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Welcome to your lodge

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Welcome! Looking forward to following the last stretch of your journey. Smile

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Woohoo! Welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Oooh, my very own lodge! Biggrin

Here's a quick intro for now. I'll fill in the details later, when I have more time.

My name is Abby and I am 27 years old. This is baby #3 for us, our first natural birth! My other 2 kids were both hospital/epidural/every intervention besides c-section (more about this later). We decided to do things differently this time around. So we will be having a water birth, at home, using hypnobabies -totally different!

Our midwife delivered the pool last week and we are safe to deliver at home, whenever baby decides its time. Baby is really low and I believe (from my own checking) I am about 2cm dilated already. I've had lots of pressure, cervical twinges, and some modest contractions lately. The other day, I had one contraction that really took me by surprise -it was much stronger than any of the others. So we'll see what happens.

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Welcome! I look forward to reading your story!

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Welcome to your lodge! I hope you have an amazing natural birth this time around! Can't wait!!

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Welcome to your lodge! Can't wait to follow your journey!

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welcome!!!

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Dh and I are highschool sweethearts. We were best friends freshman year. Right after we celebrated our 16th birthday together (his Bday is 4 days before mine) we got together. We got married August of 2006, after 7 years of dating!

We had no immediate plans of having children, so we started a business instead -breeding & selling reptiles. Gosh, at one time we had about 100 lizards, 50 snakes, dozens of rats and mice (that we bred), and thousands of bugs (mostly roaches and worms).

Then one day Dh asked me if I was ready for babies. I told him no. I was perfectly happy with the way our life was and didn't want things to change. The following week I got a BFP! LOL I think he knew.
Next post- Pregnancy & Birth of my DD

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Congrats and welcome to your lodge! How interesting that you're planning this birth to be so different from your other two. That is cool about breeding reptiles, do you still have them?

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Shortly after we got our BFP, we sold off 90% of our business. We kept a few high end snakes -I think we're down to only having 10 right now. It was a lot of work, taking care of 100s of animals, and I was pregnant. Doc didn't think I should handle the animals, especially the rodents and bugs. So that left a lot on Dh's shoulders, we decided it was best to sell everything. Besides we needed to convert a lizard room into a nursery!

My pregnancy with DD started uneventful. I had zero morning sickness or really any symptoms. At my 10 week appointment, doc did a sonogram and discovered TWINS! :eek: I was excited and horrified at the same time! Here is was -a 90lb twig, and I'm supposed to grow 2 babies?? Well at our next appointment, we discovered that one of the babies didn't make it. It just disappeared. I never had any bleeding or anything like that, but I guess its actually quite common.

At 6 months I started having contractions. Doc put me on brethine and I was told to rest as much as possible. At 36w,5d I was induced because my doc was concerned that I had been having tons of contractions and not dilating...

I wish I knew then what I know now. I was made to feel like that was not normal. You aren't supposed to have contractions -at all- until its time for baby to come out. I spent 49 hours in labor because neither my body nor baby were ready to deliver.

At 37w, I delivered a perfectly tiny baby girl -5lb,5oz! She did not do well with breastfeeding and the nurses pretty much forced me to give her formula. Unfortunately, we were not able to breastfeeding for longer than 2 weeks -supplementing with formula and pumped milk.

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I am sorry about the twins and the bfing. And I can't believe your doc induced you that early. Your pics are amazing though!

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What a neat intro so far. Can't wait to read the rest. How cool about your business (although it skeeves me out lol). I also can't beleive they induced that early. This birth will be quite different for you. Smile

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great pix and great story - yes - so different this time! Can't wait to read more! How are you doing??

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Loved reading your intro so far! Sounds like this birth is already headed in a completely different direction. Yay!

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With DD I really felt like my doctor knew what was best for me -afterall she went to school for years and has delivered 1000s of babies... So I trusted her to do what was right. When she said induction -I was onboard because I thought that was going to be best -and besides I was happy to meet my baby!

When DD was about 3 months old, I got pregnant and miscarried. I was getting blood drawn every other day, to keep an eye on my beta levels. Well interesting to note that my levels went down down down, then back up! I was pregnant AGAIN, without a period in between! And this time, my little bean stuck.

Pretty much the same story as my first. No morning sickness or really any symptoms at all. I was relieved when the U/s showed only one baby this time! At about 5 or 6 months, I started having contractions and put back on the brethine -I absolutely HATED taking it. It made me so shakey, jittery, and tired.

At 37w,3d I went into labor (on my own!). I started having good contractions very early in the morning, about 3am. After I tried everything to get back to sleep, I rolled over and woke Dh up -not to go to the hospital, but for some last minute lovins! Wink
About an hour later, my contractions really picked up and were 1-2 minutes apart. I called my doctor, but was not able to get ahold of her AT ALL! My mom came over to watch DD and we (Dh and I) went to the hospital at about 7am.

Got to the hospital and was 4cm! Yes!! Went straight for the epidural. Then I laid in the bed and waited for the nurses to contact my doctor. No one was able to find her -for hours. My contractions fizzled out (in hindsight probably because of the stress of not knowing where my doctor was -or maybe the epidural). Still no doctor and the nurses had no idea what to do with me. They finally decided to give me pitocin around 5pm. I dilated quick, they broke my water, and I delivered at 8:48pm -delivered with a doctor I had never met before. Turns out my doctor was in an all day prayer convention or something.
DS was 5lb,15oz and nursed like a champion!! I was able to breastfeed him for a full year!

Coming up next - More about DS's first year and Baby #3!

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Quick Update

And I just wanted to toss a quick update in here.

I have been having a lot of menstrual-type cramping all night. Maybe from the EPO that I rubbed on my cervix last night? I have an appointment with my OB at 9:40 today, so if she wants to check me -I'll be happy to let her.

I did have an appointment yesterday with my midwife. She is thrilled with how things look. Baby is really low, good heart rate, good everything. My midwife did offer to check me yesterday, but I declined since there really wasn't a need. But after these cramps, I'm curious to see what's going on down there -even though I know it really doesn't mean anything.

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What a fun intro! Your business sounds like it was quite interesting although I do have to agree with pper....it would give me the heebies!

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GL on your appt.

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Enjoyed reading your stories so far! Can't wait to hear this birth story Smile

and yes, I am a wuss, but I am afraid of snakes, so I will be scrolling past that pic up there fast from now on Lol

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Having lots of pressure and starting to have regular contractions too. I feel like it may be that time.

9:07, 9:15, 9:20, 9:26

I'm laying in bed resting. I will update as soon I figure out what's going on.

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oooh that's exciting! wish I could say the same here Lol

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I was having contractions 5-7 minutes apart for a few hours last night. I went to sleep, thinking that if it were the real thing, I wouldn't be able to sleep through them. I had a few off and on throughout the rest of the night, but they fizzled out and all is well.
I definitely feel like it is going to be soon though. Sometime within the next couple of days.

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Oh gosh! I didn't add any pictures of my births or pregnancy with DS.

Here is a picture of me when I was 8 months pregnant with DS and then his birth.

I had some good photography connections before I had children. And then when I gained 60lbs with DD, only lost half of it, then gained 28lbs more with DS, the photos started to not look as good. I lost my touch. That and I haven't had the chance to get out and get my hair done every week, like I was before kids. Momma's gonna get her groove back though, don't anyone worry! Blum 3

Now back to the story.

Life with 2 babies (a 12 month old and a newborn) was stressful, chaotic, and oh so wonderful! I LOVE being a mom and my children are so great. We have so much fun together!

(That first picture there with me nursing DS and holding DD got deleted by myspace, once upon a time. LOL I suppose it was indecent)

So when DS was about 10 months old, I got pregnant with baby #3! I was still nursing him and totally planned on continuing and maybe even *gasp!* tandem nursing. I joked and told people that I would quit nursing when he grew a moustache! Blum 3
But then when I was almost 3 months pregnant and he was just at 12 months old, I decided to wean him. My boobs were sore and I wasn't producing much milk, so I gave up.
I still feel bad about that. That boy loved to nurse and I loved it too. He still (at 19 months) likes to get held in "the position" and cuddled... And he still tries to stick his hand in my shirt and other people's too. I swear its not intentional, he doesn't even realize he's doing it.

Next post -this pregnancy. After that -this birth Wink

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(That first picture there with me nursing DS and holding DD got deleted by myspace, once upon a time. LOL I suppose it was indecent)

Funny...I didn't even notice that you were bfing in that pic.

Sorry to hear that things fizzled out for you. Hopefully they will pick back up and you will be holding your LO soon!

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Yay!! It sounds like your body is really gearing up! I prefer getting as much dilation out of the way as possible before labor starts. So keep rolling with those contractions and by the time it gets real hard you will already be halfway there!

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Baby #3!

Dh and I had gotten a little careless with our birth control methods, and we were pregnant again! The intial bloodwork showed high beta levels -I was so scared that it was going to be twins again. That's actually what brought me to Preg.Org I was stalking the multiples board. And sometime around then I started thinking about homebirth.

See, everyone I know has had the whole hospital/epidural/induction birth. And as far as I knew, that was just the way it was done. But then a friend's girlfriend had a water birth at home. And I thought to myself -People still do that? I thought she was crazy, until I got pregnant with #3 and started questioning why we do things the way we do.

Another thing that made me want to have a natural home birth is that fact that Dh doesn't want to have anymore babies after this. How could I have 3 children and not once experience what natural is like? I just had to see what it was like. So that was my agreement to Dh -let me have this birth (even though hospital/OB birth would be covered under insurance) and then we can stop having babies.

I made Dh watch the business of being born, and he was onboard! And especially after meeting with the midwife. We officially hired our midwife when I was 5 months pregnant. I am continuing to see my OB, simply because we do not live in a midwife-friendly state.

Again, this has been a great pregnancy. No morning sickness, swelling, or anything like that. But I was having some dizzy spells and feeling like I was going to pass out. My OB said "that's just part of pregnancy" (basically get over it). And my midwife put me on the Brewer Diet, which really helped!

And just like my other pregnancies, I've been having contractions off and on since about 6 months. I never told my OB and my midwife didn't seem concerned. So yay! I managed to stay off that horrible medicine and let my body do its thing naturally.

I had been looking into Hypnobabies for pain management. At 8 months, I finally decided to get it. I have really enjoyed it! And I think it has helped me stay calm and focused in other areas too, like with my children. So I am excited to use the techniques when its time!

My midwife is very pleased with how the pregnancy has gone, and I am too. We have our pool and all of our supplies. Our diapers and baby clothes are washed and ready to go. We're all set! Just waiting on baby to decide when to be born.

I'm drinking Red Raspberry Leaf Tea (3cups/day) and taking Evening Primrose Oil (2x/day and 1 capsule rubbed on cervix/day) to help things along their way. I was also taking this herbal stuff called L6W (last 6 weeks) that had blue cohosh and things like that, but I ran out of it and haven't gotten more yet -doubt I will, since its a blizzard out there!

We're planning a birthday party for my older kids (who are now 2.5 yr/o and 1.5yr/o). I thought it would be nice for them- to give them gifts (to keep them busy) and help them feel special.

And now for some pics!

We have: 5w4d, 6w4d, 11w, 18w3d, 22w, 25w3d... and the computer is acting up. So that's all you get for now! :rolleyes:

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"Melissa1223" wrote:

\I prefer getting as much dilation out of the way as possible before labor starts. So keep rolling with those contractions and by the time it gets real hard you will already be halfway there!

That's kind of how I feel too!

I checked myself earlier and am definitely making progress! I'm not sure how much progress, but things are changing and opening up! Feeling lots of pressure. And I have to keep reminding myself not to tense up when I feel it. Deep breath -open, open, open...

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I love all the pictures.

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Yay! It sounds like you guys are all set!

Isn't it funny how different OB care and MW care are? They are treating the same condition (your pregnancy) but with completely different attitudes. I'm so excited for you that you get to experience a midwife managed pregnancy!

KUP, it sounds like you are making progress!!

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I loved reading your stories and seeing your pictures!

It sounds like things are moving! can't wait for more updates!

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Sounds like things are going great! Can't wait to hear more!

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I am so ready to have this baby! I know that the last couple of weeks are important, especially since I tmake small babies. I want to be lovingly patient, but I want to meet my baby too! Stupid hormones...

I have an appointment with the midwife tomorrow and then my OB on Friday. Up until this point, I haven't told my OB that I won't be delivering in the hospital. I am choosing to birth at home. And I would like to continue seeing this doctor after baby is born. So knowing that I don't live in a midwife friendly state, what would you do? Should I say something to doc? Or do I just wait until baby is born, call and say "oh yeah well, I need to cancel my prenatal appt -we had the baby at home" I like this doctor and her staff too. So I don't want to offend.

What would you do?

Oh and I was at the pediatrician's office with my sick boy. I mentioned to doc that we were going to have this baby at home, and asked how soon after birth would he like to see baby. OMG! You should have seen his face LOL His eyes got all big. I guess he doesn't see that very often. But he said, the sooner the better. And he asked if someone, like a midwife or something, would be there to check baby at birth. I said yes. It was funny.

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It might be a good idea to talk to your ob about it. At the end of the day it is your decision. Good luck!

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Tough situation! I have absolutely no advice (I am sorry) but wanted to wish you the very best in the situation

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What does your MW say about telling the OB? IS homebirth frowned on in your area or is it illegal? If it is illegal and you tell the OB you are planning on it he may have to make a report to someone. I would get input from the MW.

It's good that your pediatrician will see the baby after a homebirth. In our area there are practices who refuse to treat home birth babies. Something about homebirth babies being exposed to ... something.. IDK, it's weird. I was lucky in that DS's pediatrician didn't bat an eye when I told her we were birth at home and just told us to call the day he is born and make an appt. for the next day. She said if it is over the weekend and there is an emergency to go to the ER. She was confidant that our MW could identify any problems that needed immediate attention.

Anyway, KUP, hope you have a good MW appt today.

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You may also get dismissed by the practice if you admit your home birth. Our pedi was awesome too and we got Derek and Daniel seen at about 48 hours.

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That is a tricky situation with the midwife and OB, for sure. Depending if its actually illegal or not, I might err on the side of caution too like Melissa said. Maybe talk to your midwife about it first to see what she says and go from there!

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I have no advice on telling the OB, but it sounds like the previous posters had good points. I'm glad the pedi is fine with seeing a homebirth baby.

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Blah, sorry I haven't been on in a few days. I've only been getting like 5 mins on the computer at a time, and you know that's not enough time to do anything! But tonight I'm up with a bit of nausea and some mild cramping. And I can't go back to sleep...

So I did talk with my midwife about it. She tried to helped clear up some of the legal stuff that I wasn't sure about. Homebirth itself is not illegal. CNM are not illegal. But I believe what she said was DEM, CPM, and laymidwives are not legally allowed to practice. So she suggested that I ask OB what she thinks about homebirth, sort of feel her out, and go from there.

You know, I didn't even think that our pediatrician wouldn't want to see a baby simply based on where he/she is born. The thought never crossed my mind. So I guess I'm really glad he took it well. Biggrin

All looks good with the baby. Perfect position -head down, face down, back to my left side. Just waiting on little one to come.

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"loveemom" wrote:

Blah, sorry I haven't been on in a few days. I've only been getting like 5 mins on the computer at a time, and you know that's not enough time to do anything! But tonight I'm up with a bit of nausea and some mild cramping. And I can't go back to sleep...

So I did talk with my midwife about it. She tried to helped clear up some of the legal stuff that I wasn't sure about. Homebirth itself is not illegal. CNM are not illegal. But I believe what she said was DEM, CPM, and laymidwives are not legally allowed to practice. So she suggested that I ask OB what she thinks about homebirth, sort of feel her out, and go from there.

You know, I didn't even think that our pediatrician wouldn't want to see a baby simply based on where he/she is born. The thought never crossed my mind. So I guess I'm really glad he took it well. Biggrin

All looks good with the baby. Perfect position -head down, face down, back to my left side. Just waiting on little one to come.

That is how it is in Georgia. And there aren't many (if any) CNMs that do home births.

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Had my 38week (37w,6d) OB appt. today.
First about the baby -Weight was down 1.5lbs. Not sure how, I have been indulging a bit. BP and everything was good. GBS came back negative. Doc says I'm not dilated at all, but when I checked myself (a couple of nights ago) I know I was at least a little open.
And I asked doc what she thought about home birth. She laughed and said "As a doctor, I say No!" And walked off, shaking her head. Well then! I'm not really sure where to go from here. I'd like to see her for my post-partum visits, but I don't think that would go over too well.

I'd like baby to come this weekend. So we'll be DTD a lot, to try and encourage baby. But in the end, its all up to baby. I ran out of RRL Tea and EPO and was hoping to not buy anymore. Well I still want to buy more RRL anyways because its good for postpartum too.

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Eek, not the answer you wanted from her, I imagine. What an icky situation. Sounds like she's going to have a big fat problem with it. Have you decided what you're going to do about after care? What could she really say if you pulled the "oh no, the baby came so fast I couldn't leave home" routine?

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"amy1673" wrote:

What could she really say if you pulled the "oh no, the baby came so fast I couldn't leave home" routine?

You know I had considered doing that instead of asking her about it. But I wanted to be respectful and give her a heads up. I thought it would make for a much less awkward conversation after birth -but maybe I was wrong! So we may end up doing that.

I suppose the worst that could happen is she won't want to see me after birth.

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sorry the doctor reacted so badly! what a tough situation. GL with everything.

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An ob can't dismiss you after 36w without first providing you with care elsewhere. At this point there is nothing they can do really. I like the idea of feeling her out too.

Your laws are the same as ours.

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The OB/MW/Hospital/Homebirth relationship sucks. I hate that in order to explore the MW/HB route you basically have to break your relationship with your OB/Hospital. I would much rather live somewhere where I could make an informed decision about my provider and birth plans without risking upsetting my OB. I mean in the case of a transfer I would LOVE to see my OB/GYN, but I don't know if he would come. It is a crappy system and I'm sorry you have to try and skirt around it!!! /Rant Fin

Does your MW do a PP exam? If so then you wouldn't have to worry about the PP exam with the OB.

Hope you are having a lovely weekend. Any good contractions today?

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How ya doin' Mama? I haven't seen any posts from your since yesterday morning (can you say stalker? lol) Does that mean there is news?! Or just that you are taking some quiet time before baby comes? Hope you're having a great day!!

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I'm sorry your ob acted that way. I hope things will work out with little stress!

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Sorry I haven't been on much. I have been trying to take it easy and rest as much as possible.

But good news- Its my birthing time!

Dh is filling up the pool! The contractions are getting pretty strong. My midwife advised me to try and go to bed and call her if I can't sleep through them. I can already tell you, there will be no sleep tonight. Biggrin

More details to come!

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