*~*~*~Stephanie's (sr1d3r) Birth Lodge~*~*~*

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*~*~*~Stephanie's (sr1d3r) Birth Lodge~*~*~*

Welcome to your lodge! I look forward to getting to know you and sharing in the journey of your home waterbirth for baby #2!

Joined: 01/03/07
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Thanks so much for starting a lodge for me!

Where to start? I guess my journey to homebirthing started with my last pregnancy. Although I went into the hospital seemingly prepared (three signed birth plans, very specific, supposedly "OK'd" by my doctor) I was pressured into an induction for a "large baby" and fleeting, debatable BP issues. I had a Pitocin induction on August 28, 2007 and had my water broken soon after starting the pitocin. The monitoring machines were on one side of the bed and with monitoring bands on both my arms I was quite literally strapped to the hospital bed. My external fetal monitor kept slipping off (why of course it would, it's a round contracting belly!) and I had to have an internal fetal monitor :(... that was replaced several times because it kept falling out as well. A few hours into the Pitocin induction I was having very intense contractions 30 seconds apart and at about 5 cm (around noon), I asked for an epidural. i cried after getting it because it was not something I wanted in the first place but it allowed me to rest and not feel the artificially induced contractions while not being able to get out of bed or move at all. By the late afternoon/evening I was complete and ready to push just as the epidural was wearing off. I am glad that it wore off enough that I could push effectively, but my legs were numb and as I was pushing it seemed like there were 30 people (more like 15, but I felt very surrounded and watched) yelling at me to PUSH and then of course when my DS started crowning I was told to "DON'T PUSH, We'll go get the doctor!" and they held my son in while I screamed that I didn't care that the doctor wasn't there. The doctor eventually came in and performed an episiotomy (against my birth plan that stated I would rather tear than have an episiotomy performed) and I pushed my son out into this world. They handed him right to me but my arms were too tired, either from the labor or the drugs I had in my system, to hold him and I had them take him back because he was so slippery and I was afraid I was going to drop him. I had excess bleeding, not a hemmorage but what they said was just "more blood than usual" and for the next few days had a nurse MASHING on my uterus until I was bruised to make sure it was contracting even though I was nursing and could feel my uterus contracting on its own. The only good thing about that particular hospital is that they encouraged rooming in and i was able to be with my son for all but a couple hours while we were there (at one point they took him away during the night for tests and I hadn't slept in a couple of days). I healed well physically but am still healing emotionally from that birth. I wholeheartedly believe that most of what happened in the hospital that I feel negatively about was a result of being in the hospital system itself- no matter how "natural" and accepting they may seem of your wishes, it is still a system that you get put through and it is VERY hard to overcome it. I applaud women that are able to naturally birth in a hospital but I wasn't able to and don't know if I could ever.

This time, I knew I wanted things to be different. My sister-in-law had a homebirth with her DD and was planning a homebirth with her second child when I got pregnant this time around so we had been talking about natural childbirth for a few years :). Even before I had gotten pregnant I had done a lot of research and reading regarding what had happened at the hospital and what I could do to try to have the birth I wanted this time around. One thing I knew would make a world of a difference was having a midwife. I interviewed a couple and found what I was looking for in a CPM that had done missionary work in Africa and had dealt with lots of emergency situations there and then gone on to perform homebirths and births at her free-standing birth center in my area. She has been great in helping me find literature to help me work through the issues I had leftover from my last birth (Birthing From Within) and I can't wait to have her support during labor. I am feeling confident and excited to have our daughter in our home with just my husband, midwife and birth assistant. No crowd of people yelling at me to push! A calm, peaceful birth... well as peaceful as birth can be :). I have confidence in my body's ability to birth and have been working on getting my mind to a place to accept that and handle birth as well (again, thank you BFW and also Spiritual Midwifery). I have Aquaborn birth pool for laboring and I hope to deliver in the water, with my DH catching our sweet daughter as she comes into this world.

I think that's it for now... I've never had a lodge so I don't know if I'm doing this right Wink

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Welcome to your lodge! There's no 'right way' to do this-we all have our own stories to share. I'm so glad you're able to work through the birthing issues and that you now have an awesome midwife!

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It sounds like you have a wonderful plan thought through! I can't wait to hear how everything turns out (and soon! - lol) Smile

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This is why I rolled my eyes when the MEDwife at the OB/GYN office I started out in suggested I just have a "well prepared birth plan written out."

So happy for you guys!

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Welcome to your lodge!

I'm sorry you had such a rough time for your first birth. I think it's amazing that you've chosen a natural home birth for your second and that you've been working to overcome any outstanding issues from your first experience, so that you are prepared to have a great labor and birth this time around.

Wishing your all the best on your journey!

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Great intro! I can't wait to follow your lodge and hear about your home birth!

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Well I've got all my birth supplies ready and birth pool is in and tested... Baby can come out whenever she's ready!

I'm feeling alot of pressure and she felt like she was going to fall out when i was walking around the grocery store this morning. It's Halloween and I'm making candy apples, caramel apples, and this toffee made with saltines and chocolate chips (sooooo good!). I'm having a bunch of people over tonight and was kind of hoping I would go into labor before then but no luck :). At least it will motivate us to clean the house... I haven't done much nesting at all and we moved in at the beginning of the month and still haven't unpacked everything.

I got the last of the newborn diaper stash yesterday and washed all her clothes and set aside her first outfit and swaddling blankets along with the towels and other things I have in boxes ready for my birth team in the kitchen. I have an appointment with my midwife Monday but we've gotten everything taken care of so our visits are pretty short... she doesn't rush me but I just feel prepared and don't have many questions anymore. I'll get a chiropractic adjustment then, too because the chiropractor's office is connected to the birth center my midwife works in. I hope the adjustment will help her rotate into an optimum position and drop down a little more- that plus the full moon that night and I may have a baby! We'll see :)...

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I hope you get the birth you want this time around! I just saw the aquaborn pool online earlier today on the site I get my homebirth supplies from. It looks like it would be really great to birth in. Have you got it set up yet?

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yumm...the stuff you're making sounds really good! I hope you have fun having people over for Halloween. I'm glad you're feeling ready for the baby to come.

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"Dese" wrote:

I hope you get the birth you want this time around! I just saw the aquaborn pool online earlier today on the site I get my homebirth supplies from. It looks like it would be really great to birth in. Have you got it set up yet?

I blew it up when it first arrived because they have like a 48 hour return policy against factory defects but it's not blown up now because it takes up so much room (my midwife is lending me a pump that blows it up in 15 minutes). It seemed really roomy, but it's my first experience with a birth pool. it's the deepest on the market and it definitely felt deep when I sat in it... I'll have to be careful to fill it up enough so there is enough water to be buoyant but not so much I feel like I'm swimming! Definitely enough room for me and DH though.

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I can't remember when I inflated mine last time, but I kept it inflated and turned it on it's side on top of our dining room table. Lol I only have a foot pump though so it takes more than fifteen minutes. It really looks like a nice pool, I hope it works out great for you.

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Congrats on your lodge. Your homebirth planning sounds great!

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Welcome to your lodge!! Your birth story, I think, is where most of ours started. That's how it started for me. Happy homebirthing!! Biggrin

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Hi Kristina! Congrats on #5, I love the name Smile

Well I'm kind of bummed this morning because I went to bed early last night with DS (thank you daylight savings time!) and missed the text message from my midwife that we would have to reschedule my appointment because she was going to be at a birth all night. I didn't really have anything to talk to her about but I wanted to get the air pump & water pump from her in case the full moon tonight brought labor on :). I still have to drive up there for my chiro appointment and it's 45 min-1 hour away depending on morning traffic so it kind of sucks I have to go up there twice this week but DS rarely can make it through both appointments anyway without trying to destroy the exam rooms... even with snacks and juice and toys in both rooms. I'm a little terrified of what life is going to be like with a 2 year old and a newborn. I have a feeling I'm going to be a huge hermit and all of my holiday shopping is going to be online this year.

The lady who delivered our Chinese food last night predicted I would give birth in 7-10 days so I'm interested to see if her prediction is right :). She was pretty wide-eyed about how big and low I am as if I would give birth while signing the receipt, it made me laugh. She should have seen me with the last pregnancy! I've gained 40 lbs this time and it's all belly and last time I put on about 65 and was very swollen.... he was born at the end of August in Texas so that probably had something to do with it. My birthday is November 12 so I'm really interested to see if she'll show up before, on, or after my birthday.

I still have a few last minute things to get that I almost completely forgot about. I need to get food-grade hoses and connectors from Lowe's to fill up the birth pool and plastic covers for the pillowcases if I can remember it. I *think* that is about it but I can't find my list of birth supplies and I was going to get a new list from the midwife this morning but I'll just have to wing it until we reschedule. I'm pretty sure I have everything I NEED need so if I go into labor I'll be fine.

I do need to go grocery shopping and make sure the house is stocked with food... snacks for labor, snacks for midwifes and husband and something good to eat after labor. I was going to do a crock pot meal but I think we're using that to keep damp washcloths warm for during the pushing stage if I'm birthing on land.

I've been having a lot of mild contractions but nothing regular or intensifying... I lost my mucous plug for the second time (both times was a huge glob, so I wasn't losing parts of it) last Thursday after losing it for the first time 3 weeks ago so maybe that means I'm dilating a little bit more. I walked around a TON on Halloween with my DS and had to carry him half the time (and he's a hefty 33 lbs) but that didn't send me into labor so I'm accepting that I have absolutely no control over that and she'll come when she's ready... I just hope she's ready sometime before Thanksgiving :).

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I know how you feel with taking a toddler to office visits. My DD always tries to get into EVERYTHING. I'm interested to hear if the lady who delivered your Chinese food ends up being right. Good luck getting all the small last minute details taken care of.

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This is my first chance to say welcome to your lodge. Did you make it through the full moon? Sorry your appointment was canceled, that is always frustrating.

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No full moon baby for me!

My midwife appointment was rescheduled to yesterday and I picked up the air pump and water pump for her... I STILL need to go pick up the hosing but every day its getting just a little harder to get everything done with a toddler and a belly that just keeps getting bigger! Hopefully today I will get some nesting energy and finish unpacking our bedroom (we've been here a month and we're STILL not fully unpacked). I have totally not felt nest-y at all and that makes me think she's not going to show up for awhile. At least I'm not going to get any more cervical checks to see if I'm progressing because even though I *knew* it "meant nothing" when my midwife checked me a few weeks ago, here I sit, knowing I've been at least 2 cm and 75% effaced for this long and am still not going into labor and that is driving me crazy!

I think because I'm approaching the gestational age when I was induced with my DS I'm just losing a little bit of confidence in my body. I KNOW my body can do it because its already dilating and effacing on its own but not knowing what a natural progression of labor is like makes it hard to believe it will ever happen. I can't wait to go into labor. I'm really not that uncomfortable, just anxious and wanting to experience it and meet my little girl.

My little sister is visiting me this weekend and she is hoping I'll go into labor when she is here. I would love for that to happen because if my sister wasn't living 3 hours away and going to college I would definitely want her here for the birth. But with my luck it won't be for 3 or 4 weeks Smile

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Even if you know your body can labor by its self, it still frustrating wondering when it's going to happen. It sounds like your body is on the right track though!

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I'm in labor! Contractions 3 minutes apart and filling up the birth pool now... Will post an update when I can Smile

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ELVs, Stephanie!

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How exciting! I can't wait to hear how it all goes/went!!!

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Per her FaceBook update:

Delilah Juliet Rider was born into the water at home last night at 11:24 p.m. She weighs 8 lbs. 13 oz. and is 20 inches long. Will post pictures soon!

Yahoo

WTTW Delilah! Can't wait for your birth story and pics!

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YAY! Congratulations hun! I can't wait to see her and hear the whole story:)

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Congratulations, Stephanie and WTTW baby Delilah! It sounds like it was a great birth!

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Congratulations! I'm looking forward to hearing about the birth. Smile

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Congratulations, cannot wait to hear more.

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Congrats! sounds like a really nice birth. Yay for healthy mom and baby!

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Congrats and WTTW Delilah! Can't wait to see pics and hear more! Smile

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Here's my incredibly long birth story, you can skip halfway down for the action.

I woke up November 5 around 4:30d a.m. because I was feeling crampy. I timed them for awhile but stopped because I had been timing uncomfortable Braxton Hicks' contractions for days and it always petered out. I took a bath to try to slow them down or stop them if it was prodromal labor but they were still coming, although irregularly and just feeling like light menstrual cramps. I half jokingly told Sky that he better not be at a client too far away because today might be the day. I called him about a half hour after he left because I had a contraction that stopped me in my tracks and told him to keep his phone close... I don't think he believed me Smile

I got Cashion and myself dressed and headed to Lowe's to get the hose for the birth pool. As I was driving I was loosely timing them looking at my car's clock and they were about 9 minutes apart but still very light and I wasn't for sure that I was in labor. Lowe's didn't have the hose I needed so I drove to a different hardware store and found what I was looking for. I then drove to my MIL's and told her I might be in labor, but I still didn't really believe it, and I was going to finish a couple diapers I had lying around at her place (she lives at her place of business, which includes an industrial sewing workroom). The contractions still weren't very regular or getting closer or stronger so I hung out and chatted with my 2 SILs and the other woman that works there. I talked with my SIL about the contractions because she just had her son in September and she said they sounded like the contractions she had a couple of days before she had him so that made me even less sure that it was the real deal.

We ate lunch and throughout lunch I was looking at the clock and timing the contractions and they were coming every 5 minutes and lasting about 30-45 seconds each but I was stilling talking through them and they weren't bad at all. I called Sky and told him I was in labor but he could probably finish out the work day and that my SIL and BIL were going to drive me home and hang out with me until he got home. On the way to my house I called my midwife and she told me to call her if/when they started getting stronger, longer or closer together. I called my DH as well and told him to wrap things up and come on home because I was definitely in labor.

We got home and cleaned the kitchen, washed sheets, and blew up the birth pool and started filling it. All the activity made the contractions start coming every 3 minutes and they were getting harder to walk and talk through so I sat down and chilled out until Sky got home. SIL and BIL left and my contractions had slowed and become really irregular, like every 7-8 minutes and some as far apart as 12 minutes, although they were stronger than the ones earlier in the day. I called my midwife and let her know (around 3:30) and asked her if I should walk around to get them going and she suggested I take a nap and eat dinner and maybe take a walk after then. So, Sky went and got one of my favorite meals, steak nachos from a place with impossible parking so we rarely get it, and we ate an early dinner (around 5). I was putting my shoes on to go for a walk around 6:30 when I started to have to breathe through the contractions and not able to walk or talk through them and decided I didn't need to wallk around the block. But they were still pretty irregular so I stopped timing them because it was exhausting me.

My midwife texted me around 8 to ask how I was doing and I said they were about 4-5 minutes apart and lasting 1-2 minutes and she immediately called me. She asked if I was having to moan through them and if I was feeling pressure. I told her I wasn't feeling any pressure and it felt better to just be quiet during a contraction and focus inward. I told her I didn't think it would be before midnight so no rush for her to come over. I did feel a little pressure when I laid on my left side so I did that for awhile but every time a contraction hit I flipped to on my hands and knees... still just breathing through them and rocking a little. I had Sky put Cash to sleep and I got in the birth pool but it was a little too hot (we made it hot when we filled it up in the afternoon but it held heat better than I expected) and it slowed the contractions down so I got out and put more cool water in and walked around the house a little. I was glancing at the clock and noticed they were 3-4 minutes apart so I called my midwife and told her... still not moaning and no pressure but she asked if I wanted her to come and I told her yes even though I was still worried it might be awhile. She said she wouldn't rush over because she thought I still had some time. She told me to have Sky lift my belly up and inward during my next contraction because she was thinking she was sitting forward on my pelvic bone and wasn't dropping into my pelvis and that's why I probably wasn't progressing as quickly. I had to wake Sky up twice because he fell asleep in the bed and the second time I shook him pretty violently and was like, “GET OUT OF BED NOW.” This was around 9:30 p.m. He tried to do what the midwife told me to have him do but I couldn't stand up during the contraction and did NOT want anyone touching me during. I got in and out of the pool because it was still too hot and I didn't want to slow the labor down.

My midwife arrived around 10:45 and checked baby's heart rate and my blood pressure. Both were good and I asked her to check my cervix even though I was worried it might be less than what I though (I was hoping for 6-7) and would discourage me. I had a couple of contractions between when she got here and when she checked me and I was starting to moan through them and feeling a little pressure. She checked me and mentioned something about the edges of the cervix being so thin its sometimes hard to feel them and SURPRISE! I was 9 cm dilated. I was totally surprised and energized by the news and we walked back into the living room and told Sky, who also looked shocked. I had him fill the pool with some cold water to cool it off a bit and my midwife and her assistant started getting stuff ready in the dining room while I had some contractions that I was DEFINITELY moaning through. I had one contraction outside of the pool where I started to feel a lot of pressure and I told everyone and my midwife said to go with the pressure and not fight it because that was how I was going to get the baby out.

I got in the pool and when the next contraction hit I started yelling, “She's COMING!!” because I was feeling intense pressure and felt her come into the birth canal and my midwife told my husband, though I didn't hear, that she would probably be here within the hour. I was on my knees holding my husband's hands leaning over the side of the birth pool and all of a sudden started bellowing and yelling that she was coming. My midwife reached down and checked me and said she was crowning and told me to push slowly. I was like, “I caaaaaan't!” and felt her coming down and I was involuntarily pushing her out. My midwife said she was out to her nose and with 1 more push she was out and they put her on my back, I flipped around and held her to my chest and was in complete shock that it had happened that quickly. Delilah was born at 11:24 p.m., less than an hour after the birth team got there. I sat in the pool and looked at her in amazement and at my husband in shock while he took pictures. I stood up and they helped me out of the pool and to walk to my bedroom. I lay there holding her while I pushed the placenta out and Sky cut the cord after it stopped pulsing. I was bleeding more than they liked so I ended up getting three shots of pitocin and a pill of some other drug along with them pushing on my uterus to help it contract faster. Delilah had some trouble keeping her temperature up so we bundled her and did skin-to-skin and she was doing much better by the time my midwife left around 3 a.m.

All in all, it was a great birth experience. Crazy and like a freight train at the end but I probably handled that better than I would have handled a slower one where I would have had time to doubt myself. If you made it this far, thanks for reading my birth story-turned-novel!

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That was a great birth story, TFS! I'm glad everything went smoothly with the birth and your team was able to get your bleeding under control. Congrats again on your little girl!

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Wow! What an amazing birth story. Thanks so much for sharing.

Delilah is so beautiful!

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Beautiful!!! Congratulations!!!

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Wonderful story!! Your birth sounds like it went very well and your m/w and team sound skilled. How is everyone adjusting? Delilah is darling, give her extra kisses for me:)

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Congratulations!!! Welcome Delilah!

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What a great story! She's adorable.

Cindy