I think I have vented about DH's family before and almost did after what happened on Sunday but today I am really having a hard time keeping my mouth shut. DH's family is going on FB talking about Joshua and saying things like everyone should pray and what not and it's driving me crazy! They will not drive up here to see us. DH always has to take Joshua down there to see them. I want to tell them to shut the f up! All they do is talk, never put their money where their mouth is. They are always complaining about not having any but we are not in any better of a financial situation than they are yet DH still makes the drive there. We once even offered to pay for their gas and they still wouldn't come!
It's not fair to Joshua that he only have my mom, she is the only extended family that really spends time with him. They're on there talking about how sad they are and about his negative diagnosis and that almost put me through the roof. SIL moved last year to within an hour's drive of us, MIL is ALWAYS going over there, she has $ to drive over there but not to drive up here? She has $ to spend on 2 new lawnmowers (the first she claims didn't cut her grass well enough so spent $200 on a new one) and buy Joshua tons of stuff for his easter basket but she can't put a little bit in her tank to drive up here. That's I think what really makes me mad. SIL's kids have 3 grandparents that they see all the time and Joshua only sees MIL about once a month. Yet MIL is always babysitting for SIL. She hasn't babysat Joshua since he was 2 months old. In fact DH & I have not been out by ourselves in that long because we can't really afford a babysitter and we aren't sure how Joshua would do with one either but mostly the first. DH even asked MIL if she would come up one weekend to watch Joshua and she said she'd think about it, she claims her car wouldn't make it up here mostly because none of them take care of their vehicles. I was just so close to saying something when I read the 4th person in his family making a comment about Joshua.
Oh and Sunday DH was gone all day simply because the story is that someone forgot to start the food on time and I was furious at DH and he doesn't get why. At first they said they wanted to have it a 4 then they changed it to 12 but then supposedly forgot to start the food, not sure I'm buying it. He refused to leave when I asked him to and got home just in time to give Joshua a bath. Joshua's whole schedule was off because he napped late on the way there, took a short nap while he was there and then went to bed late that night. They don't get it, he had a full week this week and last week he was off of school. Perfect time to screw up his routine! SIL's baby just falls asleep on the floor when she's tired and SIL is always posting photos of the baby sleeping on the floor, in her highchair and in her walker.
Hugs. I hate to say it but my IL's where the same when I was married and still are. I call them the paper grandparents. They love to show off pics of the kids and buy them things and send them stuff but visits not so much. Once Peter was about 3 they got a tad better but even then a few hours on a weekend they where happy to read books at the side of the pool and watch me swim with me and not interact themself. I moved to NY 10 months ago and they have been in NY 4 times since and have only come once to see them and only stayed 1 hour!!! And they did not even play with them they just watched them play outside with firends like it was a normal day and the grandparents where not here form 1150 miles away!! They never call to talk to them or anything and yet they are always sending the kids liek EAster cards that say "we miss you so much" Well then call dam it!! PITA and oh Heath with all his needs they just can't deal with at all but are always saying how "sorry they are that he is sick" like he is the sickness and not a person, and treat him like they can catch it from him
That really stinks. Do they have other grandkids? Part of what bothers me so much is the obvious favoring she does of SIL's kids especially in our case when all SIL deals with is her son's ADHD and we have so much more to deal with. AND she works as an OT in the school district. She is NOT an OT but got some training so now she calls herself one. She's only got a 2 year teaching degree. But she works with kids with all kinds of problems, maybe it's too close to home for her with Joshua but it's not fair. I told DH he better talk to her or I will be sending her an e-mail because I'm beyond tired of the BS.
3 in FL that during the 7 years I was married they did not visit once because "We live in GA" and they had a falling out with the mother. But after the divorce and I moved my kids to NY and the contact stopped all of a sudden with my kids. I heard that they have been to FL twice to see "the grandchildren." So yea they visit who is close?