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*~*~* Anne's (abkinsey) Birth Lodge *~*~*

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YAY!!!! Welcome to your lodge!! Biggrin

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Yay! My lodge! I can hardly believe it's this time already. Wow, this pregnancy flew by. I will work on an intro shortly. Thank you for the welcome! Biggrin

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My Intro

I wanted to share a little about myself because though I know some of you, I haven't been as active on PO during this pregnancy, so there are also a lot of new faces.

I met my dh, Allen, online at an interracial dating website several years ago. I lived in downtown Atlanta and he lived in rural NC. I was finishing up grad school, fell in love, moved to NC and never looked back. I finished the last couple of semesters here in NC.

We were TTC for well over a year when I got pregnant in September of 2006. That baby ended up being ectopic and I took methotrexate and had a D&E. That's also when I found out that I have a hydrosalpinx (fluid filled tube) on the left side that's absolutely worthless.

Four months after my HCG levels returned to normal, I turned up pregnant again with Will. I was finishing my last semester of grad school during the first part of his pregnancy. I was very, very sick and not able to keep foods down. I was told that I was high risk due to half of my diaphragm being paralyzed, some kidney issues I'd had in the past and asthma. They didn't know what my diaphragm would do during labor.

Anyway, I graduated from grad school in May and then Will was born in October. My labor and delivery with him was very traumatic. I don't need to get into everything here. But, suffice it to say that my refusal to consent was ignored and several procedures were done against my will, they botched my epidural and my bp went through the roof (nearly did me in), I had back labor and a posterior baby, episiotomy with two cuts, vacuum delivery and my child was tortured in the hospital. Not fun and my husband and I both had PTSD after that birth that sent ripples through our family and it took a long time to recover. During the healing process, I started the Charlotte chapter of ICAN with with another friend of mine. I wanted other area women to have access to resources for childbirth preparation and healing that I hadn't had access to and I wanted to ensure that I had the support I needed in future births, too.

When Will wasn't yet a year old, I got pregnant again. By this time, I had gotten to know other key people in the birth community very well and Allen and I had decided on a homebirth midwife and made the decision to plan for a homebirth. That pregnancy seemed uneventful and all was seemingly well until I woke up to my water breaking the morning after Christmas 2008 at almost 19 weeks pregnant. We were out of town and I delivered my own baby in the hotel room and he was stillborn. I was able to call my natural childbirth friendly backup OB back in Charlotte and my homebirth midwife, who walked me through the process. I was beyond shaken at losing my son. I was beside myself with grief and I doubt that my husband will ever forget those cries of terror.

At the same time, the actual physical part of the birth and recovery were so much better than my hospital experience. We made the decision not to go to the hospital and so we had peace. My body did everything it was supposed to do just perfectly and I learned that my body knows what to do on its own, even under difficult circumstances. Nobody came to take our son's body from us so we got to grieve in peace and had time to name him (Lucas Robert) and to pray and just be together. We drove several hours back home and our midwife came to see us, where she made sure I was physically doing okay and then really spent time praying with us and tending to our emotional needs. We had a memorial service and went about picking up the pieces of our lives.

Following Lucas' birth, the birthing community here in Charlotte really surrounded us and put their arms around us. Friends were in and out of the house for the first month after Lucas died, bringing food, helping with household stuff, praying with us, entertaining Will and just being with us. As a result, we didn't have the horrible postpartum recovery period and emotional issues we had after Will was born...even considering the fact that we lost our son. Very interesting.

I am a firm believer that a grieving period of one year is about right after a major family member dies. We never prevented pregnancy and felt that we would leave it in God's hands as to when I got pregnant again (IF I ever did...I didn't know if I would) and how many children we'd have. But, I think God knew we needed time to grieve because I didn't get pregnant that first year after Lucas' death. I spent the time getting to know more people in the birthing community, getting myself healthy, leveling out my hormones, losing some weight and getting into shape.

In January of 2010 (just a year and a month after Lucas' death) we learned that my Mother had stage three (the most advanced stage) Multiple Myeloma. She was living by herself up in MN and one dramatic event led to another and she moved all the way to NC to live with us at the beginning of March so that we could care for her and she could receive treatment at Duke in a special clinical trial and hopefully get some more time to live. It was a very traumatic and difficult time for all of us, filled with hospital stays, 911 calls, family tension, cross-state treks to Duke, sleepless nights, praying, the yuckier side of caregiving (bodily fluid, dealing with seeing my Mom without her dignity, etc), and so forth.

In the midst of all of this, I got pregnant! Lol We were extremely excited yet figured that The Lord must have a very good sense of humor. Ultimately, we felt through prayer that this pregnancy was intended to give my Mom hope, something to live for and to want to get well for. I think God knows what God is doing because in August, we learned that the clinical trial sent my Mom into complete remission! She is still in the clinical trial and they are maintaining her remission with a variety of lower dose chemo drugs now. When she first moved here, she'd lost everything and just didn't have all that much to look forward to, but this pregnancy has given her something to be excited about and to want to be around for. I thank God for that.

We decided to go with our dear homebirth midwife again this time and she was so excited that I was pregnant again. She provided care from the start and it's neat because two of my close friends are her apprentices. So, prenatal appointments are like a social occasion for me and I feel like I can totally be myself.

I've been sick this entire pregnancy with nausea, but other than that, I've had a picture perfect pregnancy. My weight, blood pressure, urine strips and everything else have always been perfect.

The pregnancy has just flown by, I think because we haven't really been focusing on it. With my Mom being sick and me chasing around Will and homeschooling (first year of preschool this year), as well as working (freelance writer, violin teacher, spiritual director, pastor...yes, I keep busy), I haven't had much time to sit around and think about it.

Though I haven't been able to really focus on my pregnancy all that much, I have been able to focus on taking care of myself. I've followed the Brewer diet the entire pregnancy (even with the nausea/vomiting) and continued to work out daily. I ran until well past the midway point when my midwife asked me to switch to walking. I do yoga daily, birth ball exercises, as well as a few floor exercises. I also see the chiropractor twice per week.

The other thing that is different this pregnancy is that I have been able to really keep GOD first in the pregnancy. When I was pregnant with Will, I put entirely too much faith in the medical system and when I look back on it now, that faith was misplaced and should have been directed more towards God. This time around, we have kept the Lord at the forefront and I am so grateful for a midwife who sees God as central to pregnancy and birth. She never ever lets that out of sight and that makes such a huge, huge difference for us. It really helps to keep things in perspective, to ease fears, and to create a sense of peace, joy and gratitude throughout pregnancy no matter what my personal circumstances may be.

Dinner is ready, so I will continue more later.... Smile

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I actually remember very clearly when you lost Lucas. I didn't know you at all but one of your posts about it got around and I stalked it a bit and was SO impressed with your faith and how you handled a heartbreaking situation.
Hooray for your mom being in remission!

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Thanks, Jenn! Smile ....we are so happy that Mom is doing so much better. She is just chomping at the bit to meet little Lillian.

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Intro Continued

So, childbirth preparation wise, I've been doing some things differently this time around. I'm well versed on all the basic academic statistical stuff and the run of the mill natural birthing books. My issue isn't normally lack of information, but a tendency to get stuck in my head. To counter that, I've been doing a little bit of hypnobabies mixed with my own spiritual type stuff. The main problem that I have with hypnobabies is that it is not fundamentally God-centered and I have some issues with the part where the lady on the CD's says that the only thing you're interested in is the sound of her voice. That doesn't work for me. I have to be interested in God's voice, nudging and action and kind of tune out the rest. So, I've used some things like the finger drop technique and basic relaxation things from hypnobabies, but I kind of have to check the rest at the door. For me, it is much more helpful to focus on scripture verses, religious music and surrender to God. It's been a very interesting process for me and I'm actually thinking about writing my own faith-based childbirth preparation curriculum that keeps God as central to the entire process. I feel like it's something that I looked for out there and couldn't find. Even more spiritually centered curriculums weren't quite there for me. They weren't specific enough about God being in charge of the process and about what it is like to encounter God and leave room for God to be in the driver's seat of the whole experience.

Along these same lines, my doula is a good friend of mine and she is also a woman of extremely strong faith who will keep God first throughout the birthing process. We actually hired her for Lucas' pregnancy, too, but it'll be awesome to see what she is like with a normal birth. I've been working with her and talking about how I will need prayer if I start to lose my focus, tense up or get on an emotional roller coaster of some kind. We'll use scripture verses and gospel music, massage and other relaxation methods. The key is to keep the birth worshipful and focused on faithfully trusting and surrendering to God. I am very excited to see how everything is going to work out and I am at peace knowing that no matter what happens, God is in charge of it all, so I can just relax.

I am also planning to make use of a birthing tub. My guess is that I might want to birth in there, but I probably won't know that for sure until I'm in the moment. Lol ...we're going to set up the tub in the bedroom, put on soft music, use a softly lit fountain and some candles. I'll have my birth ball around and my midwife will bring in her birthing stool, just in case. I like to labor alone, but I never want Allen to leave my side. I'm funny that way. But, I do need lots of peace and quite, along with very low lights. I get really sensitive to things like that in labor.

My midwife came for my home visit yesterday and all is looking good. I need to get on getting the rest of my birth supplies put in the box and another woman has the birth pool right now, so I don't have it yet. But, I was told that Lillian has already dropped and is engaged in my pelvis in a good position. The midwife was surprised to see that at 35.6 weeks preggo, especially since it's not my first. So, she did give some gentle nudging to really get on top of putting the rest of the supplies in the box. That is our project for this weekend.

I've been feeling okay. I'm still nauseated (nothing new there) and I do have prodromal labor going on, but I've had that for a few weeks now. I know it doesn't tell me anything about when Lily is going to be born.

We've been working on building an addition onto our house for Lily. It has her room, a small family room and two small offices. Originally, we thought it would be done by the time she was born, but it won't be and that's okay. We're paying cash for it and it's going to run a few thousand over what we'd saved, so right now we're working on making money like crazy to finish it up. I'll keep working on that until Lilian decides it's time to be born.

We pretty much have everything we *need* for her. There's a pack-n-play that she can use until her room is ready, a stash of cloth diapers, some clothes, my boobs and a loving home. What else could a baby want? Lol When ever she wants to come is just fine by me. I'm pretty relaxed about it and looking forward to seeing what the birth process is going to be like this time around. I have a feeling it will be easier with her being in prime position already and me being in better shape and trusting God from the start. Dirol

Time for bed, so more to come later on furbabies and maybe a few family pics, etc...oh, and maybe I can get Allen to take a belly pic. It's been ages. We'll see. Smile

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Welcome to your lodge, what an incredible story. I'm so sorry for your loss and all the troubles you've been through, but it sounds like life is really turning around for you and your family Biggrin

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Happy Thanksgiving to all the U.S. folk up here!

I am so grateful because I usually cook a big feast for lots of people and this year it is just Allen, Will and me. Mom is off visiting my aunt in California until December 7th. We've really been enjoying our privacy and all the sexy romance that comes with it Lol . Anyway, Allen has cooked himself a free-range local chicken and I'm making a lentil loaf (I'm vegetarian) and then we'll have green beans, mashed potatoes, cranberry sauce, rolls and sweet potato pie for dessert. Nice and simple this year -- no more than 45 minutes in the kitchen or so. I can't remember the last time that happened! LOL!

Anyway, I said I would talk about furbabies. We have two litterbox-trained bunnies that we adopted from a rescue. They live in my Mom's room and they are sooo sweet. Meet Leo (brown) and Winnie (white):

We also have two cats, 14-year-old Snowball (Allen's before we met) and 5-year-old Suki (my rescue cat):

Here is a family photo. From left to right: Mom, me, Will, Allen. This was taken back in July. I don't have anything more recent at the moment.

Allen and I always love our date nights and going out for special occasions. Here's us on our anniversary (January 2010) just a couple of months before I got pregnant:

I don't have a recent belly pic yet. I'm still in my jammies with messed up hair Lol . I've got to get cleaned up and run out to the store for a couple of things. I'll have Allen take a belly pic later today and see about getting it up here. Dirol

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"Allie01979" wrote:

Welcome to your lodge, what an incredible story. I'm so sorry for your loss and all the troubles you've been through, but it sounds like life is really turning around for you and your family Biggrin

Thank you! Yeah, we've been through a lot. But, one thing I've noticed is that even when things are rough, God always makes sure that we have more good in our lives than bad. It's helped us to get through a lot by focusing on that and remaining grateful for what we have. The Lord has really seen us through and continues to do so. I'm so excited about so many things that are going better right now with Mom being in remission and Lily about to be born. YAY! :party:

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Welcome to your lodge. Your story is incredible, I have read bits and pieces other places on PO - you are an amazingly strong woman and I hope Lily's birth is a wonderful, peaceful one.

BTW - Lentil loaf sounds yummy - would you be willing to share your recipe?

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Welcome to your Lodge, Anne! I am so excited to be able to keep up with your family and your birth adventure Biggrin I love the family pic and am so excited with the peace and happy surroundings you have for this birth. Enjoy the tub, it's an amazing experience! (((HUGS)))

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Wow! You've had quite a journey! Thank you for sharing it was very moving to read Smile Yay! for loving your midwife. I hope you get the amazing birth you are searching for. Smile

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36 Week Belly Pic

I hope everyone has been having a wonderful Thanksgiving. My family enjoyed our little meal together and then watched "The Last Airbender." Great movie! Looking forward to a relaxing evening and family phone calls.

Here is my 36 week belly pic. Allen took it today. Don't mind the baggy maternity clothes. They're from a prior pregnancy and I've lost some weight. But, I figure that baggy maternity clothes are better than tight ones, so I haven't bothered to go out and get any new ones. These are comfy. Smile

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"faeriecurls" wrote:

Welcome to your lodge. Your story is incredible, I have read bits and pieces other places on PO - you are an amazingly strong woman and I hope Lily's birth is a wonderful, peaceful one.

BTW - Lentil loaf sounds yummy - would you be willing to share your recipe?

Absolutely. I looove lentil loaf. Here's the recipe I use....

2 cups cooked green lentils
1/2 cup cooked wild rice
6 slices whole wheat bread, torn into small pieces
2 eggs
1 cup veggie broth
3 tbsp tomato paste
1 tsp dried basil
1/2 tsp dried sage
1/2 tsp dried rosemary
1/2 tsp dried thyme
1/2 tsp black pepper
1 1/2 tbsp extra virgin olive oil
1 packet vegetarian onion soup mix
1/3 cup whole wheat bread crumbs
1/4 cup freshly grated Parmesan

Preheat oven to 400F. Mix all ingredients except bread crumbs and Parmesan in a large bowl. Butter a glass bread loaf pan and then pour the lentil batter into the pan. Bake for 40 minutes, or until the top and sides appear to be golden brown (you can see through the glass). Top with bread crumbs and Parmesan cheese and bake for another 10 minutes, until golden brown.

I like to serve this with vegetarian gravy and mashed potatoes. Yummy!

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Welcome to your Lodge, Anne! I am so excited to be able to keep up with your family and your birth adventure Biggrin I love the family pic and am so excited with the peace and happy surroundings you have for this birth. Enjoy the tub, it's an amazing experience! (((HUGS)))

(((((((Kris))))))) I am so happy to see you!! :jumpingbeans: ...thanks for checking up on my lodge. I'm glad to know you're following along. Thanks for your support. Can't wait to experience the tub for myself. Yay! I'm sooooo close now. Biggrin :bighug:

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"Lil Momma 1991" wrote:

Wow! You've had quite a journey! Thank you for sharing it was very moving to read Smile Yay! for loving your midwife. I hope you get the amazing birth you are searching for. Smile

Thanks, Kendra! I feel very lucky to have the midwife I do. It's so amazing that she does what she does here in NC, especially since it's not legal. She says that she will obey the call of God to midwifery and trust that God will protect her. Amazing! Smile

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Thanks, Kendra! I feel very lucky to have the midwife I do. It's so amazing that she does what she does here in NC, especially since it's not legal. She says that she will obey the call of God to midwifery and trust that God will protect her. Amazing! Smile

:eek: Did I miss something in a previous post on your lodge... Or am I just understanding this wrong. Home births are illegal in NC???

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Homebirths aren't illegal, but Certified Professional Midwives (CPM's) are not regulated in North Carolina and they can be arrested for attending births. Parents are free to choose whatever birthing options they want without consequences, but midwives can go to jail. Not cool!

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Oh yeah, and for more info on the status of midwifery all over the U.S., check out The Big Push: http://www.thebigpushformidwives.org/

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You look great - so happy!

I'm glad you have a midwife who will attend your birth even though there is the risk of going to jail. It's awful that it is even a possibility. Sad

Thanks for the recipe! It sounds good - I imagine I can leave out the parmesan with no major issues (I am on a dairy free diet for now), I can't wait to try it!

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Welcome to your lodge! I'm excited to follow your journey:-) I would LOVE to have a childbirth course like you're describing if we were to have any more kids!

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Holy cow Anne! I can't believe it's almost time! :shock: I loved reading your intro. I already sort of knew most of it already, but it just reaffirmed for me how amazing and inspirational you are. I am so looking forward to following your lodge, and hearing all about the birth of your sweet baby girl. Biggrin

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Erica -- Yes, you should be okay leaving the parmesan off. It's strictly optional. Smile

Connie-- Thank you! Biggrin ...I will let you know if/when I write the curriculum. I've kind of made it up as I've gone along this time, but I think it would be great if I could put it into some kind of organized, accessible format.

Amber-- So glad you are following me Smile :bighug: ...it's not long before it's your time, too!

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:eek: That is absolutly ridicilous that she can get arrested for that!!! I cant believe that. You are super lucky to have someone who is willing to do what she does.

I also wanted to say you are such a strong woman! Smile

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"abkinsey" wrote:

Homebirths aren't illegal, but Certified Professional Midwives (CPM's) are not regulated in North Carolina and they can be arrested for attending births. Parents are free to choose whatever birthing options they want without consequences, but midwives can go to jail. Not cool!

That is how it is in IL too.

Thanks for sharing your story. Wow you have been through a lot.

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Kendra- Thank you! Yes, I'm very lucky to have my midwife. She is an amazing lady.

Christy- Yeah, I know IL is like that, too. Isn't it maddening?!

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Music for Birth

I solidified my play list of music for labor today. I've had some good ideas about the songs I want but I didn't know about the order of them, etc. Here's what I came up with:

1. I Surrender All - Cece Winans
2. Completely - Ana Laura
3. Speak to Me - Mary Mary
4. Don't Worry - Ben Hill UMC Mass Choir
5. Jesus Loves Me - Whitney Houston
6. Be Thou My Vision - Selah
7. As the Deer - Genevieve Falleur
8. Hi There, Holy Spirit - Ben Hill UMC Mass Choir
9. Surely the Presence of the Lord is in This Place - Gerry Thompson
10. Order My Steps - GMWA Women
11. To God be the Glory - Vickie Winans
12. Great is Thy Faithfulness - CeCe Winans
13. Acceptable - Ben Hill UMC Mass Choir
14. How Great Thou Art - Selah
15. Arise in Me - Ben Hill UMC Mass Choir
16. Spirit of the Living God - Vickie Winans
17. Have Thine Own Way Lord - Mahalia Jackson
18. Leaning on the Everlasting Arms - Mahalia Jackson
19. He's got the Whole World in His Hands - Mahalia Jackson
20. His Eye is on the Sparrow - Mahalia Jackson
21. For in my Life, He is Lord - Ben Hill UMC Mass Choir
22. God Will Take Care of You - Shirley Ceasar
23. At Your Feet - Ben Hill UMC Mass Choir
24. Belssed Assurance - Shirley Ceasar
25. The Lord's Prayer - Aretha Franklin
26. Prayers from the House - Ben Hill UMC Mass Choir
27. Do What the Spirit Say Do - Sweet Honey in the Rock
28. Syahamba - ICE
29. What a Mighty God We Serve - Sandy Oliver

As you can see, all the music is religious music. It's important to me to keep my mind on God and the best way I can think of to do that is to only fill it with things pertaining to God. I'm also planning to have my violin around so that I can play hymns through parts of labor if I feel like it. Singing is also an option I'm looking forward to, though I don't have much of a singing voice Lol .

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Found My Hymnals!

Earlier today I was a little worried because I couldn't find my favorite hymnals. I just couldn't figure out what I did with them and I really wanted to put them in my birth supply box. One of my favorite things to do anytime I need to keep focused on God or I'm having a rough time is to flip through the hymnal and find hymns to either sing or play on the violin. It's sort of like a safety net for me and so I was very happy to find those. I've always felt that if I started getting really off-focus I (or someone on my birth team if I'm not able) could flip to a hymn and use it to get centered again. I have all my recorded music but sometimes I feel a special connection to God through making music that I don't feel by listening, you know? So, anyway, I found them stashed in a strange part of one of my bookcases and they're in the birth supply box now instead. Yay! Biggrin

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Checking in from Oct 07. I wanted to wish you a healthy, happy labor and delivery. I've always been amazed by your strength, and I can't wait to hear your birth story this time.

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Anne, you made me think of one of my favorite "birthy" Youtube videos...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z3WA9iHz5ww

Have you ever seen it?

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"Amber_daisy" wrote:

Anne, you made me think of one of my favorite "birthy" Youtube videos...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z3WA9iHz5ww

Have you ever seen it?

that one gets me every time!

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"morel_baby" wrote:

Checking in from Oct 07. I wanted to wish you a healthy, happy labor and delivery. I've always been amazed by your strength, and I can't wait to hear your birth story this time.

Awwww, I'm so happy to "see" you! How are you? Biggrin ...it's great to have you following along. Thank you for stopping by. :bighug:

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"Amber_daisy" wrote:

Anne, you made me think of one of my favorite "birthy" Youtube videos...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z3WA9iHz5ww

Have you ever seen it?

Yes, I have absolutely seen that video and I get chills every time. It is awesome and I'm glad to have it in my lodge, too. Very fitting!! TY for posting, Amber. Biggrin :

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Awwww, I'm so happy to "see" you! How are you? Biggrin ...it's great to have you following along. Thank you for stopping by. :bighug:

I'm doing well, and the girls are getting huge! I am a firm believer that childhood for the mother and child passes way too quickly!

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"morel_baby" wrote:

I'm doing well, and the girls are getting huge! I am a firm believer that childhood for the mother and child passes way too quickly!

I am so glad things are well with you!

Oh my goodness, and I agree completely about time passing. I cannot believe how fast time is going by. The fact that Will is just about halfway through his first year of preschool is just nuts to me. How did that happen? Lol

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Birth Supplies

We've been working on getting the rest of our birth supplies together this weekend. We're still waiting for our birth supply kit to arrive. It's shipped, just not here yet. Maybe tomorrow or the next day. It includes:

10 Underpad, 23 X 24, Deluxe
5 Underpad 23 X 36, Deluxe
1 Pad, Non-Sterile, Tabless, Adhesive (dozen)
1 Peri Bottle, 8 oz
1 Povidone, 4 ounces
12 Gauze sponge, 4 X 4 12-ply (2/pkg)
1 Scrub Brush, Hibiclens
1 Bulb Syringe, 2 oz.
6 Glove, Sterile, Single
3 Glove, Sterile, Pair
1 Stretch Briefs - unisize
1 Infant hat
1 Tape Measure, infant, 2 ft/60 cm
15 Alcohol Prep Pad
2 Plastic Cord Clamp - Sterile
6 Lube Jelly, 3 grams, Sterile
2 Flexible Drinking Straws
2 Plastic Backed Sheet, 40" X 72"
1 King plastic backed sheet
1 Afterease
1 Sitz bath

We also have the following items on hand:

Tons of chux pads
Mama pads
Depends (yuck! but what do you do? I have an aversion to these after Mom being sick.)
Box of gloves
Viva paper towels
Black plastic garbage bags
Flannel backed vinyl tablecloths to cover the floor
Flashlight
Rubbing alcohol
Hydrogen peroxide
Hibeclense (I was GBS positive last time, so I'm taking preventative measures this time.)
Thermometer
Epsom salts
8 receiving blankets (homemade from strawberry print fleece, 42x42 square...so cute!)
Stack of towels, washcloths and hand cloths
Juice
Oatmeal
Peanut butter
Witch hazel pads
Ibuprofen
Hymnals
Bible
Candles
Baby girl onesies
Baby girl t-shirts
Baby girl pants
Baby girl socks
Baby girl jammies
Bunch of cloth diapers

I still have the following things to get:

~Extra set of king sheets
~Foam pain reliever for postpartum
~New nursing bra (I wear a 36J at the moment, so I'll probably just order a regular one and convert it)
~More diapers. I need to add some to our stash to have enough for a newborn. Will didn't wear cloth until he was a little older, so we have some beefing up to do since newborns use more diapers than older kids. A close friend of mine sells them for a living and I'm talking with her now to hopefully get a good 15 diapers before the end of the week. Yay!

Other than that we're pretty well set. I can't believe it. Boy, that was a lot of stuff to get together. I'm hoping that if I don't use all of it I can pass it on to a close friend of mine who's planning a homebirth about six months from now. Maybe that will save her some of the work we've had to do.

Today has been a pretty decent day. I relaxed at home this morning while Allen took Will out to get a birthday present for me (my birthday is tomorrow). I was able to get quite a bit of work done to earn some much needed money.

Prodromal labor has continued all day and I am sooooooooooooooooo nauseated it's unreal, but I'm not in any pain. I'm thankful for my chiro and all of the good yoga and exercise I've done this pregnancy. It really makes a huge difference, as does starting out 60 pounds lighter and not gaining much weight.

We took Will to the park tonight and it was absolutely freezing, but he seemed to enjoy himself. Right now, I'm looking forward to getting the kiddo to bed so that I can relax with Allen.

I'm excited for tomorrow, too. Allen has the day off to spend my birthday with me. We'll start the day with presents and cake ( Lol ) and then head to the chiro, out to lunch and then home to relax. My dear friend and doula, Patti, is coming over tomorrow night to watch Will so that Allen can take me out for a fancy dinner. Looking forward to that much needed night out. Bliss!! Biggrin

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Hey Anne! I love the way you incorporated God in the Hypnobabies. I think it will make it so much more powerful. It is wonderful that you can draw from the hymnal as some of those old hymns are so very powerful and I know for me they create feelings of peace and tranquility. The best part of my labor with Gloria was in the tub room with the lights low and just me and Jonathan. I am so very excited for you and Allen. And have a Happy Birthday!!

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happy birthday! sounds like you have a lot prepared for the birth.

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Happy Birthday. It looks like you are very prepared. I will have to check out that video later as I can't watch it at work. LOL

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This is such a cool board - I forget to come back despite being such an active member back when I was preparing for Tom's birth!

Anyway, I like your song list. My mom's a choir director so I know a good chunk of them. I like the old hymns too.

I can't believe you're so far along now. How exciting Smile Is Will excited?

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Stacie - Thank you! Yeah, I love the old hymns and the versions I chose are neat because they combine the old words and melodies that touch my heart with a more creative and new sound. It just gets me all charged up and excited Lol

Lauren- Thank you for the birthday wishes! I had a wonderful day. Biggrin

Christy- Let us know what you think of that video. I find it soooo powerful and beautiful. Smile

Natalie- Yes, I love this board, too! I haven't been too active online during this pregnancy, mostly due to taking care of Mom and Will...and working. But, I couldn't pass up the birth lodge. Plus, I miss all my friends around here. Smile

That's neat that your Mom is a choir director and that you know a lot of those hymns. They bring me a lot of comfort and really bring me closer to God, so I'm excited to see how that works in labor.

Yes, Will is very excited. He keeps running around and pointing at my belly, telling everyone, "Mommy is growing my baby sister in there." Lol ....He keeps asking if it's Christmas yet because he wants to see his baby sister. I love that boy! Biggrin

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I didn't get a chance last night. I took my girls to see Tangled. I just noticed your baby is going to be named Lillian. That is my 2nd daughters name. Smile

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I am a little late to the game, but I wanted to welcome you to your lodge. Your story is very inspiring. I look forward to following your on your homebirth journey! Happy be-lated birthday!!

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Thanks, Janae! It's great to have you following along. Smile

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Birthday, Diapers and Birth Kit

I had such a wonderful birthday yesterday. Allen had the day off of work. We started the day by opening presents. It was great fun. Folk had asked me what I wanted and I said that I just wanted pampering products so that I can feel taken care of (and still sexy. lol.) after Lily is born. Allen got me a gorgeous bath set from Bath and Body Works filled with one of my favorite scents, along with a couple of other products that are newer and smell ultra delish. Will picked out a super cute kids' sparkly bath set in a sugar scent, which smells good. I thought it was so sweet that he got me something glittery Lol . My Mom left my present wrapped before she went off to Cali. She got me some luxurious hand and foot creams, cuticle salve, and a really cute day planner for 2011. My grandparents and my dad both sent checks, which will come in very handy going towards some of our current expenses. My aunt and uncle had flowers delivered (roses, lillies, some cool neon green spikey flowers) that are beautiful and now in a cut crystal vase on my dresser.

Anyway, after presents we headed off to the chiropractor and all went well there. For the third or fourth time in a row, he didn't have to adjust me. He only did the myofascial massage stuff on the ligaments in front. Awesome! My body has been learning quickly, I guess. Biggrin

After the chiro, we headed off to Moe's for lunch and then home for cake. Allen made me a German chocolate cake. Yummmmmmmmmmmm! Dirol

In the afternoon, Will took his nap, then I took a short nap. It would have been longer but family started to call to wish me a happy birthday. I'll never complain about that, though. it was wonderful to talk with everyone.

In the evening, Patti came to watch Will. I got all dressed up and Allen took me to P.F. Changs for dinner. I'd been having awful nausea and vomiting the past few days and for some reason, their food made me feel better. I didn't puke at all or feel sick after that meal. Yay! I ordered the vegetarian lettuce wraps, some kind of tofu dish and then the chocolate raspberry cake mini for dessert. I was stuffed Lol .

Anyway, so it was pretty much a perfect day filled with family, fun and pampering. I couldn't have asked for anything more at all. I am so grateful that Allen and I got that chance to go out before Lily is born.

On to other things: Diapers

I went over to my friend's house today. She's a WAHM that sells diapers and she gave me a discount so I could buy a whole bunch of diapers for Lily and I think now we're about set. I got three WAHMIES hooks (these are great with newborns), four WAHMIES snaps, four hh os pockets (those are Allen's favorites), two rmd os pockets (awesome on newborns), two BG organics (good when babies get older), four organic caboose prefolds, four organic caboose doublers, a WAHMIES wet bag and a jug of liquid Charlie's soap. Oh, and of course all those pocket diapers come with stuffing. My favorites are the bamboo inserts with the WAHMIES. Those things are A-MAZING. She totally set me up and between those dipes and Will's dipes, I believe we're all set. Will already has some of the WAHMIES hooks diapers, along with some hh, organic caboose, homemade ones that I made and gDiapers pants in S, M, L(we use cloth stuffing in those). I think we're good to go. YAY! Now the washing begins as I prep these for Lily.

Oh, and one last thing. The rest of my birth supplies came on the FedEx truck today. Hooray! Tomorrow I'm 37 weeks and I truly feel that we're ready enough now so that I can just relax and Lily can go ahead and pick her birthday. Very exciting! Biggrin

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just checked out your music list. last time I was pregnant, I had a labor playlist on my iPod and it was mostly just music that calmed me...DH later commented to my mom that most of it was religious. I hadn't realized it, but I had put a bunch of my favorite contemporary praise songs on my labor playlist. I sing in my church's choir, so I can appreciate how certain songs, especially religious ones can get you in a certain frame of mind and keep you focused on God and in general.

sounds like you had a nice birthday! glad your body is cooperating with the chiropractic visits. have fun prepping all the cute fluffy diapers Smile

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Sounds like you had a fabulous birthday! Smile

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I am glad you had such a great day

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