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YAY, I have a lodge! I kind of feel bad because I haven't been too active on this board as far as posting- but I do lurk a lot and have enjoyed reading other peoples' lodges. I think its a really cool idea and seeing as how I am not close with many people with children irl, let alone anyone who's done a natural birth, I thought it might be a good idea to become more active on here to participate in sharing experiences, support, etc. I guess I'm supposed to introduce myself, eh? I will try to get to that later tonight or tomorrow hopefully- we've been visiting my mom all day and I need to get to some stuff around the house Biggrin

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yay for your lodge! Yahoo if we end up in labor at the birth center on the same day I will laugh!

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yay for your lodge! Yahoo if we end up in labor at the birth center on the same day I will laugh!

That would be too funny. Especially if we wanted the same room, lol!

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That would be too funny. Especially if we wanted the same room, lol!

at this point, between the worry before of the heart palps possibly risking me out and now the baby possibly still being breech sending me to the hospital, I will be happy to have ANY room as long as it is there and not in the hospital Lol

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Ok, where to begin! I'm Jessica, I just turned 26 last Wednesday. My DH is Daniel, 25, and our son Kieran is 18 months old. DH and I met in college, we went to Bethany College in West Virginia (its a tiny liberal arts college with less than 1000 students). We hung out with the same group of friends starting in the beginning of our freshman year, though we really didn't start talking and getting to know each other until our junior year. College was fun, spent hanging out with my odd-ball group of friends (most of which we still talk to, though we're all going separate ways and that's getting harder) playing pen and paper rpg's (Shadowrun, D&D), drinking, taking walks around campus in the middle of the night, and finding strange ways of entertaining ourselves like having campus-wide squirt gun battles and building forts out of the furniture in our dorm rooms, lol. I graduated in 2007 with a B.S degree in psychology. I have always been fascinated by psychology in general and picked that as a major, even though I never knew for sure what exactly i wanted to do with it. I have a minor in zoology. DH took an extra year and graduated the year after me with a degree in computer science- which he insists is completely pointless and he never learned anything (he's been programming since he was like 8).

For most of college, I was actually dating someone else- everyone assumed we were perfect for each other, and I did too at first. Its really hard to describe exactly what changed and what made me attracted to DH... it was just something. Junior year my bf and I started having various problems and at the same time I started talking to DH more. Something just clicked and we were drawn to each other! The break-up with my bf was very long and one of the most stressful, drawn-out things I've ever done with my life. I was so emotionally confused but could never shake the feelings I had for DH- he just felt so RIGHT for me, somehow.

DH and I actually started dating the summer before my senior year- that is the summer of 2006. We had been hanging out a lot that summer (we only lived about a half hour away from each other) and in August I went on vacation with my family- we rented a cabin in Canaan Valley WV, about 3 hours away from home. We'd been texting for several days and I joked that he should come down and join us. He surprised me by doing just that! He drove the 3 hours to our cabin and stayed with me and my family for a couple days, and that's when we really kicked things off.

We dated throughout my senior year and that next summer after I graduated. That was when I moved out and got my first apartment, with a mutual friend from college who also needed a place to live. I also needed to move out of my dad's house, where I'd grown up for 16 years, because he was selling it because he had to move to get a job. It was sad to lose the house I grew up in but at the time I was just excited to get my own place. That fall DH had to go back for a final year at college but basically lived with me and drove down to classes- about 45 minutes away. I got a job working full time at a call center, tracking homeowners insurance for mortgage companies... very dull to say the least, but it paid bills.

The following spring I found a job that I could actually use my degree for, and that was very exciting. It was working for a psychiatric hospital- basically to run groups and provide supervision and support on the unit for patients. I worked on the unit with recovering, long-term schizophrenic patients, which was cool because part of our job was helping to re-integrate these people into society and help them become as independent as possible. So in addition to being on the unit with them we also took them out and about to do things like shopping, for walks, to the movies, etc. Schizophrenia is a very debilitating illness that requires long-term treatment with anti-psychotics and therapy; many of those patients had been hospitalized for years.

I got that job in March of 2008. That summer DH and I decided we wanted to be parents. Lol, it sounds like it was such a hasty decision, and in a way I guess it was, but it was what we wanted to do and looking back I wouldn't have it any other way. The truth is that though I wasn't ultimately sure what else I wanted from life, I always knew I wanted to be a mother, and really kind of couldn't wait to have kids. DH too had always loved kids and couldn't wait to have them of his own (he always has, and still does, insist that he wants about 8 :eek: ). So after talking about it for a while we decided to just go for it. I figured I had a decent, stable job and great benefits, a place to live, DH was confident he'd find a job soon.

We made that decision in late July/early august of 2008. I did some reading online and found this website, and gained a basic understanding of tracking my cycles, fertility signs, etc.

We got pregnant on the second cycle of trying. It was very shocking- for some reason I just figured it would take longer than that; plus I was sure we'd missed my O-date. But on September 28, the day before my period was due, curiosity overcame me and I tested- blazing positive! I can still remember the shock as I sat on the toilet staring at the test. I came out and showed DH, who was thrilled. And so we were on the road to parenthood!

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OK here are some pictures...

Me and DH at a concert at an Enter the Haggis concert- i was actually 7 months pregnant with DS at the time
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Posing at our wedding, which was actually just this past May 15
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My pregnancy with DS was pretty text-book and uneventful. A couple months into it though my job started going downhill. They had the people from my unit start going to other units to work on when they were short staffed. The problem with this was many other patients in other units can be rowdy and violent at times, depending. The majority of the patients on OUR unit had been hospitalized for longer, on meds longer and I didn't have to worry about that kind of thing as much. But suddenly I was being sent to to units where I didn't know the patients and was being put in potentially dangerous situations. I had to explain to every charge nurse that I was pregnant and please keep that in mind while assigning me to patients. I had to actively argue with some of them at times because they assumed I was just asking for "special privileges" and wanted to stick me with patients that were known to attack people especially staff. It was stressful and it started to feel like every day at work was a fight for me and my baby's safety. Then, they started laying people off. Since on my unit I was one of the last few to be hired, I had no seniority and so I got laid off. In retrospect it was a blessing in disguise. This was in March 2009- I was just entering my third trimester. The way they did it was really shady though and I still think that if I had wanted to pursue it, I could have had a good case against them. Two other people from my unit were laid off- one below me in seniority and the other right above me. Not only were they allowed to finish the week (they sent me home the day they laid me off, even though I was paid for that week), they were actually set up with other jobs within the company and allowed to keep their benefits. With me, they did not give me that option- just severance and a wave good-bye. When I called to ask why other people got to keep their jobs/benefits but not me, they said it was done by seniority- which is not true because I was higher in seniority than the other girl. I honestly think it was because I was pregnant and they did not want to deal with me/pay my benefits.

In the end though I didn't feel like fighting it because I had other things to worry about. I was able to get unemployment and medical assistance, in addition to taking the last 3 months off- it all worked out! At the same time DH finally got a job as a programmer so with his income and my unemployment we were able to stay on our feet.

The last month of that pregnancy was stressful because we were trying to buy our house. The lease was going to be up for the apartment and we didn't want to stay because it was too expensive and not very big. It just so happened that a friend of MIL's passed away and they were selling her house as part of settling the will- they offered it to me and DH first. We decided to go for it because even though the house is old and not what we ultimately wanted, it's still a 1500 sq foot, 2 story, 3 bedroom 2 bathroom house and the mortgage is less than most apartments around here with way less space. But the bank was taking forever to close and my due date was coming up.

As it was, we ended up closing on the house 3 days before my due date. We moved the day AFTER my due date. DS was born a week later Biggrin I always like to say he was just being considerate and letting us get moved/unpacked before he came into the world.

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I can't imagine moving while that far along...I guess it WAS good that DS waited for you! Argh to your job screwing you over like that. I will have to come back and read more later when I am not at work Wink

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Ok, I feel like I'm typing too much so I'm going to try to wrap this up, lol.

Kieran's birth- I had an appointment on Wednesday June 10- 5 days after my due date- and was still completely closed, not effaced and he had not dropped. I was worried because it seemed like my body wasn't going to do it on its own. My doctor kept telling me that none of that stuff matters and I could still go at any time. We scheduled an NST and u/s for that Friday the 12th, to make sure everything looked ok and assuming it did, he was going to let me go until the following Monday evening before inducing. I was ok with this, I didn't want to be induced. Everything looked ok on the u/s and he "passed" the NST, so we were good to go though honestly I figured we're be coming in on Monday.

The next morning, Saturday the 13th, I woke up early (4 am-ish?) I woke up to pee and noticed I was feeling slightly crampy in my lower abdomen and back- and when I wiped there was tons of bloody mucus. I thought, cool, maybe my body's finally starting something- I put on a pantilliner and went back to bed for a couple hours. The crampy feeling continued the whole morning. In addition to feeling crampy, I had lower back pain and lots of downward pressure. It was so mild though, and since it was just a constant feeling and not coming-and-going, I didn't think I was really in labor. I figured things were getting ready but not that I'd be having him that evening!

I drank some rrl tea, DH and I attempted to DTD (it was very uncomfortable) and I took a shower in an attempt to help things along. That afternoon my mom, step dad, sister, and MIL stopped by to hang out in our new house. I was uncomfortable and didn't feel like visitors, but I said whatever. They came over and we talked and hung out for a bit. I found I was most comfortable sitting on the birth ball, so that's where I stayed. My mom kept insisting I was in labor and I kept denying it because it was just a constant crampy, back-achey feeling, nothing stop-and-start so I couldn't time anything. The discomfort and pain continued to increase but it wasn't anything I couldn't handle; I was talking to people just fine.

Later that afternoon, around 5 maybe, family was getting ready to leave. Mom and my sister were going to go eat dinner at my sister's boyfriend's restaurant and asked if I wanted to come- going out to eat sounded nice and I honestly almost said yes! But I decided I was a little too uncomfortable so I declined, and they all left. Right after they left the pains started becoming much stronger, AND they were coming and going- so I finally was able to time them. They were every 3 minutes and lasting 45 seconds or so. It was becoming harder to talk and concentrate through them. We called the on-call doctor to see if I should come in (it should have been obvious to me at that point that it was actually happening, but for some reason I was still in denial!). The doctor seemed appalled that I was 8 days past my due date and when I told him how fast the ctx were coming, he said of course come in!

Things started getting fuzzy here. This was where I started to feel very "out of it"- I went into another world. I'm assuming endorphins. The car ride, while thankfully short, was difficult because the pain was so intense. We parked and I ran into the hospital between contractions. Once there it seemed like we had to wait forever to be taken to triage... but FINALLY they came to take us up. Once up there it was hell trying to change into the gown and go pee in the stupid cup because of the pain. moving was very difficult. When the Dr checked me I was 5 cm- no doubt it was happening now! That was about 7 pm.

They took me back and I got an IV with fluids, because I said I wasn't sure about the epidural yet so it was just in case. They also hooked me up to the monitor, I was set up in a bed and there I was. This was by far the worst part. Sitting in that bed in that semi-reclined position seemed to make the ctx so much worse. In retrospect I think I would have handled it much better if I could have changed positions, especially used a birth ball. Before long I felt there was no way I could handle another contraction. They were so close together and it seemed unbearable. I told them I wanted the epidural. The anesthesiologist came up shortly after and we were able to do the procedure. The contractions were on top of each other and they didn't check me before giving it to me, but looking back I was actually in transition. As I was sitting there waiting for it to kick in I started feeling pushy. I figured it couldn't be the baby yet, so I told the nurse I felt like I had to poop lol. Then, it seemed to only be working on one side so they had me lay on the left side to even it out. Almost as soon as I laid down my body just started pushing- it wasn't an urge, my body just did it!

I wanted to stay on my side to push because I was comfortable there, but for some reason they made me flip to my back. Over all I pushed for 30-40 minutes. But, it turns out that the doctor actually gave me an episiotomy (didn't find out until after) so I don't think that "counts." He was born at 9:34 pm, weighed 8 lbs 3 oz and was 21 inches long, and as it turned out, posterior. They showed him to me right after he was out and I opened my eyes to look, but was in such shock it didn't reallyregister. They brought him back after cleaning him off and wrapping him up, and the nurse helped be start BFing him. He latched right on and nursed for a good 40 minutes!

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Welcome to your lodge! I enjoyed reading your intro and getting to "know" you. I look forward to following your journey these last few weeks!

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Awww I love all the pictures.

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Welcome to your lodge! You have a cute family.

Do you know if you're having a boy or girl?

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Welcome to your lodge! I really enjoyed reading your intro!

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According to our 19 week u/s, its another boy Smile

When DS was 9-10 months or so, we decided to "not try/not prevent." I wasn't on bc so that just meant skipping the condoms- which we both hate lol. After talking about it we decided that if it were to happen sooner than later we were ready; if not, we were only going to wait until DS was 18 months or so to start trying again anyway. We wanted them to be close together in age. Well, guess what- it happened!

We got married on May 15 2010. It was a beautiful day, about 70 degrees and sunny which was perfect because the ceremony was outside. For the next week we went on our honeymoon- we rented a cabin in the Smokey Mountains in TN. It was beautiful (I'd been there before) and so wonderful to be able to totally relax for a week with just the two of us! The day we came back was Saturday May 22. I was supposed to have started my period the day before, or that day, so I was on the look out for it but also kind of starting to get nervous that it wasn't going to come at all. I noticed that on Tuesday/Wednesday I'd started to have some mild cramping/stretching pains in my uterus- exactly what I remembered from early on in DS's pregnancy, plus ever since having him I never had any cramping with periods (all 3 of them that I had lol). Well we got home later that afternoon and I still hadn't started. I'd spent the whole car ride back so tired and trying to stay awake, and obsessing about the possibility of being pregnant. I had to run to the store to get a couple things that we needed so while there I grabbed a test. I couldn't take the anticipation anymore and ran into the bathroom of Walgreens to take it, lol! It showed positive pretty quickly. We had people over that evening so I wanted to wait until they left to tell DH- I went to bed early so I ended up telling him the next morning. He was very excited and gave me a big hug.

This pregnancy has been, like my previous one, uneventful in itself. Two things differed so far though. One- I had NO morning sickness! I was so worried about dealing with that and trying to take care of DS but other than feeling mildly queasy a couple times, and having NO appetite, I had no nausea at all. The second thing that has been different though is that I've had a really really hard time with emotions. I know mood swings are normal, but the first tri especially, I was downright depressed. I knew it was because of pregnancy hormones because though I tend to have down-times and trouble with stress sometimes, this was a whole different ballgame. Most days all I did was sit around and cry for no reason, I was depressed about everything, I felt like a terrible mother to DS for being that way. Also that was during summer- we don't have air conditioning so it was constantly miserable with the heat. If that had continued I honestly would have looked into medication- it was that bad. Thankfully though, around 13-14 weeks it started to get better. I still have days where I feel really down/get upset very easily but its nothing like it was before. Makes me worry a little about PPD though.

DH was convinced the baby was a girl. He really wants a little daughter, lol. I told him it was probably another boy. His family is all boys- he has 3 brothers, his one brother who has kids has twin boys, and there's our son. So, I think they all just make only Y sperm lol. As it turns out, its another boy! I had some mild disappointment at first because I wanted a girl too, but I got over it and I'm stoked about having another little boy. We're naming him Rowan. Not sure on a middle name- I want to name him after someone in my family, so I was thinking either Brock or Angelo. Brock is a family name- was my great grandmother's maiden name and is both my dad's and brother's middle name. Angelo is my grandfather's middle name and I thought it might be cool to use it, to honor him and the Italian side of my family. But, we're still undecided.

I had done some searching around after DS's birth and found out about the birth center here in the city. I don't know why I never looked into it before, but I knew the next time I got pregnant I wanted to go there. So after getting my bfp I called to set up my first appointment. I have loved going there so far- I love all the midwives, as well as the fact that one of them will be with me for the birth- not some random Dr like last time! And I'm stoked about the birth center too (its the same one Lauren's going to, coincidentally!).

At first I was undecided about going to the center vs the hospital, because I wasn't sure I could handle it without an epidural. I remember how bad it got with DS and I caved and got it. But it didn't take long to convince myself that the birth center was what I really wanted. I made it to transition with DS, so if I can get to that point, with a little more encouragement and preparation I am sure I can make it the rest of the way through. I feel far more prepared this time around. With DS I said I wanted a natural birth but didn't really prepare myself on how to have that- I figured I'd just go in and wing it, and that didn't work! Since I knew I was going to need something drastically different to help me get through the hardest parts of labor I decided to do something I wouldn't normally- hypnobabies. We found an instructor and took the 6 week class. It seemed like the kind of thing that would really help prepare me and I decided to commit myself. Its been interesting asI've always considered myself a skeptical, analytical person by nature, and wouldn't have thought to try something like hypnosis. It has so far really helped me in mentally preparing for birth, staying positive, relaxing etc.

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I hope the birth center works out for you. Free standing birth centers are illegal here in IL.

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Great to hear your stories. I am in the same boat as you - made it to transition with DS but wasn't prepared and got the epi at 9 cm! Prepared this time and ready to do this!

GL to you and can't wait to hear about this birth experience - and follow the rest of your pg!

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Well so far I really have nothing new to report or update. As of my last appointment, my weight was up to 135, putting me at about 20 lbs gained so far. Bp was low... baby still seemed to be head down which relieved me because prior to he had been breech for a while. I am pretty sure he's still head down because I mainly feel kicks up high as well as a butt; and she showed me last time what the head felt like down by my pubic bone so now that I know what I'm looking for, sometimes I feel my abdomen down there and there's still something hard down there, lol, so I'm pretty reassured.

While I don't think he's actually engaged, I do feel lots of pressure down there more often and I don't remember that with DS. Its not constant though; I guess maybe he's lower some days than others? I don't have much experience with "dropping" because Kieran never did until I was in labor. I also have lots of BH and occasionally feel crampy in my lower abdomen- right above my pubic/hip bones.

My next appointment will be next week on Thursday (the 6th)... I'll be 37 weeks, I can't believe it!

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where has the time gone??? glad your little man is cooperating and remaining in the launch position Wink

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welcome to your lodge! GL!

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Welcome to your lodge! I enjoyed reading your introductions. I totally think you will be able to have a natural birth. Most women feel like, "I can't do this anymore!" during transition and it's very easy to ask for pain medication if you're not aware of the signs that you're near the end. Now that you know, I bet you'll do awesome!

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I guess I could post some belly pics since I haven't done that yet... The first one was about 33 weeks and the second from this past week at 36 weeks... um, do you think I grew at all??!

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I love the belly pics! You look great!

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You look great!

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Looking good! Only a few more weeks to go!

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You look great!

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Just catching up and reading through your lodge. It is wonderful to hear that you will be at a birth center (I made this choice as well this time). Do you have pictures of the place? I would love to see them. Love your belly pictures! Smile

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Just catching up and reading through your lodge. It is wonderful to hear that you will be at a birth center (I made this choice as well this time). Do you have pictures of the place? I would love to see them. Love your belly pictures! Smile

Yeah! http://www.midwifecenter.org/default.asp?iId=GDLILD
That shows you pictures of the birthing rooms and the rest of the site tells you about the birth center itself. They have three "themed" birthing rooms which is pretty cool... if I get to pick I think I like the desert room the best, because I like the warm colors and the fact that its farthest away from the road lol. Since there are only 3 rooms I was worried about them filling up, but they said they've never had that many women in labor at the same time that it was an issue. They also deliver at the hospital so some of their clients go there too.

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Love the belly pics. You look great!

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Excited to hear about your next appt! Thanks for the pix - looking good!

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see...even if we do end up in labor at the same time, we don't want the same room anyway Lol but like I said at this point, I would rather give birth there in any room than baby be breech or have to be at the hospital for some other complication. I like the ocean room best...I am a beachy girl. I like pretty much any of them, though, so if my fave were taken, I wouldn't be crushed.

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Wow, the birth center looks amazing, I am so jealous! Our closest birth center is over 2 hours away and, though it is attended by midwives, it is still at the hospital and has the totally medical feeling Sad

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Wow the birth center rooms look amazing. Free standing birth centers are illegal in IL. grrr. LOL

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see...even if we do end up in labor at the same time, we don't want the same room anyway Lol but like I said at this point, I would rather give birth there in any room than baby be breech or have to be at the hospital for some other complication. I like the ocean room best...I am a beachy girl. I like pretty much any of them, though, so if my fave were taken, I wouldn't be crushed.

Lol, ok then we're good! I actually wouldn't be crushed if it were taken either, I like all of the rooms and besides, at that point I doubt I'll care too much!

Ugh, we have so much to do to get the house cleaned up and organized before Rowan comes, but I am having some serious motivation issues today! All I want to do is sit around and eat and be lazy, lol. Its also hard to do very much around the house because DS requires entertaining and tends to get into things... much easier to do things when DH is home and can help. I need some nesting vibes!

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Don't feel bad if you take a day to rest, it's good for you and may not happen for a long time after baby arrives.

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I had my 36/37 week appointment today- it was pretty straightforward. First off, I forgot that they have my due date as the 28th, not the 26th- which means as of tomorrow I will be 37 weeks. The 26th DD was from my LMP- but at one of the appointments we were discussing it and decided to use the 28th instead because I tend to have slightly longer cycles (30-35 days) and ovulate later than "average" so they thought that would be more accurate. They're probably right, though to me its only a 2 day difference and not a big deal since he likely won't come on either of those days.

I gained another 2 lbs putting me at 137, 22 lbs gained. Its crazy to me because I was 130 when I delivered Kieran and had gained 22 lbs! And I still have 3-4 weeks left! And yet I really don't think this baby will be as big as he was (8 lbs 3 oz). I don't feel like this baby is as big, and the midwives don't think so either. I will be curious to see! Bp was low 110/68. She spent a while listening with the doppler because his heart rate was really fast- in the 170s. It was really uncomfortable because I can't lay on my back for long without feeling like I can't breathe. His HR is normally much lower than that and it turns out it was high because he was moving around- once he settled for a few moments it went down to the 130s.

He's still head down- head right above my pubic bone and his back is along my left side with his butt under my left rib- she said from that position he could go either anterior or posterior into my pelvis. I never did much reading about positions with DS- I'd only heard that being posterior/sunny side up can cause back labor and was surprised when the doctor said he came out that way, because other than the last 3 hours or so I didn't think his labor was particularly bad. I didn't have excruciating back labor and though the whole thing was technically long, once it picked up it went fairly fast. Since then I've learned a lot more about how the baby's position can affect labor. If he ends up posterior, I am curious if the labor will be similar to DS's and if he's anterior, I wonder how different it will be.

Finally, I did the GBS test. She actually have me the swab to do myself in the bathroom, so no getting undressed and dealing with that, which was nice. I don;t know why more places don't do that- I mean it doesn't take an idiot to swab yourself, lol! I hope its negative so I don't have to deal with an IV- but she said even if I need an IV, they accommodate you with whatever you want to do, so you're not tethered to the bed. I can move around and change positions, sit on a ball or get in the tub. That makes me feel much better- what I hated most about DS's birth was being stuck in the bed. Needles don't bother me so if I can still move around then I'm ok with it!

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I am glad all is well. I hope your GBS comes back negative for you.

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sounds like a good appointment!

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Sounds like a good appt! How nice that you got to swab yourself. More places should definitely do that. I hope your results come back a negative.

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Yep - sounds great!!

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just catching up and reading your lodge. Sounds like you have a great plan and a great place and are all ready for your son to come when he's ready! Good luck...I look forward to following your lodge!

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*sigh*- I wish I had something exciting going on that made me think my body's gearing up for labor... but I've been feeling nothing! Just some occasional braxton hicks, and a good bit of pressure when I sit on the birth ball for a while or do squats- but it doesn't last. I know a lot of women complain about prodromal labor, false contractions etc but I'd think at least it would be exciting to know your body's getting ready! It shouldn't bother me, because I was the exact same way with DS- nothing, then bam!, labor. And I know I have a bit of time yet and really I am patient, but the closer I get the more excited I get!

I need to make a list of things to pack to bring to the birth center. I don't know why I haven't even started yet. The only thing I've done is to make sure DH and I have all the hypnobabies tracks on our phones, lol. I'm really getting hung up on what to wear while in labor. With DS I just wore regular old clothes while I was at home, and then a gown at the hospital. I know I will want to get in the tub, and Lauren had a good idea of bringing a bathing suit top to wear. Problem is, I don't know if I have a bathing suit top that will fit! The more I think about it the more I think I might just bring a couple tank tops or something that I don't care too much about. Or some t shirts. Or maybe just a bra?

For moms who have had a natural birth and were in water, what did you wear?

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yeah I packed a couple nursing tanks and also the nursing sleep bra (target, super cheap)... i think the sleep bra would be good to wear in the tub. i saw a lady labor in the tub on baby story (or some similar show) once and she had a cotton, criss cross style bra that looked like the sleep bras I have. I don't know that I will wear the bathing suit...might just wear the sleep bra

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I don't even have nursing tanks- can you buy those in the store or are they only online? I have a sports bra-style nursing bra but I'll have to try it on and see if it even fits right still.

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target has pretty good nursing tanks in the store...they have 2 types...one has a "side sling" and one has a full sling (basically a circle in the middle when you pull down the flap. if you check out their website you can see the 2 different types. The full sling kind weren't around when I had DS, so I only had a couple of the side sling type from him, but I bought a new "full sling" one to try with this baby. I didn't see their brand sleep bra on their website...i was going to link you which one i had...maybe they still have them in the store. their website says they have the Bravado brand sleep bra, which is more expensive than I paid for their brand.

anywho, check out Target...got a bunch there last time and some for this time too.

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I second the bra for the tub. I packed an extra bra so I can wear it when I get in the tub. I don't even think it would matter if it was a nursing one or not. As long as it fits and you don't mind getting it wet or dirty. You'll be changing out of it once you get out of the tub.

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In the tub I wore a regular cotton sports bra that I've had for years. It's what I threw on after getting out of my shower earlier that day and just didn't think of taking it off for the tub. I'll probably actually wear the same one. I really would like a sleep bra b/c they look so comfy and it would be super easy to BF right away.

I ended up not delivering in the tub, so when I got out, i took off the wet sports bra and was just completely naked Smile

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I had my 37 week appointment yesterday- pretty uneventful. I didn't expect it to be thrilling or anything though Wink The annoying thing is, I had to re-do the GBS test Sad Apparently the lab wouldn't process my last one because there was a mix-up with my name... like, they sent it in with my maiden name and not my married name or something dumb like that. So, hopefully they'll actually read it this time so I'll know if I'm positive or negative! I think if I'm positive I want to start taking probiotics or eating a ton of yogurt, because I'm not thrilled with the potential to get thrush while breastfeeding and would like to prevent that if possible. Has anyone taken them before? I don't know anything about it or what kind to get or anything!

Also, I'm pretty sure I do not want to circumcise this baby. Starting out, I wanted to have it done- DH and DS are. But then I started questioning it, and I have been going back and forth for a while but the more I think about it, the more I really don't want to do it. DS is circ'd. It honestly just wasn't something I really thought about... DH is, and I just assumed we'd have it done so they'd match. But for some reason this time I've been thinking about it more and I just don't want to take my baby and put him through that. Since I'm going to the birth center and they don't do them there, we'd set up an appointment a week later to take him and have it done. And I just cannot see myself doing that. I don't want to put him through the pain, for something that isn't even necessary.

I told DH this the other night, that I don't want to have it done. I know he does, because he and DS are. At first that was my reasoning for doing it too... so they'd match. But the more I think about it and read about it, the less weight that argument has to me. DH kind of brushed it off and didn't really seem to want to talk about it (annoying) but I'm pretty sure I'm going to put my foot down.

But, that is the only thing bothering me about it still- the fact that we had it done to DS. I feel guilty about it now and wish I'd thought about it more when we had him. And my biggest dilemma is, how do I explain it to them when they are older? The simplest explanation I can think of is that peoples' bodies are just different and that's another difference. But what about when they are older and have more understanding about these kinds of things, will they want to know why we had one circ'd and not the other? Am i overthinking this? Lol. Anyway, I am just rambling, but I have been thinking about this for a while.

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don't worry about the circ and explaining later. DH is and his younger brother isn't. I've asked him about it and it never bothered them at all. Although, he did say he remembers gloating a little that he didn't need the hygiene lessons that his parents gave his brother during bathtime.

ETA: It's got to be easier than explaining the difference between a brother and a sister, right? Wink

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