**hr.lr.07 Lea's Birth Lodge***

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**hr.lr.07 Lea's Birth Lodge***

Seeing as this may be a very short birth lodge I thought it wouldn't hurt to start a day early for you!! Welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome to your lodge, Lea!! Can't wait to read Tegan's birth story!

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Hi Lea! Just wanted to cheer you and Tegan on in the homestretch!

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Welcome to your lodge Biggrin

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Welcome to your lodge - I look forward to hearing your story!

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welcome to your lodge!!!! Looking forward to reading your story

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I have a lodge!! Yay! Biggrin

My intro is going to be looong and complicated, as those of you who are on my BB will know. But I'll try to get most of it written tonight, Hayleys playing on LOTR on the PS2 so she should be quiet for a little while Smile

So.. I'll get writing that intro, and thankyou for all your welcomes!

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Hey pal! Welcome and cant wait to read your intro Smile

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So I'll start from the beginning.. Lol this might take a while.

My name is Lea, my partner is Hayley. The whole 'how we got together' bit is extremeley long winded and complex; I might save that for another time Lol Anyway. I'm 20, and Hayley is 21, and we live together in a small-ish town in the middle of the UK. We have a cat named Boo, who is lovely and a lot of fun to live with, we have no sofa because it didn't fit into our flat Lol and we live in a one bedroomed flat (apartment?) which I absolutely love.

hayley and I decided at the beginning of November last year that we wanted a baby. There were no two ways about it; something was missing in our relationship and it took us a while to figure out what it was, but when we eventually did, we were in for a shock!! Hayley isn't the type of woman to show the way she feels a lot; it took me a while to get used to that because I'm generally a very emotionally open person and living with someone who kept her thoughts so confined really hit me hard in the beginning. Things are easier now, because Hayley has a lot more trust in me and almost doesn't hesitate to tell me anything she feels I need to know. Things are sometimes still hard though.

I'm waffling already Biggrin Anyway, we decided about 5 November last year that we wanted a child. We needed to gather together supplies; find a donor, get syringes, ovulation sticks, a basal thermometer for me, 3 months worth of pre-natal vitamins, and some books on how 'to do it' Lol So by the time I was ready to ovulate that month we were ready. We inseminated the two days before I ovulated and the day after. I'd been taking O sticks all month, and continued to do so. A couple of days after the insemination I started to feel different. I told hayley I thought I was pregnant and she told me we should wait. The O sticks were showing positive by the time I was 7DPO, and at 9DPO I took a pregnancy test. Positive!! The first month we tried to conceive I was pregnant. We were over the moon Smile

My first trimester was pretty textbook. I bled at 8 and then 12 weeks, mostly after DTD the think. I was a hormonal wreck - I suffer from bi-polar affective disorder and have a hard time living day to day anyway when I'm unmedicated but I refused to pose any risk to our baby; pregnancy is nine months long, our baby will be with us forever.

At about 17 weeks I was ill with a stomach bug or something, and had been having stomach pains and vomiting throughout the day. By 2am I was really uncomfortable and worried, and the next time I was going to vomit I ran up the stairs and hit my bump on the wall when I reached the top. Within 30 minutes I had a bruise. Hayley called NHS direct - the UK's health service which offers advice 24/7) who sent an ambulance because I was cramping badly by now.
I had an internal etc and spent about 8 hours in the hospital. No discharge no blood, nothing, so they sent me home and said to call tomorrow (it was Sunday by now) and book an u/s for sometime during the week.

I went for my u/s that Tuesday. As soon as the sonographer put the probe on my stomach I knew something was wrong. I spent a good 20 minutes on the bed, panicking, just knowing in my heart, before the sonographer said to me 'can you go for a walk and I'll have another look in half an hour; I can't get a clear view from where I am'. So we did, and the next time we went back, we were told that the baby had Spina Bifida. Nothing about the severity, they didn't mention what it is, just referred us to a consultant the next day and in their eyes, that was that.

Finding out about the baby's SB was the hardest day of my life. Hayley had never heard of SB before, had no idea what it was, but I did. I have a very distant relative on my Dad's side who has it. As soon as I heard those words, I broke down, and I cried. I cried more than I have ever cried in my entire life. I knew that my decision was not changed - I will give this baby every part of my being to make her life more comfortable - but I knew that the baby I had expected, the one we all think we are going to have, who is healthy, and whose first steps we will see, was gone. I struggled for a long time, thinking maybe the decision I had made was the wrong one. Maybe I was selfish, maybe I would make our baby's life unbearable just because I could not bear to part with it. But nothing changed, I stood my ground and refused the termination everytime it was offered and worked on educating myself, Hayley and our families about babies/children/people with Spina Bifida.

I've had multiple U/S's, all of which have revealed that Tegan has fluid in the ventricles of her brain. This is called Hydrocephalus and will need to be treated by means of a shunt - a plastic pipe that is passed from the ventricles of the brain to the abdominal cavity to drain the fluid off. We don't know for certain when this surgery will be performed but I have no doubt that it will. Tegan has a hole in her back which is about 3cms long and 2cms wide, through which the spinal fluid is leaking. This hole will need to be closed within the first 48 hours of her life.

She may never walk - which at first was something that really bothered me. It broke my heart, and I blamed myself for her illness. I asked my consultant if it was my fault. His answer was - did you take folic acid before conception and until at least 12 weeks? And my answer was yes. I sometimes even took my vits twice because I kept forgetting. Apparently the risk of spina bifida to any family is like a bag full of black balls and one red one. There are 999 black balls, and one red ball. You stick your hand in, and the ball you get is your baby. I picked the red ball, and the red ball was the one with SB. In my mind, it's not my fault. I did nothing wrong, Tegan is the way she is and that is all I can say about that.

I've been in the hospital for the best part of the last week because my BP has been high. I'm not a fan of hospitals, but I know I have to get used to it - I'll be staying in the hospital with Tegan when she's born, and she'll be in there for at least a week, maybe more. The consultant who I saw on Thursday night palpitated my uterus and laughed.. "Ooooh, big baby!!" He said. Biggrin We'll find out about that when she's born!

I'm due to be induced when I reach 38 weeks by hospital dates. Their dates are 5 days behind mine.. which is impossible, because I know when I got pregnant Lol So, I'll find out a date for certain at my appointment this Thursday when I'm being induced, but It will be anytime during the 7 days following the 7th of August. Not long to go now Biggrin

If you've read all this, you are a lot more patient than I am. Lol I can't believe I've got a lodge! I love to sit down and read through all the lodges. They're a great idea.. and there are so many mama's on our BB (August) with lodges that we have a sticky with all the links in Lol

I only have one more thing to add - I've lost most or all of my mucous plug but I know that holds little towards saying when / if I will go into labour by myself. I'm trying to figure out ways to help my body be more 'ready' for labour when I'm induced - any ideas or help there? I'm hitting a brick wall lately Lol

Hope my intro wasn't too long Lol

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Lea, your intro was awesome. I think I told you before that I love your positive attitude towards the SB. I pray that things will go well and I know they will.
Congrats on losing your MP Biggrin

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Lea, I'm just glad you're home for a bit! I hope Tegan can bake as long as possible given all the BP issues you have had! I'm a physical therapist and have worked with SB in babies and adults. It's a tough road, but not impossible. I think you are doing well to educate yourselves and your families in advance.

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Great intro Lea. I can't wait for you to meet your beautiful daughter.

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Great intro - I too love your positive attitude towards SB - I pray that things go very smoothly for you and Tegan.

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What a great intro. I'll keep you and your little one in my thoughts over the next weeks. I look forward to hearing about her birth!

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Thanks for the welcomes ladies!

I feel pretty good today. Its great to be out of the hospital, I didn't enjoy being in there one bit but I know within the next three weeks I'll be back there.

I've been having some pretty bad pain in my lower abdomen/groin/tops of my thighs the last couple of days, it comes and goes but is pretty constant and just plain hurts. I have no idea what it is, except painful Lol I thought maybe it was a UTI, so I asked the girls on my BB who answered either labour pains (eeek) or the babys head engaging.

Its Sunday today, so its time for the traditional sunday roast! Lol Its the best meal of the week. English people have a habit of trying to eat healthy all week and then eating one meal that has about 1500 calories in it on a Sunday and blowing the whole weeks worth of trying Smile The house smells yummy. Hayley's cooking, but then she always does. She cooks, and watches the Formula 1 on the tv at the same time Lol Bless her heart, she's a real angel.

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OMG - Sunday roast and F1 on the TV? That's my idea of heaven!

Welcome to your lodge - I'm so excited for you, your family, and little Tegan. Smile

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mmm roast sounds good. Maybe I'll make one! Do you rent Haley out to cook overseas??

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Lol I could do for a reasonable price Amy! Biggrin

The roast was lovely, and Lewis Hamilton won again.. He'll be the first Brit to win the F1 in however many years if he wins this year. And I think he's only about 21.. Smile

Hayley is a fantastic cook! Lol I don't do a great deal around the house now, maybe I tidy around a little bit but not a lot Wink

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Welcome to your lodge Lea!! I'm so happy to see that Tegan is still baking! I can't wait to follow your journey!

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Welcome to your lodge! Your intro was wonderful and I look forward to hearing about when you and Hayley meet your daughter.

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Nice to meet you, I'm glad you had a restful day and I wish you all the best with the birth of your daughter.

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I love your intro!!! Looking forward to hearing more and meeting your beautiful little girl, I love the name you chose for her!

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Your intro was great!! So glad Tegan is still baking. Roast does sound so good...

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Welcome to your lodge Lea! It's so exciting to see all the August mamas on here now!

What an incredible journey this baby has already brought into your life! Thanks for sharing your intro. Hope the BP cooperates and you are able to enjoy the last couple of weeks of having Tegan all to yourself.

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I'm finally catching up! Great intro!

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Today was my first outpatients appointment at the maternity wing because I refused to stay in the hospital any longer. On Thursday night last week when I was admitted I was given a high dosage of Labetalol to lower my BP. Well it worked.. when I was discharged my BP was 120/70 and its now fallen to 125/60 which is very low for me. The MW said that the meds are still working, which I think is a bit extreme seeing as I was given them 4 days ago..

The baby was fine on the monitor, she had the hiccups and kept moving around so I had to be on the monitor for ages. They took bloods (I hate that Sad ) and the results came back showing I have elevated white blood cells and low red blood cells. They've sent a sample of my urine off to be tested for a UTI (even thought I only had the every same test on friday) and given me an iron supplement. All in all it was a good appointment for me because I didn't get admitted Smile

In two days time I'll find out the date for my induction. I'm going to try my best to go as natural as I can during the induction, and as much as I hate to say this I am looking forward to the end of being pregnant, because I feel pretty crap. Sad

I hope everyone is doing well! Biggrin

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I'm glad you got to come home from your appointment and the BP is staying down. I hope you can get some rest before the big day and feel up to taking on labor and delivery.

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Congrats on your lodge!!!

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Congrats on your lodge! Great intro, Tegan is one lucky girl! Biggrin

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Any more updates, Lea?

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Hope you're feeling better. Can't wait for an update.

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Hey everyone, sorry I've not been around much lately Smile

Everything is pretty much fine here except for the pain in the hips I'm getting generally all the time. Its worse when I've been sat down for a while or when I'm trying to sleep. Pah it hurts quite a lot aswell.

We've been visiting family a lot for the last few days. We saw Hayley's family on Friday last week and then again yesterday, and we went and saw my Dad last night too Smile It was quite fun, But very tiring. Lol

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Glad you guys are going well. Sorry about the hip pain...I have pelvic pain, so I feel for you!

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Hope your hip is better soon, and I'm excited to see how things turn out for you!

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How are you doing today?

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Hope your getting some rest. Visitng family is good but I agree, can be tiring, especially when preggers. *HUGS*

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Congratulations on your lodge! I look forward to reading your Birth Story!

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Wow. Only two days to go.

Sorry I've not updated here a lot. I keep forgetting. I don't really have a lot to say anyway.. hmm.

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2 days, WOW! I can't wait to see her and I hope that you have a safe delivery and everything goes well for you both. How are you feeling? Are you nervious? Wishing you all the best:)

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2 days, thats awesome!! Sending tons of ELVs your way and looking forward to meeting Tegan!

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I am nervous, excited, scared.. every emotion known to man Smile I can't wait to do this, and at the same time I'm not ready. I think my body is ready. I was up most of the night with what I thought was trapped wind (stomach pains coming and going) and have woken up this morning with a sore/achy 'downstairs' and generally just feeling weird.

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Yay! It does sound like things are gearing up, Lea. Here's to hoping you get some good labor action today or that your body only needs a slight nudge to get things going. So excited for you to finally meet that beautiful girl of yours!

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I hope today flies by for you! It sounds like your body is getting ready also!

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According to my Mum, anytime one of my female relatives have been given a date for induction they gave gone into labour by themselves (even if its just the start - it seems their bodies handle the induction well) the day before/hours before the induction. With my little sister my mum was induced at 35 weeks due to pre-e, and it only took one dose of cervadil to start her off. My aunt was meant to be induced with all four of hers (due to being overdue with the first three and pre-e with the fourth) and had all of her first three just hours before her induction appointments Lol

I've had backache all day. And my downstairs still feels achy. I'm not counting my chickens, but I just hope my body reacts to induction the same way as my Mum and Aunt's did. They were both natural birthers too. Smile

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Wishing you lots of natural birth and ELV's!
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sending lots of ELVs your way

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Wishing you a very happy and wonderful birth day! Can't wait to see some pictures of your beautiful daughter and hear how things went. Lots of ELV!

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Thinking of you and wishing you luck and lots of ELV's!!!

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Hey, saw your siggy says "Gone to meet our baby!"

Hope your holding your little one right now and can't wait to hear your birth story

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Can't wait to hear your story!! Hope you are holding your LO now! Biggrin

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Just checking in to see if there is any news

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