***Beth's (sweetmonkey's) Birth lodge!!!***

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***Beth's (sweetmonkey's) Birth lodge!!!***

Welcome to your lodge, Beth! I'm glad I get to be the one to start it for ya, birth buddy! Looking forward to following your journey.

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Welcome to your lodge, can't wait to follow your journey.

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome to your lodge! I look forward to following it:)

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Ack! I can't believe I have a lodge!!!!

Okay, I am working on my intro. . . be back later. I actually gave in and we got Rock Band 2 for DH as an early birthday present (March) since I figure between his first year of teaching and a new baby it may be a while before he would get to enjoy it. So friends are over and we are playing. I was just checking the boards while others are playing. Wink

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Introduction and Background, Part 1 . . .

Hi everyone! I am kinda new here but have loved every minute I have spent on the board since I found it.

My name is Beth. I live in Abilene, Texas which is a relatively small town in west Texas with three universities and an air force base. As far as natural birthing goes, it feels a little like a desert!

I grew up in Bethany, Oklahoma, a quaint little suburb of Oklahoma City. I met Mike (my future husband) in 7th grade Brass class (band). I play French horn and he plays trombone. We were in most of the same honors classes together throughout middle school and high school but we were definitely not "friends." He was really smart and solitary (read: scary intense loner!) and I was pretty smart but more interested in having fun (read: being cool- LOL!). This continued until we were juniors in high school. We were in AP English, worked on a project together and became friends. We were also in band, chemistry, history, and precalc together and were both in the running for valedictorian. We had a lot of similar interests and I started "noticing" him more. We started dating a few months later. It wasn't very serious and we had lots of mutual friends so we did lots of things with all of them. When we started looking at colleges, it seemed like that would be the end of our relationship. I was wholeheartedly planning to go to Oklahoma State University and majoring in chemical engineering. Mike's parents were pushing for him to go to Oklahoma Christian. I went to visit Abilene Christian University on a whim with a friend from church and really liked it. Mike was also being recruited by them as he was a National Merit scholar. Surprisingly, their sciences were really solid (almost shocking for a "church" school). I kind of put it in the back of my mind and kept plugging away at school. Mike and I ended up being co-valedictorians having had identical GPA's since 7th grade. It was pretty neat! After graduation, I was offered full rides to both ACU and OSU and had to make the hard decision. Mike was looking heavily at OU and ACU. We both kind of picked independently and it was good. We both chose ACU.

In college, we had some ups and downs, but were mostly very happy together. Our course loads were hard. I was a math and chemistry major. Mike was a computer science and physics guy. We finally got engaged New Years Day in 2000. We were juniors in college and had been dating 4 long years. We opted for a short engagement and got married May 21, 2000. It was great!

Our first year of marriage was crazy!!! Right after getting married, we moved to Los Alamos, New Mexico so Mike could do research at the National Laboratory there. It was the summer of "the fire" and we spent a lot of time helping residents clean up the mess left behind. One day, while climbing some steps down the canyon behind the house where we were renting a room, I fell and shattered my ankle. I was in denial because we had no insurance. (We had just received the statement saying they had declined our coverage on the policy to which we had made application.) I sucked it up and got an air cast and splinted my foot and walked on it until the summer was over. I returned to Abilene 2 weeks before Mike to open the dorm. I was an assistant dorm director in a freshman girl's dormitory with 350 almost or newly adults. It quickly became apparent to my boss that I needed to be seen so I was sent over to the campus doctor. He sent me immediately for X-rays. It was much worse than even I had suspected. I had a 6 inch spiral fracture of the fibula, a tibia/fibula fracture where they join at the ankle, an assortment of chips in the ankle and heel, and some ligament and tendon damage thrown in for good measure. It was during and after this surgery that I also learned that I am just a bad candidate for most narcotic pain relievers. This was my third surgery and my third severe reaction to various pain medications. I quickly switched back to just Tylenol and Motrin. I spent a few months in a wheel chair (after having had tendonitis surgery in my wrist 6 months before) and it was really funny "bonding" with my new husband. We survived and I recovered pretty well- better than anyone expected!

More in Part 2. . .;)

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Congrats and welcome to your lodge!!

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WOW, quite a story! I can't believe you and your DH have known each other for so long. That is really neat. Looking forward to your lodge and more reading!

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That is impressive! Since 7th grade. Looking forward to reading part 2...:D

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Introduction and Background, Part 2 . . .

In October 2001, I got to travel with Mike to Hawaii where he presented his research and he was being pulled hard towards physics. We spent the following summer at Brookhaven National Laboratory on Long Island, NY. That sealed our fate as it turned out! After college, Mike decided to go to grad school at the University of Texas in High Energy Physics. We packed up and moved to Austin where we spent 6 very wonderful years (and where we had our beautiful little girl, Molly). I was lucky enough to find a job in chemistry that combined my talents with my passions - Cosmetic Chemistry! I became addicted to facials my senior year of college when a friend and I went at least monthly to be pampered at the local beauty school for $15. (They are still some of the best facials I have ever had, and I have had many and from some of the best spas in the country!) I worked for a small company for 3 years as their head cosmetic Chemist where I was in charge of production, research and development, and education. It was the perfect job for me - until I got pregnant.

The timing was not great for us. We had literally just closed on our condo the day before I found out. Looking back, I should have seen the signs perhaps, but I was so busy I missed them. I woke up one morning and realized that I was a little late (which was not uncommon for me to have long cycles) but I was charting so I started counting days since ovulation. I counted 17. That was longer than I had ever gone before. I looked again at our dates and we had celebrated Mikes birthday 3 days before I ovulated. Hmmm. I thought I had better be safe and go grab a test. I bought it and went to work 2 hours early. I took the test and waited. It was positive. I went and sat at my desk and stared at the screen. I was still there when a coworker arrived. (She had a 2 year old and was trying to concieve for about 5 months.) She asked me what was wrong and I started to cry and she immediately said, "Omigosh! Are you pregnant? Youa re aren't you!" I bawled. We sat and talked and then as my boss was puling into the paring lot she sent me to go wash my face and she went to go clock us in. I sort of floated through work that day and left a little early to go tell Mike. He was painting our new bedroom with a friend of ours. They asked me if I wanted to help and I declined and went to sit by the open window. Our friend wisely sensed the storm coming and left pretty quickly. Mike asked me what was wrong and I looked at him and calmly said, "I think I am pregnant." He said, "Why do you think that?" I said, "Because the test said so." He looked at me for a long moment and asked, "When were you planning to tell me?" I explained that I had only just found out myself and that I had grabbed the test on the way to work. He then went to the bathroom and closed the door. I heard distinct wretching sounds, toilet flushing, then I heard the shower. He reemerged about 20 minute later and we just hugged each other an cried. It was both terrifying and sweet.

As I was a production chemist, I had to tell my boss right away. My boss sort of freaked out when I told him about the baby. In very colorful, foul, and hurtful language, he told me how irresponsible and inconsiderate it was for me to get pregnant. He suggested that there were things I could do to take care of it. :eek: I quit a little less than 3 months later, ironically the same day that my coworker quit as well since she had seen how it would be if she was successful in getting pregnant. It was a big gamble for us, but I had had some early high blood pressure readings, apparently stress related due to my suddenly very unfriendly work environment. After I quit, I was sad and also relieved, and my blood pressure stabilized and never went up again. All in all, it was a great decision to leave that job despite the fact that we were going to be taking out student loans for the first time ever.

After Molly was born we had a very bad head-on collision on Christmas Eve 2004 as we were headed to Christmas Eve service. (Some of you will remember this as the days it snowed in Galveston.) Molly was 3 weeks old. A man had passed out behind the wheel with his foot on the accelerator and drifted into our lane. He was going over 65 mph when he hit us on a residential street. Our car was totaled. We were devastated. Mike and I were both hurt badly but fortunately none of us sustained life threatening injuries. However, we were very limited in our abilities to care for our infant. Thankfully, Molly was fine! Our mothers took turns coming to stay with us for the next 2 months - driving us to appointments, caring for Molly (It was about 4 weeks before I could carry her and about 6 before Mike could), and helping perform all of the functions of "life." I had the final surgery to repair damage to my shoulder in August 2006 (again with more varied medication reactions!). It took us 2 years to settle with the insurance company, but then it was finally over. We could finally move on.

Also in 2006, I found an add on Craigslist for a bed and bath company that was looking for someone, preferably a stay at home mom, to help with candle production. I emailed back and soon discovered my next job! I went to work for a young lady a few months older than me and helped her reinvision her company. I did work pouring candles, but we also reformulated current products, and began developing new products heading toward an all-natural and organic bath and body company. I was able to take Molly with me and work part time as I was able. My salary was fair but more than money, I was back into the industry I loved! After getting the company settled on a stable track, I reluctantly decided I needed to find a full time job and accepted a teaching position at a small private school teaching life science, health, and physics. I was pretty good at it, but it was hard work! I had 5 classes everyday and it was just so time consuming. (My hats off to all teachers!!!) Molly was able to be on campus with me at the preschool there and I could bring her to class occasionally an see her on my breaks. It was a huge blessing though we did miss a lot of time together. I found out I was expecting again last May, the week before finals. I had just come back from taking my physics classes to Six Flags where I had gotten dizzy and a little motion sick on some of the roller coasters. I got my first (very faintly) positive test 4 days later.

As school was wrapping up, Mike was finishing his dissertation. We put our condo on the market during finals week and it sold 9 days later. We were in a big rush to move and had just decided where we were moving- back to Abilene. It is not what either of us ever would have expected but it turned out to be perfect given the circumstances. He had had a temporary post-doc position offered to him from Yale and the permanent tenure track position from ACU with the option for research. Essentially the pay was the same for both so it was much better for our family to take the permanent position in the much cheaper (though granted, somewhat less desirable) location. Also, in Abilene we would only be 4 hours from both side of our families who still all live in OKC. I was also excited about Mike doing research. Travelling is one of the best perks of a being (or being married to) a physicist. We have been to back NY several times, Florence (leaving a then 16 month old Molly with the Grandmas in OKC), and last year, Mike and I went to India - all of this in addition to our other family vacations around the US. The professors here at ACU all take their families with them for summer research and most of the wives go to the big conferences. We are still really close to many of the professors families that were here when we were in school.

It is very nice here in Abilene and a month after moving here, I found my current employer! I am now working as a consultant for a company called Herban Renewal. I am again helping to improve production, rework existing products, and create new ones. The environment could not be better and the company utilizes Disabilities Resources for production, allowing permanently disabled and mentally impaired people to do something safe and productive to earn money. I love taking Molly out there and seeing her interact and how they love her. It was been wonderful and I can't wait to introduce them all to the new baby!

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What a great intro...thanks for sharing!

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Wow! What a great intro...congrats on your lodge! Can't wait for the rest of the story to unfold for your soon to be newest addition!

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I love your intro! It's so cool that you've known your DH for so long.
Did you have a natural birth with your DD?

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I did have a natural birth with my daughter - or perhaps unmedicated is more accurate. I had several interventions but all minimal. I will try to get the story posted tonight. UT is playing in the Fiesta bowl, so we are watching football. Maybe during halftime. Wink

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Molly's Birth Story

Our first pregnancy was a mix of emotions. Work was difficult for me because of the nature of a production chemist. There were tasks that I needed someone else to perform. My boss was a jerk most days because he could only see how this was bad for the company. I did not have benefits (we were an 8 person company) and did not have FMLA because we were so small. My boss would swear at me regularly about "how f***ing irresponsible and unreliable I was to have gotten pregnant. How could I do this to him and the company?" And how he "couldn't have the laboratory sitting empty waiting for me to get my f***ing a$$ into work after dealing with a kid all night." Mind you, I missed the least number of days per year out of everyone there at around 6 per year. I only missed 2 half days while I was pregnant. I was fastidious about time and worked hard. After 4 months, I could not take any more and my blood pressure had been high from the stress of it all. I turned in my notice the same day my boss layed off our shipping warehouse manager. Unbeknownst to me, the other friend who was trying to conceive and already a mom turned in hers as well- the same day. It was a bad time for my boss (but I did not feel too bad). We took out student loans to make ends meet and I was able to get on Mike's insurance when enrollment came around.

We had started with a midwife but after the early high blood pressures and, later, protein in my urine, it was recommended that we switch to their back-up OB or other natural child birth friendly doc. We interviewed lots of OB's in Austin and liked the birth center's back up doc the best. Even with the midwife transfers, he had the lowest c-section rate we could find. He was also a straight shooter but respected our research and believed woman were strong. He was pretty great. He monitored me closely, but was pretty laid back with treatments. He let me go "past due" since my blood pressure had not risen above 125/80 and that was in early pregnancy. He did not even mention induction or do any vaginal checks. I came in for biophysical profiles once a week after 38 weeks.

Thanksgiving (Nov 25) came and went. My due date (Nov 26) came and went. Nothing. At 40 weeks and 4 days I went to the chiropractor for an appointment. I started having some Braxton Hicks contractions in the evening. They were only slightly regular, but did not go away. Mike and I went to sleep and when I got up to go to the bathroom around 3 am, I noticed a wetter, mucousy feeling. I turned on the light and discovered, I had passed the plug. I was too geared up to sleep, so I got a glass of water, filled the tub, and took a nice long bath. The contractions were steady and fairly close together (about 4 minutes) but still not painful. I decided to wake Mike and talk to him about it. We reread the doctors instructions and since we were past 40 weeks we were supposed to go to the hospital if it was not during office hours. We called our doula and our parents/families in Oklahoma City and set off for the hospital around 5 am. I sang to the radio on the way there. They were playing Christmas music and we were going to have our baby! I was excited, but not uncomfortable. (This should have been a clue. . .!)

In the hospital, they checked me in and started the monitors. The very grumpy nurse zeroed the machine while we were talking, but it was during a contraction. So the only subsequent contractions that were detected were those stronger than the one when she "zeroed' the machine. She declared that I was not in labor and did a quick cervical check. I was still closed but about 80% effaced. I knew this was it, however, we decided we were better off at home than waiting for her shift to change so we went home. When we checked out, the discharge lady asked my husband "Oh, did somebody have a case of the 'falsies?'" He politely smiled and said, "We'll be back." I though he was going to smack her. He is NOT a morning person and it was not quite 6 am. So we called our families back. My mother asked me if I thought I was in labor and I told her I was sure of it. They said they were coming anyway, that I knew better than anyone else.

We went home. I ate some raisin bran and we made love one last time. I took a bath and listened to a hypnosis cd. I "slept" for almost 3 hours and then my family was there. I could only talk to them for a few minutes before retiring back to our room. By this point (about noon) contractions were steadily coming every 3 minutes or a little less and taking all of my focus. We called our doula, Courtney, to come sit with us at home. She arrived about 1 pm and rubbed my back. I wanted to listen to the cd again and I was back in "the zone." At some point, Courtney asked Mike "Is she sleeping? I think she may be asleep." I waited for the contraction to stop and I said "I am NOT sleeping. I am dying!" Courtney asked if we wanted to go back to the hospital. She said the cats were acting funny and I was "settling in." I said that if we were going to go, we should go now, because I did not think it was going to be long. That was a little after 3pm. We called the doc and they wanted to check me in the office. In the car we called back and said we were going straight to the hospital and to let the doctor know. When we arrived, the only wheel chair they had did not have leg rests. It was awful trying to hold my legs up through contractions so they could push me. Finally, we got up to our room and I changed, gave a urine sample, and they started the monitors at about 3:45 pm. Our precious baby was having late decels with each contraction. Her heart rate was falling into the 60-70's each time and only recovering to around 90. They paged my doc to come quickly. I rolled over and we agreed to start an IV to rule out dehydration and get extra oxygen. They checked my cervix and I was "only" a 4. My contractions were hard, long - about a minute and a half to two minutes- and I had less than 20 seconds in between. When my doctor arrived, he confirmed that the baby was in distress and gave us our options: do nothing, have an emergency C-section now, or try internal fetal monitoring and an amnioinfusion in case the baby's head or umbilical cord were being compressed by the strength of my contractions (which were already greater than 90mmHg). We elected to try the amnioinfusion. I also asked for an anesthesia consult in case of a c-section since I have severe narcotic reactions. At 4:25, he ruptured my membranes (thick meconium), attached the internal monitor and oxygen probe to the baby's scalp, and placed the intrauterine pressure catheter (IUPC). He said my cervix was a solid 5 cm so I was definitely progressing. Within a few minutes, they began running a solution of saline water through the catheter to help artificially inflate the uterus (and provide clean fluid for the baby to reduce the risk of meconium aspiration). It worked (and hurt like HE**); the baby's heart rate began to come up steadily. Each contraction had less of a drop and her new baseline was back up to about 115- not great, but not an emergency if I was still progressing. The anesthesiologist came pretty quickly and we agreed that a quick analgesic-only (lidocaine or bupivocaine with no narcotics) spinal would be the best option if I needed a C-section. (Though I was obviously in pain, doc did not offer me anything. Kudos to him!) I was unable to talk for most of this time and only had a few words between each contraction which were now lasting over 2 minutes with less than 15 seconds in between. My husband and our doula were great, asking all of the questions and I only had to nod and grunt! My doctor left about 4:35 to run over to his office and grab the rest of my files and check on another patient facing an induction for pre-eclampsia. Courtney had to run out and call someone to pick up her kids. While she was gone, I was lying pretty much motionless on the bed, trying to breathe through each contraction. Another nurse came in and the two nurses were talking. My nurse made a comment that she had not had any babies that day and would not be around to see this baby born. The other nurse asks when she get off. She says, "Nine." I was devastated. I could not imagine going on like that for 5 more hours. I told Courtney as much when she returned and she asked me if I could just do 5 more contractions. I agreed and we continued. It somehow was easier then. I went back into the "zone."

Shortly after that, I felt nauseous. Now according to my husband and Courtney, I mostly appeared asleep or unconscious except for the low occasional moans. So when I started pulling my oxygen mask off and the nurse was there telling me that I needed to leave it on. I told her I was going to throw up and she handed me the little pink kidney shaped bowl/spittoon. I shook my head and tried to ask for something else, but before I could I vomited all over the nurse, our poor doula, myself, the bed, the floor. . . They were all pretty shocked since I had been lying there so "peacefully" before! The nurse decided to check me again before she left and I was 7 cm. She went to go change her scrubs. Just then the door opens to my room and I heard this simpering sweet voice say, "Knock, kno-ock!" Great, the in-laws were coming on in! :eek: Everyone was covered in vomit. My legs were up and open wide, and IV pole between them, with the cords and catheter taped on my thighs. My bottom was pretty much on display and I was feeling particularly vulnerable and annoyed! My contractions now were continuous and all of them were off the charts (over 200mmHg). Luckily, our doula, Courtney was the closest and she intercepted them very effectively and guided them back out. She also left with them to go change shirts, so Mike and I were alone. It was 4:47. After a few minutes, my contractions let up briefly. I was so relieved! I remember looking up at him for the first time in an hour and smiling.

Then suddenly the "pushing" started. It was like dry heaving, so much pressure! I could not stop it. Courtney came back in and saw what was happening and paged the nurses station. The nurse came and everyone was telling me to just relax and not to push, but I honestly could not control anything at that point. Courtney asked the nurse to check me and she said she would check me in 5 minutes. Courtney calmly looked at her and said, "Maybe you should check her NOW!" She obliged. Another contraction hit while she was checking me and the baby was crowning and there was only a lip of a cervix left. She held it back through the contraction and I was complete. She asked my husband to punch the button and nearly yelled, "I need a doctor in here! Now, now, now, now, now!" About that time, the monitors all went haywire and 2 doctors(blue scrubs), 4 nurses (pretty patterned scrubs), and 9 NICU staff (bright canary yellow) came filing into the room. They put ups the side rails shifted my IV lines and were preparing me for transport, when finally the on-call doc looked at me and said (in his heavy South African accent) "Stop! This baby is coming out vaginally." I was in the middle of a contraction and he started asking for the vacuum. My doctor walks into the room, just in time to do a quick episiotomy (I was never more thankful, my labia was tearing upward!) and catch the baby. He told me just to push, that we weren't going to wait for a contraction. There was blood everywhere and out she came about 10 seconds later. She was born at 5:04 pm November 30, 2004. I briefly saw the baby as they were pulling her out and cutting the cord. She was blue and lifeless (initial APGAR 3) and they whisked her away to the little isolette table. Then she cried! I was sooooooo relieved. One of the doctors asked Mike if he would like to go see her and he got to carry her to the NICU where they did her assesments and suctioned her lungs. The meconium had not made it passed her larynx and vocal cords so she was declared to be just fine.

I was still bleeding profusely, I could actually see it puddling on the floor and one of the nurses slipped on it. Eek. Part of the placenta came out about 5 minutes later. We waited, for almost another 8 minutes, but my blood pressure was falling and the doctor asked me if he could give me pitocin and suggested that I needed a curettage (scraping out of the uterus). I agreed to both. I did not how much blood was normal, but I was pretty sure it was not that much! The curettage is really not bad. It felt a little like menstrual cramps- and only moderate ones at that. I lied back with hands behind my head, watched the ultrasound (one person scans the uterus while the doctor uses a broad spoon looking thing to make long sweeps of the uterus), and drank my orange juice that the nurse had so generously brought in abundance. It took about 15 minutes for the procedure with my doctor initially asking me if he couldn't give me something now for the pain. (". . . um, what? Are you kidding, this is nothing. I just pushed a baby out of my vagina! I feel no more pain.") I was truly relaxed now. A nurse came in to report that our daughter was perfect. Her second APGAR was a 9 and she had no meconium in her lungs. They were moving her to the regular nursery for the vitamin K shot (we agreed since her labor was traumatic). It was a strange time with the nurse, Courtney, me and my OB. We were laughing and joking about things. My doctor shared that he had missed Thanksgiving and his favorite thing was sweet potato pie. While he stitched me up, I asked him if all of my labors were going to be that fast. He said that in his 27 years of delivering babies, he had "never seen contractions that strong - with or without pitocin." I was glad he said that because I was feeling rather like a baby at one point where I did not think I could go on. I asked him if all of my labors would be like that. He made the comment that he could not believe I was even considering doing it again. He said he was a big believer in natural childbirth but that even he had been worried when he saw my strip (from the internal pressure monitor). He said that he had seen placental abruption several times, but that my placenta appeared to rupture. It was side-lying about mid way to my naval, and he suspected it had been caught by her shoulder, arm, or knee as she was moving down and being post dates may not have helped since there was some calcification present.

After I was all cleaned out and getting stitched up, Mike returned - with no baby. I was kind of upset, but patient and reminded him that he was to stay with her at all times. He said that both sets of grandparents were now watching over her outside the nursery window and he had had to use the restroom. (Okay. It had been several hours for him too, so I guess that is all right!) I told him he should not watch me get stitched up (he gets woozy from things like that) because some day I was going to want to have more kids with him. He gave me a quick kiss and told me how proud he was and then left again. The cleaning people came to mop up the floor, and my parents came in after the doctor was done. They were miffed that we had not called them to tell them we were on our way to the hospital and that they "missed" it. I told them I would not discuss it again, and as I still not seen my baby and they had, they had not "missed" anything except being scared to death by people rushing around with alarms sounding in the hall.

It took a little over four hours to get them to bring our baby to me. I was getting really irritated! I threatened to walk down and get her myself. As I was not medicated, I could. Eventually, after I was transferred to the postpartum ward, they brought her in. Mike and I kicked everyone out and just looked at her and decided to name her Molly Ann. It just fit perfectly. I nursed her and Mike went out to let the "Grandmas" and my sister in to keep me company. She latched on with no effort and it was all so magical. We had our first baby and everything was great!

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Some pictures of us!!!

Mike and I (in Vegas for Thanksgiving 2003)

Our first homecoming (the day before I found out I was pregnant!)

37 weeks pregnant with Molly

Newborn Baby (before I had really seen her. . .)

20 hours old!

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Wow, that's quite a birth story. It sounds like some of the nurses weren't the sharpest tools in the shed. Good thing you're such a trooper! I hope your labor this time is more peaceful.

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Wow, what a birth story. Hoping this one is much more peaceful. You deserve it.

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This pregnancy . . .


Last year, I was having some abnormal cycles. I thought I was pregnant in April as I was having some really weird symptoms consistent with what I remembered from the last time. But all the tests were negative. I finally went to the doctor and had a blood test to be sure. It was negative. THe doctor wanted to run and ultrasound to make sure everything was okay with my internals. He found that I had multiple cysts on my ovaries and told me that I probably had PCOS. I asked him what that meant for future children and he said that without fertility treatment or intervention, it was unlikely by possible we could conceive on our own. He talked to me about Metformin and other low level drugs and gave me some literature to read and studies to review. I was going to come back for a more thorough workup after school was out and I was less stressed. Sad I was devastated but resolved. I began cutting out my sugars and exercising everyday to try a less invasive approach to controlling my hormone imbalance. Mike and I also decided that we would stop trying to prevent a pregnancy since it was unlikely I was ovulating anyway, and if it happened a little earlier than we were planning, we would be thankful.

THe following Friday about a week later, my husband Mike won some tickets to a live broadcasting of the radio show (Jeff Ward on KLBJ in Austin) at the Alamo Draft House. Every year, he hosts a live show with film critic Gary Cogill from Dallas. I got someone to cover the last 10 minutes of my class and left early for the day. Molly was going home with a friend and spending the night. It was the best date we had had in a long time. Biggrin We went to the show, ate dinner while we were there and laughed and booed and cheered. It was great! (The Drafthouse is perhaps the best theater ever! There are a few popping up in other Texas towns and if you have a chance, go there for a movie. Every other row of seats is replaced by long narrow tables and they serve really good bar/grill style food as well as assorted beer and wine- though I have never actually had a drink there. They show current flicks as well as special engagement sing-alongs and "quote-alongs" to classics. So much fun!) After we got home, we had some extra time and got to work out together (a rare treat with a 3 year old) and then sat in the hot tub for a while talking. It was just so nice as we had been missing each other a lot with Mike finishing his dissertation and me teaching for the first time. Later that night, things heated up and we had some "quality time" together. And again in the morning.

I had begun charting in earnest after my appointment and I started noticing some erratic temps, but there was still a definite rising trend. I had ovulated! And then I noticed that the rise had come a day after our really great date. Hmmmm. I was watching everyday and by day 12 post ovulation I noticed a second rise. I went and bought a test during lunch and tested. It was very faint - so faint I had another friend look and see. She thought it was *maybe* positive, but didn't really know if it was just an evaporation line. I taught my last two classes and run out quickly to the store to get a different test. My friend said that the "Answer" brand was her best and darkest test (They were also one of the cheapest!) so I bought a 3 pack. I did the test and it was positive - faint but definitely there. I called Mike. He was surprised and pretty stoic, but definitely handled it better than the last time. Wink

The timing was not ideal, but not bad. Three days earlier, Mike had accepted the position at ACU over the offer from Yale and we considered this a "God thing." We were in the process of getting our condo on the market to sell and I was finishing up the school year. It almost felt like the final piece of our transition from Austin and graduate school to being adults.
We sold our condo in 8 days and were furiously trying to find a home to buy in Abilene. Molly and I went to preview houses, while Mike kept writing his dissertation. We found a house I loved, but I was concerned it might be too small (1700 sq ft, 3 bedrooms) but it felt right. When Mike came the following week, we decided we could enclose the porch for a playroom/guest room and it would be perfect for our little family. We moved all of our stuff into storage and spent the next three weeks between closings couch surfing between our friends and family.

I was much more sick with this baby but less tired. At 8 weeks, I started growing really fine hair on my chin and neck. :eek: I waxed it off and other hair popped up in its place, but by 12 weeks it was mostly gone. I thought this was weird but I read that this is when boys are developing their testes and they release testosterone in large quantities. So I thought that this was a boy.

In August, we moved our boxes into our house and we went to Disneyland. Sadly, two days before we left, I got a norovirus and spent two days in the bathroom. On the morning we were leaving I felt better, but still really weak. The first day we walked about 7 miles. I had some light spotting but my doctor said it was probably from being dehydrated or from the extra stress on those tender membranes. After that, I had to take it easy for a couple of days and go a little less than full tilt. It was a great vacation overall and we had a ton of fun!

The next week, Mike started work at ACU. Our life seemed to be moving so quickly. I saw a doctor in Abilene. He was okay, but the appointment took 3 hours - 2 of which were spent in the waiting room with Molly! The next week, I saw on the new that he had been arrested. :eek: Apparently, he had an argument with his daughter and she accused him of trying to strangle her. Who knows if it was true or overblown, but I changed doctors to the one I have now. Perhaps I should have taken my chances with the other doctor! (More on that later, but if you have read my other posts, you know the gist. . .)

Abilene is not particularly NCB friendly. The C-section rate is very high as is the induction rate. About 98% get epidurals and over 90% get pitocin. I was floored when I started asking questions. So I began searching for a doula and that is how I found this board! Melissa (newbeginnings) had posted something about doulas and Abilene. I was finally feeling like I was not alone in an abyss.

At 20 weeks my suspicions were confirmed. We are having a boy! I am excited and nervous about his birth, but I am getting more confident everyday. I am doing HypnoBabies and I have found a good sounding board in my physical therapist. She is likely going to attend our birth and serve as my doula. She is wonderful and I feel very blessed to have found her.

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Great story!! Smile How are you feeling?

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I have Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction so I hurt pretty much any time there is pressure on the pubic bones. Grrrr. It started in my 8th month with DD and I thought I had pulled a groin muscle. My doctor confirmed the condition was SPC but we did not really have to treat it during my first pregnancy, I was just really careful to no aggravate it. . . until her birth. Since it was traumatic and fast and she really needed to come out quickly, they were hauling my legs apart. It caused a pretty good separation of the pubic bones - a little over 2 cm. It went back together some, and I did not have any major problems until I was about 5 months into this pregnancy. Then it started hurting badly. My doc (kind of a jerk) denied that it could be SPD since that doesn't "start until later in pregnancy" for most women. Well, yes, I would agree, however, having been diagnosed and experienced this pain before , I knew what I was feeling.

I finally convinced him to write me a script for therapy right before Thanksgiving. The separation is again almost 2 cm (3/4 of an inch!) and I have major pelvic instability. I LOVE my therapist though. She is trained in manual adjustments (much like a chiropractor) and does soft tissue therapy. As a bonus, she is a certified Childbirth Educator and very NCB supportive. I think she is going to attend our birth unless a disaster strikes (or baby comes to fast for her to clear her schedule) but since she is at the same hospital it should work out!

All that to say, I am hurting but I have more energy the last couple of weeks than I did 2 months ago. I am trying to take it easy and do less upright, more things on hands and knees, and making friends with my ball again! I am doing all right!

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I went to PT today and actually felt quite a bit better than I have been in the past few weeks. When Melissa (my therapist) checked my pelvis and pubic bones her eyes got really wide. She could not really get on top of the bones because baby has engaged since Wednesday!

She and I talked about it and since the baby is locked into the pelvis the pressure is more centered which is greatly helping to keep my pelvis more balanced. Before, his little head and shoulder was pushing against my hip bone and every time he would stretch,(as well as getting a nasty jolt to my ribs) my hips would flex to try to accommodate him. This is probably what was causing the majority of the problems. The SPD pain is not only from the separation itself, but from the sides of the pubic bones not meeting evenly so that every time one leg is lifted, it feels like someone is stabbing you in the groin/pubic area.

Overall, it was great news and more than that, I feel better! So yay! Oh, and she is definitely set to attend our birth unless something critical in her schedule prevents it.

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Sounds great! Engaged heads are always good, but especially if it's relieving some of the SPD pain!

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Hey there! So glad I finally got to read all your stories, and learn more fun stuff about you and Mike! Biggrin I am excited for you, and can't wait to meet Baby Boy!

Oh, and I love the baby pics of Molly, how cute!!!

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Wow, you have a great story! I look forward to following your lodge! Glad to hear you got some pain relief.

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Ugh, today I do not feel well in general. I can't tell if I am getting a cold or if it the crazy ever changing weather of West Texas doing this to me. I have not slept well the past 2 nights and my face hurts. Today, I woke up with dark circles under my eyes (presumably from lack of sleep). We didn't even go to church this morning; I was just feeling too rotten and DD had trouble sleeping also so DH was up with her last night.

I think I am going to try a nice warm bath with a cloth over my face. Oooh, or maybe a quick mini facial with a eucalyptus mask or something. Hmmm. . . I need to see what I have on hand.

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Sorry to hear you're not feeling well. A warm bath sounds like a great idea!

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Baths are nice. I've been taking them a lot trying to get my mind and body in gear for a water birth and it feels soooo good. Swimming at the pool also is so nice, it takes all the weight off. I went to the pool last week and it felt so freeing to be in the water. Once I got out I felt like I weighed 500 lbs, but being in the water was so nice. I bet it would help with your SPD too! I hope you aren't getting sick though. Drink lots of water and rest up!

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I am feeling much better. I did take a bath and give myself a facial (not quite as much fun as someone else doing it for me, but free!). DD came in and said that my face looked like Shrek! Then she laughed and ran out of the room. It was the craziest thing. We all three had a day of low grade (around 100.2-100.5 F) fever and just felt bad. Drained and headachy mostly. Anyway, my DH got it first then me then DD. We are all felt fine after a few days. It never got worse, just was nagging. I wonder what it was. A strange and mild cold? Some random virus? Oh, well, it is gone now! Biggrin

I went to my appointment today. My doctor was really nice to me. (If you missed the previous posts about my doc, he was a total jerk at my last appointment because I wanted to wait on the GBS test as I was only 35 weeks and it is only really accurate for about 3-4 weeks. With DD I ended up testing twice because I went post dates. I do not have the option to change because the hospital make you sign this ridiculous form stating that you will not transfer care during the course of you pregnancy and non of the other docs will take transfers from each other. So I am stuck unless we paid out of pocket to go to the other hospital in town. Not a good option for us.)
ANyway, this time we was very nice and actually asked if I wanted to do the test and then asked if I wanted to be checked. I did both. I wasn't actually planning on being checked, but my mom is coming back for Europe today and wanted some idea of how I was progressing. Mostly I did it to appease her. Anyway, I am high and closed which was completely what I expected. I was completely closed with DD when I went into labor so I was not expecting to do much before this one decides to come though it would be a pleasant surprise I guess. We also talked a bit about when to come to the hospital and he actually joked with me that I would probably know better than anyone else if it was time. So, maybe he was just having a bad day before or I rubbed him the wrong way or maybe I did have an offensive tone or whatever. It is really hard to self-evaluate, but this appointment was pretty great. I needed to no be worried about getting along with the doc and now I feel better. Biggrin

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Oh, yeah, I am currently obsessing about cloth diapers. I have decided to give them a go with this baby and I have been up half the night for the past week researching and shopping and looking at patterns etc. I am going to make myself crazy, so if anyone has anything useful experience to add, please do! I am actually really excited about it and DH is even supportive! Of course, he is even more frugal than I am so it was an easy sell with the ease of the new styles available. I will have to work into prefolds if we ever get there!

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wow --so much going on...

glad you had a good appointment with your doc!

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Yay! I'm glad your doctor was nice to you this time...I did read your other post about him being an *** and I felt so bad for you.

I don't have any experience with cloth diapers but there's a cloth diaper board on here with a lot of info and links.

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I just discovered the cloth diapering board a couple of weeks ago! It has been great. The ladies there have been super helpful. Biggrin

Today has been a weird day all around. I went to get my car inspected today and ended up getting the oil changed and a car wash as well - $59. I had to get my car inspected so DH and I could officially get our car titles and tags transferred $341. On the way to DH car I noticed he had a nail in his tire. of course, it had to be in the sidewall, so it couldn't be fixed -$101. (I had a recall on the valve stems for my tires so Monday I got them replaced the only free thing I have done all week!) Now I feel truly prepared to drive baby around and $500 lighter :eek:.

After picking up DD from preschool (she goes 2 days a week), I called my parents who just got home from a 19 day stint in Europe. My mom had offered to come before baby to help out and be here to watch our DD. THe plan was that she would come a week to 10 days before my due date. Anyway, I asked her about it again and she is hedging a bit so I tried to pin her down. She tells me my dad is also coming and they are thinking they would come the 27th or 28th. :confused: I was not too thrilled with that and asked if they could come earlier. . . that is just a few days before my due date and I feel like I might go earlier than that anyway. She is all well, we just got home and I want to be here, so we will see. I explain that I do not have anyone to watch DD if they do not make it. She says that they can be here in 5 hours. I am a little worried from the DD's birth that 5 hours may not be enough time for them to get here especially if we go to the hospital earlier this time. She then says, "well can;t someone else keep her?" Really we just moved here a few months ago and I know very few people. Most people we know either work full time or are going to school full time and working nights. There is only one person that I know (the wife of one of the professors in DH's department) who has offered to keep her if we needed it, but I have a hard time getting in contact with her. She is not home much and has no cell phone. She said that they could wait and see after next weeks appointment if I was dilated. I explained that I was not getting checked next week and she was completely unsupportive of that. She said that she'd like to know if I was dilated. Sad Anyway, I changed the topic because I was getting upset and asked my mom if she could pick up some things from BRU since we do not have one here. She was adamant that I email her a list of what she needed to get. I told here that it would be easier if she could get them off my registry. She was really put out by that and said that she didn't want to get the wrong things or guess about what we needed. I explained that the only things on my registry were things I really needed and it was not a lot maybe only 10 things are on the registry total. She was still not very enthusiastic and almost acted irritated. I just told her that my sister could probably do it instead and she was obviously upset. She said that she was giving my dad the phone and he could talk to me about when they were coming. Then I talked to my dad and he was much nicer. He asked when they should come and I said that I felt that it might even be next week. He said that they could maybe come late next week and asked if there was some special reason. I said that I could really use some help now. He laughed and said to my mom, "Honey, I think she is nesting and needs some help and support!" I said that was it exactly and he said he would see what he could do.

After we hung up I was just so frustrated with my mom and a little less so with my dad (who was really nice actually). When I have needed them at some points in the past, they have not been "available" to help us. They did not move me to college even because they were taking my brother to Disney World. When we had our 80 mph head on collision on Christmas Eve, 3 weeks after DD was born, I begged my mom to come help us and she said that she couldn't because they were going to the Orange Bowl to see the Sooners play with my brother and his friends. Bear in mind that my parents are NOT OU fans they both went to OSU as did my sister. There have been a few other things like that and it is just frustrating because soccer games and my brothers friends have always come before whatever I am asking or doing. The trip they just ended was a trip they planned after knowing my EDD was trip they took with my brother and his now fiance. In Nov, they went with my sister, her DH and DD to Disney World and on a Disney cruise. Then in Dec, they went to California for the College Soccer National Championships where my brother's team finished 2nd. Then they all came here for Christmas for 2 days. Then they left for Europe. I am sure they are tired, but I just wish I had not been counting on having my mom's help. Now I am just feeling pity for myself because my plans were changed. I feel like a silly child and yet I am still crying over this. Stupid hormones!!!

It is important to note that I am not neglected in any way and I know that my parents love me, it just sucks because my parents really are cool and I want them around more- NOW!!! (Well, soon. . .)

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Well, I must say I was slightly shocked about prioritizing a sports event over helping you after a serious, life threatening car accident.
I'm sorry your mom isn't being more supportive. Hopefully she comes around. Maybe she was just tired and in a cranky mood, it sounds like your dad might talk some sense into her. I hope it all works out.
I'm cloth diapering too and the advice I have gotten is get a variety at first and then actually invest in the ones that you end up liking best. Also, it can be expensive up front, but if you check craigslist and used baby stores you can often find them used and way cheaper. I know it seems gross to reuse someone elses diapers, but I got a lot used (hand me downs from friends, mostly) and they aren't stained or anything and I just washed all of them a couple times.

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Yeah, the whole story with the orange bowl. . . my brother and 5 of his friends were all going. He was a junior in high school at the time and 2 of the people -one being his girlfriend- were sophomores, five high school kids total. My parents were the only chaperons going and the two girls going were staying with her. If she did not go, the girls could not go. Anyway, we called Christmas Eve night and she apparently did not understand how serious it was. We did not make that clear to them as we were just thankful to have walked (limped) away. Of course when we called, we were still in shock and the pain had not fully set in. Anyway, Mike's mom volunteered to come down and take care of us (Molly,mostly, whom neither of us could carry for about 3 weeks. . .) and I honestly do not know how we would have made it if we did not have her help. She stayed the first two weeks. My mom came after that, pretty much the day after she got back from Florida and stayed for almost 3 weeks. And she gave us her Tahoe. :eek: She was pretty upset when she realized how badly we were injured and how badly we needed help. So she is not horrible or truly showing favoritism, I just think she sometimes . . . overlooks (?) what we need because we rarely aske and we don't live in town. Both of my siblings live within 10 minutes of them so maybe it is just natural to be closer to them and their needs/desires. My family and us are really close just not in proximity and I was pretty upset earlier. . .

How is it that despite being able to rationalize that I am being unfair or crazy or completely lost in self-pity (as was the case today) I still can't completely snap out of it? Well I couldn't at the time. I am better now, but I was really upset for like 4 hours. FOUR HOURS!!! I now understand when we ask my four year old to put her tears away and she says she is trying but they just keep coming. That is exactly how I felt!!! :rolleyes:

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I am glad you are feeling a little better. (((hugs)))

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Glad you're feeling a little better now. That makes sense with the whole orange bowl thing. I'm less scandalized. Biggrin And I know my mom sometimes feels like she doesn't support us enough partly because we're so far away and she has no idea what we need or what's going on with us sometimes, and we don't tend to ask for help if we need it. So you're right that the distance thing definitely plays a role. That's cute that it helped you understand your daughter a bit more when she gets upset. Sometimes it is so hard to get your mind out of that irrational space, no matter how hard you try. In any case, I still hope they realize it is important to you for them to come earlier and they come sooner rather than later.

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My mom and I talked and she wasn't upset with me yesterday, she was just overwhelmed by all they need to do. They are the caretakers of both of my grandmothers. My mom's mom is very close to our family and is still lonely after my grandpa's passing 2 years ago. They are used to seeing each other everyday or at least talking. My dad's mom is a bit of a hermit and is schizophrenic so she doesn't get out much. It is mostly getting her groceries and meds and visiting her occasionally. That is on top of taking care of bills and cars and everything else they need to do. So my parents are planning to come down on the 25th after church. That is a good compromise I guess. It is five days before my EDD. I just wish I didn't feel like the baby was going to come sooner. Wink

But I feel a LOT better today! I just received some of the fabric I ordered to make cloth diapering accessories and I am thrilled. It is in the washer now for the second wash and then I will get to start sewing. I am planning to make some insert for gDiapers and other doublers/liners for pockets. I finished making about 3 dozen cloth wipes so now I feel more confident. I just inherited my grandmas serger when she moved into a smaller apartment. It needed some love (lots of adjustments) but now it works great. I just made about a half dozen receiving blankets big enough to swaddle a few months. THis is getting all of my attention, since I can't do the nursery yet. (We are enclosing our porch to be a guest room/playroom but it will not be done for a while- a couple more months. Then we will convert the guest room to the nursery.) So maybe this is my "nesting" obsession! Dirol

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Hey Beth, just checking in on you!!! You are the only person I know IRL who was due in January and is NOT being induced.... Yay you! Biggrin I hope your parents get here before Baby Boy arrives! You can always take my mom's advice and just keep your legs crossed LOL! Wink

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Just checking in on you, I'd love to see your cloth diaper stash if you feel like shareing!

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I have been taking a couple of days off to rest and prepare and play with DD a little more before she gets a little brother. I haven't packed my bags and DH is a little nervous about that- LOL! I have *started* and have had baskets of supplies organized for 3 months but can't seem to get them into a suitcase. I can;t seem to choose clothes to take for the life of me. Grrr. And being in Texas, there is no way to account for the weather! It has been more crazy than normal nearly 80 one day then 30 the next. I have gotten all the newborn clothes washed, which is not very many. Apparently boy clothes are less fun to buy for people.

Oh, today was good. I had talked to my mom about shopping for me at the BRU in OKC since Abilene doesn't have one and she bought most everything on the registry for me. Then she told me to order what I still needed from Target with her CC! I didn't have a lot of necessities, but it was still a couple hundred dollars of stuff between the two stores. It almost makes up for her coming later- LOL!!! Wink

Um, as far as progress. . . maybe a few BH but not much of anything. I did have a marked increase in CM after starting the EPO on Friday - like a ton! :eek: I was actually concerned once because I felt. . .cold. It was weird to feel that since I haven't ovulated in, oh, about 9 months, I had forgotten how that feels! So maybe things are starting . . . but I am not in any big hurry. Dirol

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I completely forgot! I have not received my diaper orders in the mail yet, but I will definitely take some stash pictures when I get them! We are plannint ot use disposable in the hospital and maybe the first week and then start rotating in the cloth so it will be fine if baby beats them.

Lastly, DH and I still haven't settled on small set of names let alone *the* name. With DD, we named her after we met her but at least we had some a couple of good options. UGH! I guess we will figure it out when we have to! :rolleyes:

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Not a whole lot going on today with me so I am hoping some of those other babies are working their way out! I spent several hours doing the preliminaries on our taxes and am just waiting on the last of the papers to come in. It feels good to be mostly done and to just about break even. Smile

I thought I would post a few more pics rather than continue in my normally wordy "Story Hour with Beth" format. I hope you enjoy!

Some other pictures:

Molly at 4 months:

9 months:

Halloween 2006

Dec 2006

Santa Baby

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Cute pics!

I'm right there with you on the names. We have one in mind, but I'm definitely not 100% on it, which is why we refuse to share our possible names with anyone!

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Great pics!! She is a doll!!

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I have been a little off today. . . slightly sore through, lots of postnasal drip, headache. I am did still get the kitchen cleaned and bathrooms wiped down. I have been amazingly calm though since my little freak out last week. Tonight our best friends (who also just moved here a few months before us coincidentally) called and her grandfather had died. So they will be heading out of town for the funeral Wed returning Friday. And we are going to watch their puppy! That is either a good idea or a very bad idea, I haven't decided which- LOL! I love dogs and DD does as well, but DH is not a fan. We have two very large fluffy cats and it should be interesting to see how it all goes!

I have had a dozen or so contractions today, some strong enough to make me take notice, but none that are particularly painful. So who really knows? I go back to the doc tomorrow and I am not planning to be checked. Oh, and I found out more about the hospital and my doc from my therapist and another friend at the hospital. There are apparently good things in the works including a long-range telemetry monitoring system so women can walk around through labor even with IV and whatever. The nursing and education coordinator is much more pro-mother directed birth and has been assisting in getting additional training for the nurses. The doctors are also getting more 'demanding" patients who want more choices. I see this all as great progress!

With my doctor, his change in attitude from "I know more than you ever will" to "you will know best when it is time to go to the hospital" apparently stems from having a mother give birth in the parking lot! Last week she went into labor and it never really settled into a traditional pattern. She and then her husband called 3 times alerting them that they thought they should head to the hospital, but the on-call nurse and then doctor said that they should wait until she had regular contx for an hour. Well, 20 min after the last call, they drove to the hospital and baby was born in the parking lot outside the ER! All I can say, is WOW! :eek: But now my doctor is a lot more open to getting input and feedback from his mamas- LOL! ROFL

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If that's what it takes... LOL My Bradley instructor had her youngest in the elevator on the way to L&D! She didn't expect labor to go quite so fast;-)

That's great to see some progress with your hospital! The one I had Ethan at has CNMs on staff (they're L&D nurses) and recently added a new birthing wing. They have birthing balls available and are very pro NCB. There's a BF'ing store open 5 days a week that's staffed by the head LC. And one of the LCs visits you within 24 hours of the birth. They even brought in a tv and vcr with some BF'ing videos for me to watch. Maybe your hospital is headed toward all this!

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ROFL about the mom in the parking lot! I'm sure she didn't enjoy that too much, though.
Yeah, doctors who like to see nice, well established labor patterns wouldn't like me much, either. I spend at least 12 hours having contractions that are just like really strong BH's, but I'm at 4 cm. Then, at some point, it kicks into high gear and I have what they'd consider "real" contractions, and start progressing. However, they do NOT get progressively closer together. I remember watching the clock while in labor with Xander, and I'd have a 2 minute gap, then 10 minutes, then 4, then 8, then 10, then 2... they were all over the place. They do tend to get longer and stronger, but I'm always certain that they're not close enough together, and they get the babies out just fine. L&D nurses and OBs would just go batty, I'm sure.

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Hi everyone! I went back to the doctor again today and despite declining to disrobe for a cervical check, he was most kind and encouraging. Yay! Perhaps he really isn't horrible just had a bad day a few appointments ago. I lost another pound, BP was 119/70 and urine was clean. I was also GBS-! So really I am just playing a waiting game and I am pretty mellow about it. Very unlike me! Wink I am just hoping that I don't go into labor tonight or tomorrow as I have a facial scheduled for tomorrow at 11:00!!!!

After my appt, I came home and cleaned for a while. It actually felt nice to be doing it (though I am sore now!) and DH was shocked when he saw the house! Lol

Oh, Connie, ironically enough the hospital is actually very mother/baby friendly . . .AFTER birth. Full time LC, rooming in only unless there is a need for baby to be apart from mother, required education and consent for vaccines, etc. And it is an all new wing with very nice, decent sized rooms. So it must have started the avalanche in the other direction. A little cart before the horse, but good all the same. Dirol

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Sounds like the hospital is headed in a good direction! Most women care more about after the birth than the birth it seems. So the way we're doing things doesn't surprise me. And yay for a good appointment!

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So today I went to PT and then to get a facial! It was my Christmas present - a wonderful perk of my job!!! Anyway, the esthetician is the same girl who did my treatments when I was in college! How is that for random coincidence?! She is getting a really bad deal with her facial products and wants me to design a backbar (professional) line for her to use in her treatments. I have already done a couple of things for her and this is my specialty (organic spa skin care) so I am pretty pumped. I had been thinking about starting my own company last year, but then I got pregnant and decided to put that off, but this is the best of both worlds. Someone else will help cover the cost of raw materials and I get the first hand feedback from a test spa. Dirol She was all set to pay me to get started but understands completely about life with a baby (She had her 2 kids at home with the midwife here- Yay!!!) so I gave her some suggestions to get her through until I can start formulating in a few months. She is also picking up some of the supplies I told her we would need when she goes to Austin in 2 weeks. Oh, how I miss Whole Foods!!! After leaving, I called my boss to make sure she did not mind me taking on other contract work and she was very encouraging. I then decided that I might rather barter for services than get money or at least some combination of treatments and funds. Facials and massages (she is also a licensed massage therapist) are pretty tempting and it is win-win. Oh, and DH is all for that too- LOL!

Later this afternoon, we all went to meet with my physical therapist again to discuss our wishes for her to attend our birth. It was really cool to see how far things have come together in the past coupe of months and more so even in the past 2 weeks. My doc is acting more supportive, I have a doula and I am m-e-l-l-o-w. And I also decided that it might not be a bad thing if my folks aren't here before the birth. My mom still doesn't understand why I wouldn't just get the epidural and why I don't just "listen to my doctor.":rolleyes: So rather than deal with that, I can sit back and play with DD and make cloth diapers and accessories. Biggrin

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