*~*~*Erica's (faeriecurls) Birth Lodge*~*~*

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*~*~*Erica's (faeriecurls) Birth Lodge*~*~*

Welcome to your lodge, Erica! I'm so excited for you to finally have your lodge!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Yay! I can't believe I have a lodge! I'll have to work on an intro after I finish writing a never-ending IEP.

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Welcome to your lodge - Can't wait to read your story!

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I guess I should start at the beginning.

I'm Erica (36) and DH is Michael (41). We met back in 2000 - I was living in NYC while I was working on my Masters. I was in a dying relationship at the time and really too busy with school, student teaching and work to bother with meeting people. My roommate at the time kept trying to drag me out with him & his girlfriend whenever they went out and I always had a reason not to go. I finally just gave in and went out with them one night, Michael was an acquaintance of my roommate's girlfriend and happened to be there that night. We got introduced, but didn't talk much (as it turns out we are both REALLY shy). A few weeks later, towards the end of February, my roommate convinced me to go to an exhibit at a museum with him, his gf and some other friends. Michael was there and this time we talked quite a bit. Afterwards everyone went out for dinner and we sat together and talked more. We exchanged contact info and spent the next month and change talking a lot on AIM and through e-mail and finally on the phone. We eventually made plans to go for coffee, but a few days before we were supposed to go he called me to cancel, because he was going out of town with a friend. I was disappointed, but we were able to reschedule for the night before he left. So a quick afternoon coffee turned into our first date - dinner and drinks and me going home at 4 am. That was April 7th, 2000.

We hung out as much as possible during the next few months, while I tried to disentangle myself from my bad relationship. In June he asked if would watch his dog while he went out of town for a long weekend. I agreed on the the condition that he brought the dog to my apartment because my place was a lot closer to work, student teaching & school and I was finishing up my next to last semester. When he got back, it wound up being a lot more difficult to get the dog back to his apartment (70 pounds of dog in a cab doesn't go over well, plus I was living in a part of Manhattan that was not very frequented by cabs. Neither of us had a car). I was moving to an apartment on campus for the summer in a few weeks, so we decided he would just stay with me until then and we would drive back home when I was moving. Turns out, we would just wind up moving in together a couple of months later because my roommate stood me up to go live with his girlfriend. We moved in together in September 2000 and have lived in the same apartment in Brooklyn since then.

We talked about marriage on and off for the first few years, but never really seriously made plans for anything. In October of 2003 we went on our first real vacation (not involving any family member's house) - we went to Paris for 2 weeks. It was amazing! I hadn't been there before and I loved it. One of the last nights we were there, Michael told me to get really dressed up and we were going out for a special dinner (we are both pretty big foodies, so I was excited) - we were walking through a park on the way to the restaurant and he stopped me, put me up on some steps and asked me to marry him (in French). I was shocked, and through tears, said yes! He put a ring that he had designed for me on my finger. Dinner was super amazing - he had made arrangements for one of those private dining rooms in one of the oldest restaurants in Paris - we had a staff of what seemed like 4 or 5 bringing us champagne and amazing food - it was amazing.

Fast forward to August 2004 - a few months before we were getting married. DH decides to take me out for a surprise date (he likes to do things like that so I never really suspect anything weird). Anyway - we go to this really nice restaurant in Brooklyn, by the water and have a yummy brunch, then we walk around by the water. We decide (I was actually "steered" that way) to take a water taxi into Manhattan and wander around there. Eventually we wind up at a store I like (and the place we we had our first kiss years earlier) and we go in - he brings me back to the approximate place of our first kiss and asks for "Another FIrst Kiss" (which is the name of a They MIght Be Giants song). When I opened my eyes, he had a ring box open with an engagement ring that I had been in love with for years (and it matched the wedding band I picked out) and asked me to marry him again. We were married on October 16, 2004.

Here are some wedding photos:

I'll write up TTC and this pregnancy later.

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Welcome to your lodge birth board buddy!

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Another August Mama! Yay. I really enjoyed reading your intro and getting to know more about you.

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So romantic! I love reading your intro!

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Yay, welcome to your lodge! I love your story, sounds like the dog was conspiring to keep you together.

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loved your story of you and your DH!

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TTC -

We had a hard time deciding when/if we were even going to try for a baby. DH was never 100% sure he wanted kids, I always knew that I wanted them though. I was pretty sure he did too - just couldn't get past the fear part. After LOTS of discussion, debate and tears we finally decided I would go off BCP in June of 2008 and I would chart my cycles for a few months to see what happened - if we wound up pregnant it would be fine, but otherwise we would officially start trying on our vacation that year in September. We had a great trip planned - 2 weeks in Malta (DH's family is Maltese and he still has a ton of family there) and technically, we never went on a "real" honeymoon, so we were going to use that as our honeymoon.

Charting my cycles told me pretty quickly that I had some luteal phase issues - I barely made it 8 DPO and often started spotting earlier - I figured it would just take a little bit of time for my body to regulate after BCP though - so I added some extra B6 to my vitamins and went about my day. Nothing happened before we went away, so TTC started on our honeymoon. I O'd a few days after getting there and hoped for the best. I was so disappointed when I got my period on our layover in Munich on the way back - I cried, then had a big beer.

A couple more months of this and I started getting really discouraged, especially because my LP wasn't really getting much better and my temps always tanked right in the middle of the 2WW. I started looking into acupuncture and made an appointment with an RE for December. After all the testing we found out DH also had some sperm issues. The RE we saw was horrible though and would not listen to my concerns about my cycles and basically told us our only hope was IVF with ICSI - which we couldn't afford and our insurance didn't cover. She also wouldn't let us try anything else - e.g. progesterone supplements for me and an IUI. SHe basically said it was hopeless. SInce we couldn't afford IVF I was convinced we were never going to have a baby. I had DH start taking tons of vitamins/supplements and going for acupuncture. I wanted to give him 3 months to get rested to see if it looked better. His second SA came back much better, but the RE still wouldn't let us try something less than IVF. I got incredibly depressed and basically just stopped going and we just tried the JLIH for a few months with no success. Finally DH dragged me out of the pit I was in and we switched to a new doctor. We spent a lot of time discussing things with him and he thought we should do a few cycles of Clomid and Progesterone for me, along with a trigger shot & timed intercourse. That sounded so much better to me - we started the next cycle and in October 2009 it worked - unfortunately that pregnancy ended almost the same time it began. As miserable and sad as I was, there was a small glimmer of hope because it showed that we could get pregnant with something less than IVF. We decided that we would try an IUI to hopefully speed things up. On Dec. 4th 2009 we went in for the IUI and on Dec. 18 we got our BFP! I was so excited, but nervous. Obviously this pregnancy stuck and here we are almost ready to have our first baby!

This pregnancy has been pretty easy on me - much easier than TTC was. I had some morning sickness first trimester but not horrible. The only thing that was a problem was the marginal previa that was found at my 20 week u/s. That doesn't seem to be a problem any more (FINALLY!!) and I have a final ultrasound on the 19th toiler me for the BC - right now the back-up OB gave me tentative clearance, but it seems to be a minor technicality.

That's my story in 2 posts!

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Thanks for sharing your TTC story. I had a lot of trouble getting pregnant with my first and got preg on my first month off of BC with Malia. I hope you have a similar experience if you decide to try for a second.

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I have a m/w appointment this afternoon - I'm getting my GBS test. Fingers crossed that I am GBS- because I have a history of severe allergies to antibiotics. I haven't taken penicillin, but several people in my family (my mom, aunt and sis definitely and possible someone else that I can't remember now) are allergic to that.

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Welcome to your lodge and TFS your ttc story.

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Welcome to your lodge! I love your stories of meeting your DH and your TTC journey. Biggrin

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I had the longest day yesterday! Both kids I work with had really off days - massive tantrums and just generally difficult. Blah!

My m/w appointment was good though! It was with one of my favorites (I see a group of 5 and rotate through them all) and she is one that I really love. She doesn't think there is going to be any major problem with total clearance for the birth center after my final u/s on the 19th. I have given the baby strict instructions not to show up until after the u/s. She doesn't seem to have any intentions of moving anytime soon. I also did the GBS swab - I hope it's negative.

I am also trying to get her into a better position - Right now she is (and has been for quite a while) ROP - I know I have time, but she is pretty comfy that way.

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I hope your GBS results come back neg, and I know I have said it before, but I'm so happy that it looks like you will be able to go to the BC.

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GBS negative vibes! And I'm so glad to hear your placenta is far enough away that you will probably be cleared for the birth center!

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I loved reading about how you and DH met, etc... Can't wait to read your birth story! Smile

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I am trying to get a birth plan written for multiple scenarios and it is so annoying. I still only have tentative clearance for the birth center at the moment due to my placenta, so I need something for L&D if I don't get full clearance at my next u/s. I'm also wondering if I should write up something for a c-section? I don't need one automatically now, but after months of thinking about the possibility of one, I still haven't gotten over it and it's now like this nagging fear.

I think a fear clearing is going to be on the list of things to do today.

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Just catching up.. I liked reading your story.

As for the c-section, I added a small part to the end of my birth plan stating things like: I wanted the curtain lowered for the birth, my doula present, and to hold the baby ASAP afterward. I started this section with "Should a cesarean section become medically necessary for the health of myself or my baby, I have the follow preferences:"

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Glad your appt. went well and I hope you get that clearance for the BC. I guess it wouldn't hurt to put something in your BP for the hospital JIC of a c/s. Better to have things go the way you want if there is an emergency.

Thanks for sharing your TTC journey. This is such a special baby for you guys!

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I think that it might be a good idea to get your preferences for the various possibilities on paper and then put them asside and focus on clearing your fears and visualizing how you want your birth to go.

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welcome to your lodge Yahoo thanks for sharing your story.

i agree with pp to include a section of the birth plan that "should a c-section become medically necessary I would like..." I included that DH and our doula be present, baby stay with me, or if baby needed to be taken that DH would stay with baby...I can't remember exactly what else. I kept mine short and to the point, but it is good to include in case of emergency.

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I'm full term today! I don't think she is going anywhere for a while though (and I am glad - she needs to keep baking - I have too much left to do!) I am just so happy to be at this point!

I wrote down some things for a c-section. I feel a bit better about it right now. I think I want to add something about the type of incision/closure (for a future VBAC) but I have to look up what is best first. Otherwise I think I will just discuss it with my m/w at my next appointment.

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Yay for 37 weeks! Glad you were able to write some things down for the c-section possiblity. Have you written down your "Ideal" birth yet? Not a birth plan, but a narrative about how wonderful your birth will be. It's an exercise a friend taught me writing down exactly how you imagine your birth to be including time of day, how you will feel etc. Very empowering IMHO.

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I've been thinking a lot about my ideal birth, but haven't written it down. I might try that this week.

I just got back from acupuncture - and had a great nap while I was there. I swear, I sleep so well when I am full of needles.

Midwife appointment tomorrow morning - I should get my GBS results back. I am worried about them - the bc won't allow any "alternative" treatment protocols - I asked about the Hibiclens protocol at my last appointment and unfortunately they won't do it.

I'm down to 9 days of work! That is pretty exciting.

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Just getting caught up here. GL with your birth...I'll be off the grid for a week or two, so I may miss it.

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GBS negative vibes! After my experience of 5 attempts to start an IV at 8+ cm and then having to stay in the hospital for 48 hours, I really hate GBS.

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"kvo" wrote:

Just getting caught up here. GL with your birth...I'll be off the grid for a week or two, so I may miss it.

I don't think you will miss it - I don't think she is showing up anytime too soon. Just a feeling.

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I'm GBS- Yahoo

Everything else was fine. Baby was lower than last time so that's good. She's also now more sideways than posterior so that's also good. She seems to be facing my left hip.

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Woo Hoo for GBS-! Glad the appt. went well and everything looks good.

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Yayyy for negativity (GBS negativity that is) hehe!! Mine seems to be hanging out in the same position. She probably won't have any trouble turning once you get going.

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yay for GBS negative!

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Just getting caught up. I loved your intro! Your hubby sounds like a great guy. I'm also planning to include a little blurb about c/s in my birth plan. I feel like writing out my preferences will help me feel more secure about the unknown. Woot for being GBS -!

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woohoo for GBS-!!!!!

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Yay for being GBS-! Smile

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Sounds like everything is moving along great!

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Nothing exciting going on here today - just in lots of pain in my hips. I've been seeing a chiropractor 3x a week for about a month and it had been helping but today my whole left leg feels like it's about to separate from my pelvis. Ughhh. I don't know if I can handle a full day of work tomorrow - walking hurts. Sad

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Ouch, sorry about the hip pain. Is it feeling any better today?

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Sorry I'm late to your lodge, but I enjoyed reading the story about meeting your DH!

Hooray for GBS- and for reaching full term! I hope your hip is feeling better today.

I am another acupuncture lover - I know what you mean about getting great naps while you're there.

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My hip finally feels a bit better, not 100% but at least it's tolerable. I have the morning off which is awesome. I even got to sleep until almost 8:30 this morning, it was so nice! DH & I went out to dinner last night too - it was really nice to just go out and have a "date".

I'm making some lists of things we need to get done and I keep getting stuck on packing my bag... I really am having a hard time figuring out what I want to labor in... I am not a naked person (although I might be in labor). I think it's just one of my weird little mental blocks anyway. I am subconsciously creating these little "non-problems" for myself - I have had them about burp cloths, socks, and breast feeding so far... now the clothes to labor in.

Nothing is happening with my body really - no contractions or any signs of labor. I think the baby dropped a little, but I will have to look at some pictures to see.

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I actually ended up buying something to wear during labor--a little cotton knee-length spaghetti strap nightgown. I wear it as a swimsuit cover-up sometimes. It wasn't really the best for hosptial birthing, though, since I had to pull it up over my belly to put the monitors on (which I never got off once they were on, since I got there at 8cm). A sports bra and sarong-style skirt probably would have worked better.

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I'm glad your hip is feeling better! Whip out those pics!

I'm planning to make sure and get a date night with my hubby in those last few weeks as well. I bought a night gown to put in my bag but it's more for after baby arrives than anything. It's about knee length and buttons down about half way. I also bought a light robe that I can chuck if it gets too messed up. For laboring, I think I'd actually prefer to wear my birth center's gear and/or nothing. I know some ladies prefer to labor in their own clothes because they feel more comfortable but I'd be buying something new and really cheap anyway so it wouldn't feel like my clothes either way. I was thinking about bringing a sports bra or bathing suit top for tub laboring but then I saw lots of ladies in videos just covered in towels in the tub. I've got my own mental block about what to wear. I keep thinking that it will be a pain to remove a sports bra or top of some sort for immediate skin to skin so why not just wear a towel or nothing at all. In the moment, I bet you'll completely forget your modesty anyway!

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Last week of work!!! I can't believe I am at this point already Yahoo Work is really starting to wear me down, so I am really glad this is my last week. I just am having a hard time physically doing my job these days (if the kids would cooperate a little more it might be a bit easier). This last week is super busy between work and appointments though.

We had a super busy weekend trying to make sure everything we need to do gets done. I finalized the person who is going to do my placenta encapsulation and started making sure I had all the stuff she needs. We set up a diaper service for the first month or so, I don't think I could deal with diaper laundry right away (we have to go out to do laundry) so that's a relief. Otherwise, we are just going down our list amd trying to get it all done. I have to get some labor snacks/drinks and pack my bag still - DH is getting crazy about that.

I have an appointment at 1 today and acupuncture tonight.

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I hope your appointment goes well!! If it were me, I would probably pack a big over-sized t-shirt of DH's to labor in. Either that or a big comfy, cotten nightgown. But I'll most likely be a naked laborer, especially at home lol. It's been so hot, half the days I sit around naked anyways lmao.

Sounds like things are definitely coming together... and BIG YAY for last week of work!

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I tried to update about my appointment earlier, but I couldn't get on to preg.org - so here's my update.

My m/w appointment was good - there was a new m/w who was joining the practice so she sat in on my appointment - she didn't add much and I didn't think to ask if she will be attending births at this point. I kind of hope she won't be, just because I don't know her. I know they are down a m/w (they normally have 5) because Amanda - who I really wanted to be there for my birth - is on maternity leave. Anyway - BP was 100/60, baby is down a lot lower and her HR was great.

We discussed the stupid eye goop and Vitamin K (for what feels like the 900th time) and I am so frustrated with NY State! I can't opt out of either of those because it's a public health law. It doesn't fall under the vax laws so I can't get an exemption either. The state can basically take temporary custody long enough to administer them if you refuse (not only would that be traumatic beyond belief, but I can't have a child services report filed on me, I am a teacher and could lose my license). I am very allergic to erythromycin and even that doesn't matter, because the attending ped that my m/w spoke to said it won't make a difference, because a baby that young can't even have an allergic reaction (which I am pretty sure is BS). We discussed what options we have - basically we plan to wait as long as possible (although NYS law says it must be done within the first hour of life) and hope she gets sleepy and will try to do it on closed eyes and then immediately wipe/wash it off. The vitamin K will be done at that point as well. I am just really upset that my daughter won't be even an hour old and I will not be able to make choices to protect her. As much as I love living in NYC, some of the laws really stink. If I were to give birth over the river in NJ, it would be a choice.

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Wow I would be so frustrated and probably angry in your position. It sounds like there's not much you can do. I don't see how the vit K is a public health issue, that's just dumb. It all is. Ugh.
Yay for an otherwise good appointment and last week of work.

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I can sympathize with the hip pain. DS did a number on me during pregnancy and that is the thing that took me the longest to "recover" from after birth.

Yay for GBS- and can't wait to hear about tomorrow' appt to get your all clear for the BC.

Loved your intro about you and DH and the dog! My DH's dog came to live with me about 5 months before DH moved in Smile

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I'm glad you had a good appointment other than the eye goop and Vit K issue. I understand what you mean about not being able to make decisions for your new baby. It is an awful feeling, but I agree that I would probably not make that fight either. It sounds like you have a good plan as far as waiting until she's sleepy and then wiping it off asap.

How are you feeling today?

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"krazykat" wrote:

I'm glad you had a good appointment other than the eye goop and Vit K issue. I understand what you mean about not being able to make decisions for your new baby. It is an awful feeling, but I agree that I would probably not make that fight either. It sounds like you have a good plan as far as waiting until she's sleepy and then wiping it off asap.

How are you feeling today?

Honestly, I'm feeling pretty blah today. This last week of work is killing me - I have to be up early and home late every night this week. I'm not sleeping that well either, so that just makes it worse. I only have the chiropractor after work today, so that's not too bad. I think I am also a bit anxious about my final ultrasound tomorrow. I just want official clearance for the birth center. I might feel better after that, even with the long days.

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