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Can't wait to follow along!!

Welcome to your birth lodge Laura!

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Welcome!!

More may moms!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome!! Oh my, I'm going to have a lodge soon too.

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Welcome! Are you sufficiently freaked out that you have your own lodge now? Lol

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Welcome to your lodge!!!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Yay!!! Welcome to your lodge!!!!

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EEK! Thanks everyone! The next 4 weeks will either fly by or drag on forever (like they did with DD1).

I'll post an intro later...a certain toddler is awake and ready to party Wink

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Welcome to your lodge Laura!!

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Another May mommy with a lodge! Wow! It's not going to be long until we take over the board. Wink

Welcome to your lodge!

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OK an intro...I'll try to sum up my life story to this point without making it into a novel Wink

DH and I are from the same hometown but attended rival HS's. We first met at my HS graduation party (joint party with several friends) and found I was going to his university that fall - him as a senior, me as a freshman obviously.

Brian = serious senior trying to finish up and get OUT
Laura = definitely not mature enough for college yet! The fact that I pulled a 0.0 my first semester can attest to that!

Fast-forward 2 years and we were engaged. I had transferred to a college that was close to home and finally saw it as my "job" to get good grades, finish, and get a job! We were married on May 17, 1997 (so don't laugh at my pouffy wedding gown or the Cinderella bridesmaids dresses!). I was 20, he was 24. We had a very traditional Catholic mass.

Since I had 2 years of school left and wanted to get my master's, and we wanted to get out of debt and into a house, we put children on the back burner for awhile. I finished undergrad (cum laude, thankyouverymuch!), started teaching public school, and started work on my M.Ed. We bought our house and enjoyed our life as just the 2 of us. Finished my master's and we felt at 7 years into our marriage it was finally time to start a family! Our parents were relieved as we are the oldest children and our younger sibs weren't showing signs of settling down anytime soon!

Having no prior history of infertility issues, we assumed we'd get pregnant on the first cycle. Not even close Sad I was using OPKs (didn't know about charting then) and we just kept turning up BFNs. It was very frustrating, especially since we dorked and told practically everyone that we were TTC. I got so tired of people hanging on every possible symptom and jumping in with "Are you pregnant?" Five months into our TTC journey we found out why I hadn't gotten pregnant. The Indian Ocean tsunami hit and I felt *so* compelled to go there and do something. I can't explain it b/c it's never happened before and hasn't happened since. Our church was putting teams together to go assist in a small fishing village on Sumatra, Indonesia that had suffered about a 70% loss of life. Not a single building was left standing in this village and every family had lost at least 1 member. These people were hurting so badly. It was a long shot that I'd get chosen to go b/c they were sending 3 teams of 10 men and 2 women each (cultural reasons for sending so few women) and there were HUNDREDS of people who applied to go. The phone call came a week later that I was heading to Indonesia in early March '05! It was an incredible experience!! Since I was pumped full of so many vaccines, anti-malarials, and had to go on BC while I was there (AF was scheduled to come the day we left and I was NOT messing with that in the absense of plumbing!) my OB wanted me to wait 3 months before TTC. ::sigh:: So we lost more time. I have to admit, we weren't careful, but we weren't trying either.

In August of '05, which marked a year since we started TTC, DH was on a mission. My OB had told us that her first line of infertility testing started with the husband. She said it was easy and noninvasive to perform a sperm count. Brian did NOT want to go in the room with a little cup so he made it his job to get me knocked up! Lol Over Labor Day weekend with AF 3 days late, and daring not to get our hopes up again, I took an HPT. Got a BFP almost immediately. I remember calling a friend to verify that you can get false negatives but not false positives - that I hadn't possibly screwed up and peed on the stick too long. Lol

I had a fairly easy pregnancy. I *loved* every minute of it and couldn't wait until our daughter, Emma Claire, made her arrival. Going into the pregnancy I knew I wanted an epidural - if we have the meds, why not use 'em? Plus, everyone else I knew had an epi w/ no problems. I just wanted to go into labor spontaneously, deliver vaginally and get a good start with breastfeeding. I was blessed with all 3! DD made her entrance after 7 hours of active labor and under 20 minutes of pushing on May 16, 2006 (the day before our 9th anniversary). This is the point at which I became a SAHM.

We fell in love with this little person and couldn't wait to do it all over again. Pregnancy is addictive that way for some women, I think. We set our sights on TTC when DD turned a year old, but pushed that back a few months b/c we were going to Hawaii in August '07 to celebrate our 10th anniversary! Yahoo I racked up frequent flyer miles on my mission trip and Brian had accumulated a ton of Marriott points through business travel so it was virtually a free trip! DD stayed home with our parents alternating coming to our house to stay with her. That part was HARD, but I couldn't imagine taking a 15 m.o. on a trip like that.

Since I had been charting, I knew exactly when I was fertile. A few weeks before Hawaii, on an EWCF day I said to DH, "You know, I have EWCF today?" (what every man wants to hear :roll: :lol:). I followed that up with, "Ya wanna practice?" What red-blooded man wouldn't turn down that offer? So we did. On our first day in Hawaii we went to Walmart to stock up on lunch items and I knew I was either pregnant (temp went up morning we left plus my gag reflex was really sensitive) or that I'd need tampons in a few days. I bought an HPT and took it when we got back to our hotel. Guess what???

A few pics from our trip:


So that brings me to THIS pregnancy. Hmm...not as "cute" as my first: m/s was much worse, I had a gush of bright red blood at 11 weeks (subchorionic hemorrage resolving itself), brown bleeding for 2 weeks following that, SPD and SI pain, varicose veins from h*ll, we listed and sold our house then moved into a new one in January...but Sarah Catherine will be worth every bit of it I am sure Smile I knew early on that I wanted to pursue a med-free labor and birth. Through research, I've learned that I was darn lucky that things went as smoothly as they did with my first L&D. The cascade of interventions absolutely terrifies me and I am determined to do this without drugs being pumped into my body. My mindset doing this has changed from "because I think I can get through it without meds" to "there's no way I'm letting them near me with all of their interventions!"

What I don't understand is why people feel free to tell me how crazy I am and question why I am doing this, but I dare not question someone else for scheduling an induction or repeat c-section for convience or for a "big baby". The double standard pisses me off.

Parts of this pregnancy have flown by and parts have dragged by. All in all, I feel kind of like I've missed it. So now that we're down to the very end, I'm trying very hard to savor every moment b/c it might be my last.

Oh my, it *is* a novel! If you got this far, thanks for reading and if you didn't, I totally understand!

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What a great intro!!! I love that you helped out with the tsunami efforts. What an experience, bravo woman!

Your pictures are beautiful and I can't wait to see this next little lady. That picture of you lying with your DD in the hospital bed is too adorable. Biggrin

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welcome to your lodge!!! and what a wonderful story Smile

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Welcome!! I can't wait to read your intro later.

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Laura congrats & welcome to your lodge. I love the intro, it's great to put some info to a name.

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Welcome and congratulations! Great intro and beautiful pictures. I'm looking forward to following your journey!

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Welcome to your lodge! Even though I knew your story and had seen those pics Wink it was a blast to read it again! Smile I'm really excited to be going through this journey with you a second time. Biggrin

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Great intro and I loved the pics.

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What a great story! Thanks for sharing it!

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Wow, Laura, it's your turn again! Welcome to your lodge.

I sort of thought I "knew" you from the May '06 board, but this intro was mostly new info for me, so I guess not! Great story. I had no idea you were so young when you got married (compared to me, a relative geriatric), and would never have laughed at your "pouffy" dress - it is divine!

That is a beautiful shot of you with EC in the hospital. Can't wait to meet the next little miss!

ETA: is that your REAL stomach in the Hawaii photos?? How is that even possible after having a baby????

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"MaxiMamma" wrote:

ETA: is that your REAL stomach in the Hawaii photos?? How is that even possible after having a baby????

LOL - yes it is and thank you.:) I was blessed with little-to-no upper body fat. My mom and I have teeny tiny waists and I worked hard to get myself back into shape after EC (and gaining 63lbs!). I was back to the gym at 10 weeks pp and was running at 8 months pp. Did my first pp 5K when EC was 12.5 months.

Now our lower bodies...let's just say women in my family are perfect pears :roll:

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Great pics and I loved reading your intro! Can't wait to hear about your new daughter's arrival. Welcome to your lodge. Biggrin

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"~*runnergirl*~" wrote:

Now our lower bodies...let's just say women in my family are perfect pears :roll:

LOL, well, as an apple myself, I would trade any day! At least if you are a pear, you can wear small-waisted clothing; apples have a hard time finding a waist in there, need to dress in tent shapes, and are at higher risk for heart disease. When we are not preggo, we have fabulous legs, but that is small comfort if those legs go to an early grave...

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36 week OB appointment:

Lost 2 lbs!
performed GBS swab (please be negative, please be negative!!)
internal exam: baby is head-down - yay! I'm 2cm, 50% which means squat to me b/c I'm a BTDT mom. Actually, if I can get to 4cm w/o any noticable contractions I'll be a very happy woman. 2cm-4cm with DD1 was a long and painful road.

OB said that in subsequent pregnancies you tend to have a lot more contractions and "false" labor that will drive you nuts before it finally gets into a regular pattern. Is that true for others?

Also, she wants me to come to the hospital when my contrax are 5-7min apart for about an hour. Even though I live 45 min away (in NO traffic) I'm thinking 5 minutes...

Went over my birth plan which ain't brief! I've tried to scale it back, but it's still looooong (1.5pgs). Still, I admired my doctor for sitting there and going through each and every item with me, even though I told her to line-item veto and we could discuss it next week. Some "stumbling blocks", if you will:

Re. PROM: she probably will *not* send me home, esp if I'm GBS+. She did say that refusing subsequent vaginal exams (after an initial one to see how far along I am at that point) was a good idea so yay!

Re. Pitocin to induce or speed up labor: She said that at some point, if things do stall or if my body doesn't get labor started, you kind of have to give Pit a try. Since I'm already dilating, I'm past the point that prostaglandin gels would do anything. I told her I did not want it used and if we came to that point, we could discuss it. I think she left the conversation knowing that that is a point we will agree to disagree on.

Re. no episiotomy: She's fine with that, but was kind of feeling me out for just how opposed I am to that. She had a patient who literally grabbed the scissors out of her hand once (shoulder distocia - sp!). :shock: Again, I told her if there was a medical emergency to please get my consent, but I'd still rather risk tearing.

Re. Pit to help uterus contract after placenta delivers: she said if they don't use Pit, they usually give a shot of some other drug...started with an "N". She said the nurses will be doing fundal massage and in the absense of an epidural it will be a bit uncomfortable. She didn't have an epi with her sons and remembers the fundal massage being slightly unpleasant. Still, I feel that if I'm breastfeeding right away, why administer synthetic hormones???

Re. Double-layer suturing: she doesn't usually do it but said she would if a section was required. Glad I got tips on that from everyone else!

Re. Support person in OR if general anesthesia is required for section: hospital won't allow it and they won't budge on that.

So there it is. Brian thought it went really well and he was so good about piping in with, "We're willing to work with you on this point, if needed," and other such diplomatic things. I think he'll be a good coach in that respect. He has learned *so* much over the last few months.

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"MaxiMamma" wrote:

LOL, well, as an apple myself, I would trade any day! At least if you are a pear, you can wear small-waisted clothing; apples have a hard time finding a waist in there, need to dress in tent shapes, and are at higher risk for heart disease.

That's true. Yikes! Look at you in those pics, though! Not an apple in sight!

As a pear, I have no boobs unless I'm pregnant or nursing. I've gone from an A to a DD each pregnancy and only dropped to a D after losing 50lbs of pregnancy weight when I was still nursing. To this day I wonder if that was a subconscious reason I EBF Emma Claire...it was soooo nice to have boobs to put in a bikini last summer!

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I loved reading your intro and the pics were beautiful!! Look forward to helping welcome your next princess.

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sounds like a really productive appointment! Smile Glad your doc agreed to most things. I'm hoping you won't need the bulletpoints that yall didnt agree on

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That sounds like a really great appt! How great that your doc actually went through the whole birth plan with you like that. It sounds very promising. I also hope you don't need those items that you disagree on.

WTG on a little bit of progress, too, and I hope your GBS is neg!

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Sending NEGVIBES!!!!!

Sounds like your doc is pretty decent when it comes to those things. I'd be pleased. Your hubby sounds awesome too! Love it when they're so involved and concerned. It's cute!

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Yeah, I guess she's OK. I just knew my former OB for 5 or 6 years before becoming pregnant and she was really cool (well, until she scheduled SIL for a section back in November, but that's another rant for another day). Then I became a SAHM and went on DH's insurance which her practice did not accept so, the OB hunt was on. Still wish I went to another doctor in the current OB's practice, but I think it would be kind of uncouth to change at this point, plus, current doc seems OK, just a bit more reserved than my first OB. :shrug:

Still seriously considering Vanderbilt Midwives if we have a third!

Ugh, my heartburn is back over the last few days. I've been burping strawberry cream cake from Sunday school (so that was 11am!) ALL FREAKING DAY! DH made yummy Alaskan salmon for dinner and I had to force myself to eat it between burning burps. Bleck! Oh and I thought the relaxin had hit before, until I went for my walk today. OMGosh, my pelvis was wobbling all over the place! Really, it felt like I wasn't in control of that part of my body! I don't remember this from DD1!

Very crampy for several hours this morning. I realized I was fighting it and it was getting worse so I focused on relaxing into the discomfort and that helped tremendously. Good prep for labor!

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cramping??? sounds like your body is gearing up for labor in the future!

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Love your intro and all!!! I think your dress is lovely!

I'm glad you talked to your doc about all that. I need to write up a birth plan myself, and put in the section stuff. Boy, that stinks about no Dh if gen anestesia for a section!!! I wonder why that policy? I think most hospitals have it though, unfortunately.

Still seriously considering Vanderbilt Midwives if we have a third!

You've come a long way on that, huh? Smile I hope you do consider it! At least interview them. My Dad went to Vandy for his cancer treatments, and personally, we loved that hosptials. However, I've never had experience with their labor/delivery department. I just know their cancer facility was top notch.

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Welcome to your lodge! I love the wedding dress, it's very classic IMHO, but those bridesmaids dresses are definitely lost in the 90s! Blum 3

A lot of hospitals have a policy about no one in the OR in case of general anesthesia, but I know from ICAN boards and VBAC email lists that DHs have been "snuck in" when they've requested it beforehand, and occasionally they just walk in (assuming they're gowned up) and refuse to leave. One woman I know of said her DH had security called on him but they couldn't go into the OR because they weren't gowned up; the doctor decided the DH wasn't causing enough trouble for security to come into the OR, so they waited outside. When he finally came out, he was taken to the security office and given a "talking to" but nothing more ever came of it. Just food for thought. This is definitely something you want to talk to DH about ahead of time. My DH was told to wait outside and he'd be called when they were ready for him, next thing he knew, the baby was crying.

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Julya: I know! I just want to be attended by someone who has a similar mindset, i.e. the body *can* do this on it's own! Don't muck with mother nature!

Stacey: Yeah, yeah on the bridesmaids dresses:-P I was 20 when I picked them out and I guess I definitely had a Cinderella complex! I'll go over your OR tips with DH. That's truly horrible that they forgot about your DH.

It's a glorious day here! Sunny and mid-70s! I have been waiting for this weather!!! Unfortunately, what once was perfect weather now feels hot to my raging hormonal body. Oh well.

Hey, is it weird/normal to have EWCF at this point? I know your leukorrhea can pick up production as birth approaches, but this was textbook EWCF. Not mucous plug.

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EWCF?

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"HopelessPoet" wrote:

EWCF?

Egg-white cervical fluid:cool:

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Thanks. I've noticed that when I do have discharge that it's been that color as well.

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Welcome to your lodge Laura! Biggrin It was cool to read your story, lots I didn't know about you. That is so neat that you got to help out after the tsunami- I bet that was an amazing heartbreaking mission.

Your pics are beautiful btw! Smile

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Julya: I know! I just want to be attended by someone who has a similar mindset, i.e. the body *can* do this on it's own! Don't muck with mother nature!

I totally understand that!

I think more CM is normal at this time. I'm not sure about EWCM ...I guess more can be that? Not sure?

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Thanks, Kasey! I can't believe I'm over on this board. Two years ago I was thinking you, Robin, Helina, Mandi and the like were CRAZY. You've converted me! Lol

Julya: It was just weird. The lotiony leukorrhea I'm used to, but this was a perfectly clear, stretchy string of EW. Ummmm...am I fertile right now??? Lol

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I'm happy you are over here, Laura!!! Now, we just need to bring you more to the dark side and get you to try cloth diapering. Wink I bet you'll love it if you try it. Smile

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Hi there -it was great reading your lodge!! Looking forward to hearing about this birth!

PS - I had CM all through #3 pregnancy - midwife said nothing to worry about - sorry TMI

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"Baby_Vol" wrote:

I'm happy you are over here, Laura!!! Now, we just need to bring you more to the dark side and get you to try cloth diapering. Wink I bet you'll love it if you try it. Smile

I'm glad, too! I am so glad I have the haven of this board when things seem a little too intervention-happy elsewhere. It's nice to have a group of ladies who are so educated on a topic to tell me it's OK to go postdates, to question my OB, etc.!

You and my RLBF Katherine are trying to convert me to FuzziBunz or whatever other brand you two are using! No!!!! I'll not have it! DD is *still* pooping 3x's a day at 22 months old and they are the mushy variety. There's no letting it roll off into the toilet. I'd be scrubbing if we did cloth!

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Thanks, Shelley. So nice all the goop that drips out of you when you're pregnant...crusty nipples, lotion and egg whites, post nasal drip...dang, I'm sexy!

I wanted to get these up before I forgot. I take weekly pics in the last month b/c, well, you never know when it's going to be your last week to be pregnant!

36 weeks with DD1 and this baby (yes, I was still a sun-worshipper and have the damage to prove it!)

37 weeks with DD1 and this baby

Just a funny one of my belly-button pusher. I thought she understood that "baby dister" is in mommy's *belly* but lately she points to my belly *button* and even kisses it when we ask her about her sister. Boy is she going to be disappointed when she visits us at the hospital for the first time and my belly button has returned to an innie!

37wk OB appt tomorrow. Will have a cervical forcast for all interested parties at that point. The most disturbing thing is DH calling his parents from the parking garage to report on how "open" I am. :? It didn't bother me with DD1, but this time it does. Of course, I'm still pissy b/c they informed us that they had to reschedule their vacation plans b/c of my EDD. That makes me want to hold onto Sarah Cate until May 4, the day they leave for their trip. :twisted:

I guess that's a backstory I can share. 6 weeks pregnant with this baby. Had calculated my own EDD as 4/28 based on ovulation and we shared as much with our parents. Upon hearing the news that we were expecting #2 and when, FIL says to my husband, "Well, son, we're going to Arizona on April 24." A few days later MIL calls me to say, "Is your doctor willing to induce you early?" Um...I haven't even been to see her yet to verify that I'm pregnant and no, I'm not being induced b/c if my body isn't ready it will fail and I'll end up w/ a c-section. She replies, "Really? Well when do you think you'll have the baby b/c we have to take this trip by the end of May or we lose money."

:eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

So basically, I hope I start labor on May 4 just to spite them. I know there are things to do to help cervical ripening, anything short of a cerclage I can do at this point to stall things? Stand on my head for the next 3 weeks???

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"~*runnergirl*~" wrote:

Thanks, Shelley. So nice all the goop that drips out of you when you're pregnant...crusty nipples, lotion and egg whites, post nasal drip...dang, I'm sexy!

Don't forget the drooling and the sweating. Lol

:shock: at your IL's!! That's unbelievable rude!! I'll cross my fingers with you for a May 4th delivery. How dare they make your new babe into their inconvenience. I'd be fuming! Well, I am fuming for you!

BTW, how *cute* is your little button pusher there!

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So cute. Best advice I can give is to lay with your feet up and your head down. Backwards gravity? I'm giving you 'May 4th' vibes!

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"~*runnergirl*~" wrote:

Thanks, Shelley. So nice all the goop that drips out of you when you're pregnant...crusty nipples, lotion and egg whites, post nasal drip...dang, I'm sexy!

ROFL

I'd be ticked about the IL's too:mad:

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Laura, I love the pics - and your little belly button pusher!

I can't believe your ILs. That is shocking. I really hope you can hold out until after they go on their trip now! (And to think I was disgruntled that I have to go to my MIL's for supper tomorrow night - 45 mins by car; I don't want to leave home at all these last days, feeling it to be too close to my EDD - I'm having a HOME birth, so I want to be at HOME for it! But that is another rant and I promised myself I would stop complaining...:rolleyes:)

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"JorgieGirl" wrote:

Don't forget the drooling and the sweating. Lol

Why, Jord, in the South we don't sweat, we *glisten* Wink (said while reaching for the nearest box fan!)

Emma Claire has her moments. She's 90% cute, 10% toddler, I'd say. We'll see how much that shifts once baby sister is here and in mommy's arms 8ish hours a day!

Thanks for all the May 4 vibes. Actually, I think May 5 - Cinco de Mayo - would be a HOOT! Of course, then the old OB will get to itching for an induction...

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so excited to hear about your birth! and sorry to hear about your IL--- I hope you hold off, too, until they leave. Isn't that horrible!? I don't even know them, but it is annoying they'd even have the guts to ask you to be induced to accommodate their schedule.

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