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*~*~*KisterBaby/Danielle's Birth Lodge*~*~*

Looking forward to hearing about your VBAC!

Welcome to your birth lodge, Danielle!

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Welcome!!

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Welcome to your lodge! Cheering you on for your VBAC!

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Welcome!! Have a happy VBAC!!

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Welcome!

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Welcome to your lodge!!

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Congrats Danielle! I followed your last lodge and I am happy to be back, rooting for your VBAC. I hope you get the birth you want this time.

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Welcome to your lodge! Can't wait to hear all about your VBAC journey!

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Congrats and Welcome. GL with the VBAC!

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O my gosh, is it SERIOUSLY time for my lodge already?? Thanks, ladies Smile I'm really excited about VBAC'ing. I've been remaining so positive (almost to my surprise!) I thought i'd be more nervous but I'm really not. Everytime my friends./family have asked when is my c-section going to be i've been able to easily say "I'm not having one. I'm having a vaginal birth this time." The standard response is usually "Really? Your doctor is going to let you??" I've replied "My doctor doesn't LET me do anything. She can just show up and catch the baby, I'm the one who's doing allthe work." I'll have to come back later on and post some pics and a little more background for ladies who don't know about me and my wonderful wonderful family. Smile

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Congrats on your lodge!

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Welcome to your lodge. I can't wait to hear more and see some pics!

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Welcome, and what a great attitude you have! I can't wait to hear all about your wonderful VBAC.

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Welcome to your lodge! I can't wait to read your backstory. Smile

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"KisterBaby" wrote:

The standard response is usually "Really? Your doctor is going to let you??" I've replied "My doctor doesn't LET me do anything. She can just show up and catch the baby, I'm the one who's doing allthe work."

This is the CLASSIC Nashville response. LOL at your reply Dirol Welcome to your lodge!

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Ok I have a little time now that jeffy has finally decided to nap today!! Let's see where do I start..

DH and I got engaged in July 2005. We suffered the tragedy of Hurricane Katrina together. We evacuated together (along with his daughter from his prev marriage), we both lost our homes and planned our wedding while we were evacuated. We married in January 2006, and have managed to rebuild our lives.
We have custody of his two children from his previous marriage Alycia(3.5) and Reese (2.5) we also have one child together Jeffy (14 months). So, yes, that's right... when this baby is born we will have a newborn, 1 yo, 2yo, and 3yo!:eek: We are expecting a baby boy whom we have named Luke.

My first pregnancy (jeffy) was a pretty normal pregnancy. I think i started educating myself on labor and birth a little too late, IMO. I went into labor at 39 weeks with him. I was laboring fine, but then I was talked into AROM while jeffy was still floating up at around -2 station. Though at the time we didn't know it, the top of jeffy's head was flat against my pelvic opening, he was facing my left hip. I believe that AROM was the cause for this, he could no longer move around freely into the position he needed to be in. Anyway, fetal distress, panic time, and minutes later i was having an emergency c-section. I'm still not 100% OK with what happened at my last birth, since I feel that I could've avoided it, but what is done is done and I am much closer to being at peace with my last birth than I was a year ago.

This time, I am VBAC'ing! My doctor found that my EDD is a week and a half or so earlier than she had in her chart (my chart says may 12, early u/s says may 1) My OB decided not to change it in my chart so that her partners wouldn't try pressuring me (or her, i'm sure) to induce or RCS too early. So, by the time her partners see that i am "due" on may 12, i will already be 41w4d, and hopefully already have delivered this little man. I haven't really done any birthing techniques or classes for this birth, but I have prepared and I'm ready to labor at home for as long as possible then head to the hospital in time to push.

Ok, picture time!
Here's dh and I while we were dating He looks soooo young here but it was only 3 years ago i think

Our wedding day

DH, me, alycia and reese (i was 7 months pregnant with jeffy)

Me and Jeffy on his birthday

And Jeffy on his 1st birthday

ETA: Starting at about 30 weeks, I started having some contractions that eventually really became cause for some alarm. I had started dialated/softening so I was put on medication to stop the contractions. The meds have worked really really well at stopping them, I would only get 1-2 a day instead of ctx every 2-3 mintues. Starting yesterday though the contractions are really getting through the medication. They aren't painful or anything, but I hope they chill out for a while longer!

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What an awesome story and a beautiful family!

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Wow, that is definetly enough to keep you on your toes!! Kuddos to you for remaining sane with three young children and another on the way Smile

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"thatmakes5" wrote:

Wow, that is definetly enough to keep you on your toes!! Kuddos to you for remaining sane with three young children and another on the way Smile

who said i've remained sane?? WinkROFL

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LOL

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Welcome to your logde!

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Wow, 4 kids! That is awesome!

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There's a whole lotta twingy/twitchy cervical feelings and contractions goin' on, and huge baby movements. Maybe he's getting in a nice comfy position

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You have a gorgeous family! I hope Luke is getting "locked and loaded" for you. Wink

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Great story, and what a beautiful family you have.

Good luck with your VBAC!

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Anyone have any sleeping hints/tips?? I was up most of the night last night just feeling just weird and uncomfortable. I had some chammomile tea and warm bath, but it didn't help much. I only got a few hours of sleep (not nearly enough for me to function properly). I still feel really weird and now it seems i've got a lovely tummy bug, since i woke up with some intentinal issues as well.

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:bump: for my question

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I really wish I had some answers for you as I am in desperate need of them myself Smile I love your "what did you do today" siggy. Maybe I can get it put on a shirt.

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"thatmakes5" wrote:

I really wish I had some answers for you as I am in desperate need of them myself Smile I love your "what did you do today" siggy. Maybe I can get it put on a shirt.

thank you! i saw it in someone else's siggy and asked if i could borrow it hehehe I always tell dh i'm multitasking, for example i'm washing dishes AND gestating, therefore multitasking hehe

PS- i lost about half of my mucus plug today :kaos3: i know it's not a huge sign or anything since there wasn't any bloody show in it or anything, but still, even tiny progress is MAJOR progress when you feel like you have to fight for your VBAC.

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Sorry hon. No suggestions here. By the time night rolls around I'm almost asleep before I hit the bed. HUGS!!

Maybe try some Sleepytime Tea?

ETA: Congrats on losing your plug. I'm hoping to lose mine soon!

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i def don't have any suggestions for sleep--- it's 12:10am here and i'm still awake!

hope you're feeling comfortable!

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More insomnia tonight. It's not that bad though. DH can function on little amounts of sleep, so he's volunteered to stay up with me tonight to keep me company. He wanted a little "action" as reward for staying up with me, so what the heck... it's not like i'm sleeping! Might as well do something to entertain ourselves Lol

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Sounds like fun!!

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I had a doctor's appointment today. It went rather well, as far as OB appts can go. I was checked, a fingertip dialated and cervix is getting really soft. We discussed a birth plan. She is a little nervous about me being a VBAC (so she says i explain in a bit). She explained the risks of uterine rupture. She didn't tell me the actual statistic (which i already know) but at least she didn't try to use scare tactics or anything. She just explained that there are risks, but I didn't hear any risks about RCS hmmm... O well, I already know those as well. She sais they normally schedule RCS at 39 weeks, but since I wanted a VBAC, she'd try to buy me as much time as possible. I'm impressed she was even suggesting a few days over my EDD. She said we wouldn't even start talking about a date until my EDD. Hopefully I'll go before that, but at the very least, at least I don't have to worry about fighting for a few more weeks. She doesn't act very nervous about my VBAC. I think it's more of her partners and their policy that is getting nervous. She seems supportive in her actions, but kind of reserved, like she HAS to be, ykwim?? Does that even make sense?? hehe

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I think that some folks in the medical field feel they aren't doing their job if they don't inform you of all the risks and scary things that could happen. It sounds like she really thinks your decision is fine but isn't allowed to say so!

I've found that sleeping on the couch has been heavenly. I lie on my left side with my back pushed against the couch for support. I have one large pillow under my feet and one under my back and head so that if I turn over on my back, I am sort of in a 'U' shape--more like an upside down rainbow, I guess. I feel supported all over and it's SO comfy. My DH went to move the couch cushions yesterday and I screamed at him to freeze and drop what he's doing! I don't want my nest disturbed!

I've also been sneaking in short naps in the afternoon which prevents me from getting too exhausted at night--if I get overtired, my body feels uncomfortable and I can't sleep.

Good luck and I hope you get some zzzz's soon.

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Well the lack of scare tactics is a positive thing, and she does sound like she;s trying to be supportive, but much of the philosophy behind VBACing seems to conflict with most Ob's training, so her conflicted state isn't terribly surprising.

I am sending spontaneous birthing vibes you way. You can do it!!!

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Glad your ob is being supportive of the VBAC idea, albeit reservedly.

As for sleeping tips: I can't help w/the constant waking, but when I am really struggling to get back to sleep and watching the minutes and hours tick by, I pop in one of my Hypnobabies CDs and it puts me right to sleep! Wink

Actually, any relaxation or meditative CD works for me. I have a few other pg ones geared towards relaxation and prep for childbirth. They are also very soothing. Once I start doing the deep relaxing breathing I fall asleep pretty quickly. Of course, it can be done w/o a CD, just try something like progressive relaxation where you consciously relax your entire body starting at the top of your head and going to your toes...taking deep breaths through your nose and exhaling out your mouth...I'm getting sleepy just thinking about it! Wink

Good luck!

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I think I've gone mad, ladies.

-I have had an average of 3 hours of sleep a night for over a week now.
-I've had nearly constant ctx for almost 10 weeks
-One of my kids had projectile vomiting last night and tonight, once on my couch, once in my van
-My other two kids have gone crazy, seriously, it's not even the full moon yet (that's when they normally go nutty)
-My house is a disgusting mess (well, imo it is lol)
-I feel like a slacker for not doing everything, but I'm exhausted (see first bulletpoint)

And here is why I'm convinced I've gone off the deep end:
-Despite my above bulletpoints, I'm insanely happy, and still comfy being preg! Whoa, watch out ladies! Do they make maternity straight jackets?? Lol

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it's so hard to get everything done when you're pregnant, espcially with other little ones around the house!!!

feel well!

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OH, I can so relate!!!! At least your happy and content and not miserable. Smile There is something to be said for just taking it all in stride and letting go of the things that really don't matter.

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Congrats on getting to 37 weeks. I really hope that your VBAC goes well and your Dr. sounds like a good one.

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Today my best friend treated me to lunch and a prenatal massage... *dreamy sigh* i feel aaaaawesome :cloud9:

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Lucky you!!! I am so jealous Smile

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I don't have a whole lot to say today, but a random thought suddenly crossed my mind. I am on Procardia for the ctx I was having a few weeks ago (which caused my cervix to soften and begin dialating). My doc says I could stop taking it at 37 weeks. Now I'm paranoid that since the baby didn't come when he wanted (when all the ctx and cervical change was going on) he's going to be stubborn and say "well, fine then! i'll just stay forever... or at least go overdue" I still feel good currently, other than some ctx that have been going on the past few days and the dropping of the baby the other day. I'd still rather that this kid didn't wait too long after my EDD to make his entrance

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Ok, I'm having a panicky moment. I hope it's just a moment. At my dr appt yesterday, I got checked and haven't progressed, which wasn't a big deal to me. My doc sid "well it's a shame you haven't progressed" and I was totally fine and said "well i've got a few more weeks, change can happen at any moment. Think positive thoughts, doc. I am!" But today, I dont' feel so positive. I don't know what it is, but I'm having a few negative thoughts like "omg i'm 38 weeks tomorrow and nothing's going on. I was already 1cm last time at 38 weeks" I was having good ctx last night, about 4 mins apart for several hours. I thought it had the potential of being actual "show time", but they petered out. I'm sure the false hope last night hasn't helped my negative thoughts. I don't know what I'm looking for, I just needed to get out the negative vibes, hoping to make room for more positive ones. It's just kind of hard when I feel like I'm in the time crunch b/c of vbacing

*chanting* I will be fine, I will go into labor on my own, I will dialate when the time is right, my baby knows what he's doing, my body knows what to do

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I'm sure things will be fine. I know it's hard not to worry though. Just think POSITIVE!! :bigarmhug:

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Try not to panic! Those ctx are a great sign that your body is making progress. It's so hard to trust your body but what else can you do at this point, right?

Hang in there!! Hope you're feeling better about it today. Smile

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Ready for a feel good story?? Ok, good!

So yesterday my dad and I were out and about by ourselves doing some fun, foodie errands that we like to do together. My dad and I have a great relationship, but we don't really talk much about the pregnancy, except when mentioning the baby. We just don't really like to get into details of the physical part of pregnancy, that's what I use my mom for hehehehe. My dad's of the whole mindset "omg i DONT want to think of my daughter's uterus, vagina, or breasts. she's my DAUGHTER" heheh that kind of thing.
anyway, surprisingly yesterday while on our errands, we started talking about my VBAC. He's aware of what I am going to do, he just has never really inquired about it. He asked lots of good questions and I answered them for him. He was just really interested in the research part of why vbac is safer, etc. Then after all the research-talk, he says to me "I know it probably doesn't make a difference, but I'm proud of you. You can do it. You have a really good head on your shoulders... you get that from me, ya know." Now this is the part where you'd (insert) preggo hormonal daughter tearing up about to cry.Of COURSE it matters to me that he knows I can do it! Any extra support that I can get is an amazing addition to what I'm doing. Each little comment of support just further motivates me and adds to my confidence. Ok, I just had to share my little feel-good story Smile

Oh, and Rebecca I don't know if you read my lodge, but I'm still borrowing your mantra "This is is TOTALLY coming out of my vagina"

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Awww, that is really sweet that he took an interest in learning about it, recognized how important it is to you, and told you he believes in you! It sounds like you have a wonderful relationship him--how special that is.

Smile

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Its great that you have your Dad's support and he told you.

Keep going, this baby will be born in a VBAC!!

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Sorry this is my first time to welcome you to your lodge! What a great conversation you had with your father. I hope it sticks with you in labor- the positive reinforcement!

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