Welcome to your lodge! You're 36 weeks today, can you believe it???
No!!! I keep saying I have no idea where the last two months went. I was just 28 weeks not too long ago! My body definitely feels 36 weeks pregnant though.
We're just getting ready to go out for DHs work Christmas party so I'll have to do the whole intro thing later (if anyone is interested :p).
welcome to your lodge. You are going to do great.
Congrats on your lodge and being in the homestretch!
Can't wait to get to know you!
Ok, intro time! My name is Amy, I'm 23 and my DH is Matt who is 27. We met online back in 2000 and became good friends then in 2002 we decided to meet in person and see if what was developing online could be real. I flew over to Canada from my home in Australia (at 18!) and stayed for 2 and a half weeks, and by the time I left we both knew we'd be getting married somewhere down the line. Matt came to visit me and my family in April 2003 and stayed for a few months, then in August we became engaged. He was back in the country in November and we were married in January 2004 in my hometown.
We moved back to Matt's hometown in Canada in March 2004. We bought a home in May 2004, moved in July and we've been here ever since. I'm still in the Immigration process to become a Permanent Resident so I can't legally work or study yet, but it's progressing (sloooowly).
We have two pets, a cat and a dog and a whole bunch of fish.
This is Roxy. She's a rottweiler/sheperd cross and about a 1 1/2 years old.
This is Oreo. He's 4 years old and we adopted him from the humane society. His best feature is that he's polydactyl (has extra toes on his paws)... very cute!
Now on to the baby stuff. When I was 17 I was told by a doctor that I'd most likely never be able to get pregnant on my own and that when I did get married and was ready to have kids I'd have to seek fertility help. He said I probably had PCOS but that he didn't want to go to the trouble of diagnosing it at that point since I was only 17. He made the 'probably' diagnoses based on my hormone levels, I think testosterone was way too high.
When DH and I got together I was on birth control for awhile, the pill then the patch, then I stopped because I developed numbness in my right arm that I thought could be a blood clot (one of the risks associated with the patch). We went to condoms then after awhile nothing (!!!). I only had 1, 2 or 3 periods a year and after having had a few pregnancy scares (all false) I was convinced it wouldn't happen naturally. Not for lack of trying or in our case more not NOT trying.
Fastforward to this year... I had a normal period in April, my last one before that being back in November... then in March I had 1 day of spotting. 14 days after that I apparently got pregnant! I had very severe morning sickness for about a month, the whole time I was convinced I just had some brutal stomach flu because I really believed I could not get pregnant. Eventually we decided I better get a test, just in case. DH already knew I was pregnant, I didn't think it was possible. Of course the test was a bit fat undeniable positive. That was May 26th or something like that, when I was 10 weeks pregnant.
Here's my first belly shot from 12 weeks:
I was finally able to find a doctor and got in for an early u/s on June 25th because they were basing the pregnancy off my last period in April. They thought I was 19 weeks at that point, and had done the maternal serum test and the results were abnormal because the dates were off. The u/s showed a healthy baby at 14 weeks. Very shocking for me. I knew I was pregnant but actually seeing it on a monitor... still feeling 'I can never get pregnant'... really shocking.
At that point I was already trying to find a midwife but due to my having two dates (due date of November 15 or December 22nd) it was a bit difficult for them to decide if they could take me. Once I knew my proper EDD I contacted them and updated my information, and not long after that I got the call that let me know I had a midwife! I feel really fortunate in that because there was only one group of midwifes in the city still accepting new patients, I was lucky to be accepted.
One of the big factors in my wanting a midwife and a homebirth is the money aspect. We're only on one income and because I'm still an Immigrant it would cost $3000+ for me to have a hospital birth. If I have to, I will, but even if I could have a 'free' birth in a hospital I'd still be choosing home. I have had a great pregnancy other than having morning sickness into the second trimester, but I am considered a low-risk pregnancy and I've made it to 36 weeks with my home birth still possible. So I am very grateful.
Here's my most recent belly shot from a month ago. I'll post the new one today or whenever I take it. Soon!
I guess the only other thing I want to add at this point is our families reactions. First person I told was my sister Emily on her birth day (called her in Australia on the phone), about a week after I took the home pregnancy test. She was already planning on visiting at Christmas, so I brought up the topic to check if she still wanted to come over, and told her we'd be having a baby then too! It made a good birthday present for her, she screamed into the phone really loud! Em is coming over to stay and live with us for 6 months on a working holiday, she arrives in another 2 weeks.
A couple of weeks after that I called my Mum and told her. 'Oh no' was her response, but she's gradually come around and seems to have accepted that now. She's coming over with her boyfriend and arrives in 3 weeks.
I called my Dad at the same time and he was excited, which I was glad about. He said he figured it would happen sooner or later!
We told my mother-in-law in person and she said 'why weren't you more careful'. :rolleyes: She doesn't know all the infertility history and how amazing I think it is that we got pregnant, so I just try to leave that remark in the past. I think she'll be thrilled to be a grandmother, she just worries about our financial situation.
My father-in-law was ecstatic.
And that's all for now!
welcome to your lodge, first of all!!! loved reading your introduction. it's so sweet how you and your DH met and fell in love! i'm so excited for you that you became pregnant! what a blessing!!! and i can't wait to hear how everything progresses!!
Congrats on your lodge. I really liked reading your intro. too!!! Can't wait to hear all the exciting updates!!
What a great intro... I adore your love story! Congrats on this sweet little baby and I can't wait to follow your journey to birth.
Welcome to your lodge! It's so nice to see another Aussie, especially one with such a great love story and happily ever after ending!
I'm looking forward to hearing more and sharing your journey to birth!
Wow! I can't believe it is time to start your lodge! Congratulations and I can't wait to hear your story.
I had a good 2-2 1/2 hours of bad cramping tonight. I gave myself a deadline of 7pm, if they were still that painful at that time I was going to call my midwife. I'm only 36 weeks so I really don't want to go into labour until at least the weekend, so I can attempt my homebirth. But if I go into labour there's not much I can do about it! Thankfully the cramping/contractions did die down. Maybe my body is working on dilating, or just practising for the big event. :shrug:
One thing that really worries me is having to transfer to a hospital because my midwife has told me she will not stay, she'll transfer my care and that will be that. That really bothers me, but I guess it's because we've planned a homebirth all along. I just feel like I wouldn't really have someone there other than DH to help me towards my goal of a natural birth and being as intervention free as possible. But with all that said... I've just got to keep focusing on making it until at least December 1st when I will be 37 weeks. 36 weeks and 6 days means a hospital birth... I don't want that and we can't afford it!
On a sillier note, I'd really love some chocolate icecream and cookies...
I'm sorry to hear that you had cramping and that your MW wouldn't become some sort of birth support if you had to transfer. That completely stinks! I don't know if you have the money for it (or how much i costs there) but you could look into chiropractic care. I know near the end of pg last time it helped me to decide if i was experiencing contractions or having severe back pain (wouldn't you know it was just severe muscle pulling from all that baby weight causing my back and pelvis to shift out of alignment!)
I loved reading your introduction. It was great to get to know you.
Did your midwife give you a reason for why she won't stay? Here the midwives have hospital privileges so even in the event of a transfer they stay with you.
She said that she thinks it's a waste of her time and the tax payers money, since in hospital labour progresses so slowly. Whereas if it was a home I wouldn't be calling her until I was already fairly far progressed, and she'd have work to do. In the hospital there are nurses and doctors to look after me and she'd just be sitting there.
Yeah I'm not happy about it, but hopefully it won't be an issue.
Wow...BAD midwife attitude.
I'm hoping it won't be an issue for you either. :bigarmhug:
I finally got around to taking an update belly shot...
Here's the comparison:
I don't see a whole lot of difference personally, except for it maybe being a bit rounder. :shrug:
I was supposed to see my midwife this morning for my 36 week appointment and the GBS swab, but she's attending a birth and the other midwifes in the practice are away at a conference! So I'll be going in tomorrow morning. Have to get the swab done and pick up my birthing kit. I'm a little worried that the swab results will take too long and that I will be in labour before they come back... But I am a FTM so that's probably not going to happen.
Matt is worried about DTD at this point since I'm so close to 37 weeks. Don't want to go into labour before Saturday. I told him if I go into labour from DTD then I was ready to go into labour...that seemed to do the trick. I'm a little surprised that I'm still just about as interested in DTD as ever, but I guess I'm just lucky. I think I'm in the 1-2% of my birth board who is. :o
Last night we went over to a friends house for what I thought was dinner, but it turned out to be a surprise baby shower. I am extremely easy to surprise with things like that because I never suspect anything! We got quite a few things and I feel very fortunate as I really don't know too many people very well, but they were all generous enough to give us gifts anyway. A few people said not to worry about thank you cards, but I want to. Just have to find an affordable way to get them.
That's awesome about the surprise baby shower! And I'm with you on the thank-you card thing...I think it's important too! Which reminds me...I have to get mine out soon! Oh, and I loved reading your intro. Your wedding pics are gorgeous!
How nice of your friends to throw a surprise baby shower!!! I'm with you on the thank you cards also. (BTW, I found a pack of 20 pretty cheap at Walmart, I think they were less than $5, not too bad!)
That's nice that you're still interested in DTD and you can convince DH to go along with it. A little hanky panky never hurt anyone.
I got in to see my midwife today. My 36 week appointment at 36.5 weeks. She has been busy with three births in the last two days so very tired.
Everything was basically fine. Blood pressure is still perfect, didn't even ask me about my weight this time and the baby's heartbeat was fine. I'm measuring right on at 37 weeks now and Janet (midwife) says I'm all baby.
We went over the homebirth paperwork again and signed it the second time to confirm that's what we still want. She said she's satisfied we're good candidates for a homebirth with a low risk pregnancy. Then we had to talk about what would make us have to go to the hospital, the emergencies and the non-emergency reasons. The two biggest concerns are firstly, if I go into labour on December 25th, my midwife is available but the other midwifes in the practice are not. If she can't get any of the midwifes in any of the other practices in the city to attend, we'll have to go to hospital to deliver but we could labour at home for a long time.
The other big concern is the weather. Living in central Canada there's a whole lot of snow this time of year and very possibly there could be a big snow storm on the day. If she thinks it might take too long to transfer to a hospital in the event of an emergency we'll have to go in.
So here's to hoping I'm not in labour on Christmas Day, and that the big snow storms happen a few days before or after the baby wants to come!
She's coming by tomorrow or on Saturday to drop off the birth kit and will probably check out the house then too. Matt (DH) is a bit concerned about where we should have the birth pool. We're considering maybe having it in the dining room and moving our bed out here into the living room (open concept house) right next to it. I just don't know. We'll see what her opinion is. Matt thinks we might need to inflate the pool now to figure out where to fit everything... could be a good idea.
I also did the GBS swab. I was a little surprised, I thought she'd be doing it, but I am ok with doing that myself! Also did a midstream urine collection as Janet is a bit concerned I might have UTI based on the contractions I've been having. I don't think so but might as well find out.
I'm glad you had a good appointment! I will be keeping my fingers crossed that you don't go into labor on Christmas day or during a snow storm!
Ditto! For both of us! Glad you had a good appointment!
I emailed my birthplan to my midwife yesterday and just got her reply today. I had a lot of trouble putting it together, trying to figure what was or wasn't necessary and include stuff just in case of transfer to hospital... but here's what she had to say:
I really like your birth plan; it is concise, clear, and reasonable. I am looking forward to your birth very much.
I guess I did ok, even though I couldn't get it down to just one page! It's more like 2 and 1/4.
On another topic I had a dream last night that I woke up and my water had broken in the bed. Maybe it means something, or maybe it just means my bladder was really full!
Awesome!! Wanna link us to it, so we can read (and steal )??
I'd love to read it too, if you want to share it! Mine's still a work in progress! I'm glad your midwife was pleased with it!
I honestly don't think it's that great, it still very much has a DRAFT feeling to me, but oh well. Here you go! The last section is mostly related to hospital birth in case we have to transfer. I'm pretty happy with it but I might like to add that we'd like to keep the baby with us, or send my DH with it.
Informed Consent Questions
1. Is this an emergency, or do we have time to talk?2. What would be the benefits of doing this?3. What would be the risks?4. If we do this, what other procedures or treatments might we end up needing as a result?5. What else could we try first or instead?6. What would happen if we waited an hour or two (a day or two, a week or two, etc.) before doing it?7. What would happen if we didn't do it at all?
Birth Plan for: Amy -- (Husband: Matthew --)
Due Date: December 22Midwife: Janet Macaulay
Midwife: Janet Macaulay
[INDENT]· I would like the cord to be allowed to finish pulsing before being cut. Please offer my husband or myself the opportunity to cut the cord.[/INDENT]
[INDENT]· I plan to have a natural third stage and to allow the placenta to show up in its own time. Please do not administer any drugs unless you feel there is a real need. I would appreciate your advice in helping me deliver the placenta naturally.[/INDENT]
[INDENT]· If I give birth in the pool I would like to get out of the water for the third stage if I wish to.[/INDENT]
[INDENT]· I would like to be shown the placenta.[/INDENT]
Care of the baby:
· I would like to waive the administration of eye antibiotics.
[INDENT]· I consent to giving the baby the Vitamin K shot.[/INDENT]
[INDENT]· I would like to breastfeed my baby as soon as possible after the birth[/INDENT]
[INDENT]· I would like to keep the baby unclothed and close to my skin immediately after the birth to maximise skin-to-skin contact.[/INDENT]Repair of the Perineum, if necessary
[INDENT]· I would like to discuss my options. If any tear is minor and you think it will heal on its own, without stitches, please let me know.[/INDENT]In case of transfer to hospital:
In case of transfer to hospital:
[INDENT]· If transfer by ambulance becomes necessary, please do not strap me in on my back - I would prefer to be on my side, to make contractions easier to deal with[/INDENT]
[INDENT]· I would like to keep an open mind about my pain relief options and would prefer not to be offered pain relief unless I request it[/INDENT]
[INDENT]· I do not agree to student doctors being present during my treatment[/INDENT]
[INDENT]· I am very keen to avoid a caesarean section if it is at all possible, I particularly would like to avoid a caesarean for slow progress. If labour is simply taking a long time but my baby is not in immediate danger, please would you encourage me to keep going and perhaps to try changes of position or movements that might help. Please do not offer a caesarean unless my baby is in danger.[/INDENT]
[INDENT]· If a caesarean section becomes necessary, I would prefer to remain awake with epidural or spinal block anaesthesia. I would like my husband Matt to stay with me at all times, and would like to breastfeed the baby as soon after birth as possible.[/INDENT]
If there are problems after the birth:
· If I suffer a severe postpartum haemorrhage, please do not perform a hysterectomy unless it is the only available course of action. This is my first child and I still hope to have more.[/INDENT]
· Please do not give my baby supplements of glucose water or formula milk without my permission. I would expressly like to avoid having any formula supplements unless it is unavoidable, and certainly not in the first two days in any event.[/INDENT]
[INDENT]· Under no circumstances is my baby to be bottle-fed as this could lead to nipple confusion and hinder breastfeeding. If supplements are necessary, please give them by spoon or other method, not by bottle.[/INDENT]
[INDENT]· If I have trouble breastfeeding, I would greatly appreciate the help of a midwife who is fully supportive of breastfeeding, and would also like to be given contact details for local breastfeeding counsellors.[/INDENT]
· I would like to go home as soon after the birth as I am able to move, unless I, or my baby, have health problems that require hospital treatment.[/INDENT]
As someone that has had an unplanned cs when I make a birth plan I put a lot more details into my cs portion, but otherwise I have to say that you have a good plan, as I am sure these are all things you have discussed with your mw many times. Please let your hubby know about his role in the birth too (as if you haven't already), maybe provide him with some illustrations of positions you would like him to try to help support you into during the labor stage.
I'll have to look into adding a couple of things to the c-section part of my birth plan. Probably not a bad idea to go over things with DH again either. He's an extremely calm and level-headed guy, but who knows how he will be when I'm actually in labour.
My midwife dropped off the birthing kit today, so we're all good to go! ... except that DH still needs to go pick up a hose from Rona/Home Depot. Kind of can't fill my pool without it.
My test results came back GBS negative and no UTI.
I'm kind of nesting in overdrive. I'm extremely worn out but I feel that if I don't do it, it won't get done... funny how just a few weeks ago I was posting in other people's threads telling them not to overdo the nesting and conserve their energy! Hmmm... :rolleyes:
ETA: Janet mentioned that the midwife that will see me next week will offer to do a stretch and sweep. I think I posted about this before. She mentioned again that 'studies show' women who have this done regularly are less likely to go post-date. I really don't know. At this point I think I will decline it at least for the next appointment. There's always the temptation to see how far I've progressed even though it doesn't really mean anything, but ideally I'd rather wait to have the baby until the week after next.
ETA2: Here's what my birthing tub area (dining room) currently looks like... as you can see there's a bit of moving/tidying up to be done! Pool is still in box on a chair in there.
LOL Amy, resting is easier said than done, huh? I think as women we struggle to sit and look at something that needs to be done and NOT do it! The nesting instinct aside!
I agree with waiting on the stretch and sweep. If your body needs to bake the baby for longer, then let it do that. Going post date is hard but it's not the worst thing that could happen.
Your room looks like my nursery did 2 weeks ago! It actually doesn't take very long to sort out......get DH in there and order him around a little.
I would probably decline the stretch and sweep too. I just feel like it is such an unnecessary thing to do in a pregnancy unless there are other concerns. I hope that your next appt goes well and that hubby helps you get that dining area cleaned up for the birth pool.
I agree about declining the stretch and sweep. Some studies show that a membrane sweep is most effective the first time it's done, so you might consider waiting in case you need that later.
When I first read that post about your birth tub area, I mistakenly thought you were saying the birth tub arrived, and I was like, huh? that looks like a big fish tank to me. Good thing you are not planning to use that during labor!
Matt's job is to move all the boxes that I've finished sorting down into the basement. There's a whole bunch of them waiting for him when he wakes up this afternoon (he's on the night shift). I actually made really great progress with everything over the last couple of days.
Only if my feet were giving birth! No, fish keeping is Matt's hobby and we have fish tanks all over the place. I think they'll be going into the basement too!
I feel good about declining the stretch and sweep. I'm not ready to have the baby yet, as far as I'm concerned it's all up to the baby to decide when it is ready to come on out. I'm in no rush (today).
Belly Shot update, no change!
You look great!!! What a beautiful belly! Glad the room is coming together.
I think you did the right thing about the stretch and sweep. I am going to do the same thing myself (if they offer). I figure that having a stretch and sweep is preferable to an induction, so I'll "save it" for 41.5 weeks if I need it.
I had a bit of a breakdown yesterday. My so-called pregnancy hormones have been pretty good the whole time but yesterday I just felt soooo overwhelmed. In my head I have this image of my house being perfectly neat and tidy, of the Christmas decorations being up, my tree up, the presents under it.. my birthing area ready to go and being a nice tranquil area, as well as our bedroom being perfectly tidy and set up. Reality is pretty much the opposite. It quite possibly might seem silly to someone who isn't pregnant, but right now I feel so miserable about it!
When Matt got up yesterday he moved a lot of stuff down into the basement for me, but there's still lots left to do. I'm also a bit stressed because although we have 99% of everything ready for the birth, one of the most important things is still missing... that's a hose to fill up my birth pool. :rolleyes: The ongoing snow is freaking me out too, supposed to get another 5cm today.
I'm in a bit of pain today. Woke up with both my legs feeling really crampy and achey, and now I have a strange pain in my lower right abdomen. Kind of feels like I'm being stung by a bee repeatedly... can't explain it. Just plain old pregnant I guess.
I'd be declining the stretch and sweep too. You're just past 37 weeks. Was there a reason for the rush?
None at all. I'm not really in extreme discomfort, not measuring too big, pregnancy has been perfectly smooth. My midwife just keeps bringing it up as an option. :shrug: At this point I'm still letting baby decide when it wants to come.
Proper thing! I just don't understand why everyone is always in such a rush to evict these babies! I mean, in your case, you're still almost 4 weeks away from the average for a FTM! And really, unless you're having complications, it's so much easier to take care of them while they're on the inside!
I hear you. That's why our BB is becoming a little bit frustrating for me right now. People getting induced because their babies are 'too big', or automatically getting a c-section for a breech baby, or getting induced just because they're over 37 weeks... what's with that?! I know it's a personal decision, it just seems like the doctors say they want to do things a certain way and no one questions it.
I know it's a personal decision, it just seems like the doctors say they want to do things a certain way and no one questions it.
*sheepishly says* Well don't you know you can never be as informed as your doctor? I mean he has been to school years ago and educated abou tthings such as the medical process of birth. You never have! And we all know that he wouldn't be doing something unsafe to us or else he'd be performing malpractice, which he wouldn't want to do because it could escalate his insurance premium. For those in the US, we know that profits would never ever be a base line for why a procedure is done because all a dr is there to do it help you!*steps out side of the sheep*
Please feel free to puke about the mainstream medical birth process as you like. I know when I hear those things I just want to slap whomever says it. In order to GIP you may need to consider giving up your birth board until next month, when all the medicalized births are going to be minimized (heck a think a majority of them will be over by dec 23 )
I'll probably update twice today.
This afternoon I'm having my first home visit with one of the midwifes from the practice. It's the one I haven't met before, and also the one I the most hope isn't on call when I go into labour, because she has a 'stand up when giving birth' policy when it comes to water birth. That just sounds like too much work to me. But we'll see.
The last couple of days I've been having issues with extra tiredness, swelling, headaches and dizziness, so I am interested to see how my BP is. It has never been an issue in the pregnancy so far, but I just haven't felt great. Yesterday I spent all day lying down because I was too worried about falling over from the dizziness.
Today I'm going to try attempt more tidying/cleaning. Matt is going to start installing the new foam/plywood subfloor in what's supposed to be our bedroom. The floor is freezing in there, so that should help with the cold. Then when he's done we can actually move back in there.
My sister's flight leaves from Australia today and although she won't arrive here until Saturday it's pretty important that we evacuate what's going to be her room and actually have a place to go by the time she's here.
The midwife was lovely, friendly and talkative. I'm still not 100% happy with the thought of possibly having to deliver standing up in my pool, but we'll cross that bridge when we get to it!
After my worries about my BP it was still perfect at 108/68 or something like that. Baby's heartbeat was strong and regular, and it's in the perfect position. She said she thinks baby has dropped as the head was a little difficult to find and also I only measured at 35 weeks (37 last week), and she said that's usually an indication baby's head is in position. I have definitely been feeling hiccups lower, so that's good!
You know, if the time comes and you do not want to stand up, what is the midwife going to do? *Make you?* Good luck!
You might just be the mama that gives her experience in dealing with a true in-the-water delivery.
Sounds like things are good on the baby and mama health front. Woot!
Congrats on having a great MW appt! I'm glad to hear that you are starting to feel the sensation of a dropped baby. Hopefully that means a rather uncomplicated easy delivery. I look forward to hearing more abotu your upcoming birth....
Btw is there a reason why she is so against actually birthing in the pool then possibly moving for placental delivery/watching for pph? I was hoping you would ask and we would find out why.
Hmm...that is odd about the standing up policy.
Glad to hear your bp is good.
She said the reason is that she hasn't had any formal training in water births and hasn't attended enough to feel comfortable with it... whereas the other midwives are very experienced and comfortable with it.
I think the best thing for her would be if she was the second at my babies birth and I gave birth in the water... that's one experience for her!
DTD tonight and now I'm having a lot of contractions... I guess we'll see what happens. No rush!
She can't make you stand if you don't want to! Just go with what you feel like doing at the time.
Oh, and it sounds like the LO is getting ready to go! Well, making preparations anyways!
Does anyone have any formal training in water births until actually witnessing one? Seriously it sounds as tho she is hindering her own experience by trying to request you to stand, but as others have pointed out she will not be able to force you to stand
I'm watching and waiting as your lodge progresses. I can't wait to hear your story.
Last night was kind of exhausting! I had five hours of contractions that were well within the '411' pattern the midwife described. (4 minutes from the start of one to the next, lasting 1 minute for 1 hour)
However... the pain wasn't so intense that I felt like I was actually in labour or that I needed to call anyone. There were only a handful of contractions that I really had to focus through. So I didn't call anyone and I just went to sleep after awhile and they faded away enough that I could get some sleep.
I'm hoping that I will know when I actually need to call the midwifes and let Matt know he needs to come home from work! Even though I would be very ok having a bareable level of pain I don't want to be alone catching my baby.