Welcome to your Lodge!!!
Welcome to you lodge!
Welcome to your lodge!! Not much longer to go now and you'll be holding your precious bundle!!!
Welcome and congrats!!!
I look forward to reading about you here. I hope your lodge is filled with plenty of pleasant memories that you save after the baby's birth.
Welcome to your lodge!! :wavehello:
Thanks for the welcomes, everyone! I'm so excited to have a lodge! Thanks for making it for me, Cindy! I'm working on typing an introduction in microsoft word (less likely to get lost in internet land) that I'll be posting soon!
Here’s my introduction:
My names is Brittany and I am 22 years old. My family moved around a lot when I was growing up. I was born in Georgia, but I consider Tennessee where I went to high school my home, and my parents still live there now. I moved to Utah when I started college and met my DH Tiatia in the second semester of my sophomore year. We started dating in April and were married December 30, 2005.
I finished my degree in Early Childhood Education (teaching certification for pre-K to 3rd grade) a year after we were married (It only took me 7 semesters instead of 8 ). It was a crazy time, and because I finished my student teaching in December (the middle of the public school year), it worked out for me to take a part time job at the child care center for children of employees of the local hospital (at which I am not having my baby, because it is a large teaching hospital and midwives don’t attend births there). I am still working there now while DH is finishing his bachelors in Business Management: Corporate Finance. He will graduate this April. He has decided he wants to pursue grad school, so things are kind of up in the air until he gets accepted somewhere.
I felt it was right to start TTC our first child last October while I was still student teaching. I went off birth control and stopped having AF. There was a lot of stress surrounding a false positive HPT in November (it is possible…the brand of tests I was using got recalled because of high reports of false positives, but I didn’t know that until later) And then the gynecologist at the student health center put me on provera to get my cycle started. It made me have one AF and then nothing. The gyn did some blood tests and the hormone abnormalities he found led him to diagnose me with PCOS. He prescribed metformin and told me to chart my BBTs. I o’d after about 2 and a half weeks at my recommended dose (they have you gradually increase it because it’s hard on your system) and 2 weeks later I got my BFP! (That was the end of May)
I had a “threatened miscarriage” (painless, red vaginal bleeding) at 6 weeks. The OB I had my first appointment set for the following week with had us come in and he did a u/s that showed a tiny heartbeat. He put me on bedrest until the bleeding stopped. After that everything was fine, but he never did anything to try to find out what may have caused the bleeding.
I used to be one of those people who just says they’re getting an epidural without looking into any other options, but then I thought about it and I realized I wasn’t sure that was what I wanted. I remember being frustrated looking at the childbirth education classes offered by the hospital and discovering that Medicaid (which I am on because I couldn’t afford insurance at the time we got pregnant…still can’t) will pay for the hospital’s basic prenatal class, but it doesn’t cover the Lamaze class they offer. We ended up taking the basic prenatal class because it was free and also taking a supplementary Breathing and Relaxation class (which we went to tonight, and I think it was really helpful for DH because a lot of the other stuff I’m doing is researching more on my own).
Around the time we finished the basic prenatal class (in November), we went to a seminar at the local Babies R Us where a Hypnobirthing (Mongan Method) instructor was recruiting for her class. She explained some of the theories about how fear of pain increases (or even causes) pain in labor, etc, and I came to the conclusion that I could do natural childbirth. Around then, I came to this board and started reading stuff on the recommendations of the wonderful ladies here, and I became very committed to trying for a NCB (Henci Goer will do that to you).
My preparation for my NCB, in addition to a lot of reading and the hospital’s 2 hour Breathing and Relaxation course, is sort of a home-study modge-podge. I’m reading Janet Balaska’s Active Birth and I have started the Pregnancy Yoga routine she outlines (leaving out any position involving lying on the back because I’m past 34 weeks). I’m also reading the Mongan Method book and trying to listen to the CD that came with it or do some other kind of relaxation rehearsal every day.
Most of you probably followed the saga of me changing from my OB to a MW group. Upon interviewing my OB, I found his attitude less than ideal, to say the least, so I switched to a group of CNMs who are very NCB friendly and attend births and a hospital that is a better environment for un-medicated birth. It’s farther away, both their office and the hospital, but I feel it will be worth it to have someone supportive.
Oh, and our baby is a girl. The OB was reluctant to tell us for sure at my 2nd tri u/s, so we were naughty and went to one of those commercial places. They told us girl and my OB confirmed it at my 3rd tri u/s, which was also the last time I saw him. We are naming her Tehani Lindsey Belle. DH’s mom is from Tahiti, and Tehani is a Tahitain name which means something like “the beautiful fragrance of flowers” (way nicer meaning than “Land of the Britons”) Lindsey is my mother’s maiden name, which is a nice girl’s name, and Belle, besides being beautiful, is a great grandmother’s middle name (she actually went by it, because her first name was Lula, and she didn’t like that) and it’s a tradition on my mom’s side of the family to have girl’s middle names end in –elle.
Edited to add my Belly Pics:
I did follow your story how you looked for a different care taker. I have been impressed with how you do not allow this being your first birth to stop you from educating yourself and finding a better environment for both you and baby. :bighug: I think you will be a fabulous mom and look forward to reading more on your log.
Are you planning on having anyone other than your MW and DH with you when birthing?
I've considered having a doula if I could find someone who would do it for free or really cheap, maybe a doula in training or something. I'm going to ask the MW I see at my appointment in the morning how much of the labor time they spend with women. With their on call system, it seems like they probably would be available to spend most of the time at the hospital with me, which would probably mean I wouldn't really need someone else.
Is your mom or MIL coming out to help you or around the time of birth?
How much time a doula spends with you will probably have more to do with the doula herself, than anything & how much time you'd like her to be with you. My doula was with me for Seamus' birth from the time I was admitted, to when I delivered & if I have one with this pregnancy, I'm hoping for the same
I'm pretty sure you'd be able to find a doula who is still training who would do it for free, or for a smaller fee than usual. Hopefully your midwife will have some resources for you.
The picture of your wedding is absolutely lovely! And its good to hear that you are taking the bull by the horns and going the whole hog - midwives, natural birth, maybe a doula. All I can say is good for you
I just got back from my MW appointment. The CNM I saw today is actually on call on my due date, so if I go on my due date, she'll be the one who attends the birth. I had made a list of questions about some birth plan stuff that I wanted to ask, but I forgot to bring it, but I managed to remember a few questions. I asked about pre-labor SROM and she said that they usually allow 6 hours from SROM for labor to begin until intervening, which is better than doing something immediately. I also asked how it usually works with how much time the CNMs spend with laboring patients and she says it just depends on how many of their patients go into labor that day. She said they try to be with you and help you as much as possible, but if they have someone else laboring at the other hospital they attend births at at the same time as you, they have to split their time. She said typically she sees 2 to 4 births in the 24 hours of each of her on call shifts, but she said February is usually a slower month for some reason, so there might be less. She says she recommends a doula, but she was really understanding about my worries about the money. She said a doula in training could be a good option, or a friend or family member who has done a natural birth.
My MIL lives only about 45 min. away from us, and the hospital is between where they live and where we live. I have thought a lot about having her come to the birth and be my advocate as her first SEVEN babies were born without any pain medications (she got epidurals with her last two, with the 8th, she said the epidural was totally ineffective, and she regrets getting it with the 9th because, although it was nice not to have pain during birthing, she says she has back pain from it still and she didn't like that she recovered slower).
My mom is coming after the birth to help take care of things like cooking and cleaning so I can focus on the baby.
I just realized I forgot to post about my appointment other than my conversation with Abby. I weighed in at 126.4, up about a pound and a half from my appointment 2 weeks ago, which is not bad (I only weighted about 100 lbs pre-pregnancy, so I'm supposed to gain a lot, having started out "underweight") My blood pressure was 120/70. It is still in the healthy range, but it has gotten higher since early pregnancy (I have written down that at my 10 wk appointment, it was 100/56). My abdomen measurement was right on, baby is still head down, and we heard the heartbeat nice and strong. I got swabbed for a Group B Strep test, so send me some negative GBS vibes! I'll get the results at my next appointment, which I scheduled for next friday because DH doesn't have any classes on Fridays.
That is all good news... Glad she had some options for you. Did she give you a list of girls in training? I usually have my MIL with me. I love the experience and would love for her to be with me again, but she will be watching my other children. I am just thankful to have her with me period whether watching my children or in the hospital.
Whatever you decide - it will be the best for you!!! I hope you can find someone that will be able to attend with you. HUGS!
Yeah, she asked about our preparation, and I told her some about what we're doing, and she said that if we're really prepared, we'd probably be okay just the 2 of us. I think it would work to have MIL as an advocate and female supporter because even though she's not a professional, I would have the MW on call there at least some of the time and she would be able to offer the tips and tricks that professional doulas have. My MIL kind of intimidates me, though...so I don't know.
Oh, and I added a new belly pic to my slideshow, which is on my intro post.
they usually allow 6 hours from SROM for labor to begin until intervening
you know, I asked my MW about SROM as well, and she said they would interveneafter...12 hours maybe? I don't remember. She did say to call when the waters break so they'd have a time. I said, what if I don't want intervention that soon? She said, well, it all depends on when I call; but if I don't want them to interfere, I mean intervene, then don't call until I'm ready for it, lol. Basically she said to lie about when it broke so that labor can start on its own...
Anyway 6 hours sounds awfully fast for them to intervene. JMO though.
I think it's normal for BP to go up even without pre-e. Mine always did but never got out of normal range (mine is normally pretty low like yours, 100/60 or so). But also you can measure it 5 times a day and get 5 very different numbers. If you're worried, try taking it at the drug store (or whatever store has the free BP machine) next time you drive by, just for kicks.
Your belly looks spectacular!
Glad you had a great appt. Beautiful belly pics!
Have you ever attended a birth yourself? Has your mom told you of her own experiences with birthing? Do you have siblings who have had children? What do you hope to gain through their experiences? (if you have had the chance to talk about it with them.)
As far as the pre-labor SROM thing goes, I'm not going to stress too much about something that, from what I've heard, doesn't really happen that often anyways. My MW said they like to hear from you when your water breaks so that they can acertain that it actually has broken, because it's not always obvious. If it hasn't broken, you don't have anything to worry about. Yeah, 6 hours is not a lot of time, but it's better than nothing. I know they have to deal with the hosptial policies of doing a c-section if you haven't given birth within a certain amount of time after membrane rupture due to the "risk of infection" (can't remember...but I think it's 24 hours), so they'd rather do something to get you to birth instead of waiting and letting you get cut. Lying about how long your membranes have been ruptured is always an option, though.
I have never attended a birth. My mom has told me her experiences. She was unhappy with the way her first birth, my older brother's, went (she then lived where I live now and had the infamous "Dr. Dammit"). Her membranes ruptured, she went to the hospital, and then she had every medical intervention in the book short of a c-section (and AROM, obviously, because her water had already borken)--narcotics, pit, epidural, episiotomy (which caused her to have a 3rd degree tear), and forceps delivery. It was also a pretty long labor, which I think is partly because she got an epidural too early. She wanted something more natural with her future births, and she nver got an epidural or episiotomy again. With me, she can't remember for sure, but she thinks she got a shot of narcotics. Her labor began with rupture of membranes again, so she went to the hospital early. She says if she hadn't been at the hospital, she would have been able to deal with it better and probably won't have gotten a shot of narcotics (demyrol). With the brother after me, my mom was having contractions like she was in labor, but she went to the hospital and they said her cervix wasn't changing. They sent her home once, and then the second time, they gave her a shot of morphene (!?!?) which allowed her to relax and go to sleep, and when she woke up, she had stared dialating. She thinks she had demyrol during that one, too. With my youngest brother, she finally had a totally unmedicated birth. My dad was at work and my mom was at home with her 3 small children. She called my dad and told him she was having contrax, but he didn't think it was a big deal because with the last one, she'd had "false labor" so he wasn't in any hurry to leave work. She was doing fine laboring at home, and when they finally did go to the hospital, she was already 7 cm and my brother was born within an hour of their arrival.
I don't have any sisters, and all of my brothers are not married yet, so I'm the first one in my family to have a baby. My husband's older sister has a little girl from her marriage to a guy she eloped with who she met on the internet. They got separated while she was still pregnant and they may even have already been divorced before she had her, so obviously the father wasn't there for the birth. My FIL once told me that he thinks some of this SIL's issues come from the fact that she was molested as a child by an extended family member. So...she brought a lot of emotional baggage to the birth, and I'm sure she was scared out of her mind, so I guess her getting an epidural may have been the best thing. Her view of birth is very different from mine and I didn't like the way my conversation with her made me feel, because she acted like she thought my birth would be like hers, and I know it won't be.
I know my experience will be different from those of others because I have a plan, KWIM? I'm preparing, I have a supportive DH and awesome MWs. I'm hoping to stay at home a long as I can, even if my water breaks, my MW said that if I'm not GBS+ I don't have to go to the hospital right way, I can stay home for either 6 hours if contrax don't start or until my contractions are close enough together to go.
You have a fantastic attitude and it sounds like you have a great support team. You will do great and I look forward to reading your experience. :bighug: You are going to have a darling baby!!!!
I bought a birth ball! Well, it's actually an exercise ball, but they're basically the same thing. I saw an add saying K-mart was having a sale on them, so we went and picked one up. All they had left were the smallest size--55 cm/21 in, but the recommended user height on it is 4'8" to 5'3", and I"m 5'3" It's pretty comfortable to sit on. Just a little update
I'm a bit late but welcome to your lodge! I'm sending you GBS negative vibes.
That is awesome!!! I have not tried a birthball... I have been thinking about it though! You will have to let us know how it works for you.
So when is your next appt.? Are you on weekly visits now?
Yeah, I'm on weekly visits now. I scheduled my next appointment for Friday (even though today was one week from my last visit) because DH doesn't have any classes on Fridays and I wanted him to get to come. He was going to come to my first MW appointment, but then my little brother got appendicitus that day, so everything changed. He couldn't come last week because I forgot to check his school schedule and it turns out he had a class at the same time as my appointment.
That will be awesome - his getting to meet your MW for the first time! I hope it goes really well!!!!
Oh this is so fun to read. Welcome to your lodge.....
YAY for FTM's...I can't wait to hear all about your birth.
Are you comfortable sharing what scares you the most? Or what you are most looking forward to?
Just catching up on your lodge! I can't wait to continue your journey with you!
I am just catching up too and saying hey!
It's so nice to see how u are staying on top of things and preparing for the birth of ur LO. I can't believe how young u are. I knew u were much younger but for 22, u r wise beyond your years. You will make a great mom.
Oh this is so fun to read. Welcome to your lodge.....
YAY for FTM's...I can't wait to hear all about your birth.
Are you comfortable sharing what scares you the most? Or what you are most looking forward to?
I think I am most scared by the idea of tearing. I've been trying to do kegels every day, so I hope that helps.
I'm most looking forward to the bonding experience--both my DH taking care of me during labor and the 2 of us seeing and holding our baby for the first time after the birth, bonding as a family of 3.
Thanks! I'll be 23 in April. I graduated college at age 21, and I consider education important. I think it's really sad how uneducated many first time mothers are (how uneducated I used to be) about birth options. I'm really passionate about it, actually. I've been thinking I would like to someday become a childbirth educator or a doula so that I can help educate people about birth.
I think that you are very dedicated and would make a fantastic birth educator or doula! I say Go for it!
I have to agree with Cindy, I think u would make a great educator. I was so clueless when I had my first child. I relied on parenting magazines and hosp classes and what the OB said. The sad thing is no one in my circle of friends had any clue abt NCB so I never got any good advice. I am so glad to have found PO. I wish i had found it long ago but I have not regrets since I can now tell someone else the cons of inventions etc
I had my appointment today and DH came with me. Poor guy got so bored waiting. I didn't have to wait that long for my last 2 appointments, guess it was just a busy day. It was good for him to be there with me to go over our birth plan/preferenes with the MW. I asked about pre-labor rupture of membranes again, and she said that if you beg and plead, they can stretch it to 8 hours before starting any kind of induction. I do see the risks with prolonged rupture of membranes, so I understand why they want to try to get labor going. When she read my birth plan, she pointed out that the hospital's policy is to let us have the baby in the room for 2 hours before taking her to the nursery, and that we can both accompany her there if I've had an unmed birth and feel up to going. She said it's not set up for them to do all the procedures in the room, but they do some of them there, but if I can go to the nursery, then that will be awesome. I've decided not to decline any newborn procedures. The one I was thinking of declining was the eye ointment, but the MW said that even if you don't have an STD that could cause blindness, it can help your baby get less other types of eye infections. She said that it's only in the baby's eyes for about 2 minutes, and she thinks it doesn't impair vision except for during those 2 minutes that it's in there. I asked about diming the lighting, and she said that we will have control over the lighting in the room. I also asked if the midwives do pereneal support and she said that they do it pretty much routinely, so I was glad to hear that.
My weight was 126.8--it might be leveling out around there. BP was 125/60, not bad. Best news of the appointment: I tested GBS negative! :woohoo:
Woohoo for a negative GBS!
Sounds like a fantastic appointment!!! Sounds like she answered your questions to your liking as well and that is important. WooHoo :woohoo: on GBS - !!!
Now it is a waiting game 'til baby gets here!!!!
Your lodge makes me miss being pregnant! Love the belly shots. Congrats on being GBS negative. I wouldn't worry too much about BP, I was in the exact same situation... I had perfect BP up until about 37 weeks at which point it started creeping upwards. I still got the birth I wanted and it went straight back to normal as soon as the baby was born.
I'm looking forward to stalking your lodge over the next little while.
Hey - How has your weekend gone Brittany? I hope you are feeling well and baby is treating you kindly. :bighug:
I was just stopping in to check on you. Hope your weekend is relaxing as you enter this final stretch.
I actually had a baby shower yesterday and I have another one next Saturday. I know, it's against better judgement to have them close to your due date, but this was the only way it worked out. The one yesterday was at my SIL's appartment for my friends who live close by me (next week's is for friends of DH's family at my MIL's friend's house). I've been to a lot of baby showers, especially for people from church, because the LDS ward we used to go to (before DH got an assignment to be in the bishopric of a single student ward) was a married student ward, and a lot of married students are having their first babies. I invited all the people who's showers I've been to who still live here, plus a few other friends, and it was about 28 invites. About 10 people showed up (not including my MIL and 5 SILs who were there) I was telling DH and he was surprised at the low turn out, "well, maybe the people who didn't come had other plans already or something" and DH said he would be mad in that situation and thought I deserved better than that after all the baby shower gifts I had bought in the last 2 years. He's funny. Anyway, it was a fun shower, my MIL provided the food, what she called a "light lunch" (chicken salad sandwiches on crossants, salad, pasta salad, meatballs, chips, and a chocolate fondue foutain--she got that for Christmas--with a selection of items to dip) and one of my friends said it was probably the most food she'd ever seen at a baby shower. I think she's planning on something bigger at next week's event. Polynesians know how to throw a party. I got some great gifts, including one of those fancy nursing covers, a box of nursing pads (a faboulously practical gift) this thing that's like a hooded jacket on the top, but a sack on the bottom that has a hole for the carseat strap to come up through, a diaper bag (with diapers, baby shampoo, and wipes in a box inside), a bunch of baby hangers, which I really needed after all the clothes I got at my baby shower in Tennessee that I had when we were there for Thanksgiving, some cute washcloths, an extra basinet sheet, a few cute outfits and onesies, a few blankets (including the one that matches the ladybug crib bedding set I registered for at Babies R Us which is adorable and I don't have any of the other stuff that goes with it, but it's so cute), and a baby book--I already have one that I got at my first shower that I've already started to write in, so I guess I can regift it or use it if we have another girl. It came up in conversation that I want to do unmedicated birth and that I'm with midwives now and a few of my friends chimed in with a few comments on their experiences (did it without meds for X amount of hours, then got the epidural, etc.), but they didn't try to tell me they didn't think I could do it, so that was nice.
I'm so glad they didn't try to discourage you, just were honest about their experiences about trying ncb. Personally i would rather that be the "norm"... attempt ncb and then resort to drugs after other means of pain relief have been exhausted.... but I think i may be a birth extremist (irl i would use a more derogatory term for myself.)... At least that is how i feel i get viewed.. i think its because i lack tact when i post.. anyways.. i hope you had a pleasant day.
Mary: Don't worry I don't have tack in posting or IRL. I have gotten no support with my NCB views from most of my friends and family either.
I am so glad they did not push their experience on you and that your shower was GREAT! You are so not kidding when you say Polynesians know how to throw a party! Their parties are always the best! And the food is even BETTER!!!! WooHoo for a great time! Can't wait to see pics!
So, this morning I think some contractions, accompanied by a sort of achy feeling in my lower belly just above my pubic bone woke me up. I usually don't feel BH contractions lying down. They're not very strong and I'm trying to log them and figure out if they're coming at regular intervals. I have my MW appointment in about an hour and a half, maybe going to that will help me know if I'm in labor or not. Unfortuneatly, the MW on call today is one I haven't met. After I meet the one I'm meeting today, she'll be the only one I haven't met. The one I'm meeting today is on call tomorow, though, so we'll see. I did not expect to have this baby come this early. I'm not really ready, logistically. I didn't get around to doing the hospital tour or pre-registering at the hosptial my MWs attend births at (I was pre-registered at the other hospital before I switched, but that doesn't do me any good--my SIL is a registrar there, and she put me in the computer--I asked her to switch me to the other hospital, because she can do that, but I don't know if she ever did because she didnt have the info about the MWs) I don't have a bag packed yet either.
I ended up delivering with the only OB I hadn't met yet. Well, I had an appt with her on Friday and delivered on Sunday, LOL. And I didn't have a bag packed yet either. If you have a chance, do that now while you can...my DH wasn't that great at helping me get the important things packed while I was in labor. Hope you have a great appt today!
As I was driving to my appointment, I figured that what I had been feeling was just frequent BH contractions. When I got there, I went ahead and asked for an internal exam, just in case, and the MW said "you're close, but no dialation yet." I'm glad I know so I'm not wondering about the contrax, but man, the exam was so uncomfortable! I was expecting it to be like a pelvic exam for a yearly GYN appointment, which for me have always been okay. Even the one I had at 10 weeks preg. was not bad. I'm not asking for another one of those for as long as I can help it.
My BP was a little higher this time (140/88 ), but I attribute that to stress. Weight was 128.8. The same MW who did my appointment last weeek actually did my check up because they were running behind, but I got to meet the one I was scheduled to see and she seemed really nice. She asked me if she had been unsure if the baby was head-down last week, and I told her she had been, and had decided she was posterior (she said she thinks she was feeing the baby's face and arm). She said she was questioning if it was for sure head down again this time, so she did a quick u/s to make sure, and she was head down. I measured 37 cm. Everyone tells me I look soooooo small, but that measurement is pretty much normal, all my measurements have been.
I am so glad your LO is in the correct position! Whew. Have I told you how cool it is that you changed the whole stream of your care halfway through ? It is really cool:)I am hoping you get an awesome childbirth experience.