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Time sure has flown!!

Welcome to your lodge Helina!

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Welcome!!

Wow that means I will be up soon too cause your a May mommy!! Biggrin

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome!!

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Congratulations on your lodge Helina!! How cool that I get to follow another one of your lodges :).

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Welcome to your lodge! Smile

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Woohoo! Congratulations!!!

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I've not been over here in about 16 months, and I guess I missed this all together, I think I'll have to come on over and follow your journey!

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Yeah! Welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome to your lodge and the homestretch!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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YAY Helina!!! Welcome to your lodge!

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"KarlysKBug" wrote:

Welcome to your lodge and the homestretch!

Nah, Helina's got at least 6 more weeks Wink

Welcome, Helina!!

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YAY Helina! Welcome to your lodge!!

Jessica

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Yay Helina - a May Mommy's lodge! Welcome!

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Welcome to your lodge! We're in the home stretch now!

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Welcome to your lodge!

Cindy

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Yay for a new lodge! And May mommies are getting lodges already? Time is flying by!

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Thanks everyone! This makes me feel so much closer--eek! I will post an intro story shortly but right now I have to do some actual work. Imagine that! Wink

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Welcome!!!

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Welcome to your lodge, Helina! I am really looking forward to your intro. I think you are one of the best writers on here - and we have lots of good ones! - and that we have come a long way on a very similar journey.

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Welcome to your lodge! Biggrin Looking forward to getting to know you.

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Congrats on your lodge Helina! It seems like only yesterday we were in your last lodge...sigh, how the time flies. How are things in VT right now - is this what they call "mud season?" I'd give anything to be in the Green Mountain State - it is our favorite place to travel Smile

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Wow! I can't believe how close you are! I hope that we get to meet before your little one is born!

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Hurray for your lodge! Welcome back!

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Welcome to your lodge! lol, I was thinking I hadn't seen a lodge for you yet, glad I looked before I started one!
Looking forward to your intro, and and another one of your lodges. I just reallyhope that I can keep up!

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Hi ladies, I've been such a slacker about posting in my own lodge--I think it's a true sign that I'm in full & complete denial about being in the home stretch! Wink I have composed my intro in my head but am scrambling to get a grant submitted at work so I can't justify taking the time to actually make a long post w/pics just yet.

It is such a trip to be going through this with so many of you again! I loved having a lodge last time even though I felt kind of new to this board. You all made me feel so welcome and supported. It's weird--I met almost all my IRL "mommy friends" in a post-partum group, so none of them were with me on my pg journey last time. But you were! Smile

"KarenEMT1" wrote:

How are things in VT right now - is this what they call "mud season?" I'd give anything to be in the Green Mountain State - it is our favorite place to travel Smile

I moved over the river to NH in November but I can still *see* Vermont from here. Wink It is such a beautiful area. Yes, it's mud season! Our yard is still partly covered with snow but things are melting and drying out. We're still in the in-between ugly phase of the winter/spring transition when the thawing snow uncovers all the crap it mercifully hid for months. No buds have appeared, and I have yet to see any daffodils or crocuses poking through, but the birds are out and spring is definitely in the air! A great time to have a baby. Smile

Oh, and as for pregnancy: I'm feeling peachy! I'm finally starting to slow down in the past week as my belly feels heavier and achier. The BH are frequent and sometimes uncomfortable. Every now and again I'll get a really sharp cervical twinge, and sometimes I get very lowwww back pain (more accurately, upper butt pain. ;)) This morning I put my foot up on the shower bench to wash my toes and I got this awful pain in my belly, that's new. But overall I am well. I haven't been to the MW in 3wks but my 37wk appt is Thurs (GBS swab, hurrah.) I did get checked last time because I was having a lot of BH, and at that time I was high/tight/posterior/firm and baby was freefloating head-down at -4. I suspect he/she is a little lower now just because of how it feels to walk. Wink

Back to work, more later!!

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Yay for late April/early May lodges!!!!

I'm getting those "aches" too. Oh, the joys of late pregnancy!

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Darn it! I thought you had posted your intro:-P I am sorry that the pregnancy is now catching up to you. Oh well, it's just a few more weeks, right?

GL on Thursday!!

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back story

A little history...

I met Tim in early 2004. I had moved cross-country from SF Bay Area CA to Vermont 5yrs earlier and was living alone. I was 33 and had recently ended a LTR that had stalled, so I was grooving & doing my own thing.

We met online. We both had ads up and were looking for friends/concert buddies, and in the backs of our minds, thinking it might be nice to find something more, but around here you can't get your hopes up. This is a very population-sparse area so it's really hard to meet new people w/similar interests unless you go fishing. Wink Tim and I are both major music geeks with a shared history of DJing in college radio and very similar taste in music. At the time we met, I was still going to several concerts/shows a month, often driving alone 2+hrs to Boston or Montreal to see bands that I liked. You can see why I was looking for concert buddies!

I answered his ad. His headline was a lyric quote from the band Wilco (a favorite) and his username was from a Pavement album (another favorite.) It was as if he were speaking directly to me! He was only 25 at the time and I think he may have listed an upper age limit of 30 or so, but I couldn't let that stop me from writing to him just so he knew that *someone* got his references. Plus, the pic he posted was really cute! Blum 3 I wrote, "I know I'm a little out of your age range, but..." (He told me later that he thought it was a joke--he couldn't believe that someone like me had written him!) We talked on the phone several times and met up for dinner a few wks later. I thought he was sweet and so young, but we got along great. After dinner we drove around in my car listening to music and talking, and the whole time I was thinking, "please don't try to kiss me," because I really didn't want to be put in that position, know what I mean? Later, back at his car saying goodbye, I gave him a hug and he said, "I think I'd like to kiss you." I agreed (relented, you could say!) and there were fireworks! :jumpingbeans: Best first kiss ever. I was totally unprepared for that to happen. We got in our cars and drove home, both of us shouting "WOOHOO!" to ourselves. Yahoo

We started dating and he moved into my cottage a few months later. He had been living an hour south but was able to transfer w/his job so it worked out perfectly. The relationship was so smooth from the beginning, it was almost a foregone conclusion that we would get married, and we got engaged that fall.
Here is a pic from the wknd we got engaged (Nov '04)

My brother's wife was expecting her 2nd son in May '05, so we needed to plan the wedding so that she could comfortably fly from CA: either March or later in the summer would work for her. Not wanting to wait Wink we chose March 26, 2005 for our wedding. SIL was willing to come at 7mos pg w/a 2yr old in tow (bless her!) We saved up cash like mad and pulled it off beautifully, honeymooning in Belize.
Wedding pics


By this time I was 34 so we knew we didn't want to wait too long to TTC, especially since we had no clue how long it would take. I had my IUD removed about a month after our wedding. A couple days later, I was in Boston having a Botox treatment for the chronic daily migraine condition I'd had for a few yrs (quarterly Botox injections to my face, scalp, and neck cured me of an intractable migraine that had plagued me for 4yrs!) After my injections, I asked my doc, "How long should I wait to TTC?" thinking he'd say "a few days." The answer was 3 months! Oops. So, I started idly charting in July to TTC in August. We had a practice cycle while on vacation in CA and unfortunately were on a relative's sofabed on fertile days (right time, wrong place!) :roll:, but caught the egg on Labor Day wknd! We were shocked and thrilled that it happened so quickly.

I had really miserable M/S for 18wks but other than that it was a fantastic pregnancy and I loved every minute of it. We planned for NCB and took a Birthing From Within childbirth course through our hosp. I went past my EDD, had an induction due to various complicating factors (will post birth story later), and after many days of labor pushed my baby out--a girl! It was such an intense, surreal experience, and even though the birthing wasn't what I had expected or planned for, it was so moving and wonderful. It was the best I could've hoped for under the circumstances and I have no regrets.
5 days past EDD (I was pg for another week but this was the last belly pic I got)

Minutes after birth


Day 2

BFing came easy and we never had any problems (though my daily struggle to pump enough milk would later consume much of that first year.) I returned to my FT job around 2mos PP (boo!) and DH cared for DD during the day while I was gone, since he works nights. He went from never having changed a diaper to changing all of them for the first 2wks (I never even saw the meconium!) and being a FT hands-on Daddy to a baby girl. We are so happy that he and she had that opportunity to bond so closely from so early on. When she was 9mos he had to go on a week-long business trip, so we figured it was time to find some back-up care. We found an in-home DCP who would be willing to take DD 1-2 days/wk as needed, which also gave DH some much-needed time to sleep and do his homework (did I mention he's been finishing his B.A. in his spare time when he's not working FT or taking care of DD? He graduates this May!)

We decided to try for 2yr spacing, so we removed my 2nd IUD in July '07. I charted for a month and we caught the egg on the first cycle! I was still BFing several times a day at that point (DD was 14mos) so I wasn't too hopeful, but a regimen of B6, Mucinex (to increase EWCM), and lots of DTD did the trick. Wink
Announcing: Big sister! (15mos)

By that point we had saved enough money to buy our first home, and we moved in on Nov. 1. I was 14wks pg at the time, so M/S was peaking during the entire packing and moving process. DH did almost everything. Biggrin
New House

This pregnancy has been great--dare I say it, even easier than my first! I didn't expect it since I'm 37 now, but hey, I'm not complaining. The M/S tapered off by 15wks, and unlike last time, I haven't been plagued with excessive swelling or many other discomforts. DD weaned gradually and our last nursing session was at bedtime when I was around 30wks. I admit when it came down to the end it was mama-led weaning--I am philosophically totally open to tandem nursing, but being a FT WOHM w/short maternity leave I just felt that I needed to be able to focus on BFing the newborn alone. And once again we are going for the gender surprise!

So that pretty much brings us up to date. Wink I will get some current belly pics and update on my 37wk MW appt today but right now I need to get back to work! Thanks for reading, and if you made it this far I think the protocol is that I offer you a cookie!

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Oh Helina I loved reading your story! ALL the pics are so beautiful, I esspecially love the one of you and DD right after she was born, so sweet!

PS. I'm guessing boy for you. Wink

Jessica

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What a beautiful 'how we met' story!!! You two are so meant for eachother! Your wedding dress is gorgeous too.

I can't wait to read your dd's birth story, and of course this next LO's birth story! TFS and where's my cookie? Wink

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Great intro!!!

I love how you met your Dh! What a great story!

The pics are all beautiful!!

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I'm so glad to hear more about you!! I loved reading your story and seeing all the pics!!!

My first dd was a combo of Child led/parent led weaning as well. She was down to just twice a day on her own for only a few minutes each time. When I was 3 months pregnant with my second I just gave her a gentle nudge for a few weeks and then she was done. I feel blessed that me made it 23 months though, and I'm sure you feel blessed for the time you had with your dd as well. You did a great job!

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Beautiful intro, Helina. (It makes me realize I left SO much out of mine...) I love the wedding dress, the house (gorgeous!), and those first pics of your DD. Wow, what a whirlwind when you realize you only met Tim in 2004! Like you, we didn't sit around once we were married due to my AMA; it makes for never a dull moment, I must say! Can't wait to see what you are hatching this time...(well, I CAN wait, as we have discussed so many times...but you know!).

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Mmmm cookies...

Great intro Helina & those pictures are wonderful. My DH and I are huge music junkies too, we get to see Wilco in 4 weekends, woot! I can't wait and hope the baby enjoys getting down with mom & dad.

Cindy

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Loved your intro. I think I already knew some parts of it, but others were totally new. What a romantic beginning Smile

and Lidia's sweet newborn pictures! I had forgotten what she looked like at that point (probably never saw them as I was one of the "newborn-nursing-fog" moms on our BB by the time you had her :oops:). Wow, I still see so much of her in those. Then again, it's amazing how much she has changed.

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we moved from vermont last year--- love the Northeast!!! miss it terribly!!!

and i went to belize to visit a friend 5 years ago---- such a beautiful country!

can't wait to follow your story!

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Great intro Helina! Biggrin And ITA- your wedding dress was gorgeous, I LOVE the back of it! Biggrin And your house looks SO nice, great yard too. I don't think I had ever reead anywhere how you and dh met, so that was cool to read too.
I am so looking forward to tryig to keep up on your lodge (again!)

Do you have any gut feelings about the gender of the baby? (Or even want to share, if you do?)

And bring on the belly pics!

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Thanks, everyone! Biggrin Cookies for all!

Karina, you can totally go back and add to your story--it's your lodge, after all! Wink You're right, it really has been a whirlwind. But prior to meeting Tim, I languished for many years in a couple of back-to-back LTRs, and looking back there was a whole lotta nothing packed in those years :roll: so it makes these 4yrs w/Tim seem just right!

Cindy, have a great time seeing Wilco! I'm jealous! They are so wonderful to see live. We travelled all over the NE and to Montreal to see them several times during our courtship, our wedding first dance was a Wilco song, and DD was born with Wilco in the background too! We last saw them live at an outdoor concert on a beautiful summer evening last year, DD was 1 and it was her first real concert (out of utero, that is!)

Ladybee, we want to go back to Belize so badly, it was magical. Where did you move to?

Kasey, I am thinking boy this time, but we all know how good I am at guessing! Wink The pregnancy has been so different, but then again, that makes me wonder if it means it has to be a girl, since it couldn't possibly be THAT easy to predict!

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Loved your intro, and the wedding pictures. You are a really good writer. I also loved the pics of your DD as a new born she looks so perfect and pink.

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Those newborn pictures of Lidia are so sweet. She really is adorable.

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I'm a bit late joining in here sorry. I really enjoyed reading your intro Helina. I met my DF under similar circumstances. Smile Your wedding pics and little girl are gorgeous, and I love your house!

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37wk appt

I had my 37wk prenatal on Thursday. I hadn't been seen since a few days shy of 34wks so I was curious to see how things had changed. I'm going to steal Karina's format here:

Mama:
BP: 116/64 (great!)
Weight: up 2lbs (they never ever mention it, I'm up a total of around 35 & happy about that, it's a lot less than last pg)
Fundal height: 37 @ 37
GBS: she did the swab (she was thorough, I might add), but I forgot to ask how long it takes to culture. Anyone know?

[COLOR=Green]Baby:
HR: [/COLOR]160 with wild & crazy hiccups! Biggrin This baby doesn't get them very often so it was a funny coincidence that they started the sec she put the doppler on my belly. Usually the HR is around 130.
Position: head down but she estimated -5 station this time, when at 34wks a diff MW called it -4 (from an internal, that time.) So, either way, baby is still floating high! Butt was upper right of my belly, feet were left (ROA?), but I still feel the baby rotating a bit from side to side.

While she was feeling the baby, she asked, "Is your daughter tall?" DD is, in fact, off the charts for height. MW said that she thinks this baby is very long, based on where the butt was and how far over the feet ended up. Interesting! Biggrin

MW does not think this baby is coming anytime soon, based on position & my history of going post-dates (DD was induced at 41+1, born at 41+5). I'm cool with that.

Oh, and I asked about their policy for IV/heplock for mamas who had a prior PPH. She said that I would absolutely have a heplock. I asked if that was non-negotiable, and as I expected she said no, it wasn't, but IHO it wouldn't be smart of me to decline it, since a mama could bleed to death. Ugh. I *think* she said that they automatically would give IV pit. Honestly she's not my fave MW out of my team of 8. I get along with her well enough but it's just her vibe. I think she was the one who ordered my induction last time, and while they all agreed it was prudent due to circumstances, I was mad at her at the time and probably still resent it. Wink Anyhow, I'm not sure how strongly I feel about declining the heplock. Still pondering it.

One more thing: they gave me a sheet about a study they're doing with collected cord blood. They're testing titers related to DTaP (or DPT, back when I last got it.) I asked if I'd have to opt out of the study since I want to let the cord finish pulsing before clamping, and she said no, and noted that I wanted delayed clamping in my file. I didn't do a BP last time and wasn't going to this time since they are so pro-NCB in general, but now I wonder if I shouldn't just draw up a very simple half-page of a few basics...

ETA: Play our baby guessing game! I need to squeeze it into my siggy but for now here's the link:

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I guessed in your game. Smile

If I test positive for group B, then I will have the heplock too. I'm also hoping that I don't have to, but who knows? It's not as bad as an IV, but I certainly understand not wanting it.

That cord blood study sounds interesting. I wonder what that's about? I also had the DPT (I think).

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Good that baby is in position - I really hope you don't face an induction this time. I want you to jump start things on your own this time!

I'd draw up a short birth preferences list no matter what. At this point, I'm just not trusting of hospitals in general, though so it's JMO. :shrug:

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Just wanted to say hi, and I really enjoyed reading your intro (another Wilco fan here). Sounds like things are going well for you in general, and I'm looking forward to reading your birth story!

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It sounds like things are going great & I hope you don't have that midwife when the time comes. To say heplocks are non-negotiable, come on.

You have to let me know what Wilco song you and your DH danced to. I'll be thinking of you when we're at the concert, this is our third time seeing them and should be the best show since the first I had to leave early and the second was at the Sasquatch Festival at the Gorge so it was a short set.

Cindy

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"Baby_Vol" wrote:

That cord blood study sounds interesting. I wonder what that's about? I also had the DPT (I think).

They're checking the impact of maternal vaccination on levels of pertussis antibody in mothers & infants at delivery and before & after infant DTaP vax. After reading into it further, I think I will have to opt out because we don't do infant DTaP on schedule. The DPT booster is one that I am severely allergic to. I had it several times from infancy to teenhood, including a few times extra when we moved and my vax records were lost. It gives me seizures and puts me into anaphylactic shock. (And no, a prior history of reaction wasn't a good enough reason to enroll me in a new school w/o it, can you imagine? Nowadays I think we'd have better luck just because there is more awareness & it's easier to opt out.) Because of my history, we do a custom vax schedule w/our kids just in case they inherit any of my sensitivities.

"lifeisgood" wrote:

I hope you don't have that midwife when the time comes. To say heplocks are non-negotiable, come on.

You have to let me know what Wilco song you and your DH danced to.

She said the heplock is technically negotiable, but that I'd be foolish to refuse it. :roll: I'm torn--a heplock isn't the worst thing in the world to me, and honestly my DH is really worried about me hemmorhaging again so it might be a tiny thing to do to help ease his mind--but she could've put it a different way that didn't make me feel stupid.

Oh, and our first dance song was "Jesus, Etc." We decided on it at a show way before we were engaged--I don't even remember which of us whispered to the other that it should be our first dance song if/when we got married. Smile I still can't listen to it w/o crying but I'm that way about a million songs. Have a great time at the show!

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It's so nice to read your intro and stories! Looks like you have a super nice house too! I would love to live up there. Maybe someday...

So do you like JBT too? I recently (in the past 2-3 years) discovered JBT and I love them. I love the song "Peaches and Cream" which is about the birth of his daughter. I keep joking with DH that I want him to write me a song when our LO is born. He's not a musician, so that would be a stretch.

Looking forward to hearing more about your experiences in the home stretch!

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"nmpiche" wrote:

It's so nice to read your intro and stories! Looks like you have a super nice house too! I would love to live up there. Maybe someday...

So do you like JBT too? I recently (in the past 2-3 years) discovered JBT and I love them. I love the song "Peaches and Cream" which is about the birth of his daughter. I keep joking with DH that I want him to write me a song when our LO is born. He's not a musician, so that would be a stretch.

Thanks! Our house is great but we traded convenience for square footage and land. We are miles from nowhere. Smile I often wish we lived in a more walkable area w/sidewalks and a shorter commute, but we could've only afforded half the house. (One bonus I don't think I mentioned is that our house has an 1150sq ft guest house in the backyard. My mom moved up from FL this winter so she can be a part of the kids' lives and give us a break every now and then!)

I haven't heard a lot of JBT but I will ask DH to hook me up, I know he has some. I should also ask him to write me a song that doesn't involve E-I-E-I-O. DH is a musician & plays about 10 instruments but lately his talents are focused on playing the " 'TAR! " for DD while she accompanies him on drum machine. Wink

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