Welcome to your lodge! I look forward to learning more about you and following your birth journey!
yay for your lodge!
Welcome to your lodge, Darci! We July ladies are just dominating, LOL.
Welcome to your lodge!! The July lodges make it so much more real that September is coming up fast!
Thanks guys! I was so excited this morning when I realized that I'm down to just 4 more weeks -- 28 days! And now I'm all excited again that I finally get my birth lodge! I remember when I first started coming to this board at around 20 weeks, thinking of how exciting it would be when I was actually close enough to delivery to get a lodge, and now here I am!
So I guess I'll start with a little background:
I'm Darci, just turned 30 last month. DH Brian is 31 and DS Kevin turns 5 this weekend. We started TTC this one in August of 2007. When I still wasn't pregnant in July of 2008 I talked to my doctor about my difficulty conceiving, and she suggested Clomid. I thought about it, but DH and my mom were really worried about the emotional side effects of Clomid since I've had issues with depression before. Plus, I had been charting for nearly a year and was certain that I was ovulating, so I didn't know if Clomid was really what I needed. So we decided to give it a few more months and see what happened.
Since my bloodwork all came back normal, the doctor suggested that stress might be a factor. Having that in the back of my head made the decision to quit my job a little easier when things at work got difficult in September. (I worked for 12 years as a figure skating coach. I loved my job, but not so much my boss and the whole coaching situation in Indy. Coaching here had been a constant struggle ever since moving from Minnesota 2 years ago.) I saw the doctor again in October, and the plan was for me to schedule an HSG right after my next period to check for uterine abnormalities or tube blockages. But I never got my next period -- I got a BFP on Oct. 30 instead! Maybe it was just stress after all! Getting pregnant in my first cycle after quitting made me feel a lot better about my decision to quit working.
So far this pregnancy has been easier than my last one -- less morning sickness, no food aversions, and so far *fingers crossed* no crazy rash. In my last month of pregnancy with DS, I developed cholestasis, which causes an insanely itchy painful rash. It's caused by a build-up of bile and can be harmful to the baby, causing stillbirth if it goes on too long, so my doctor wanted to induce me. Luckily, I went into labor all on my own two days before my induction date (39w2d)! 36 weeks is right about the time that I first noticed the rash before, so I get a little nervous now every time I feel an itch! If I can make it to the end of this week without the rash showing up, then I think I'll be able to breathe a sigh of relief. Not only was the rash nearly unbearable, but I don't want to give my doctor any reason to want to induce me.
I've always envisioned having two kids - one boy and one girl. So I was thrilled to find out that I'm having a girl. But as Beverly mentioned in her lodge, the end of this pregnancy is really bittersweet because while I can't wait to meet my baby girl, I'm one of those people who really likes being pregnant, and it's kind of sad to think that after a few more weeks, I'll never feel a baby wiggling around inside of me again.
I'll be back later to post about DS's birth story.
Darci, I love your intro! I totally believe that quitting your job and reducing your stress is what resulted in that BFP. Our minds and bodies are so closely linked together, it's crazy sometimes. Must have been so difficult to wait over a year to get that BFP, but soon you'll have your precious little girl! My little sister and I are five years apart, just like Kevin and your daughter will be, and I remember being really excited to greet her when my parents brought her home from the hospital. I loved being an older sister (well, until I hit my teens ... then there were a number of years when my sister was annoying to me ;)), and in a way I envy you, because Kevin is old enough to understand what being an older brother is, and Jack isn't! Can't wait to hear how their relationship develops.
Fingers crossed for you to not develop the rash again. Yikes! Seems like you're good this time, though. Looking forward to counting down the rest of your weeks w/you!
Hey Darci! Welcome to your lodge! I love reading everyone's background stories!!
And good for you for resisting Clomid and trusting your body instead! My doc had said the same thing to me when we were TTC #1! Oh, just take Clomid - so what if you end up with multiples... there are drugs and interventions to help with that too - bandaids bandaids bandaids!!! Kudos!
Can't wait to share your journey!
I hope the rash stays away this time
Welcome to your lodge! We TTC'ed for over 2 years before finding out I was anemic. Once I started iron supplements, I got a BFP my next cycle! I know how hard that long journey is...
Great intro, Darci. I'm glad you were able to find a natural solution to your fertility problems. I hope you don't get that rash again--I understand why you would be worried about that.
Okay, here's DS's birth story:
I was at 39w2d and it was about 8:00 pm when I realized that I hadn't felt him move much if at all that day. When I called the hospital, they said to come on in and they'd check to make sure everything was okay. I didn't really expect that they would keep me at the hospital, but my mom had been with me all day, and she thought I was about to go into labor, so she convinced us to take our hospital bag with us just in case.
When I got to the hospital, they hooked me up to the monitor and said that the baby's heart rate was fine -- and that I was having contractions! :shock: I couldn't feel anything at that point so I was really surprised. But of course that didn't last long! Eventually, the pain got so bad that even though I had wanted to go natural, I agreed to have an epidural (after DH and the nurse kept trying to talk me into it). I'm still annoyed at DH for trying to get me to take the epidural when he knew that's not what I wanted. We've had a few talks about it recently, so hopefully he'll be more supportive this time. He thinks I'm over-exaggerating the risks and doesn't understand why anyone wouldn't want to take pain medication if it's available. :rolleyes:
But even though I had been having strong contractions for 3 1/2 hours and had let the doctor rupture my membranes to get things moving, I was still only dilated to 2 cm, and I had to wait until 4 cm to get the epidural. So the nurse suggested a "morphine induction." She gave me a shot of morphine to help me relax and let my cervix dilate. And boy did that work wonders! One hour later I was dilated to ten and feeling the urge to push! And I was thrilled that it was too late to get the epidural!
From what I remember, the pushing stage really wasn't too bad. It actually felt good in a way to push. It did take quite a while, though. I pushed for 2 1/2 hours. The worst part of my delivery was getting a 3rd degree tear. *Ouch!* So I'm really hoping that this baby's not much bigger than DS and that I'm less likely to tear this time now that I've already been stretched to the max by DS!
Overall my birth experience with DS was great. I'd like to try to avoid the morphine this time because I think it did make DS a little groggy and contribute to our BFing problems right after birth. But I'd take a morphine shot over an epidural any day, and I certainly can't complain about going from 2 to 10 cm in one hour! I was in labor for a total of 7 hours with DS, so I'm hoping that this one will be even shorter since it's my 2nd time. But since the morphine shot definitely sped things up, I don't really know how long to expect it to take without it.
My ideal birth experience this time would be no epidural, no tearing, and hopefully less pushing than before. (After 2 1/2 hours pushing DS out, I had some killer hemmorhoids! )
Welcome to your lodge, Darci!
Wow, what a story! I can't believe you went from 2-10 in an hour! :shock: Hopefully that means this labor will be super fast too.
Welcome to your lodge! Looking forward to following your journey over the next few weeks.
TFS your birth story. It is interesting to read about how sometimes a less common intervention, such as the morphine shot, can be the most effective in some situations. I hope this time you are able to have an all-natural birth with no tearing!
Welcome to your lodge!
Welcome to your lodge! I'll have to remember that bit about the "morphine induction." Were you the person who posted here a while back about trying to prevent cholestasis this time around? I posted some info about natural ways to strengthen the liver, you could probably do a search on this forum & find it, if that wasn't you.
Yeah, that probably was me who posted about the cholestasis before. But so far, so good. I've heard that it usually shows up earlier in subsequent pregnancies, and I think I was just starting to get the rash at this point in my last pregnancy, so I feel like if I can make it to 37 weeks without a rash, then I'm probably (hopefully!) in the clear.
Man, my back is killing me today! I have been on my feet way too much. DH rented a movie for us to watch tonight, but I still have to frost a cake before I can kick back and watch it. DS Kevin's birthday party is tomorrow. Even though I was hesitant about the cost at first, I'm glad we're having his party at Bounce Planet instead of having it here. It's worth the money to have someone else take care of the clean-up! Wish me luck putting up with 12 5-7 year-olds tomorrow!
So tomorrow morning is going to be pretty hectic with the birthday party, but I'm really looking forward to tomorrow night becuse my family is coming to visit. It'll be my parents, my brother, his fiancee (who's already like a sister to me), and my niece. Kevin can't wait to play with his cousin again. I think he'll be surprised at how different she is now -- she was only 8 months old the last time he saw her, but now she's almost a year old. I'm actually a little surprised that they're all making the 8-hour drive (and that's just one-way) since they're only staying a day and a half. I wish they could stay longer, but it'll be fun while they're here. And my mom will be coming back on July 2nd, so that's when I'll be able to breathe a big sigh of relief knowing that I've got some help around here and that we have someone to watch Kevin if I go into labor early.
I hope all goes well at the party and you get to enjoy visiting with family, I know I always do
I hope your party is fun tomorrow, we'd love pictures if you care to share! I look forward to reading about your next birth. I can't imagine pushing for so long! This time I hope you are able to at least avoid stiches, that would be a huge drag:(. Yay for no rash this time!!
How was the party, Darci?
The party went really well. Kevin and his friends had a blast. We got a new camera recently, so as soon as I figure out how to get the pictures onto the computer (which I really need to do before the baby is born!) I'll post some. It was also a lot of fun having my family here, even for such a short amount of time. But it's nice to know that my mom's coming back in just 11 days and everyone else will be coming back to visit after the baby's born.
I've been having lots of BH contractions lately. I never had them at all in my first pregnancy, so this has been really strange for me. I get them almost every night. Last night was crazy; I was getting one about every 10 minutes for an hour! Maybe the increasing BH's mean that this LO will make an early entrance!
Speaking of "this LO," I am so frustrated with the name situation! DH and I sort of agreed on "Katrina," but I keep having doubts. "Katrina" wasn't at the top of either of our lists, but it's the only name that we both agree on at all. I really prefer the name "Kayla," and have unfortunately gotten kind of attached to it already, but DH doesn't like it. At first I was worried about using the name "Katrina" because of the hurricane. I've mostly gotten over that, but still every time I hear DH refer to the baby as "Katrina" it just sounds wrong to me, and I don't really know why. I'm planning to bring a list of other posible names to the hospital and I guess we can decide for certain after she's born. I'm sure DH will hate all the other names on the list, though. I guess I'm lucky that I even got him to agree to Katrina because we seem to have completely opposite taste in names. All of the names he suggested were either too common and plain or too weird for me (Diane, Susan, Helen, Anastasia, Augusta, Amelie). I absolutely knew that DS would be Kevin long before he was born, so not being sure about this baby's name is really stressing me out!
glad the party went well. Hopefully DH and you can come up with something, even if it is after she arrives. Sometimes I'm not a 100% on our names either, but DH is. As I told him it's not final till we put it on the registration form
BTW I really like Kayla too.
I'm really not a fan of naming babies before they're born, so being unsettled on a name at this point wouldn't bother me in the least. We had a list of about three first names and three middle names, but we still didn't name Tiven for two days! I don't think Ginger Baby will be nameless quite that long, but who knows.
And when all else fails and parents can't agree on a baby's name, I wholeheartedly believe that mom has the right to decide on the first name, and dad can pick the middle name. If he balks, tell him that when he goes through ten months of pregnancy & labor & delivery, then he gets the first name naming rights. Of course, if he chooses Esmerelda or Gertrude for a middle name, you have to live with it, but at least you'd be calling baby what feels right to you. At this point, you know her best!
Glad the party went well! I'm sure a name will come, we've never named a babe before birth:)
And when all else fails and parents can't agree on a baby's name, I wholeheartedly believe that mom has the right to decide on the first name, and dad can pick the middle name. If he balks, tell him that when he goes through ten months of pregnancy & labor & delivery, then he gets the first name naming rights.
If only I could get DH to see it that way too! But I don't think that would go over too well with him. If the name "Katrina" still doesn't feel right after the baby's born, I'll just tell him so (again) and I'll hopefully be able to convince him to choose one of my top two names: Kayla or Karina, in which case, the baby will end up being Karina because he's already told me that he likes it a little better than Kayla, which he basically hates.
I'm a little nervous about attempting the laundry today. The last time I washed a load, the machine kept stopping and giving me an error message, and I kept having to go in and restart it. Getting through the entire wash cycle took about twice as long as usual, and I was getting incredibly frustrated. Then on Sunday morning, the machine turned itself on and started beeping like crazy and flashing random error messages. It even started filling with water all by itself for no reason! I think my washing machine is possessed! :eek: I called yesterday to have someone come fix it. The good news is that there's a recall on our washing machine, so we'll get it fixed for free; the bad news is that they can't come fix it until July 3rd! I can't imagine sitting at the laundromat with Kevin for 2 hours, and actually, I don't even have a clue where the nearest laundromat is. So I guess I'll have to take my chances with the possessed machine and see what happens. It's been unplugged since Sunday (that was the only way to get the beeping to stop), and I'm a little worried about what the machine will do when I plug it back in. Hopefully I can get it through a complete wash cycle and won't be stuck halfway through with wet soapy clothes!
:woohoo: I'm 37 weeks today -- officially full term! I'm not expecting anything to happen for at least 2 more weeks, but it is exciting to think that 3 weeks from now my baby will probably be here (and I'll finally know her name)!
Yay for being full term!
That bites they can't get out to fix your washer until the 3rd!! I hope your laundromat trip goes by uneventfully.
And, I love the name Karina...I think its very pretty!
We can't agree on a name either. DH pretty much vetos any suggestions I make, but he doesn't contribute to the name pool, either. It was the same way with our first two also, and they didn't leave the hospital as "Baby Girl" or "Baby Boy".
Sorry about your washer - hopefully the baby doesn't come before they can fix it! That would be hard to have no washer with a new baby.
Happy 37 weeks! I like the name Karina, myself.
Happy 37 weeks!!!! Isn't it a huge relief to make it past that milestone? Now I find myself getting impatient. LIke you, I've been having increased BH contrax, whereas I had close to none with Jack. So I keep thinking LO is going to come soon ... but maybe that's wishful thinking on my part.
I like both Kayla and Karina. GL deciding on a name w/DH. Also, I do hope your washer gets fixed before the baby arrives!!!
Gah, I can't imagine how frusterateing that must be with the washer! Good luck with the name, when you see her you'll know what fits.
I had my 37-week appt. today, and everything's looking great! The GBS test came back negative, and my blood pressure is good (110/62). I had to see a different doctor this time, and she really gave me a scare -- when she was pressing on my abdomen, she thought the baby's head was up, which was a shock to me since the baby's been head-down for my last 3 appointments. I was lying there thinking, OMG, no! I do not want a c-section! :bawl: Then she said that she might be able to tell for sure when she did the internal exam. So as she was feeling around, I was holding my breath hoping for good news when she said, "Oh yeah, that would be a very hard butt! She's definitely head-down." *Whew!*
She also said that I'm 2 cm dilated, or maybe slightly more and that my cervix is soft. (Last appointment I was 1 cm and firm.) She definitely thinks I'll go early and she also said that from the way my cervix feels, she thinks things will happen fairly quickly once I get started. So I was pretty happy with that news (as long as I don't go into labor before my mom gets here on July 2). I came home and DH asked how the appt. went so I told him what the doctor said, and he's being very weird and negative about it. "She was just telling you what you want to hear," then speaking mockingly as the doctor, "Yeah, you'll go into labor any time now and you won't feel a thing. From what I can see you don't even have any nerve endings here. I'm sure your labor will be fast and completely painless!" :rolleyes: He also said that when I was pregnant with DS they told me I'd go "any day now" (which I'm pretty sure didn't happen at my 37-week appt, since I wasn't dilated past 1 until my last appt. at 39 weeks) and he was only born 4 days early.
I don't know why he feels the need to be so negative about what the doctor said, especially when I was clearly happy about it. Maybe he's just worried about me getting my hopes up for an early, quick labor, but it's not like I came in and told him that I thought I'd go into labor this week or that I thought it would be any less painful than last time.
that would so be my husband trying to keep me in reality. No wait, that's me I'm glad she was wrong about the head position though
that would so be my husband trying to keep me in reality.
That's exactly what it is. I just remembered that DH acted the same way when I got my first (admittedly very faint) BFP. I was excited, but he was very skeptical and said, "Don't get your hopes up." I guess he's just more of a pessimist than I am.
Awww, Darci! I'm sorry DH kind of rained on your parade. I guess he's just trying to manage your expectations, as you said. It does sound like you're going to go early, though. I know if my mw did internal exams and told me that I was soft and 2 cm, I'd be dancing in the streets. I'm so glad the baby is head down!
I had a similar experience with my MW not being sure what position my baby was in. She actually got the u/s machine to check. Turns out DD was posterior at the time and she was feeling her face and hand and couldn't tell it was a head.
Sorry your DH was such a downer. I think you are definitely getting close!
I am so exhausted! Poor Kevin had his 5-year check-up today. I knew he was going to need a few shots this time, but it ended up being a much bigger ordeal than I expected. It got off to a bad start right away. Yesterday I got a reminder call from the doctor's office telling me to make sure I get there 10 minutes early to fill out paperwork. So we got there 10 minutes early, and the door was locked with a sign on it saying that they were having lunch and a staff meeting and would be back at 1:00. Kevin's appointment was scheduled for 1:00, but I was really annoyed that they had told me to be there 10 minutes early when they knew nobody would be there until 1:00. So after sitting in the hallway for 10 minutes, someone unlocked the door and we went in...and there was no paperwork to fill out, so there was no reason to be there 10 minutes early anyway. :mad: Not that 10 minutes is a huge inconvenience, but it was pretty annoying to be told to show up early and then be made to wait.
First they did a vision test and determined that he has 20/20 vision. My vision is 20/12, so my first thought was "Why is his vision worse than mine?" Then I had to remind myself that 20/20 is very good...and that DH wears glasses! As long as Kevin has better vision than his dad, then we're in good shape!
Then the hearing test. They had a hand-held thing that beeped into his ear, and they asked him to count the beeps. He only heard 3 out of 5 beeps in each ear. But there were a lot of people outside of the room talking loudly, so they decided they'd check again after the rest of his check-up. So when the time came to take the test again, they had just started when someone started mowing right outside the window of the room we were in! So again, Kevin only heard 3 of the 5 beeps in each ear. So we had to go to another room to take the test a 3rd time. He still only heard 3 of the beeps in one ear and 4 in the other, so I'm a little worried about that. The doctor told me to bring Kevin back when I come for the baby's 2-week check-up and they'll do the test one more time before they decide if he needs to be sent to a specialist for a more in-depth hearing test.
One of the things that I asked the doctor about was the fact that Kevin drinks milk all day long and rarely drinks anything other than milk, so I wanted to find out if that was okay, or if we should try harder to get him to drink other things. She said that drinking too much milk can lead to anemia (Calcium inhibits the absorption of iron.) so they did a finger prick to check his hemoglobin. The doctor said that his iron level is low and that we had to go to the hospital to have a more thorough blood test done.
Knowing that he would need a few shots, I had promised Kevin that as soon as we left the doctor's office we could go to the arcade. Well, now instead of that I had to drive him to the hospital to have more blood drawn! I felt bad that he needed to be stuck with a needle for the 5th time and that we weren't going straight to the arcade like I had promised, so I told him that we could also stop somewhere for ice cream after we left the hospital.
Luckily, he did fine with the blood draw. He had cried a little when he got the vaccines, but he didn't cry at all when they drew his blood. He even watched the blood go into the vial! By the time we got through all of that and the ice cream store and the arcade, I came home and just wanted to collapse on the couch -- I have absolutely no energy left!
You have a brave boy. I can't even stand seeing when they take blood. I'm glad that his blood work and vision came out good.
Kevin's blood test results came in today, and he is low on iron. I have to get him some iron drops from the pharmacy tomorrow. I hope they don't taste too nasty!
Yesterday as DH (Brian) was cooking dinner, he asked me, "Do you like Ginger?" I thought he meant the food and I thought that he already knew that I don't like ginger, so with a weird look on my face I told him no, I don't like ginger. Then he said, "No, I meant Ginger as a name." "Oh, no, I like it even less as a name," I said.
So that opened up the whole baby name discussion again. Brian mentioned that he had talked to a woman at work who was from New Orleans. When he told her the baby's name would be Katrina, she understandably had a negative reaction. So now he finally understands why I'm so hesitant about using that name. I guess that's what got him thinking of names again, but I sure don't have a clue where "Ginger" came from. He has come up with some really odd ones. And then once in a while he'll come up with some completely dull and common ones -- I can't figure out his taste in names at all.
So anyway, we're back to square one, and I'm really getting worried that we're going to end up leaving the hospital with a child named "Baby Girl." I know that a lot of people don't have names picked out before the baby is born, but I am very much a pre-planner in everything I do, so this is really stressing me out. Yesterday I found a baby name website and scrolled through every single name, writing down all of the names I don't hate, and then narrowing it down to ten names that I could be happy with. Unfortunately, about half of them are names that Brian has already said no to. "Katrina" is still on the list, and I'm afraid to show him the new names I like because I know he'll hate them (and because I'm still not quite ready to give up on Kayla or Karina).
I hardly got any sleep last night because I just kept worrying that we'll never find a name we both like, and I couldn't stop running through lists of possible names in my head. I know we're not going to agree on a name before the baby's born, so I wish I could just get all of this baby name mess out of my head for a while. Maybe it's just the hormones, but this is seriously stressing me out!
Just name her Marilyn J/K
I'm sorry your so stressed. I'm sure whatever you pick will be perfect.
Darci, wow, sounds like Kevin was a trooper for putting up with the waiting, the multiple hearing test attempts, and all that pricking and blood-drawing! What a brave little man. I'm sorry that you have to go back for the hearing test ... hopefully everything is OK. How did he take to the iron drops?
Also, I'm sorry that you and DH haven't agreed on a name yet. I'm like you, I'm a planner, and that would definitely stress me out. Being pregnant certainly doesn't help -- for me, it seems to exaggerate every irritation or annoyance I have! Here's hoping you find a name soon.
I bet you were exhausted after all that at the docs office. I really hate when they do that to you, they've done it to me at least twice now :x As for the drops I don't know. Logan got some multi-vit ones that I was told taste really bad, but I don't know about just iron. Hopefully he'll do good with them.
Hopefully you will be able to find a name in time for baby, or maybe you'll just look at her and know her name. who knows, but I'm sure she'll have a name not long from now.
Just name her Marilyn J/K
I'm sorry your so stressed. I'm sure whatever you pick will be perfect.
If I did that, Dad would never spell it right! Does he still mix up the "i" and "y" in your name?
Good luck deciding on a name. I'm also the kind of person who likes to have things planned in advance, so I understand your frustration.
I think I've been losing my mucous plug for the past few days. I never imagined I could get so excited at the sight of mucous! It's not bloody at all, so I know it doesn't mean I'm about to go into labor or anything, but it's nice to know that stuff is happening!
I'm also excited because my aunt might be coming to visit sometime around July 8. If she makes it here before the baby's born, then that means that she can watch Kevin and my mom can be with me during labor. She was with me when Kevin was born, and even though DH was great, it really helped having my mom there too. And I'd love to have her there again for anti-epidural support, since I know from past experience (and recent conversations) that DH isn't completely supportive of natural childbirth.
It's kind of strange -- on one hand I'm very eager for labor to start, and every time I feel any kind of a twinge I imagine my cervix opening up just a little bit more; but on the other hand, I really hope the baby waits a while longer because I know that would be the ideal situation as far as having my family here in time. But it is really exciting to think that either way, the baby will most likely be here in less than 3 weeks!
Hopefully your aunt makes it on time so your mom can support you for the L&D. I can imagine how frustrating it can be when your DH doesn't see you eye to eye on issues concerning the baby or the L&D. I'm kind of stubborn....so I get my way most of the time
Yay for losing your plug! That's some progress. Hopefully your LO will stay put for a bit so your mom can be with you in labor. I'm having that issue too - my mom's watching my kids while I'm in labor so it's just me and dh. My sisters are supposed to come, but they're 2+ hours away so there's a chance I'll be laboring on my own.
Ugh, I'm feeling so yucky! I have pains in my stomach (like really bad gas pains) and I can't stop pooping. This is what happened about 8 hours before I went into labor with DS! :eek: I know the doctor said I'd go early, but this is way early; I'm not even 38 weeks yet!
I'm sure it's nothing since it is still so early. It's probably just because I overdid it at the Chinese buffet last night! :rolleyes:
Sorry you're having tummy problems. kup on whether it's just normal digestion problems or the start of labor!
If this is not labor-related, then I know one Chinese restaurant that I am never going back to! I still think it's got to be too early to be the onset of labor, but this is really reminding me of what happened right before labor with DS. I'm having DH put the car seat in the van (which I had wanted him to do this weekend anyway) just in case.
We were suppost to put the car seat base this weekend too....but we forgot.:eek: Hopefully we will get it done this week.
Hope it isn't labor related and you bake longer.
I'm voteing baby in the next 24 hours! Get as much sleep as you can hun. You sound like I was, like your in denial:)