. I may have a table cloth that will work!

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I bet the white one I have from my wedding would work as a shorty. ROFL

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I tried one of my table cloths (OK, my only table cloth)! Its far too wide and folding it width wise makes it really heavy and difficult to deal with. It would be tons easier with a narrower piece of cloth. T liked it! My back did start bugging me though. I think it was primarily because I couldn't get the hold quite right with the table cloth. The fabric is a little to slippery and the knot was way too big. Anyway, pics of my first wrapping adventure.

Mom with snuggly toddler.

Pic of the side.

A blurry pic to show the length of the tail.

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Yes, you will want to cut any table cloth or warp in half more than likely unless it's really thin. Tablecloths are not thin. Wink I'd say about 25-30" wide. I like 30" for toddlers, but 25" works.

BTW, you did a GREAT job for a first attempt with a table cloth folded in half!

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I'm super late to this party... but, have you tried the Ergo hip carry? I know not many people do it, but it does exist, right? Good job on the table cloth though. Smile I wish I had access- I have TWO slings back home (a mesh and my Maya) that I am not using right now. I would so happily lend them to you!

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Also, you have not replied to me about your TTC plans. Obviously, I deserve to know. Smile

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I've done awkward hip carries with the Ergo. It's not my favorite thing to do.

Mara, the plan right now is to start trying to catch that eggy at the end of next month!

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"TiggersMommy" wrote:

I've done awkward hip carries with the Ergo. It's not my favorite thing to do.

Mara, the plan right now is to start trying to catch that eggy at the end of next month!

Wahooo!!! How exciting!

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"TiggersMommy" wrote:

When is she due? Soon, right? Are you throwing her a shower?

September 20, so yes, soon! She is doing great...still feeling fine and in no rush for showtime. She was starting to feel like that was weird because people keep giving her natural induction tips but I said are you kidding? You feel fine and you're not anxious? EMBRACE IT. That's awesome! I'm not throwing her a traditional shower--we ended up doing a "send a bead" thing with all her scattered friends and family, which ended up being PERFECT. Now she has a beautiful string of love and well wishes to bring to her birth and feel inspired by. I've given her a truckload of hand me downs and her mom has bought up 3/4 of the registry so...they're good. Smile

"alwayssmile" wrote:

Yes, you will want to cut any table cloth or warp in half more than likely unless it's really thin. Tablecloths are not thin. Wink I'd say about 25-30" wide. I like 30" for toddlers, but 25" works.

BTW, you did a GREAT job for a first attempt with a table cloth folded in half!

Yes to both! You could get a cheap-o tablecloth at Ross or even a thrift store if you don't want to cut that one. It does look good, though! Nice job!

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hmmm, I might have to try this! I'm having the same problem with Olivia not wanting to be worn, but being very clingy!

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Are we going to end up with a thread of "check out my tablecloth!" soon? Lol

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"alwayssmile" wrote:

Are we going to end up with a thread of "check out my tablecloth!" soon? Lol

ROFL Well it could fall under DIY, no? Don't we have a thread for that? I made a RS out of an old sarong once, but I was brand new to BW and had no idea what I was doing, so there is no padding on the shoulder and the rings are WAY too small. It worked a couple of times in a pinch, though!

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"alwayssmile" wrote:

Are we going to end up with a thread of "check out my tablecloth!" soon? Lol

LOL!

Had the same problem today, Olivia refused to be worn at the grocery store. Put her in the cart and wore DS for a couple aisles until he asked to walk instead. He did okay. guess when I have 3 that is what I'll do, walk DS, cart DD and wear baby? OMG I am going to hate grocery shopping with three kids!

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Yeah, that doesn't sound like fun! Right now I'm thinking that'll be the one time I'll tandem wear - grocery shopping! I've actually been on the hunt (and think I've found!) a cross body bag that will work for 2 kids in cloth and hold a small wrap or ring sling too. This way I can't be caught without a carrier!